You may find this news disturbing, but Davey Wavey is dead. Davey Wavey passed away quietly and peacefully this afternoon at 1:54 PM in the comfort of his home. May he rest in peace.
You may be surprised to learn that death is always with each of us – at every moment of every day. We are always surviving death and transforming. We experience the deaths of our cells, our personalities, our ideas and thoughts, our emotions, our ambitions, and much more.
We are constantly dying.
The 5 year old version of myself, wide-eyed and knee-deep in legos died many years ago. The 12 year-old Davey with dreams of becoming a priest is also dead. The newly out and proud 17-year old Davey Wavey is dead, too. I see their ghosts like dancing shadows on a windy night.
I must have died a million times today. Just like you.
As Deepak Chopra states: “If the question becomes, Does the individual survive death?, the answer is, What’s an individual?”
That which I call Davey Wavey is different every day, subject to a changing body, changing ideas, changing emotions and a changing world.
February 27, 2009 at 3:38 pm
Wow that’s a great way to see changes.
Reminded me of something on the trilogy Dark Materiales of Phillip Pullman. In the book there are many worlds and in one of them people could see their Deaths all the time, but instead of fearing them they felt confortable, because when the time came to die their Deaths came and said “I’m here, don’t worry, you will be fine”
February 27, 2009 at 3:47 pm
We are born to die.
February 28, 2009 at 6:52 am
Life usually is deadly…
That’s why I like it, it’s a dangerous way to learn.
February 27, 2009 at 5:33 pm
Interestingly enough, this post truly resonates with me … especially today.
I’m a medical student and while on the floor today, we had a patient that has been diagnosed with Stage III Osteosarcoma transferred to our hospital. When I walked into the room to get a history and physical the first thing she said to me was, “I’m dying.” Taken back and with confusion on how to respond I light heartedly said, “well, aren’t we all?” We both laugh and then she asked me, “Well are you okay with that? (long pause while I’m in deep contemplation) Because I am.”
All day I’ve been thinking, if I was now diagnosed with a terminal illness, knowing I was going to die soon, would I be okay with that. Sadly, I still haven’t answered that question to myself.
February 27, 2009 at 5:35 pm
thats some buddhism I love it
February 27, 2009 at 6:09 pm
Haha that scared me for a second. I like that ideology though. We are always changing, the old goes away and the new comes in. Overall it is an evolution of our consciousness, but really it is a bunch of little revolutions every day that changes us.
February 27, 2009 at 6:37 pm
omg that just scared the s**t out of me!!
February 28, 2009 at 9:34 am
DITTO!!!!!!!!
March 2, 2009 at 9:51 am
DITTO!!!!!!!!
February 27, 2009 at 6:53 pm
It’s all in what you see.
February 27, 2009 at 7:34 pm
Not funny Davey………..
February 27, 2009 at 8:32 pm
The queen is dead
long live the queen
February 27, 2009 at 9:32 pm
You rilly speak to me D.W, this is a good way to view changes. I wish i could have as much as love and peace as you do.
February 27, 2009 at 9:43 pm
In French each orgasm is called a “petite morte” or little death.
February 28, 2009 at 10:07 am
actually, it’s “la petite mort”
February 28, 2009 at 2:12 pm
jiri kyllian did a wonderful modern dance peice called petit mort. its my fave. youtube it.
February 28, 2009 at 3:53 pm
It’s the same, just with the article.
February 27, 2009 at 11:37 pm
I loved this. Very encouraging.
February 27, 2009 at 11:38 pm
forgot my weblink. whoops.
February 28, 2009 at 12:35 am
Speak for yourselves…I plan to live forever!
J/K – this was a great post and while it was a little on the dark side it was a great way to express just how much we do change everyday. I suppose I’m always the one harping on progress, might be a great way to tie in Death as the next ultimate step in making progress…
Ciao!
February 28, 2009 at 12:42 am
You may plan to live forever, but expect to do it on this planet.
February 28, 2009 at 9:55 am
Missing one word. Should read: You may plan to live foever, but “don’t” expect to live it on this planet.
February 28, 2009 at 2:29 am
Very Chopra influenced. Its a very cool perspective and it is very true. We have died many times already, former versions of ourselves have completely passed away. BUT, we must remember that our previous selves have helped form the person we are today. They may have died but their influence and impact still resonates throughout eternity. So not only have we all died numerous times, but our previous selves have dramatically transformed our world.
February 28, 2009 at 3:54 am
Dancing with death isn’t funny…
You don’t die Davey. You merely closed a chapter of your life, storing it away in the deepest sections of your mind. If you did die, how did you become aware of your younger days or built up on experiences found in those memories?
We are not Buddha. This post does not resonate the wisdom you have with other topics.
February 28, 2009 at 8:44 am
Oh, but you are! You most certainly are Buddha. You may not realize it yet, but you and all of us are Buddha. And dancing with death is wonderfully amusing. Westerners have learned to fear and try to ignore death. Perhaps a different attitude toward death brings more peace and less fear. The Tibetans seem to have learned that lesson.
Be well,
February 28, 2009 at 9:47 am
For your information, I am not a westerner. I am a Malaysian, a Chinese man living in Malaysia. And if death is amusing, why is it that we are saddened by such an event? If we were all Buddha, there will be no need to grieve for death because we would realise that it is only 1 death in the present among all that had been in your past life and will be in your future rebirths. Tibetans learned this as a fact. Not Dave’s opinion on multiple deaths in a single life.
Frankly speaking, none of us can be Buddha unless we relinquish all worldly possessions, desires and emotions. As long as you have one of these qualities, you will not thread the path of enlightenment to understand the “Great Compassion” and free yourself from the curse of reincarnation.
February 28, 2009 at 4:45 am
Davey, a little bit of you is born everyday, every minute and every second too.
February 28, 2009 at 7:41 am
omg is he dead or not cuz i got propper upset about this
February 28, 2009 at 9:04 am
HAHAHAH – you made me laugh so hard.
No he is not dead. The pecs will be back in all their glory on monday.
February 28, 2009 at 8:47 am
Nobody gets out of this world alive.
February 28, 2009 at 8:51 am
anicca vatta sankara…thus passes all things.
We are always dying and being reborn with each mind moment. It’s like breathing out and breathing in. Nothing to fear. Just keep breathing. Welcome wisdom, Davey.
Be well,
February 28, 2009 at 9:07 am
We seem to spend most of our lives avoiding the subject, when it applies to ourselves. We know that it is a “fact of life”, yet see it as an be-all and end-all. But as you said, we all die (in some way) everyday. Hopefully, we remember to LIVE each day too!
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February 28, 2009 at 9:53 am
You’ve had a very interesting set of topics this past week.
Davey Wavey is going to Toronto (T dot O dot).
then
Davey Wavey is pregnant
then
Davey Wavey finds his purpose
then
Davey Wavey is dead.
It would appear that going to Toronto, getting pregnant, and finding one’s purpose are not good for one’s health …
February 28, 2009 at 9:59 am
Rest in Peace My Past
By: Ronald F. Brown
3/25/2007
As the ashes of the past are spread upon the ground of regret, a subtle breeze dances its way across the hairs of the arm.
Shall all that was be all there is?
Shall fate of current situation be the etched writing on the head stone of your life?
Milestones buried deep on the road of life have kept the course to current position in time.
The breeze caressing the hairs brings tingles to the nerve endings with flashes of both happy and sad recollection.
Grasping on to a tree along the side of the road the tactile grooves like wrinkles of the face bring to mind all that lead to this location which is neither here nor there.
Breathing in the spring air after the rain brings a refreshing titillating revival of youthful aspirations.
As a tear slowly falls upon the cheek of unfulfilled realization of a once bright plan.
Is this where it ends along a path alone with crushed passion and regret?
Then as if by some master plan the rays of this insightful day find their way through the leaves of discontent shedding light upon the minds eye.
Oh many are the mistakes, untaken opportunities and passed chances flash as if some sad movie in the mind.
But then a hand reached for a map in the pocket of the minds eye and with great effort the “you are here” sign marked clearly for recalculation of a new way.
A smile now forms in place of a tear with the tingle not from breeze but from the awaking of recalculations to lead to a new destination.
The way now clear and previous flat tires, accidents and wrongful turns forgotten the soul is refueled for the journey.
None are meant to be a drift but sadly too many are.
Unfurl the map of reality and plan the journey to realization of potential.
February 28, 2009 at 10:04 am
Odd things in an odd universe. After getting some incredibly bad news this week, I had a hell of a time not sliding into a depression. This morning, I woke up to bright sunshine, and don’t ask me how, stumbled onto your blog. Apparently you died. Oh dear. Then I got it. Then I kept reading. Thank you for reminding me that this too shall come to pass. I second the motion. The me from last week passed quietly in his bed last night. This morning I’m going to my nice sunny spot and meditate. Then I’m getting juice. Oh, and Tdot? Really? You should escape to Montreal and see how fun Canada can be.
February 28, 2009 at 10:10 am
Yes…
Ignoring the fact that I was startled by your obituary, and accepting the fact that death (Hollywood has attached such awful images to this word– but seriously, say it out loud- it’s actually a very peaceful word) surrounds us daily… I do have to argue, who we were yesterday DOES impact today. We may have changed a whole lot… But, if you were not who you were yesterday, would you be who you were today?
February 28, 2009 at 10:23 am
you scared me forbrief moment.and now,thoughts racing in my mind.
February 28, 2009 at 10:49 am
**sings Annie Lennox’s version**
“ev’ry time we say good-bye, i die a little”
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I was hoping that your new incarnation might have had a somewhat more mature-sounding moniker. Alas.
February 28, 2009 at 10:50 am
As truthful as this post is, I must emphasize that we also LIVE every day. We live in every moment. We experience the life of our “cells, our personalities, our ideas and thoughts, our emotions, our ambitions, and much more.” I think that being “subject to a changing body, changing ideas, changing emotions and a changing world” has much more to do with life than it will ever have to do with death, for one’s death is the demise of change, while one’s life is the constancy of change.
Life is a dead end, and the only thing that matters is if we are consumed with watching the road or just staring the dead-end sign.
In other words, one cannot be so concerned with death that one forgets about life; nor can one be so concerned with life that one forgets about death. Both must be taken into consideration to “live life to the fullest.”
February 28, 2009 at 11:16 am
Davey..The Davey Wavey I know and love will always be in my heart…Love “your” David
February 28, 2009 at 12:26 pm
you scared me for a minute davey!
February 28, 2009 at 12:40 pm
a good way to look at the changes in your life. Allowing us to move on and become something new. Leaving the past behind. The best part is leaving the bad things behind, for those of us who grew up in the severely homophobic times in this country. (U.S.) Thanks, Davey.
February 28, 2009 at 12:43 pm
did he leave his secret pics of his neighbor masterbating to anyone? huh, does anybody know?
February 28, 2009 at 2:51 pm
Davey, it’s a good way to get people’s attention, and it has. Shakespeare in one of his plays likened life to a play, we do our part and then we exit. Those are not the exact words but you understand what I’m saying. Birth and death are part of our reality. There is nothing we can do to change the outcome (coming death being our exit), so there’s no sense in fearing it. This would be illogical, wouldn’t it, to fear death? This discussion just broadens our perspective on life, doesn’t it? From this we all learn.
February 28, 2009 at 4:35 pm
Wow, no kidding you scared the crap out of me. Stop with the newspaper like shock-tactis, please!
February 28, 2009 at 6:25 pm
Hi!
I’ve been looking for ur vids and blogs and stuff.
And when I was reading the first lines of your blog, I was really *F#cking* shocked.
I got like sad, which is strange ’cause I don’t really know you.
I start to get that I like you actually.
Omg, how’s that possible, you live like more than 800 miles from me or so…
But I like the picture you put yourself into in your vids.
So, pls don’t scare the crap out of me again.
But the whole idea of the blog is actually very nice (couldn’t find a better word xD I’m not English xD)(( must be proud to have like fans that live on the other side of the world)
Greetz!
February 28, 2009 at 8:19 pm
You are free to do what you wish as it is your blog but I didn’t find this funny or appropriate. Yes people die but you must know by now people out here do care for you.
Please don’t do anything like this again.
February 28, 2009 at 10:58 pm
Schumpeter made the same point with creative destruction … not quite as disturbingly as you, but the same point … and while you may argue that things about each of us change every day, there are still some things that persist … some nodes in the network of me may drop out but others join and I persist …
Change is not death … change is life. It’s when you stop changing that you are dead …
February 28, 2009 at 11:30 pm
I suspect that’s la petite mort.
You’ll recover.
March 1, 2009 at 1:56 am
What the fell.. I literally got chest pain when I read the title. geeze almighty s**t. Please don’t post such again
March 1, 2009 at 8:32 am
Shame on you. The National Enquirer wanted to hire me to write this s**t years ago for a small fortune then and I won’t even consider it now.
March 1, 2009 at 9:08 pm
Having spent last evening with a catholic “friend” and his wife, talking about the church, which in my opinion is ruled by a tyrany, I can only say….
The Davey Wavey who want to be a priest is dead? How lucky that desire, I hope, is what is really dead.
The hierarchy of that church is not only the enemy – sorry, I have to use that word, but it fits – not only of gay people, but really of all mankind. Its absolutism and desire for total control, mixed with their hypnotic ability to take over good people’s minds is frightening. It has, over the 1700 years of it’s existance been either the cause or the supporting cast for endless wars. And during WWII, it sat by quietly, unwilling to call the nazis for what they were.
Why – because they didn’t want the nazis to send them to heaven and Meet Jesus? Or is their beliefs really only about power and money, and most of the rest of it is a gigantic scam, including terrorizing you with threats of hell if you don’t do as they say. And promising their scam insurance policy of living forever if you sell your very soul to them. Hardly different then Islam, and the beliefs of the guys who gave us 9/11
March 2, 2009 at 1:14 am
It’s too bad you have such a tarnished percepion of the Catholic Church. I’m sure that you have some relatives or events in your family, as in any organization, which are undesireable whether they are currently identifiable or not: meaning that if you went far enough back into your family history scandalous family members or events could be identified. Remember perfection is not of this world.
March 1, 2009 at 9:09 pm
Davey: We don’t know each other, but we like you just as you are. Don’t ever forget those words.