Often times, when I get emails from blog buddies – or when I bump into blog buddies on the street – I often get asked the same two questions.
First, I am asked, “Are you really that happy?” To which I reply, “It’s true. I really am this happy.”
Second, I am asked, “Well, then how did you become so happy?” Is it drugs? A chemical imbalance? Some new, unclassified psychiatric disorder?
I think the real question should be, “How aren’t people this happy?” If you’re not living on cloud nine, it’s an important question to ask yourself. How aren’t you this happy?
Of course, I have a theory.
Becoming unhappy is a learned process. As beings of light and love, our natural state is one of acceptance. But over the years, starting when we are very young, we learn how to be unhappy.
We’re taught to measure our life by things outside ourselves; we’re taught to rely on the externals – the things that come and go in our lives. We’re taught to measure a person by what they own or who they know. We are taught to follow our ego. We’re told that some people are beautiful and others are ugly – based on standards which are beyond the reach of 95% of the population. We’re told we’re too fat, too thin, too tall, too dark, too light or any number of other things. We’re taught that we are separate from all of creation and we begin to operate from a perspective of fear and scarcity, rather than one of love and abundance.
After a while, a funny thing happens. We start to believe it. When you hear something enough, eventually most of us tend to internalize it.
And so we learn unhappiness.
I’m pretty sure that’s how it happens.
If you’re living an unhappy existence, maybe it’s time you return to your natural state of love and acceptance. It’s a long journey home. But it can begin today.
Look in the mirror. Look into your eyes and say, “I love you.”
April 30, 2008 at 9:03 am
A state of acceptance is the path to happiness. Dave, I am always amazed at your enlightenment at such a young age. It took me many years of learning to be unhappy, to finally find my bliss. I hope that all of the blog buddies learn from your journey. Peace.
April 30, 2008 at 9:12 am
heyy,
I send you an message on youtube.. it took a lot of time to write it, soooo I hope you read it
(K)
April 30, 2008 at 9:36 am
Dave,
I just wanted to say how much of a blessing it was that I stumbled across your little corner of the internet one day.
You are a very beautiful person who has somehow helped me to learn so much about my “beautiful oh-so wonderful self”.
Thanks Davey Wavey!
Keep on smiling
Love,
Elaina
peace
April 30, 2008 at 11:14 am
Every morning without fail, every night be reassured that you lived the day to the fullest, on that essential cloud nine!!!
That post was freakin’ sweet! My day is already there and the sky’s the limit, endless and vast.
Love you Davey, Peace!
Ciao – J
April 30, 2008 at 11:18 am
Hii! I just disciver your blog. I come from france…I Find so Nice ^^
)
Have a nice day.. Kiss Everywhere (on your WONDERFUL eyes
Kiisss
April 30, 2008 at 12:19 pm
Hey mister,
I just discovered your videos on YouTube and through that your lovely blog. I have to say, I am absolutely glad that there are people THIS happy in the world.
It is a true joy to listen to you and I truly hope you live your happiness to its full extent. Thank you for sharing.
Take care,
Peter from Antwerp, Belgium.
April 30, 2008 at 12:45 pm
Couldn’t agree with you more DW! I struggle with RE-TEACHING myself how to think everyday. I refuse to believe, that if I’m not a millionaire, or have the perfect body, or not in the perfect job, that I’m supposed to be miserable and huddle with everybody else around the water cooler and bitch bitch bitch. I slip into that sometimes, but I want to be bascially just the opposite…or at least as realistically close to that as possible. Too much of it gets a little “iffy”…But yeah…I think you explained it well. And if there are circumstances that aren’t perfect in our lives, than we need to find a way, either through action or some other universal principle to make it better.
Take Care!
A
April 30, 2008 at 1:12 pm
Just came across your site for the first time yesterday via: you tube.
Very refreshing and uplifting while at the same time a lot of fun and good time.
You are correct, happiness come from within our inter sprit or being.
Keep up the good work, I thing you are changing
a lot of peoples lives.
I work-out 4 to 5 time a week, and I think you have a cool chest. Keep it up. I plan on dropping
by on a regular basis.
cheers
marlon
April 30, 2008 at 1:16 pm
In the morning, when i look myself in the mirror. Nothing happens, happily. It’s still me, the same boy with laughting light-green eyes.
I’m fresh, full of energy and well-disposed towards everybody (even you David).
A cup of good coffee, some slices of bread with butter and fruit compote. That is how my day begins.
I feel HAPPY. That’s how i am, naturally. And I always wish it will last all day long.
I know what the standards of the society are. I’m against any form of them and anyway i don’t care about; cute or ugly, thin or plump, poor or rich etc…
I don’t want people to set terms to my life (anyway, i’m always inclined to do the contrary).
I never believe or internalized what i can’t simply accept as to be my convictions. (i’ve always been like that).
So, I can say i’ve never learned to be unhappy.
One can make me angry but the following days all is forgiven or forgotten.
When i make it up to somebody, i do it clearly so that no ambiguity has to be left.
I have good relationshipswith my colleagues but few friends (i’m always happy when i find someone who looks like me but they are endangered species).
So I don’t think i need to return to my state of “love and acceptance”. As i have already written “I’m what i’m and i simply love me this way”.
April 30, 2008 at 1:59 pm
Davey…some days I just have bad responses to your blog. Please forgive me today for mine.
Did you forgive the old Catholic priest who so offended you years ago?
Can you speak to so many gay people who reject christian behavior from hearing bad advise from straight preachers?
Sometime I wish you had a little bit more experience!
Then I could say to everyone…Davey has the answer.
thanks for listening.
peace out.
April 30, 2008 at 5:59 pm
i choose to occassionally tune in i confess its fascinating in its unfolding – where do you plagerise this from davey and then claim it to be your theory? – being a brit and lived and worked in the usa ive experienced first hand ‘some’ (repeat not all) classic examples of superficiality and delusion in america and not showing face. the fact that people fall for this sheer lack of Authenticity is staggering (this i find fascinating in itself) – more and more each posting is a Judgement of others and how they appear and how they should or ought to be and how the world is or is not – what shines VERY clearly through in all of this and talky blogs is how FALSE and FAKE his happiness is to the point he is uncomfortable at the thought of even for a second displaying real emotion and showing some unhappiness that is a normal part of being human – striving to be super human davey is one thing but for me and others who comment is that You Are Absolutely Not being Real – most probably because you dont know how and forgotten how to be real and has become your learned behaviour in life – in the process misleading many on here believing you to be happy – of course you most defiantly with everything else would deny that – and before anyone rants back at this telling me to change channels i like all am entilited to a view on here even if only 1 person remotely aligns with it. peace out and davey Get Real it screams more sex appeal (which is in part a subconscious agenda on here seeking approval right?)
April 30, 2008 at 6:31 pm
A nice reminder that there’s always a choice.
ps. i can’t see a mirror in this moment; so dave ilove you. LOL
April 30, 2008 at 6:59 pm
Davey,
I have been reading your blog for a short while now and for the first time, I have to disagree with what you wrote. This in particular didn’t resonate with me. “Becoming unhappy is a learned process. As beings of light and love, our natural state is one of acceptance.” Our natural state isn’t one of acceptance; it is of curiosity, eagerness to learn, and our sensitivity to our environment.
Balancing our sensitivity and reactions to our environment and choosing to change the things we can, will determine our happiness. Changing things in a positive way can make our environment a better place, in turn making ourselves and others feel better, happier. Choosing not to change our environment or how it affects us and others will ultimately lead to unhappiness.
Happiness is something we choose, not something innate in our being. I believe Steven in Dallas hit the nail on the head when he wrote in a previous comment “I try to take the good forward and leave the bad behind”. I have found that to be good advice, but asking the question “How aren’t you this happy?” is basically like saying “Why aren’t you just like me?” I believe each individual brings something unique to our society and if we were all THIS HAPPY, the world would be pretty boring.
Don’t get me wrong, I believe you to be a very intelligent, generous and caring person. Qualities I always look for in a friend. But I can imagine us having a friendly argument, over a cup of tea, on this topic!
Just my opinion.
Craig from Newfoundland
PS. If you ever want to discuss this, I’ll put the kettle on. LOL
April 30, 2008 at 7:21 pm
Very nice. Sometimes we are so busy looking for love or loving others that we forget we have to love ourselves first.
April 30, 2008 at 7:26 pm
Dave,
All I can say is that is beautiful. Now I understand why there are times when I am unhappy, it’s because I’ve been taught to feel that way when certain circumstances happen.
Thanks,
-J
April 30, 2008 at 7:30 pm
YA TRICK! YA!
April 30, 2008 at 7:58 pm
I totally agree with your view on happiness; clearly because it works for you in particular. So, yay! But, I’ve been wondering how long your journey was in the whole happiness-searching-self journey? I’m on my own at the moment, working through it all. Just wondering.
Kev
April 30, 2008 at 9:55 pm
That Blog was From the Heart! Thanks, Dave. I needed something like that, I also need to realize what the world is about. To be happy, smile, make the best of everything. The world is one moment at a time. Muah, thanks again.
augustine
April 30, 2008 at 10:04 pm
i love ur blog i found it randomly on youtube nd came to the sight nd i love it lol this last one is well cool !
May 1, 2008 at 12:21 am
Davey,
I did like and agree with some of what you had to say. While I do not agree with all of it, I believe that it is important to remind people that being happy does not just happen, it does take work and awareness. Plus being young, attractive, built, and guys chasing you doesn’t hurt either does it? I applaud your effort to share your thoughts and heart with a bunch of strangers. I do enjoy your blog, but I have to ask myself if you would still have the same attitude if you weren’t as beautiful as you currently are? I hope the answer is yes and I hope you never have to find out.
Please keep up the good work. We all need pick me ups from time to time, and your blog seems to do the trick.
May 1, 2008 at 12:56 am
Leave unhappiness alone = leave Britney alone
May 1, 2008 at 1:42 am
I’d have to disagree with your post as well. As much as I’d LOVE to believe that unhappiness is conditioned, I don’t think that’s true. Think of when a baby is crying, or even a toddler. Are they happy? No, they are not. They are unhappy. And more importantly, they are far too young to have already received/learned said “conditioning” at such a young age.
Also… bear in mind – to feel happiness, one must have experienced unhappiness. The concept of balance exists within this relationship. There must be two opposites coexisting. Therefore, I believe that happiness and unhappiness are both natural states that humans find themselves . It’s a choice though, as to which road you may choose.
I believe that you are always happy. But that’s because it’s your choice.
Does that make any sense?! Haha.
Peace =)
May 1, 2008 at 2:38 am
I just discovered your blog and your videos this very hour. I must admit, I’ve viewed too many videos to count, and found myself smiling through each and every one of them. I’m happy that you [or anyone, really] can be that happy.
That being said, I think there needs to be a line drawn between happiness/unhappiness and other natural human feelings. Case in point: On the trip home from my Father’s funeral, my first flight was delayed [from Philly to Atlanta]. As such, I landed in Atlanta with about 10 minutes before my next flight left for home [West Palm Beach, Florida]. I was at the other end of the Airport, and, with my fellow connecting travelers, ran my heart out to try and get to my gate on time. I’m not a small guy, Davey – I’m overweight [by more than 50 lbs], and this took me a while. Obviously, I missed my connecting flight.
So here the emotions kicked in. I was in good company [A very nice woman named Jennifer kept me in good spirits], and I was happy and excited to be going home. But I was also frustrated, and possibly a little angry, at having to hold over an additional 3 hours. Was it wrong of me to not be completely cheery about the situation? Was I wrong for being upset at my misfortune? No, and this is where I disagree. While my frustration may not change anything, it is a natural reaction. I expressed my feelings, as did the others who had missed their flight, and let it be. I was still happy, and in good spirits, just…frustrated.
More power to you, if you can choose to be happy 24/7/365. To not let anything affect you is wonderful, and I’m happy you can do that. But you’re one in a million, my friend. Human beings, generally, have emotions that go from one end of the spectrum to the other; We also [most of us] have a need to express those emotions, good or bad.
That being said, I disagree with a comment above. I get the feeling that your happiness has very little to do with your beauty [and, I must say, you are quite.
] and were you not endowed with such beauty, the beauty in your soul would surely shine through. We are merely physical beings, after all, and it is what is in our hearts and souls that matters most. No matter how cliche that sounds.
Thanks for bringing a smile to my face. Keep on being who you are. I’ll be watching and reading.
Jonathan in Florida
May 1, 2008 at 4:14 am
It would be easier to love myself if i loved what i see in the mirror.
May 1, 2008 at 6:21 am
Davey – wonderful and so right. I read your blog last night and agree with everything you say. Staying calm is important in aiming for happiness. I can “lose” it sometimes like just now when some woman “declined” to move her supermarket trolley to ley me into the adjoining parking space so that I ended up moving to another space. She then drove off leaving her trolley in the parking space!!! After cursing her, I calmed myself down by realising that she is probably an unhappy person as she does not have feelings or consideration for her fellow human beings. I then proceeded to put my plastic bottles in the recycling bank and felt better, calmer and happier!
You Davey probably had a happy upbringing as did I but I guess that woman sadly did not.
Sorry I got your quiz wrong! Surprised you are just 5’8″. All good things come in small packages! I’m 6’1″.
Love you Davey and I too would love to kiss you everywhere!!
Robb
May 1, 2008 at 8:48 am
God is our strength in times of trouble, our shield in the middle of a conflict, our healer in the midst of illness, our comforter in times of sorrow, our peace in times of distress, our joy in times of blessing, our savior in times of need, our provider in times of hunger, our refuge in the face of a storm. So, set aside some time to pray today. If you are troubled or tired or weary or worn or just plain in one of those places that you don’t feel like you are in the right frame of mind to pray, think about the times that God has been there for you and remember the blessings that God has shown you.
May 2, 2008 at 1:11 am
Dear Davey:
Reading your blog is always a breath of fresh air, with these words you type in your Laptop, you truly lift up the spirit of you readers.
I see you and i see a beautiful man with great friends, great family, a presumably long Dong, are you a Martian?
How did you became so happy? .
May 2, 2008 at 4:48 am
lmao…#27…loved it
May 12, 2008 at 3:51 pm
Your philosophy is right on. It is one I have achieved over many more years than you have needed to arrive where you are. I commend you and rejoice in being on the planet at the same time as you are!
May 13, 2008 at 8:33 am
Holy Jesus You are being prosecuted, I always wanted to write a blog on my spiritual beliefs and now I realize, I do not know if I am ready to deal with the opinions of others wether invited of not.You are brave and beautiful because you know the value of what you are doing and i think my god I do not agree with everything this beautiful man says but he is living his truth it is more than most of us can say, I live in my knowing I have become more and I am not going to forget it. It would take love to be scorned this way, This process of beauty is delicate and simple I think beauty is the expression of our thoughts, as with a beautiful existance, Beauty is absence of worry and the embrace of love I belive you are beautiful because of your natural proclivity twards joy and expression, to the skeptics above me the world does need people like you also the moments you speak about it lets you know there is more that it can be better next time it is the opportunity to see the solution, I want a care free flight next time, next time I experience death I want to let go in love and joy the soul of my dear loved one is once again experiencing the knowing and love of the non physical, Reminding me if I choose to I can lean twards that love that peace that clarity, I want to love myself I want to live in a state of being where I am free in thought from my self doubt and hate and embrace the true freedom of physical creation, DAVE GETS NO LASTNG JOY FROM ADMIRATION,ADMIRATION OF OTHERS IS AS LONG LASTING AS THE NEXT FAD IT IS THE JOY HE GETS AT THE IDEA OF CONNECTING AND COMMUNICATING WITH OTHERS ITS WHAT HE CAME INTO EXISTANCE TO BE AND DO, IF YOU THINK THAT BEING BEAUTIFUL IS EVER FULLFILLING BECAUSE OTHERS OPINIONS OF THAT BEAUTY YOU WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND WHAT BEAUTY IS……BEAUTY IS FREEDOM FROM PHYSICAL WORRY IT IS THE STARS IT IS THE MOUTAINS IT IS THE SEA THE FEILDS OF HIDDEN FLOWERS. IT IS LIVING IN THE JOY OF THE TRUE NATURE OF CREATION, BEING IN THAT JOY THAT KNOWING VIBRATES WITH LOVE IT IS WHY THE PHYSICAL EXPRESSION OF IT IS TRANSENDENT IT SPEAKS TO ALL OF US. WE ARE ALL BEAUTIFUL BECAUSE WE ARE ALL ONE MADE OF THIS SAME TRUTH. ADMIRATION IS FOOLS GOLD. ADMIRATION OF YOUR SELF AND APPRECIATION OF OTHERS WILL HELP YOU ON YOUR TRUE PATH TO BEAUTY. Wow maybe I should have a blog I would not have as much grace and love to share sometimes I feel like that clip from LOTR where Giladriel gets offered the ring. Very dramatic with lots of blue light and wind machines. Learn to hear what others say might not be your truth, but listen to the way it makes you feel about your thoughts if they lead you twards love they hold relivance to your existance if they do not they are a learned unhappiness you are thinkng in a pattern that takes you aways from the knowing and love of your eternal self, You can change those thoughts those obsevations of yourself and your life that have created of worry of hate, doubt or Fear those are the illusion. The true light of life the true ying and yang you all speak of when you say”life is good and bad it is the reality of things” It is more so That when we Die or before we are born we are part of the truth the knowing of creation the love of the whole because we are all one life expressing itself in infinite beingness, We know we are one we will always be one and we live in rapture and peace but we needed to know what we were who we are in physical experience so creation was created the oportunity to choose to be or not to be that which we truly are we can choose here all paths of being we and ignore the truth of love and well being and when we do that we create pain we create a life where we are asking for the experience of the illusion of fear “not knowingness” and when we live in truth and knowing there is only beauty and more beauty comes from our knowing in the truth the physical world becomes more beautiful when we live in our true knowing. SO the yin and yang of life is I am whole I am love or I a can forget and create the lie but eternaly I will always ask for the truth I cannot keep my self in shadows too long for I am light and i am asking to know I am asking to be, I will always find out in this moment I exist with my eternal creation my eternal creator I live in this light and this light shines through me. Whether you are or you are not obrerving this it is a deeper truth that runs throught us all but you came here to be love to be light this is the expression of Love that we are all a part of we are all beautiful in truth but you have the the freedom to observe and be other than the truth it is your choice your eternal choice. NA dthat comment about plagarism you cannot plagerize the truth its as if to say that a man who observes he have a heart and a mind and a body spreaks of what he has learned of his physical truth, we all share this truth when we discover the quantum energy that connects us all there have been countless papers written about frogs all similar in facts but coming to different perspectives and different creational purposes people now create websites where people can learn about what they have learned about frogs so that they can tell you how they feel about frogs If Davey discovers a new way to tell us about frogs from his perspective from the information of countless generations and perspectives so that he can tell us what frogs mean to him I would like to hear it and I will be glad at the idea of this great bridge into knowing we are all building together peice by peace thought by though ideas are to be shares and given over and over again till they can shift and resonate and be with all for we will all come to know about these frogs in the end we will all come to know somthing that has being lost and forgotten in this physical existance to come back to the knowing, we are all peices in this puzzle we can only understand through our own perspective it is an opportunity for you to build the bridge into knowing this information cannot be plagarized for it is why we are here we are here to know, to express that knowing. I laugh as I think about the idea of this information being copied or stolen because it is in all things and it is in all of us, We are vessels of this light wether we let it come from within or without We all know these things, we are all peices of god, of creation we are all message bearers and some of us find greater ways to do this. I thank god for people like davey reminding us to remind ourselves. “Heaven is on earth as we create it”.Davey best website in the world out of all I have read and thought about the most prolific has been on the information from these teachers and if you have not heard of them yet I will be happy knowing I might have given somthing of value to your life. I love you I am glad you are expressing your self the way you do. ………….matthew
http://www.abraham-hicks.com.com
March 28, 2011 at 7:27 am
We are all the same person. Your experiences are Daveys and so on. You seem downhearted. Hope you feel better soon. Fred
March 28, 2011 at 7:30 am
Are you so sure. Perhaps you need to continue your quest for peace and Love. Have a better day. From the USA. Fred
March 28, 2011 at 7:32 am
Dear Craig, It is acceptance of things that we can’t change that Davey is talking about. Fred