I just got stood up.
I made dinner plans with one of my Canadian friends, but he never showed up. At first, I was a little crestfallen. But I quickly realized that getting stood up was just an opportunity in disguise. And so I decided to make it a date night with myself.
I ordered exactly what I wanted, and ate at my own pace. I turned my thoughts inward, and thoroughly enjoyed my alone time at the table. To top things off, I took myself out for dessert at my favorite Toronto smoothie bar.
Turns out, getting stood up is even better than not getting stood up.
When I got home, I ever gave myself a kiss goodnight. And now, me, myself and I are going to cuddle up and watch tonight’s all new episode of Glee.
March 8, 2011 at 8:47 pm
I love how we have the ability to turn a seemingly troubling situation into a rewarding one through choice alone.
Thanks for the reminder that we have that choice, man! =]
March 8, 2011 at 8:47 pm
awww! where is your bf??? give a kiss to chiptole!!
March 8, 2011 at 8:47 pm
Davey, I’m sorry you got stood up, but at least you made a good thing out of it. I almost stood a date up, but i just couldn’t do it, and it turns out he was a great guy that I could have missed out on.
March 8, 2011 at 8:48 pm
Sorry to hear that you got stood up… hope the person has called to explain themself. That is not a very polite or Canadian thing to do.
Enjoy Glee. Cheers from Vancouver
March 8, 2011 at 8:49 pm
I hate to say such simple stuff, but you are simply great!
March 8, 2011 at 8:49 pm
Interesting … that happened to me as a seniot in high school with a man who I really wanted to date. I was left alone at the restaurant (before the days of cell phones) and I enjoyed a nice dinner at PennyFeathers on Staten island, a couple of Pina Coladas, and some ice cream at a local place with awesome sundaes.
March 8, 2011 at 8:50 pm
You slut! How are you fitting all 3 of those ppl in bed with you? lol
March 8, 2011 at 8:50 pm
Interesting … that happened to me as a senior in high school with a man who I really wanted to date. I was left alone at the restaurant (before the days of cell phones) and I enjoyed a nice dinner at PennyFeathers on Staten island, a couple of Pina Coladas, and some ice cream at a local place with awesome sundaes.
March 8, 2011 at 9:14 pm
I would have gone crazy. Good you made the best of it.
March 8, 2011 at 9:19 pm
You’ve gotta hate flakers!
March 8, 2011 at 9:25 pm
I can say that I genuinely appreciate your approach to this situation.
Being so positive and having the self-confidence and self-comfort to be happy alone with yourself are altogether too rare!
If youan your guy ever get out near Ottawa, don’t be shy!
March 8, 2011 at 9:26 pm
I’ll never understand your confidence. Teach me
I really enjoy you
March 8, 2011 at 9:35 pm
I am watching Glee also! So you are not alone! I am with you in spirit!
March 8, 2011 at 10:00 pm
Sounds like bliss. I can’t remember the last time I had some alone time!!
March 8, 2011 at 10:07 pm
Reeeeeally? U weren’t sad at all that he didn’t show up? Sometimes I think that forcing yourself to be happy in these situations instead of feeling what you just feel naturally is, tho not unhealthy, just not honest with yourself.
And why didn’t you call to find put wherehe was!?
March 8, 2011 at 11:10 pm
Aww, *tear*. Bad that happened, but at least you left him for the more exciting world of asexuality!.. jk… :/…
March 8, 2011 at 11:30 pm
I honestly love your optimistic view on life. You have inspired me to see everything on the brighter side! Thanks davey!
March 8, 2011 at 11:39 pm
Please let me know if you get stood up again, or if you’re looking for a replacement for this Canadian friend. I’m in Toronto and promise to always show up when we make plans!
March 8, 2011 at 11:44 pm
I love glee
March 8, 2011 at 11:46 pm
I am sorry.
March 9, 2011 at 12:29 am
Nice. I regularly take myself out for dinner… it’s like a mini-vacation!
Next time, drop me a quick e-mail note and I’ll be there!
Cheers!
March 9, 2011 at 1:03 am
I think the real question here is. Who would ever stand up Davey Wavey? Not me ever. Luv ya Davey.
March 9, 2011 at 2:13 am
Consider that we don’t just feel anything naturally. Our feelings are learned responses based on expectations and intentions being unmet and/or thwarted. If one learns to be pissed off at a situation one can learn a more useful behaviour if he or she wishes to. That’s as natural as it gets.
March 9, 2011 at 3:13 am
I LOVE Glee! And tonight’s episode was so good! Now I have to buy Landslide. Santana was really good. I also loved Kurt’s dad and “the talk”. Every gay kid needs a parent like that!
March 9, 2011 at 3:27 am
Interesting, Davey.
There is a wonderful writer, MFK Fisher, whom some thought wrote about food but she herself knew she wrote about life. In one of her essays, she wrote about dining alone. Dining alone, not eating alone. And she made reference to the legendary Roman host, Lucullus, who ordered a dinner for himself one night rather than for a houseful of guests. The kitchen staff prepared a ho-hum meal. This didn’t meet Lucullus’ expectations. “It is precisely when I am alone that you require to pay special attention to the dinner. At such times, you must remember, Lucullus dines with Lucllus.”
March 9, 2011 at 8:45 am
Davey Wavey
Good Morning!
I also watched “Glee” alone..so you were on a date with me..from afar..Next time..email me at boot43@earthlink.net and I will be there to share everything with you..even that late night smooch..
I will not disappoint you!
Love “your” David
March 9, 2011 at 9:06 am
See, I would also sit down and enjoy the meal and turn my thoughts inward. The thoughts would be about the wonderfully intricate Machiavellian and Byzantine ways I would have my revenge on the Stooder upper. Bwa! Ha! Ha! Ha! See, that makes me happy.
March 9, 2011 at 11:06 am
I know gentlemen don’t kiss and tell, but we’re all dying to know: did you get yourself drunk, then take yourself home then take advantage of yourself?
March 9, 2011 at 12:17 pm
Davey,
Do you think Glee is getting out of control? Some of my friends are saying its getting too gay (this makes me think back to your “too gay” video). Do you have any thoughts?
March 9, 2011 at 6:10 pm
Ok because that’s not weird
March 9, 2011 at 7:41 pm
I know you say we are all beautiful, but it’s nice to see someone as beautiful as yourself gets stood up as well. Next time it happens to me I’ll think of you and smile. Love ya. Tim.
March 9, 2011 at 8:26 pm
i havent been stood up-but i did have a date that lasted merely five minutes total-we met for coffee-i know the promise-and the date lasted way too short.cest la vie.
March 9, 2011 at 10:19 pm
Um.. I love this! Another great, insightful read. Thank you!
March 10, 2011 at 1:37 am
Hmmm, I thought you have a Boyfriend, that you love so much.
March 10, 2011 at 3:25 pm
emm i know about it… i used to do tea parties and most of the invited never showed up…. jeje
but the tea do not need a lot of people to enjoy…. jeje
March 10, 2011 at 5:39 pm
i got stood up the other day as well.. by someone i never would have expected to blow me off… sigh… mean people suck!
its really tempting to just give up… i mean who gives a s**t? if you cant trust your friends n family, why trust anyone?
~ cheers….
March 15, 2011 at 3:56 pm
Mean people suck; that’s a given. Heck, it’s even a t-shirt.
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