Break the Illusion Blog by Davey Wavey

Yesterday, I tweeted to hear your thoughts on bisexuality.

The general consensus is summed up by the title of this post. Most people believed that bisexuality was a step in the path to coming out as gay. There is some truth in this generalization.

Of the many queers that I know, a good number first came out as bisexual. Indeed, it’s a bit easier to come out as bisexual than it is to come out as gay. But for almost all of these queers, their bisexual label was temporary. Inevitably, almost all of these people later identified as full-blow gay.

But we make an error in logic if we assume that because bisexuality is a temporary stage for most people, it is a temporary stage with all people.

Indeed, it seems that a number of people are able to find partners regardless of gender. And who are any of us to question the validity of those connections?

In my humble opinion, I believe that bisexuality is much more widespread than most of us care to consider. I remember feeling strong sexual connections with both girls and boys while growing up. It was only after I internally adopted the label of “gay” that my more intimate opposite-sex connections dissipated. Perhaps this is yet another example of the limitations of labels, and the idea that we see what we believe.

Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments below.

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