Mother Theresa once said that if you spend your time judging people, then you have no time to love them. And it’s true. Judging people is one of the fastest, easiest and most effective ways to build distance between yourself the people around you.
As gay people, I know that we tend to be on the receiving end of much judgment. Through laws, our relationships are often judged to be unequal. Many millions of people believe that our love is evil and wrong. Sometimes, people even manifest that judgment through acts of violence against us.
But I also know that one of the easiest ways to change the world is to change ourselves. If we want to replace judgment with acceptance in the world, then we need to replace judgment with acceptance in ourselves.
Because we’ve experienced such judgment in our own lives, it’s always tempting to respond to others in the same way. But doing so further divides and already divisive world.
The truth is, we’re all brothers and sisters on this planet – and acceptance helps us realize and live this truth with great love. From American to Zambian. White or black. Tall or short. Gay or straight. We’re all in this together.
And I know that all of us can inspire deeper acceptance through the example we set with ourselves.