This morning, I received an email from a blog buddy that claims to have a good relationship with his parents. The parents are very religious and know that their son is gay, but they don’t want him to act on his feelings. He wants to date other guys, but his parents are strongly against it.
I have a few words to share on the subject.
We all experience a wide range of feelings throughout the day. We can be happy or sad or angry or elated. Sometimes we act on those feelings. When we’re happy, maybe we jump up and down. And sometimes we don’t act on those feelings. When we’re angry, we may decide it’s not a good idea to smash the bathroom mirror.
But let’s be clear, being gay is not a feeling. It is part of who you are. Feelings come and go, but being attracted to men isn’t something that will pass.
When your parents say that they don’t want you to act on your “gay” feelings, what they are really saying is that they don’t want you to be true to who you are. And life is far too short to be anything less than authentic.
When God, the universe – or whatever label you may use – created you, it certainly wasn’t a mistake. Above and beyond all your talents and abilities, God gave you a very special gift. And that gift is your sexuality. To experience the fullness of human life, it is important to celebrate and embrace all aspects of who you are. Being gay included.