A blog buddy named Jonas (no relation to the brothers, I presume) sent me a link to a post on his blog, The Journey. The post was – in part – about Zac Efron’s new movie, Charlie St. Cloud, and feelings of inadequacy. A certain paragraph about the dreamy and delicious Efron caught my eye:
I mean not only does he look flawless and everything look phenomenal about him, but the guy has a insanely good physique, he is physical perfection. Not only did the lens of the camera’s recording him make him look awesome, but they made me feel inadequate next to him… I mean, why is it that a person like him can make any guy feel less than stellar.
Yes, the lens of the camera did showcase Efron’s insanely chiseled physique. But it wasn’t the lens that made Jonas feel inadequate. In a painful but true moment, one needs to realize that those feelings of inadequacy come from within. Jonas, you made yourself feel less than steller – not the lens, not the movie and not Efron.
I don’t point this out to add salt to the wounds – don’t beat yourself up even further, Jonas. I point this out because it illuminates an incredibly powerful truth: If feelings of inadequacy come from you, you also hold the key to their release. If the feelings came from anyone outside of yourself, certainly they would be beyond your control. But feelings come from within – and it’s up to you, me and everyone else to hold perspectives that bring fulfillment into our lives.
How we measure our lives is up to each of us. If the yardstick of body image is not bringing the happiness that you deserve, I’d recommend a new approach.