I have an unspoken policy of not responding to comments. I make decisions where to spend (or not spend) my energy, and if I responded to each blog comment, I’d be sitting here all day.
Today, I’m going to break that rule.
It seems that there are questions about weather or not I am for real. Some people think that I’m paid to post on youtube. Some people think that Will and I are really models. Some people don’t think that the charity is real (which was the straw that broke the camel’s back for me).
Am I real? Yes. Do I really believe what I type and say? Yes.
Do I get paid to do this? I get paid when people click the automatically populated Google ads on my site (which amounts to about $5 or $6 a day). I don’t select which ads appear – it’s all automatic. Authors that publish books get compensation when you purchase their book at the book store. Here, you get my writings for free. I get compensated a few measly dollars a day for the work that I do here through the ads on my site – but I can assure you that the non-financial rewards are much more meaningful. I think that I’d be stupid not to sell my ad space to Google. Other than that, I don’t get any money. No one is paying me to post. There is no book deal and no show on MTV.
Am I a model? No, I build websites. I modeled twice, back in the day. Both were for portfolios and I doubt any of the pictures were ever published.
Is Will a model? No, he works at local grocery store. He just happens to be really sexy. His model-ish pictures were taken by a photographer friend.
Is the charity badge on my site real? It sure is. It’s powered by Network for Good and is part of sixdegrees.org. Is the charity real? Is that where the money is going? You bet. You can read the full report on The Family Equality Council / Family Pride here.
I started this blog a year and a half ago; I use it to reflect on my life, the books I read and the philosophies I explore. It’s my hope that my message of peace and love resonates with all of you. Ultimately, as Deepak Chopra once said, I’m just singing in the shower. That’s what this blog is. If anyone else wants to sing along as well, then they’re welcome to do so.
If my message (or the way that I deliver it) rubs you the wrong way – then I wish you the best of luck on your journey. People are very diverse, and not everyone will like everything.
So, there you have it.
By the way, congratulations to John in Louisville, KY for winning the 12×12 painting as part of our charity fundraiser. I’m going to be giving away another secret prize to everyone who donates to the Family Equality Council / Family Pride through the orange “donate” button on the badge (top right-hand side of the site) between now and Friday night! 
November 26, 2007 at 4:12 pm
Well said.
Any one who doubts that you are for real obviously has not gone through all your talky blogs and blog entries.
November 26, 2007 at 4:35 pm
That is like the only time that it seems u actually got mad. I dont see how those pple think ur a fake or u get paid for ur posts. Ur just a person with a different perspective on things (a great perspective in my opinion that is
) So all i hav to say to the pple that think ur a fake and stuff is **** YOU!!!!!!!!!
November 26, 2007 at 4:37 pm
Hey Davey,
For some time now I have been visiting your blog and I have to admit, I am quite fascinated by your look on life and the world. I do bevlieve that you have a pureness that is reflected in your posts, which can not be acted. I beleive you are real and so is Will.
You are also the one who inspired me to create my own blog and share my world with others, just like you are doing now. I am now going to reapeat some wise words someone has told me once (guess who): “You should not resist something you can not change.” As for the haters, if you don’t like the blog, then do not visit. Nobody is forcing you to do so.
I second the Davey is real motion!
English is not my main language so please bare with me.
Peace out,
Isik
November 26, 2007 at 5:01 pm
Tacky as this is – I’d love to sing in the shower with you :p
November 26, 2007 at 5:09 pm
Davey,
I am fairly new to visiting your website and I look forward to reading your posts everyday. It’s too bad some people are so cynical. To me this just shows how much your comments are needed. As far as people who love you, count me in. Keep up the good work. p.s Will is so cute and so are you!!
November 26, 2007 at 5:31 pm
Well said davey.
I love reading your blog and listening to your talky blogs they are the best.
Keep up the good work and just ignore what people say with being harsh.
I love my best friends saying.
Lifes a dick when it gets hard F**k it.
Adam,
(from the cold uk, wish i lived in america)
November 26, 2007 at 5:54 pm
Davey
Your posts are inspiring and so true of course.
Well… I’d love to receive your reply as I’m kind of new here… it’d definitely be a HUGE surprise for me if you do so XD!!
Life goes on and you are still what you are, don’t get mad just because some random guys doubting or pissing… most of your readers do appreciate your daily bits of sharing.
Rejoice!
Marc @ UK
November 26, 2007 at 6:05 pm
And here we have another fine example of America’s favorite pasttime. “Let’s tear down anyone who seems remotely genuine. Especially if they’re nice”
Sorry the typical naysayers have found their way to your blog Dave. I love reading your thoughts and your talky blogs. Keep it up.
And those who can’t seem to do anything but be negative can go find someplace else to be.
November 26, 2007 at 6:17 pm
critisism goes with the territory Davey , the higher your profile, the more critics you’ll get – it’s the price to pay. But who are they or what’s their worth ? You cannot please everyone, now can you ? As we would say in Flemish “hoge bomen vangen veel wind”
November 26, 2007 at 6:56 pm
i love how the naysayers are oddly absent from the comments this post.
November 26, 2007 at 7:05 pm
Sean said it all, way to go. Dave I read those posts, I would have gotten pissed too, keep up the good work.
November 26, 2007 at 7:17 pm
Hahaha!!! I enjoyed that! I don’t respond to personal attacks either – just a waste of energy, but I was tempted to post to the “grinches” . However I suspected that you would do something because if YOU are not real then the Charity is a fake … and it is a very important one, and VERY real!
I continue to Celebrate your Life and Being Dave …
November 26, 2007 at 7:27 pm
Hmmm …. Just noticed that donations are below target … I already gave, but will do so again … Go for it bloggers! Not because of Dave’s “secret” prize … Do good = Feel good! That’s reward enough …
November 26, 2007 at 7:52 pm
Hey Dave–
I think that question might stem from the recent implosion at a blog called “Brat Boy School” that was ostensibly the product of a gay, handsome model in Las Vegas. Actually, the whole site was run by the model’s “manager”, a bunch of people got cheated out of merchandise they’d paid for, and there are bad feelings all around. The whole blog was a big lie.
I love your site and appreciate your insights.
Best,
Joe
November 26, 2007 at 8:00 pm
Hey Dave…I know you may count me in the mix of those who were questioning you. And somoen made the statement of “Let’s tear down anyone who seems remotely genuine. Especially if they’re nice”…well, I hate that as well. And if it seems like I was trying to do that, I’m sorry you feel that way, but it was in every way NOT my intention. It’s just come to my shocking attenetion that there ARE people who are paid to create content on YouTube and other video/blog services. I was skeptical till I saw more coverage on it. They were very “natural” and seemed genuine, not hokey like sya for example “LonelyGirl” and the others that OBVIOUSLY are webisodes. So I was only asking…and to be honest, in my opinion, it shows intelligence to question. I don’t count myself in the mindless sheep category. I never said you were fake, I just asked you a direct question. Like I said, I wanted to make sure things were legit. I think you rock just like all the other people giving you kissy kissy acolades in this post…but, hell, I’ll never regret asking you a direct question. I just wanted to be sure. Wasn’t trying to tear you down and not jealous and if ya ever knew the real me you’d know that was the furthest from the truth. I’ve posted your vids NUMEROUS of times in my own personal blog, saying how people should check ya out. Aaaaaaanyway…I appreciate you actually responding to a comment and concern I had, and I look forward to many more posts from ya. Keep smilin’!
November 26, 2007 at 9:06 pm
Well I never doubted you were fake, and never thought that the charity was fake either. But I could see why you had to dedicate a blog discussing this issue.
http://hiddenconfusion.wordpress.com
- JD.
November 26, 2007 at 9:12 pm
Go Dave GO!!!!!!! I love this blog….I have come to visit it every few days and enjoy you, Will (he needs to check for my freshness….go ahead Will…give me a squeeze)and the knowledge you bring to it….keep up the good work!!
November 26, 2007 at 9:14 pm
I’ve wondered if you were a paid blogger/Youtuber also before because sometimes there were mentions of products (ie. Britney Spears, IKEA, heck you could have been paid by the Rhode Island Tourism Bureau). Actually, I once asked you if you were paid Internet actor before in one of your Q&A sessions.
However, I believe that you are someone who is genuinely real and really means what you write and say. I think it was a real bugger move for whoever said that the charity was fake.
I think you are doing something great. You’ve really shown me to look at life in different ways. I have been reading up on Deepak Chopra and Osho.
But all in all mate, don’t be so discouraged. It is the plain and simple things in life that makes us disbelieve because it is so unfamiliar in this world of pretense…but a straight-forward lad I believe you are…
November 26, 2007 at 9:16 pm
Hi Dave, If a date with Will is the prize, I am sure you will raise a lot of money that way (I am just kidding, even though it might be true, it is of course not be a good idea for Will’s safety).
P.S. I hope the camel back will heal quickly.
November 26, 2007 at 9:19 pm
Hi Dave, If a date with Will is the prize, I am sure you will raise a lot of money that way (I am just kidding, even though it might be true, it is of course not a good idea for Will’s safety).
P.S. I hope the camel back will heal quickly.
November 26, 2007 at 9:32 pm
Dave – So tell us, How big IS Will’s penis? Will we ever find out? And how about yours? Can you guys shoot us a moon?
November 26, 2007 at 10:18 pm
WTF, OMG and all the rest of text resposes apply to whoever these people are.Keep the faith bud, and don’t let the the demons discourage you from devoting your time and effort at what you are doing. I think your blog is the best one on the net for gay/bi guys looking for insight into their lives. It’s not porn or even close to it (why most are searching for). You seem to be truly enjoying your life as you are as an individual, and your interests regarding art, etc. and your friends who appear on your blog that are interested in the same aspects of life, seem genuinely authentic. Don’t let the blogishphere pollute what you are doing. They will try, but don’t let it phase you. They only want money from the connection you make with your subscribers.
November 26, 2007 at 10:20 pm
Luv ya man!
November 26, 2007 at 11:04 pm
dave some people will always have negative thoughts but dont let it get to you. remember that what you throw out to the universe comes back soon or later. as for your blog you are making a difference in our lives in ways you will never know.so keep up the stories, pictures and blogs
November 26, 2007 at 11:13 pm
I suggest a full blown (no pun intended) chorus in the shower. We’d need a really big gym shower room for the enormous crowd this will attract.
In all seriousness, what you are doing is important and never, NEVER be discouraged by those who might just not be ready to go along on your path. It is an ancient and most noble path…compassion. So just send those doubters loving kindness as you do all the rest of us.
I follow a little ceremony on the night of the full moon. I look up at the moon and send up thoughts of loving kindness to all I know around the planet. They are on every continent. The moon is our free satellite dish up in the sky and she beams back those loving thoughts to all of us here on Earth. I also include all living beings as well. It’s a feel good exercise. I offer it as a gift. Try it and see. Be well, love to you.
November 26, 2007 at 11:19 pm
I really think it’s funny how some people are reacting as though you were crucified or put on trial or something. As if the most vial of evil demons attacked you and tried to overthrow your Utopia. What is this…1984 or somethin’? Good grief people…Enough with the over board Kumbaya fest. He’s a big boy…his shirtless posts will continue. I know I’ll be watchin’…LOL
November 26, 2007 at 11:33 pm
Just donated. Publicly, it’s because I want to support that charity. Secretly, it’s because I want to see Will’s “special surprise” when we hit $5,000.
November 26, 2007 at 11:41 pm
Dave- It’s so obvious to me that you are not fake. When you make your vlogs videos and post your words of wisdom your sincerity, truthfulness and honesty is clear. Thank you for all you do for us.
November 26, 2007 at 11:57 pm
Or course the regulars know and understand that you are real.
November 27, 2007 at 12:22 am
Well said Dave! Keep up the good work. If your readers think your fake… why are they reading your blog???? Go figure. If you were naked in your blog.. no one would complain then
Just a thought.
November 27, 2007 at 12:28 am
LOL – Well, derr, Dave! Of course ur real, and of course what u write is from u! – …. Keep up the great work, man!
PS: Australia has a new Prime Minister!!!!
November 27, 2007 at 1:26 am
chin up don’t let it get you down. Sometimes we have to take the bad with the good. you are loved.
November 27, 2007 at 1:36 am
Oh Dave just take a step back & take a deep breath & do some meditating.It’s what you always say.Don’t let these people get to you.
November 27, 2007 at 2:12 am
Several months ago I came abound your blog;you were living in Toronto at the time.I thought what a wonderful soul you had.I put you into my favorites on YouTube.Several weeks later I was going through my favorites and I remembered you.I was getting ready to go to work and read your Blog about the Mormon boys comming to your house in Providence,RI.It was the last thing I read before I ran off to work;it was 11:15 and I had to be at work at noon.I rushed off to work not thinking anything about you.But this is where this whole story takes a bazzare turn.You see I work at IKEA in Stoughton,MA. and as I was rushing to my department I turned a corner in Diningrooms and there you were right in front of me.I almost died right there.I think it was because you were thr last thing I was reading on my computer before I shut it off to go to work.I totaly “FREAKED OUT” but held my composer.You were with Mel[black pants and trench coat] and you[blue and white striped polo with jeans] I respected your privacy and didn’t want to run up to you and scream that I was just on your Blog 45 minutes ago.I want you to know I enjoy reading your Blogs and respect your privacy and will never run up to you while your shopping in IKEA;but I’m glad you enjoy your time there.Take care.
November 27, 2007 at 2:15 am
Kudos to you Dave!!! Most of the time, it’s not worth wasting energy on those naysayers, but I’m really glad you took the time. Keep up the great work and continue to inspire and entertain the masses. Peace out!
November 27, 2007 at 4:53 am
How can somebody NOT be real???? Of course you are real. By the way, listen to the r & b song “Baby I’m For Real” by The Originals – it’s super, and so are you!
November 27, 2007 at 7:41 am
Oh My God… did you actually have the balls to compare the mindless drivel you regurgitate out of the latest self help book to a published author, and then make us feel privileged its free?!? give me a f*****g break.
I get it, I get it all the queens are lining up like lemmings to defend their pants-less wonder.
Stick to what you do best—taking off your shirt and acting clueless.
November 27, 2007 at 12:21 pm
I love your blog and I hope, you´ll keep posting for a long time. Your blog is definitely one of the better outcomes of this whole web2.0-thing.
These ridiculous accusations show that it is still in the mind of many people that only pale and ever-contemplating nerds should be allowed to share some general ideas and thoughts about life in general that – maybe, maybe not – go beyond the surface. And why should it be necessary to use only big words and hour-long comments to actually inspire people. It´s fun to watch your blog, it´s fun that you are very aware of the fact that so many people watch it because of your looks and still aren´t afraid to stick to a mature spiritual agenda in a very comfortable, unpretentious way.
All the best!
xoxo
November 27, 2007 at 3:07 pm
Hi, I have a question for you, so..I’m 18 years old, and I don’t know if I’m gay or not, because I like girls, but I like boys too, but I’m scared, because I really don’t wanna be gay, I don’t know why, but I mean, I don’t know if I want to..The other day my friend Josh visited me, and he wanted to kiss me, and I couldn’t resist, I just did it, and it was great, but when we finished, I felt bad, and that’s why I don’t if I wanna be gay…
November 27, 2007 at 5:52 pm
To all worshiping fans, I’m glad Dave’d straigthen things up… for you.
He used words and words can be used to create biased vision of sb’s life, all you really know about him is what he actually writes and says. What you can be sure, beyond the shadow of doubt, is that he’s fit, sexy – cuz that’s what you SEE.
I’m not a hater, nosayer, and not even – as sb called me – a demon
. I think that, all in all, it’s good that I raised all those suspicions – Dave made it clear I was wrong 
, whether you believe him or not – it’s your call.
You have to realize that when it comes to letting yourself to be influenced by somebody who’s present only in the Internet caution and scepticism is highly recommended.
On the other hand you can say: I don’t give a damn whether he’s fake or not – he makes me smile… and that’s a great thing. It’s like a faith in the God, the may be there somewhere or not, yet it doesn’t really matter cuz that faith makes you stronger.
I only wish Dave would rather express his own opinions and reflection about life – not the ones of doctor “Pill”.
November 27, 2007 at 6:54 pm
To the poster calling himself “Another fake blog”: I think he does share his own views. He learns alot of stuff from various sources…and he makes them his own. However, if he can recall where he got the information from while he’s sharing it with us, he lets us know and gives that person/book credit. Is that wrong? In my book…I would say “no”.
November 27, 2007 at 11:42 pm
I believe in you Dave. Thanks for sharing and making our days a little brighter.
November 28, 2007 at 2:46 am
Well, first of all, I have to say that I was really taken aback by the comments on the last post. I just cringed when I read them, because they were so bitter and mean, and I felt sad and embarrassed for everyone involved.
Also, I am really surprised and creeped out by some of the vulgar comments/questions posted here. Just because someone is attractive, or even flirtatious, that doesn’t give you license to act in a personally invasive manner. I don’t mean to be a scold, but some of the things I read really put my blood pressure up.
Finally, Kevin, your post touched me, and I have to say something to you:
I think everyone who is gay, or ‘bi,’ could probably write a long, long book about the feelings that you describe.
You are young enough that you have time to sort things out, but don’t let too many years pass without making a decision. Kissing a boy doesn’t make you gay, although unfortunately, our society doesn’t give you much latitude to explore who you are.
It is very tempting to play both sides, and you might be able to do it. Some folks are lucky, but for the average person, in everyday America, switching between the gay and straight lifestyle, gets harder and harder with each passing year, and eventually things will catch up to you. It might be that eventually you can’t live with yourself anymore, or that someone decides to out you.
I always thought that I could outsmart the issue. “If straight people don’t have to say anything, why should I?” It seems totally unfair that, depending on your feelings, you should have to announce or explain yourself, and it is.
Being in the closet is like taking on an onerous debt, the interest keeps compounding year after year until there is no way you can pay what you owe without major consequences. Depending on where you live, your career, etc. coming out at a later age can amount to the equivalent of social and occupational bankruptcy.
In the meantime, all those ‘problems’ you thought would go away or get better with time, just get worse. The relative that you were hoping would pass away, so you wouldn’t have to disappoint them, actually knew all along, loved you anyway, and died before you could be honest with them. Now, you will regret your lack of candor until the day you die.
The cute boys you met, who were your friends or acquaintances, and who you thought were gay, and maybe even flirted with you, while you were too much of a chicken to do anything about it? It turns out that they were gay, and they think you are a major a-hole for leading them on, or making them feel like they are the ones with something to hide.
Oh, and the girls you dated, you know the ones whose parents know your parents, or who are related to your boss, guess what their relatives think about you now?
I’m telling you all this, because ten years ago, I was your age, and I would give anything to be able to go back, and make the ‘hard’ choice I thought I could avoid with cleverness and youthful, magical thinking. Last year, during a political campaign, someone decided to ‘out’ me in a newspaper.
The girl I was ‘dating’ at the time did what no one ever had the balls to do, and asked me point blank what it turns out a lot of people already ‘knew. ‘ I lied to her in reply, and I have been lying to others since the incident. People know I am lying, and it takes away from all the good things I have done, and all the sacrifices I have made to have a good reputation.
It is harder to stop lying than to tell the truth, and each day is more excruciating than the last.
Meanwhile, I think about how my life would be different, and likely better, if I had had the courage to do what I should have done at a younger age. Sure, I would have had problems that I thought could be avoided, but in the long run I probably would have be better off.
I’ve known for a long time that honesty is the best approach for our community, but I have finally started facing up to it. There is an old saying, that familiarity breeds contempt. The truth is, though, that people have a hard time hating, or believing bad things, about someone they know personally. I doubt any of the people who made homophobic remarks to me over the years would have if they had known I was gay, and a large percentage of them probably would reconsidered the attitudes expressed in those remarks in the context of their acquaintance with me. So, I will add another layer of shame to all that I have just told you.
Kevin, I don’t mean to put a hard sell on you, but I was touched by your story and wanted to give you a glimpse of what might lay down one path that is before you. Best of luck, and kindest regards.