I believe when we die we see how everything is an illusion. That nothing really matters ultimately.

But in physical realitý, even knowing this, one realizes that the ultimate reason why we are even alive is to understand the true glory of who we are good anbd bad. This includes all the happy, sad, drama, etc.

If you feel over something now, then you are exactly that, because that is how you feel. That is the only real truth. However in retrospect often you realize it wasn’t so bad possibly, or maybe it was. But here today in the present, it is how we feel that is important.

As a fence sitter (lmao I love that) I say that everybody is correct here, becauseit their experience and understanding. And if it is not, then so be it. After all. What does it matter. Its all an illusion ultimately.

This year has been a year of letting go. I agree with your idealism that all is as it should I call it Devine Order. We have the power to choose our life and our reaction to it. I don’t believe in evil or good it just is. Funny that I read this with a friend when I actually had been discussing this same topic. You don’t need to be a monk or dead to have this philosophy. Meditation helps LOL. When we connect to our inner santuary we come to self awareness that releases us from pain and suffering. We are no longer bound to just human experience. We ARE after Human BEings. At any given time we have a choice on what our experience is and what part we choose play in that experience.

Their is always three versions to any story your version, my version and the truth. The truth is always colored by the eye of the beholder.

Something that I came to realize this year of transition is that I am the common factor in everything that I have experienced thus far, so that being said I have participated in creating my life, consciously or not.

That awareness give me strength and peace of mind that I am an active creator of my experience. For me it comes down to faith. I believe that all happens as it meant to be. For in hindsight it all works out for the greater good.

What you wrote was like hearing a lot of my ideals written out. You express them a bit differently but they are pretty much identical.

Something I keep coming back to personally is that no one else controls the way you feel. We choose to feel a particular way whether we realize it or not. It is really difficult to express this way, but take any situation, you can either choose to be happy despite whatever it is, or you can be miserable because it isn’t how you want it to be.

I’d rather be happy.

Although, I think a lot of people who hear and see this kind of philosophy often mistake it for inaction or not doing anything to change the way things are. This isn’t true. If you are in a bad situation, change it, but getting upset only hurts you, and maybe other people too if you lash out.
You can be happy where you are though and be working towards a better future. I’m not sure why people seem to think you have to be miserable and hate your situation to make a change for the better. I suppose it provides motivation, but more often then not, people get so focused in on the problem that they can’t see a solution! There’s always a solution

Anyway, you can choose to be happy in each moment with things the way they are. I’m not saying it’s easy, and I’m not saying you can change overnight, or even in a lifetime, but it is a direction to point yourself in that can only help you and those around you.

Things are the way they are! Being miserable doesn’t help you change things, and being happy doesn’t mean you can’t still change things. So if you can work towards a better future from either a place of happiness or a place of misery, why would you opt for misery?

Just be happy, it’s a much nicer way to feel!

“God, give strength to change the things I can change, serenity to accept those things I cannot, and wisdom to tell the difference”.

I can’t go with that. What I find handier, as far as philosophies go, is that things just are what or how they are right now. They can change, or sometimes I can change them – but either way, I get no peace until I recognize and accept that “It is what it is.” I don’t have to like it, but I can do what I’m able to do to change it or myself. And thinking that something I don’t like will be replaced by something that I DO… well, that’s just not always how it works. Not for me, anyway…

-m4m

This is a great post, great point. Keep it going, dude. <3

As far as being “under” the matter at hand, I think it’s natural to be affected by someone or something disappointing you. I think it’s not good for someone to carry that disappointment for too long.

When in fact the only freedom we have is in EGO

You must always be aware of the fact as a gay person there are alot more people that will hate you than a normal being. Then add in the enemey personality types…and i know many have them.

The only real working system is that of complex energy work on behalf of the system. The tru happiness of self, coming to terms with your world.

Many are rather adept at figuring out a weakness in somebody, but there are others that can help heal the pain of those attacks.

u must let go of alot of stuff and send it back into the world that gave it to you. You must find ways of doing that.

Doing so, further allows you to move on, walk ur own way, and smile at a hawt stud or two while doing it.

oh man, what i have been looking for for ages is like one hawt guy to work out too….i dunno wtf is going on with all these workout guy vids…the guys are like from animal planet or somethin.
sz

People who practice medicine in helping patients with their lifestyles often say that it is counterproductive to hold grudges or try to get revenge, mostly because it means that you’re not paying as much attention to the opportunities that are helpful to themselves.

(An article posted in Women’s magazine featuring Ellen Degeneres stated that very advice. (summer to fall of 2009?) I read it while waiting for a friend to finish work.)

Good advice!

The thing to keep in mind when going through hardship is never being resentful of others. Accept people for who they are and make the necessary changes to yourself in order to cause the change around you. You can never change people, you can influence people but not change them. Change ourselves first then everything else follows.

A great sense of self awareness is key. See yourself. You can only fix things that you know are broken.