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Mar
10
You can go several weeks without food. You can go several days without water. But you can only go a few minutes without taking a breath. Breathing is one of our most overlooked and under-emphasized of functions, and 9 out of 10 of us aren’t breathing properly.
This morning, my boyfriend and I were lifting weights at the gym. During one of his sets, I noticed that he was holding his breath – one of the big “no, nos” of physical fitness. Our breath and our bodies are inextricably linked; how we manipulate our breath has a huge impact on our bodies. Starving our bodies of vital oxygen while engaging in physical activity is a recipe for under-performance.
But paying attention to our breath need not be saved for the gym or yoga class. Each of us can manipulate our breath to release tension, relax, increase our awareness, etc. The list is endless. Our breath is an incredibly powerful tool.
I remember the day that I learned how to breath properly. I was a senior in college. My yoga professor asked us to place one hand on our upper chest and one hand on our bellies.
I encourage you to try it right now. Go ahead, try it.
Which hand is moving? The hand on your upper chest? Or the hand on your belly?
If the hand on your upper chest rises, you are breathing improperly. If the hand on your belly rises, you are taking full breaths.
Like 90% of people, the hand on my upper chest rose with each breath. It took me several minutes to get the gist of a fully belly breath. For more detailed instructions, read either of these articles.
There are so many things we can do with our breath (like ujjayi or ocean breath – one of my favorites). Breathing 101 should be a life course requirement for all of us. I encourage you to explore the possibilities.
P.S. A huge congratulations to the many gay and lesbian couples in Washington, DC that are now able to get married! It’s a big step forward in the equal treatment of all people.
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Mar
9
Open thread: Where should I go next?
March 9, 2010 | 196 Comments
Having only been in my beloved Toronto for just over two weeks, it seems distasteful to focus my energy and attention on my next mystery destination. But being tasteful has never been my forté, and I’m hoping to enlist your help.
Where do you think I should spend enjoy the summer?
For June, July and August, I will be packing up my two suitcases, dog and boyfriend (possibly!) and heading to some still unknown but spectacular location. Though I don’t wish to restrict the possibilities, here are a few guidelines:
- As I will be driving (because of the dog), I’d like the be within a 24-hour drive of Rhode Island. Sorry: Europe, Africa, Asia, South America, Australia and Antarctica!
- Metropolitan areas move to the top of the list; Bumfuck, Ohio will be a tough sell to the boyfriend.
Truth be told, I do have one city, in particular, in mind – but I am still open and receptive to ALL suggestions. So, where do you think I should go? Leave your answers in the comments.
But enough about all this future talk. The future is neither promised nor real, and I refuse to sacrifice the present moment by lusting over the possibilities of future moments. Imaging Thanksgiving Dinner is great, but if you don’t eat today, you’ll starve.
The secret to life is realizing that today is as good as it gets. And it gets pretty damn good.
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Mar
8
A very difficult afternoon of doing nothing.
March 8, 2010 | 34 Comments
Yesterday afternoon, I had the very difficult task of sitting on a park bench and enjoying the day.
Let’s face it: We all have a lot of shit to do. Making time to do nothing is just about the hardest task imaginable. And yet, I managed to do just that.
I sat. Doing nothing. With my dog. For a good ten minutes.
Actually, I am pleased to admit that I didn’t technically “do nothing”; in fact, I accomplished a great deal. When we do nothing, we do the most.
And when I walked away, I even smiled at a stranger – and received a “hello” in return (no small feat in the hustle and bustle of a big city like Toronto).
It was a very difficult afternoon, but somehow I managed. If you are brave enough, you may wish to try to do nothing as well.
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Mar
7
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March 7, 2010 | 29 Comments
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Mar
7
“B” is for breaking shit.
March 7, 2010 | 24 Comments
I love to break shit. Especially illusions and rules.
Every day, we’re bombarded with a zillion perspectives from family, friends, religions, media – everyone is trying to define what reality is for each of us. It is up to you and me to challenge those perspectives and only accept the definitions of reality that resonate at a personal level.
If something doesn’t resonate, then it is an illusion that needs to be broken. Some of my favorite illusions to break are as follows:
- The illusion that you and I are separate. We are, of course, one.
- The illusion that time is real. We create time to experience this universe in a meaningful way as human beings, but time is not real. Science is on the verge of proving this.
- The illusion that presidents are more important than paupers. This one is just silly; our worth is intrinsic.
- The illusion that we believe what we see. In actuality, it’s the exact opposite: We see what we believe.
- The illusion that the world is boring. If you’re bored, it says very little about this grand, magnificent and dynamic universe. On the other hand, it says a lot about you, your perspective, and your inability to participate in this dance of life.
Rules are fun to break, too. Throughout the history of the world, society has made some pretty outrageous rules (i.e, it’s okay to own other people). And judging from society’s track record, society’s lapses in judgment continue through today. Here are some rules that are probably worth reconsidering:
- It’s illegal to drink until you’re 21 in the U.S. Isn’t it hypocritical to give an 18 year old an automatic weapon and send him or her into war whilst believing he or she isn’t responsible enough to consume alcohol?
- One cherry on top. Cherries taste good and I want at least two of three on the top of my ice cream sundae.
- Banning marijuana. By prohibiting drugs, we create a black market for the distribution of drugs that is entirely impossible to regulate. It is impossible for the war on drugs to succeed; that which you resist persists. Banning marijuana isn’t the answer.
- Sodomy laws. Did you know that it was illegal to practice sodomy in many U.S. states until the Supreme Court took action in 2003? Throughout the world, sodomy is still illegal in many countries. This is definitely one rule worth breaking.
- Monogamy. Though not written in ink, monogamy is the only relationship currency that our society seems to accept. I believe that people are very different, and our relationships are varied. As such, creating a one-size-fits all approach to relationships (i.e., monogamy) seems entirely limiting.
In conclusion, breaking shit is not only fun, but it’s also a necessary ingredient in a life well-lived. We need not ingest everything that society spews in our direction. We have the ability to contemplate perspectives and embody those that we enjoy and break the ones that we don’t.
For further reading, enjoy Self-Reliance by Ralph Waldo Emerson.
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Mar
6
“A” is for Asshole.
March 6, 2010 | 27 Comments
Asshole. (n.) Vulgar and slang term for a nasty person.
It is my humble perspective that there are no such things as assholes (except the kind on our bums), and that when you live a life of consciousness, the need to label people as such melts away. Buzz kill, eh?
Where might a curious individual seek to find an elusive asshole? Perhaps in the soccer mom that rudely cuts you off on the highway. Or in the overly busy businessperson that doesn’t hold a door open for you. Or in the coworker that treats you like crap.
But dare I suggest that the actions taken by these alleged “assholes” are not to be taken as personal insults or assessments against you. These actions are not done in malice, and are merely commentaries on the person’s present state. We know very little about these strangers that we might otherwise label as “assholes”, and it’s entirely possible that they are just reflecting the same energy that they’ve encountered in a very tough day, week, month or lifetime.
Rather than label these individuals as assholes, it’s far more productive to smile and send some warm energy or a blessing in their direction. It is much more effective to respond to their negative energy with love, compassion and understanding. In fact, through love, compassion and understanding, these “assholes” may even transcend their assholeness.
Of course, not holding a door open pales in comparison to some of the much larger atrocities committed by criminals, murders, rapists and the like. But even in these extreme and fortunately rare instances, we can recognize that these individuals are acting from their present level of consciousness; these criminals, murders and rapists are acting in the only way they know, given their life experience and the situation at hand.
We can’t expect people to act from a level of consciousness that is higher than their present state. This isn’t to say that we should excuse such atrocities (we should hold people responsible for their actions), but rather that we should meet such atrocities with a level of compassion that we sometimes lack. And that rather than participate in their negativity through a label like “asshole”, it is more productive to help these people move to a higher state of awareness through our understanding and love.
Hard as it may be to swallow, there are no assholes in this perfect and beautiful universe.
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Mar
5
Adventures in Toronto.
March 5, 2010 | 28 Comments
Each and every day is perfect and beautiful. But the last 24-hours have been especially wonderful.
Last night, after my karate lesson, I invited my boyfriend over for an evening of surprises. I took him to his first yoga class. It was wonderful. In the clamor and chaos of our daily lives, it was so rejuvenating to take some time to pause and turn our attention inward. Following the yoga class, I took him to a restaurant called “Globe Earth“. The restaurant uses local ingredients to make out-of-this world flavors. It was delicious.
After a night’s sleep, we enjoyed most of our morning in the gym. After the boyfriend departed, I took my dog for an hour long walk and got lost on the beautiful side streets of Toronto’s Yorkville and Rosedale neighborhoods. I brought my camera, and took a few pictures to share with you.
It occurs to me that our experiences are really quite neutral stripped of our judgments. And our judgments are arbitrary. I can see the glass a half full. The next person can see the glass as half empty. They’re both equally valid. So then, why not make the decision to see the perfection, beauty, love and peace in each moment? It’s just as valid a perspective as the next, and it’s certainly a heck of a lot more fulfilling.
Wherever you are, whatever you’re doing, I encourage you to pause and enjoy the perfection of this moment.
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Mar
4
Talky blog: In the closet? Watch this…
March 4, 2010 | 47 Comments
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Mar
3
Question: What would you do differently if…
March 3, 2010 | 94 Comments
What would you do differently if you knew that no one would judge you?
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Mar
2
Davey Wavey’s first day of karate.
March 2, 2010 | 27 Comments
I punched someone today.
It was, in fact, the very first time that my fist has been directed at another human being. It is decidedly un-Davey to fight, but I resolved to learn something new: karate.
And said punch was directed at my pad-clad sensei as part of our training.
Learning new things keeps life interesting. Karate is something new. Therefore, learning karate has the potential to add a new flavor to this stew of a life that I have cooking.
When I was 5 or 6, my parents signed me up for karate class. I spent the first 10 minutes trying to keep up with my classmates, and the last 50 minutes crying in a corner. In other words, karate and I have unfinished business together.
Karate, at first glance, is quite violent. At the second and third glance, it’s still quite violent. But between the kicks, punches and blocks, I’m already seeing something deeper. Karate requires a tremendous amount of present moment awareness. It’s an amount of present moment awareness that I don’t have; I found myself daydreaming during a few of the movements – something that would leave me with a broken jaw in the real world.
In this way, I think karate is and will be good practice for me. I don’t have any intentions on becoming a black belt, but I’m eager to learn as much as possible during my short month of classes. There are few things that I’d recommend more than trying something new, be it a class, a discipline, a cuisine or a perspective.
In other news, I’m finally settled into my new apartment in Toronto. To check out a quick impromptu video that I made from my new location, be sure to visit the wall of my Facebook fan page.
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