It’s the day after Christmas and I know what you’re thinking: “Do I really deserve all of this?”
No, I’m not referring to the stack of gifts under the tree. I’m not referring to your iTunes gift card, the new red sweater from Aunt Hilda or the anal beads from your boyfriend. Not even the peace-sign mittens that your grandmother knitted.
I’m referring to the beautiful and perfect life that you’ve created, and the power that is your birthright.
Some people might look at your life and point to your challenges. But where these people see obstacles, you see opportunities.
Some people might look at your life and point to your limitations. But you know that your human body can hardly keep your soaring soul grounded in this world of time and space.
You are more powerful than the most famed of kings, conquerors and rulers. Your kingdom is the universe, and creation bows before you. In short, you are da s**t. Do you deserve all of this? Yes, you do. Are you entitled to the abundance of the universe? Yes, you are.
Just like everyone else in the world.
December 26, 2009 at 11:06 am
This is good to know… Christmas was great… I had to work but it made me appreciate the in-between bits even more!!! x
December 26, 2009 at 11:47 am
Long live the king!
Be sure to be a benevolent king to all those in your kingdom/universe.
Be careful not to surrender your kingdom to some other power (selfishness, anger, jealousy, substances, etc).
EnJOY your kingdom.
Long live the king!
December 26, 2009 at 12:13 pm
Davey, you’re da s**t also! Thanks for all the great posts and all the smiles. You are a great person with wonderful insight. Keep up the good work, and make sure you let us know when ever you need a smile or an upbeat word or two!
December 26, 2009 at 1:40 pm
ummm okay
wow…really?
December 27, 2009 at 11:32 am
Just ask yourself: “Why not?” Of course you deserve it! We all do – just as Davey says… For those who persist with negative thinking, ask yourselves why.
December 26, 2009 at 2:21 pm
hahah….thanx!!
December 26, 2009 at 3:55 pm
Your parents taking these pics?
Have a great New Years Davey!!!!
December 26, 2009 at 4:56 pm
Hey Davey, I hope you had a merry Christmas. I love all of your thoughtful posts and great insight on different things. I liked this post a lot, it really made me think about myself with my believed challenges and limitations and how they can be great opportunities for me. Thanks for posting this!
Love, Peace and Hugs,
~Eva
December 26, 2009 at 6:10 pm
What a great perspective. I slid your words on like my most comfortable clothing and am wearing them proudly. This is exactly what I needed to hear today. I just let go some of the worries that I was carrying around in the same swoop…as if I don’t deserve all things to go well. Screw it, I expect things to go well. If they don’t I’ll deal with them in a powerful way. Thanks for the insight Davey.
December 26, 2009 at 6:57 pm
Thanks for the kind words and the hot images, Davey, can’t wait for you to post from Australia, but of course, I’m enjoying the moment…. now…
well, I know I ought to be, that’s a start.
love, love, love
all you need is… IS… now, now, now. is, is, is now.
I almost followed that myself.
love, love, love
December 26, 2009 at 7:34 pm
Awesome sexy pics there Davey!
I’m really jealous of the peace fingerless gloves. I recently lost mine… But man, are they in an online store somewhere? I’m really stupid with navigating past the blog on your website, haha.
December 26, 2009 at 7:36 pm
Oh, I guess i did know how to access the store. But I don’t see any gloves! Sadness!
December 27, 2009 at 8:13 pm
Buy the gloves you want and tip them with scissors. (My phlebotomy nurse does this with her latex gloves making them moot)I get people all the time asking where to find a sleeveless hoody. Take the sleeves of the one you like and go to the dry cleaners and have them finish the armholes. The only pre-made one I found was a cashmere one at Neiman-Marcus that was $900+. Some one is bound to make a fortune on this, not Neiman-Marcus.
December 29, 2009 at 4:48 am
…You’re absolutely right. I may have to try this soon!
December 26, 2009 at 7:52 pm
Another great post, Davey. ^_^
December 27, 2009 at 12:31 am
You said: “Some people might look at your life and point to your challenges. But where these people see obstacles, you see opportunities.”
How utterly true! I’m so tired of people patronizing me because by their definition I’m disabled. I tell them I’m not disabled (“But look at you…”), that I just do things MY way, and if that doesn’t happen to fit into their little stereotyping box, perhaps THEY should rethink their attitude. Yeah, I know this sounds a little grumpy, but too many people want to see the glass half empty rather than the way I do: half full, and ready for more. I joke that my motto is “Lead me not into temptation, GET OUT OF MY WAY!!!”
There’s not much I can’t/won’t do/try; I *refuse* to stay at home and stagnate just because of somebody else’s attitude! Thank you for your positive attitude, may it spread pandemically throughout the world!
December 27, 2009 at 12:07 pm
Yes!!! You go girl!! Right on!!
December 27, 2009 at 12:47 am
I love this post, Davey. It presents an interesting dichotomy that if we innately deserve the things we enjoy and label as good, we must also deserve the things we deem to be bad. It’s an idea I enjoy pondering and what I’ve come to believe is that we deserve things only because we believe we do. Things just happen, period. Deserving them or not is merely an opinion and we get to choose to deserve something or not to. Despite whether we deserve it or not, if something is happening it works best to accept it and look forward.
My sister lovingly pointed out that I cannot possibly sell my condo, quit my job and move to Toronto this coming year. She feels it’s too risky. She could only see the limitations. I pointed out to her that there will always be several valid and seemingly real barriers between people and their dreams. The people who are truly extraordinary see the obstacles and believe in their own abilities to overcome them. She thinks I’m full of s**t. LOL!
According to Marianne Williamson “We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world.”
Amen to that and thank you, Davey, for your continued inspirations.
December 27, 2009 at 7:25 am
I just found your blog today and when I started reading this post a warm feeling of recognition spread all over me. I too thought about that Marianne Williamson quote and thought about so many amazing people devoted to remind us how incredible we are.
Thanks for your honest, uniquely personal, insightful, passionate, funny, sexy, cute work. The degree to which you allow yourself to be yourself is a sign of real wisdom.
Keep on shinning and while doing so, watch out for the twin fires that you sparkle on your wake!
Love,
Da s**t.
December 27, 2009 at 2:52 am
That photo looks like you are having sex with your dog – very dodgy!
December 27, 2009 at 5:50 am
oh my gosh, i love your gloves!
i always wanted fingerless gloves
December 27, 2009 at 6:46 am
Hi, Merry Christmas, my name’s Victor. I just now, like 30 seconds ago, found out about your website through YouTube so I thought I would check it out. It’s real nice and I hope you keep people doing what you are doing. But what I really wanted to say was that 2009 has been a really bad year, I came out this year and it wasn’t a good experience I’ve gotten a lot of really bad news this year and I don’t really know what I’m doing any more, I bet it probably sounds weird to you but, I’ve watched a couple of your videos and read some of the things you wrote and they make me feel like there’s nothing to worry about… But I just wanted you to know how you made me feel so I’m going to finish this comment that’s not even about “You’re da s**t.” now lol later.
December 27, 2009 at 7:50 am
My boyfriend didn’t give me anal beads. He gave me a lollipop in the shape of a c**k. At first I thought it was a rocket ship. Silly me.
December 27, 2009 at 8:12 am
Wow. That was an intense posting.
Wouldn’t it be great if you actually felt like that? I have at times. But being human and alive means you get the chance to experience both ends of the spectrum.
I love the quote “This too shall pass”. So good news. There will come a day you don’t feel this way. You can’t escape it. But it will come back to you.
So enjoy it now. But if you don’t feel this way, don’t try to force it to change. Just feel it. And don’t be afraid to say that you feel horrible too.
That is the only way to get past it.
December 27, 2009 at 8:16 am
Davey Wavey..Almost time for you to make that trek to my place in Jerszzy..Love “your” David
December 27, 2009 at 8:23 am
Thanks Davey,
I love you too!
joey
December 27, 2009 at 9:53 am
thats beutiful Davey
thank you
love you loads
matty x
December 27, 2009 at 10:56 am
How did you know my boyfriend gave me anal beads !!!! ??? !!! Amazing !
December 27, 2009 at 11:29 am
Hi Davey
My name is Leandro, from Brazil and I´m reading your blog for some time. First I love all your posts, this one is great… also I need say it: You´re so hot on pic…
See you and have a Happy New Year !!!
December 27, 2009 at 11:32 am
…I’m entitled to protect our mother earth but have not been able to… and I’m becoming restless :-s
December 27, 2009 at 12:05 pm
For anybody that read my earlier comment you probably thought “bitter party of 1.75!”.
Hahahah. I swear I’m not bitter. In fact I feel all if its beauty at this moment. But I’ll tell you, when you get almost no sleep for many nights in a row and wake up to family watching news discussing politics and terrorism, its so hard to see the beauty. Lol
My oh my y’all. The joy of T-totality.
December 27, 2009 at 12:18 pm
I’m visitng my family for the holiday and we’re really having a great time together. We’ve had a lot of tragedy over the years so we’re close. The part I don’t like is when they went off to relax after dinner by parking in front of the television so watch “America’s Most Wanted.” I don’t watch tv and hate violence. I am offended by this kind of programming and most of what is on television. In fact, I haven’t watched tv regularly since being a teenager (40 years ago!). I just don’t get Americans’ need to watch violent television, movies, or even reality shows. Have we stooped that low???
December 27, 2009 at 7:54 pm
There is nothing real in reality shows. They all started back in the days of the writer’s strike. They (Producers) discovered that shows without writing (scripts) and without actors (Duh. Acting)were cheap, and so were they , and continued to this day. They can shovel this crap all they want, and the good thing is all the reading I now have been catching up on in the last several years since the strike. I’ve survived “Survivor” but this therapist friend of ours we have needs to see one himself for having a propensity for “Big Brother.” We’ve disowned him.
December 27, 2009 at 8:52 pm
The point is that they are senseless but the American public buys into them. They wouldn’t be on if they didn’t capture an audience. Hence my assessment of the American public is that they are mostly becoming of white trash mentality. It’s tragic.
December 28, 2009 at 3:39 am
How’s the view from up there on your soapbox? Throughout history we have examples of a person or group thinking that their tastes, values and morals are somehow superior to those of another. Seems we haven’t progressed nearly so far as to just accept that different people have different tastes. Consider that the real tragedy here is your moralizing and lack of acceptance of people’s varied preferences. Can you really expect people to respect your personal values if you don’t also respect theirs?
December 27, 2009 at 12:05 pm
Hmm – Did I hear Davey Wavey on NPR’s Car Talk yesterday? I did!
Did you hear what I heard? (Hmm – isn’t that a Christmas song?)
December 27, 2009 at 1:16 pm
I remember a time, not so long ago, when I blamed the world for all I could not be (my TRUE self) and all I could not have (a REAL life). I knew that the “secret” that kept me down & kept me quiet & was killing me from the inside out, was the thing that would surely hasten my last breath, and, in a perverted & ironic way, once and for all mercifully end my pain.
Back then, while I had no inkling as to who I REALLY was, I knew what I thought the world wanted from me, and I delivered the performance of a lifetime every single day–becoming whatever my “audience” wanted me to be…except myself.
But, most of all, I was the consummate victim. In talking myself into believing the lie that I could never be an out, proud gay man for fear of societal disapproval, and even death at the hands of a world that would never accept a thing like me, I had provided myself the perfect excuse to sit & do nothing; to continue to blame “them” for the agony that had become the closest thing I could achieve to a real life. It’s simply & amazingly beyond-sad how twisted your way of thinking & your life can become when you never learn to love yourself.
I remember a TV commercial from a few years back from the “Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints”. I am not now nor have I ever been a Mormon, and I know that they don’t particularly care for people like me, but the wording of their commercial stuck in my mind & my heart even to this day: “As you teach your child to love the world, teach him to love himself; that’s where love REALLY begins.” Say what you will about them, but on this one point, at least, they are “spot on” as the Brits would say.
My journey from the darkest corner of my self-imposed exile to an out, open gay man has been no walk in the park, to be sure, and in that journey, I have had to become something I never thought I could ever be: brave. Brave enough to stop hiding & to stop living my life based on what “the world” thinks of me. I know that for anyone in the world–no matter who or where you are–it is never easy being an individual in the midst of so many “sheeple” (sheep + people) who blindly go along to get along.
If I have learned one thing in my life though, it’s that the only thing more difficult is trying to be someone or something you’re not.
I am probably a late-comer to the idea that I really do deserve all the blessings of a life of freedom, but I’ve also come to understand that things happen when they happen for a reason. Sometimes–as the old saying goes–ours is not to question why…
When I look back at my journey thus far, I see that I’ve learned so much more in the last half of my life thus far, than I ever did in the first half, and that I’m not done “becoming” yet. I know that–as Robert Frost wrote–I have miles to go before I sleep.
December 27, 2009 at 1:47 pm
cool… thanks!
December 27, 2009 at 2:20 pm
So what’s with the fingerless mittens? The only guys I ever knew who owned fingerless mittens were woodwind players in marching bands.
December 27, 2009 at 4:01 pm
All I can say 2 this post is RIGHT ON, man!
And love the fingerless gloves! ^_^
December 27, 2009 at 8:17 pm
My boyfriend gave me anal, the beads were sweat on my forehead.
December 28, 2009 at 2:38 pm
Thank you for this post! and the urban dictionnary( lol) if not I couldn’t have understood exactly the why of the title of your post!
December 28, 2009 at 6:51 pm
Davey!!!
Hope you have a FANTASTIC 2010!!! Love all your posts…pics are a PLUS!!
To be so insightful in this age of negativity is refreshing…keep it up!!
We all have so much, if we would just open our hearts & minds & take inventory…