I learned a new word yesterday: Dumbf*cksh*t. And I think it’s going to catch on.
Chipotle, my dog, enjoys visiting a small park near my Toronto apartment. It’s at the bottom of a ravine, and it’s often rather murky, muddy and wet. She makes quite a mess of herself (sometimes I do, too), and she enjoys every minute of it.
Adjacent to the park is an old carriage house, rich with character. Its eclectic landscaping of painted shells, broken statuary and oddly curated gardens disclose that an artist dwells within. And indeed, one does.
Yesterday, I spent a few hours chatting with the artist and viewing his remarkable work. His life is extraordinarily strange, but in a refreshingly beautiful way. Much like Chipotle in the mud, I enjoyed every minute of it.
In our conversion, I learned a new word: Dumbf*cksh*t. More than a judgment, dumbf*cksh*t is a way of identifying toxic beliefs. Dumbf*cksh*t is difficult to define, though instances of it are everywhere. For example, if someone tells you that gay people are to blame for the tsunami in Japan, your dumbf*cksh*t alarms may sound.
Curiously, it’s much easier to recognize dumbf*cksh*t in others than it is to recognize it in yourself.
Here’s the thing that you must know: It is impossible to reason with – or resist against – dumbf*cksh*t. When you resist dumbf*cksh*t, you just make it stronger. It’s like quicksand; if you struggle, you just get deeper and deeper into it. Dumbf*cksh*t is hungry, and your energy – even in the form of resistance – just makes it stronger and stronger.
Starve it. Neglect it. Let it go. A lack of attention, energy and effort is the only way to minimize dumbf*cksh*t or its presence in your life.
March 18, 2011 at 12:55 pm
LOL The words Canadians teach you Davey. Still I get the point.
March 18, 2011 at 12:59 pm
This is such a good way of expressing that stuff in the world that is, em well Dumbf*cksh*t! So many people come out with such absurd comments that just give them an unattractive energy. Using this will defiantly help me and other people become better people
March 18, 2011 at 1:02 pm
You are a beautiful person Davey, as you know. Don’t degrade yourself by swearing. It is negative energy language. Stay positive.
March 18, 2011 at 1:05 pm
Dumbfckshit really is everywhere, even in the process of denouncing one piece of dumbfckshit many people exhibit it themselves.
Dumbfckshit destroyers, unite!
March 18, 2011 at 1:10 pm
I agree with Patrick in Chicago on this one…
March 18, 2011 at 1:12 pm
I would feel Davey more degraded if he payed attention to irrational language taboos.
March 18, 2011 at 1:26 pm
Isn’t this all a bit paradoxical? I feel the quicksand reaching out through the words on the screen….
March 18, 2011 at 2:07 pm
Thank you Davey, I have been stuck in a quagmire of DFS for the last few weeks, and your post helped me start down the path to releasing it…
March 18, 2011 at 2:40 pm
I never heard anyone blame gays for the disaster in Japan. Are you making it up to drawl attention? If anyone does blame homosexuals who gives a monkey’s butt-scew them. Sometimes Davey you are very negative
March 18, 2011 at 2:41 pm
jejeje creo que es mejor si no intento traducir la nueva palabra…… jejeje
March 18, 2011 at 2:47 pm
Same here…and Sean, I like the acronym of DFS! It works for me
March 18, 2011 at 5:09 pm
I agree with Patrick big time. I am also embarrassed to be a Canadian and Torontonian if this crude word enters and stays in your vocabulary because of your stay here. You are far above this profanity. Listen to Chipotle.
One of our Prime Minister’s, Pierre Trudeau, once said “We take the position that there is no place for the state in the bedrooms of the nation.” Far nicer words. This was the start to the decriminalization of homosexuality in Canada, and the freedoms that we now enjoy.
March 18, 2011 at 5:13 pm
Personally I enjoy pausing for thought and remembering something my father instilled in me, “Est beatus vir qui suffert tentationem.” (The blessed man is tempted).
Before I opt to dwell on something that someone else has done that exudes idiocy and consequently agitates the living fire out of me thus dragging me down into the maelstrom as well I remember (or at the very least TRY to remember) that a better person would not get sucked into such idiocy and therefore choose to make a mental note regarding it, but decline action towards further involvement it.
As for the Tsunami questions, if Pat Robertson can blame Haiti’s destruction on a pact made with the Devil, then anything is truly possible when it comes to ecclesiastical finger pointing.
March 18, 2011 at 5:31 pm
That was an interesting story about the artist in an old carriage house in the bottom of the ravine in Rosedale. It must be truly more than just a notorious gay cruising area. I’ll have to check it out.
Davey, can you comment on your potential success at hookups or meeting someone when you are cruising or walking with Chipotle?
March 18, 2011 at 6:32 pm
I’ve not seen any ‘The Gays Did It!’ in reference to Japan yet either…But I sure have seen a whole lot of “Hey Japan, that’s karma for Purl Harbar you bastards*” commentary….I guess there’s still a lot of Americans annoyed that they got hit….but I guess they don’t consider Hiroshima as something that might cause a karmic backlash. All praise the United States of Moronica!**
*Spelling mistakes are not mine, that is a legitimate quote from a Facebook status.
**Of course, I’m generalising. I have many American friends who are intelligent enough to undertsnad the true concept of Karma, as well as being able to spell Pearl Harbour correctly.
March 18, 2011 at 7:43 pm
http://www.advocate.com/News/Daily_News/2011/03/16/NJ_Student_Says_He_Was_Evicted_From_Dorm_For_Being_Gay/
Thought this might interest you.
March 18, 2011 at 8:35 pm
Without the asterisks, would the FCC fine you? What’s the point?
March 18, 2011 at 8:37 pm
I gotta say it: How do you neglect it, resist it, let it go, by writing about it and publishing it in a blog with a large following?
March 18, 2011 at 8:38 pm
You are probably way too young that Mr.Trudeau said the ‘f’ word a few times in parliament!
You missed DW’s whole point!!!! So that makes you…..you guessed it a ‘Dumbf*cksh*t’. You win!
March 19, 2011 at 1:29 am
Thatsssss Funnyyyy heehee.
March 19, 2011 at 8:24 am
hopefully this new word will catch on big-time.in the meantime-i shall take this advice-and a daily heavy dossage of anti-depressants-that ought to work,eh?
March 19, 2011 at 8:32 am
i agree with you Patrick on this one.i hate to swear-except that we are the product of the enviroment we are in.but i will try.——BTW-Patrick-might you have time in Chicago-at noon Saturday-to do the massive 8yr anniv of Iraq war-Michigan/Congress-brief rally and march.GLN-will be there to put the g/l/b/t-spin to this.i will be there-will you?lets meet up and do lunch.
March 19, 2011 at 8:54 am
yo estoy de acuerdo
March 19, 2011 at 9:39 am
Eckart Tolle more articulatly discribes this mind set as the Pain Body in his book The Power of Now. It’s sort of the collective personal or cultural pain experience that lies mutant in all of us until it’s disturbed. Davey’s right in the fact that the best thing to do when you are a victim of someone’s pain body is to get away. Interacting feeds it and it only becomes more pronounced. The theory goes that men have a larger pain body than women. Alcohol tends to stimulate it; thus “an angry drunk” vs. “a happy drunk”. I’m a happy drunk but I don’t drink that much ever so I stay boring.
March 19, 2011 at 9:44 am
Too true!!
f**k is only a word..
And anyone who doesnt like it is a dumbf*ucksh*t.
March 19, 2011 at 10:12 am
FCC has no jurisdiction over the internet. It’s self-governed as it – and all media – ought to be.
March 19, 2011 at 10:43 am
This has been a great week of posts for your blog. Today too! I might have said tar baby instead of quicksand but then I am older.
March 19, 2011 at 12:00 pm
Oh my… I know dumbf*ksh*t impersonation, Mr. DFS in flesh and bone, dumf*ksh*t’s avatar on Earth.
March 19, 2011 at 3:35 pm
I have a habit of fighting with dumbf*cksh*t when I hear it. I guess that feedsit and makes it worse.
March 19, 2011 at 4:28 pm
How can we tell if we are participating in dumbf*sh*t?
March 19, 2011 at 5:25 pm
Connor,
For me it’s a feeling that I have grown to recognize. It has a lot to do with a feeling that I get that recognizes the my Ego is in conflict with someone else’s. Davey’s decription makes it seem like low life’s are the only one’s that behave this way but it’s express throughout the behavior foodchain.
Eckhart Tolle spends a lot of time talking about the Pain Body. I think if you YouTube his name or just Pain Body you will have a better discription.
March 23, 2011 at 4:49 pm
Well. I would say that DFS is now getting around. I came up with DFS to describe how I sometimes felt about the way I let some people treat me this past year. When I first met Davey I never thought for a moment that he’d give me, my work,or my life as an artist any thought at all. This year upon meeting up with him again, not knowing anything about what he did with his time, I was amazed at how beautiful he was in and out. I, being much older, bacame blown away by this fantastically moving person. I’m proud to have shared DFS with this sweet new friend.