When my sister, cousins and myself were little, we used to have what we called “The Naked Parade.”
The four of us would march down the hallway in our birthday suits. We thought that we were fabulous – and we were! I can still remember the catchy tune we made up: “Here comes The Naked Parade! The Naked Parade!” Of course, the naked parades didn’t last long – the music died when we were 4 or 5 years old.
What killed the music? Well, for one, the sense of shame that society imparts on all things naked.
It didn’t take us long to discover that our unclad bodies were “bad” and “wrong”. In a story that is as old as Genesis itself, we became aware of our nakedness. My mom taught us that our “danger zone” was anything normally covered by a bathing suit. Instead of loving our naked selves, we were taught to fear it.
You see, hating or fearing nudity is learned; as The Naked Parade demonstrates, we’re not born with the shame.
Unlearning that fear and hate, and relearning self-love isn’t easy for most of us. And, learning to love your naked self is about embracing your body, regardless of its shape, size or color. But it’s not about being in love with your body, it’s about loving it. It’s a fine distinction – and no one said it would be easy.
So tonight, I’m throwing a little parade. Get out the drums because The Naked Parade is coming to town! Here comes The Naked Parade! The Naked Parade!
March 25, 2009 at 6:36 pm
I know that I’ll be celebrating this in room haha. But I do believe that its a shame of the way that some people trick nudity. God (or the universe) created us with skin not clothes. Have a nice Davey, Cheers!!!
March 25, 2009 at 6:54 pm
Davey, if you say there is no (at least a “real” or natural) such thing as shame or hating about nudity, you could get there a picture without the label right in the middle, couldn’t ya?
Hope you don’t missundertand me. And I’m not talking with other intentions, really, but it would just be the best way to live and show here what you tell. You just kept hiding something your words first called so natural, our only real suit while we live here on this dimension.
March 25, 2009 at 7:44 pm
I second that!
March 26, 2009 at 3:39 am
Me too!!!
March 26, 2009 at 2:00 pm
Ditto.
March 26, 2009 at 4:30 am
me too!
March 26, 2009 at 7:13 am
Got my vote too.
March 26, 2009 at 8:20 am
Me too its lke that old saying ‘practice what you preach’
xxxxx
March 27, 2009 at 12:21 am
I would like to see you without the sign in front of you as well. I’m sure you have a fantastic body hidden behind that aweful sign. Go on….. Show off!
March 28, 2009 at 10:15 am
I totally agree – the first thing that got into my mind. Get rid of that sign;)
March 28, 2009 at 12:13 pm
this would have been a great video.
but i’m joining the practice what you preach, Davey thing in my mind.
i think the ones who benefit from teasing are actually arousing desires in people which have no outlet. that’s a great way of getting attention… but it leaves a fair amount of unresolved tension. usually, i have made a practice of avoiding anything you have posted with teasers of nudity or sex because your little bit of “gotcha”… your little bit of holding back make me think your words and images are calculated to titillate, and not to inspire.
do you understand what I’m saying? i think that inspiration and titillation are vastly different in whether they leave people with a sense of goodness about themselves and theirr desires, or whethher they feel more justified in quashing desire at the same time their desire has been aroused.
just some thoughts.
i know you’ll take what is useful and throw the rest to the winds to bear away!
March 25, 2009 at 7:05 pm
I’m sure Davey would just LOVE to get naked for all the random faces on the Internet, but he’s probably got bigger fish to fry. Besides, I don’t think he needs any complaints from people opening this site at work and seeing lil Davey displayed front and center on their computer screen.
Anywho, I have to say that while being proud of our bodies is important, it doesn’t help when us out of shape fellows have the extra worries and condemnation from the skinny community on top of everything else. I would like to think that if I were to get in shape, it would be for myself and not to get a boyfriend or impress everyone around me…
March 26, 2009 at 7:54 am
amen to that! getting in shape is something you do for you, just like appreciating your naked self
March 25, 2009 at 7:07 pm
Ok so I don’t think that my topic has anything to do with this post, but honestly I just skimmed it so it may. Anyway, i’ve recently came out to well basically everyone. I’ve told my family and a few friends and told them its not a secret anymore so feel free to share the info. And if anyone asked my I would tell them. Everyone has been supportive and im thankful for that, but since then i’ve regretted telling them. I liked knowing that before everyone knew I still had the chance to change. And I think I kind of liked having that massive of a secret. Despite all the support and all of the help from my loved ones, I regret the day i came out. Does this seem okay to you?
March 26, 2009 at 12:04 am
having secrets gives us the feeling of control.You have now given up that control and while it is common to feel uncomfortable with change you should never feel regret for telling people the truth about who you are and I hope that soon you realize this.
March 26, 2009 at 7:58 am
kelly’s right. sometimes it feels like things are better kept to ourself, but then if we keep important things hidden, especially if they might be hurtful, you’re doing the people you’d hurt a wrong. I know it doesn’t make sense, but put it in perspective. If you’re bf/gf were cheating on you, while this news would hurt you, you’d rather know than not wouldn’t you? not that being gay is as hurtful as cheating, but it’s a secret that could potentially hurt some people in your life if they’re not expecting or accepting of it. But that’s even more reason to tell them; some people only need to know a friend or relative of theirs is gay to be more accepting of the people as a whole. NO REGRETS!
March 26, 2009 at 4:34 am
You enjoy keeping secrets? I don’t know bout how you feel but keeping secrets from the people you trust can be painful, in my perspective.
Don’t regret at all. What is done is done.
March 25, 2009 at 7:35 pm
Hey… I have a slightly different take on the whole ‘shame’ dimension of being nekked.
When I ask the majority of the people that I know, being naked is one of the best feelings that one can enjoy, and I agree! If this is the case, then why would we want to avoid it? I don’t think its because of shame, but, rather for our own protection.
We weren’t taught to fear ‘IT’, rather, we were taught to be wary of the dangers that could come with being exposed. I’m talking sexual harassment, abuse, complicated pregnancies and STIs
Even in our most primordial forms, we knew that our P’s ought to go in their V’s (or A’s for those so inclined), and when we were starkers, then there wasn’t really much separating us from losing our inhibitions.
People may have been shagged against their will, the high at risk (such as the very very young or ill) may have become pregnancy leading to some complication, and those STIs that have been around for decades to centuries could have been spread like wild-fire.
With the advent of clothing, we have something to cover up the stimuli for sexual arousal to help regulate the conduct of society’s members, with the sub-conscious goal of protecting ourselves.
Having said all this, there may not be any good reason why we can use this awareness to try to alter our behaviour to be less fearful of the consequences in certain situations. I mean, you ain’t gonna let a woman walk around in the nud through a Nymphomaniac Rapist Convention… but you know what I mean…
March 25, 2009 at 7:42 pm
No problem here spent the day at Orient Beach naked an then sunset at coupacoy another nude beach in St Maarten
March 25, 2009 at 7:51 pm
Whoooo hoooo and High Fives for the Naked Parade!
March 25, 2009 at 10:04 pm
I don’t even get naked in front of my cat, he stares, i can’t get passed it
March 25, 2009 at 11:35 pm
Yeah, thqat’s funny you should say that, my dog won’t look at me when I’m naked….but sneals looks and when I catch her looking she drops and turns her head like in shame…haha!
March 25, 2009 at 11:52 pm
does anyone else think davey’s facial expression in this pic looks creepy?
March 26, 2009 at 1:20 am
Hundreds of years ago when I was young, almost every YMCA had an indoor swimming pool and, then being a men-only institution, we swam naked. Suits were banned as the pools were constructed in the pre-chlorine-in-pool-water days and unwashed suits harbored microbes which poluted the water: hence no suits. No one thought anything of being nude with other men. Now nudity is a taboo, even in gay institution like bath houses. I still like showing it eventhough there are wrinkles.
March 28, 2009 at 5:31 pm
That’s what saddens me the most… the younger generations are promoting nudity as shameful when for those of us who went to school with communal showers, shared dorm rooms (in college) and shared gym facilities and saunas are actually the ones who have found that letting a bunch of guys walk around naked on ly makes it more comfortable for everybody, not less.
I wonder if there is some way of turning back this tide as people clai to be freer in their minds and speech, yet are more and more controlled – and controlling of our own bodies.
The sin of Adam in the garden wasn’t being naked – it was hiding himself, and his newly-discovered nakedness from God and acting like his naked body was something to be ashamed of.
i’m bothered by the body shame trend, and wonder when society can gett back to the point that guys hanging out naked with and in front of other guys isn’t seen as some sort of invitation to sex. or that if sex happened, it would be the worst thing in the world!
March 26, 2009 at 4:46 am
We all need a sense of shame. It’s nothing to do with unlearning hate or fear or in any way, helping you to love yourself.
If you are so keen on loving yourself, why not start from the inside than the outside. If your mind is strong enough to demolish the barrier of hate, I’ll give you a standing ovation.
But to justify nakedness with loving yourself is just primitive and childlike.
We need a certain level of shame to draw a line between what we can do and what we can’t.
March 28, 2009 at 5:41 pm
Actually, what keeps me from doing what is wrong is my experience and my having been taught that doing good is, truly, its own reward. The more mature I become, the more i realize that right action which comes from a desire to do good and see good in the world is a much more powerful motivator to me than a worry about feeling ashamed or embarassed.
A study released last year showed that more people were likely to engage in positive social action when advocates of socially progressive reforms such as energy conservation and picking up litter presented the positive message of “your friends and neighbors are doing this” than their customary “the earth will die if you keep this up.”
I’t only recently that the psychology of positive emotions has been taken into account, and I feel that all of our shame-based justifications are going to seem as dated as Dr. Spock’s notions on how children were to be raised in the 60′s.
Thank God, my mom never paid him any attention and gave me affection and love when I needed it rather the stern, clinical detachment which was supposed to make me independent and self-sufficient.
Love is powerful… when linked to a sense of the good.
Love can overcome shame any day… and creat a person who is empowered to act with dignity in the world and on behalf of society as a whole.
March 26, 2009 at 5:04 am
Davey, to be authentic, you should show us your naked body.
March 26, 2009 at 5:05 am
hahaha — guys you got so (!) excited here.
for those begging for the nudie version of Dave – am I the only one who managed to find it on dudesnude in about 45 seconds?
March 26, 2009 at 7:30 am
What time is the parade and am I invited?
March 26, 2009 at 7:32 am
I would LOVE to see Davey Wavey naked.
Mmm mmm good.
March 26, 2009 at 7:39 am
Davey Wavey…Your parade is welcum any time..and I will be glad to join.. Love “your” David
March 26, 2009 at 8:11 am
I’m in
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March 26, 2009 at 9:16 am
tease..
March 26, 2009 at 9:30 am
Boy, yr HOT and a BIG TEASE. Thanks Davey. Love you loads. Daniel.
March 26, 2009 at 9:49 am
Pretty people look wonderful naked other people not so much.I’m young enough and I don’t care how I look I feel great when I’m naked. so I’m naked all the time that is reasonable. Hooray for the naked parade!
March 26, 2009 at 10:28 am
Where do I sign up?! The very mention of Naked Parade is amazing! Kudos to the birthday suit and enjoy it – every second!
Ciao!
March 26, 2009 at 10:49 am
STOP the madness! WHERE ON DUDESNUDE is the gorgeous DaveyWavey???
March 26, 2009 at 11:30 am
I wonder how do i get to this page to comments,got here though the ‘recent comments’.
Anyway,i totally agree with you! I’m in Singapore and it’s freaking hot here! It’ll be freaking awesome if we are allow to parade around naked and be proud of our very true self. And ofcourse, a full even tan.
March 26, 2009 at 11:55 am
Davey, yes, way too much shame associated with showing the body. However, you always leave out the practicality and necessity that brought on the notion of needing to cover up. Disease, protection against elements, etc.
Anyway, tonight, I will have a naked parade to show solidarity with you. Might invite a friend.
March 26, 2009 at 12:00 pm
wow. im not ashamed of my naked body
i love me
i would delightfully march with you
[xoxo andrew]
March 26, 2009 at 1:06 pm
damnit!!! stupid label get the f**k out of the picture!!!
March 26, 2009 at 3:23 pm
hi davey ia m from Barbados you are awesome you inspire me in so many way,lopve to here from you
March 26, 2009 at 10:41 pm
*attempts to remove the banner*
*fails miserably*
anyways… back on topic…
of course everyone is scared to reveal themselves naked, since that’s not normal… but well… what is normal right? i mean… a nudists could call the ones wearing clothes not normal
that’s why i admire the scarce ammount of nudists in the world, they only wear clothes if the environment forces them to which i think is pretty admirable.
March 27, 2009 at 12:20 am
oh my uncle used to do it and i thought that he was a weirdo, and i used to be kinda scared but now i think that this is usual in US.
March 27, 2009 at 1:41 am
Davey you are so special to me you bring joy into my life that is full of problems. I have celebrated naked parade all day. My room mate
has enjoyed it too. He is Mexican and very attracted to white people he has been telling me all day that I look like I am carved from white marble. It has been great for my ego. I am casually naked going to the bathroom or the kitchen for a drink normally, but all day at my computer watching a video. His eyes following me everywhere I go. Living in the tropics my face and neck are tanned but he never realised how white I am. He said to tell you thanks for the naked parade.
March 27, 2009 at 1:48 am
I think Davey is quite attractive but he can hide behind his banner. No problem for me.This is the internet the source of all the naked beautiful guys I could ever want. Davey is fine but there are plenty of naked guys that make Davey look pretty normal. No offence Davey I think you are luscious but you don’t need to satisfy my salacious lust. You offer many more wonderful stuff. I did get a stiffy when you molested Chipotle though. You have a magnificent bum.
March 28, 2009 at 1:38 pm
Nice pice
March 28, 2009 at 5:09 pm
I’m totally in sync, there’s nothing as classically beautiful as the human body…from ancient Greece to Robert Mapplethorpe, it never goes out of style…how society somewhere along the line began to feel shame and guilt towards the human form is beyond me. But thanks to artists like Mappplethorpe and Sven de Rennes, people are reclaiming their bodies from religion, society and themselves. Fortunately I was lucky enough to grow up in an environment lacking in shame and guilt, and have no problems getting my kit of, right boo?
March 29, 2009 at 2:56 pm
YEA & SOON AS YOU GET RID OF THAT SIGN THEN YOU’LL BE ACCUSED OF SHOWING PORN JUST CUZ OF THAT BEAUTIFUL THING HANGING & DANGELING FROM LEFT TO RIGHT AS YOU DANCE THE NAKE PERADE!!::)) YEA I KNOW IT’S STUPID& THE GERMANS ARE LIKE THAT ALSO, BUT PU—– & TI—ES AFTER 24:00 ITS ALL OUT THERE ON TV!!! HEY I LUVS YA!!::))
April 9, 2009 at 12:10 am
Oh jeez.
April 27, 2009 at 5:19 pm
I agree so so much. When my cousins and I were little we would get naked and my uncle would lay on the floor (clothed) and we would crawl all over him. I have no idea why, and I have no idea why we needed to be naked, but I remember my (male) cousins got naked and so i decided I wanted to. I have always preferred nudity to clothing. If you knock at my door when I’m home doing nothing, you can bet I will be naked.
I have a big opinion too, about molestation and how it connects to our fear of nudity. I wrote a big long blog about that and violence in our society.
Also, if you haven’t read the book “Touch” by Tiffany Field GO READ IT!
September 2, 2009 at 2:18 am
Oh, good. I’m glad to read that there were people who called bullshit on this post.
September 12, 2009 at 9:50 am
aww don’t tease us ;p
i actually wanted to see =(
haha j/k nice photo editting xD
October 1, 2009 at 4:18 pm
i think u should do a video on yourself being naked and showing us ur “presents” and posting it on ur blog……i would love to see you naked
April 4, 2010 at 10:38 am
Personally, I think that its sort of a double edged sword. There’s a camp of people who can handle nudity, and a camp of people who can’t. Penises, in particular, like female breasts, and male pecs, tend to draw the vision. Its perfectly natural to look, and want to know what other people look like. (even straight men admire other men’s bodies…just not the “Stragiht Dave” types.) I think showing off your penis is sort of a taboo, given the wrong environment, and depending heavily on one’s own inner drive. If you equate the penis immediately with sexual desire, (and therefore are likely to assume that everyone else does, too) then you don’t do yourself any favours by showing off your three piece suite. On the other hand, if you’re comfortable with all aspects of your own nudity, its probably because you’re at inner peace, and have crystallised a realisation that your penis is not necessarily a toy or [by far, worse] a weapon, but a member with a purpose, just like any other. I think our ability to walk naked with a sense of shameless pride hinges on our ability to respect others’ nudity, as well. Overbearing sexual focus, I think, is what puts people off of it. Among other factors, like letting oneself go to gluttony, etc.
Cheers Davey Wavey! You’re a gorgeous man!
August 28, 2011 at 10:04 pm
Can u move the letters pls