“Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.” – Dr. Seuss
Life is full of change and evolution – and our relationships aren’t excluded from such transformations.
A few days ago, my boyfriend and I redefined our relationship of more than three years. And while some things will undoubtedly be different now that we’re no longer dating, many things are still the same: we love each other; we want to be a part of each others’ lives; we want to spend time together.
I don’t use the word break-up because nothing is being destroyed. We still have a beautiful connection that I’ll always cherish. But there comes a time when you love someone enough to know that change is necessary.
So now, I’m single.
As I look back, I realize that I’ve really never been single as an adult. And in some ways, I feel like I owe it to myself to explore these new waters and the freedom they bring. It’s good to be single – and I’m in no rush to give it up.
July 31, 2011 at 8:39 pm
Scotty Dynamo was the one!
August 1, 2011 at 10:06 am
sometimes it last in love sometimes i hurts instead- Adele
listen to the song someone like you, reminds me of breakups. i love you david
August 5, 2011 at 12:16 am
Davey, my partner and I redefined our relationship, about the same time you and your partnet did. He was (is) one of best friends, and when we got together to talk afterward, it was one of the most heartfelt and honest discussions we had ever had. We said good-bye with a hug, a kiss and “I love you”. We never say goodbye to those we share our love with, we just, “see you around”. I will love my, now dear friend, forever. He is a wonderful, thoughtful and caring man. I am glad I was able to share in his life and love.
It’s difficult to imagine a relationship (emotional or physical) with anyone else right now, but I know in time I will become dizzy, crazy in love with someone else, I hope you do to. I love you, Davey. You’ve been a wonderful influence in my life since I’ve found your blog.
Keep on loving,
~J
December 16, 2011 at 10:29 am
You’re really good at this.. When I broke up with my ex and I think she’s the only one I had for like 6 years ago I immediately erased her from my dictionary of life. I just can’t forgive her. I really can’t be friends with her. I know I have to let go of the past but I really can’t. How can someone who takes the time to say I love you every single day then in a week just dumped you for another?? That’s the part I can’t accept.. For the past 6 years I have been single but not alone because I don’t wanna make that stupid mistake again.. i’d rather be single forever than be hurt again. =)
December 19, 2011 at 6:06 pm
Hi Davey,
First of all, I think you are sooo cool and I love your video’s and blogs; for that I Thank You!
I was in a relationship for a little over 8 years and loved having someone to do things with, travel, live together, and be my best friend. It has been 4 years since and I can not seem to get a date to save my soul! The dating scene has changed dramatically and I am trying to change with it to include online dating, and phone apps, etc.
My boyfriend was 14 years younger and I was never jealous of him being social and going out with friends. It turned out he cheated the entire time we were together for whatever reason. I was devastated and my life changed in an instant from selling a home, financially, emotionally, mentally, and the list goes on.
I now find myself in a situation where I am ready to find someone to date and be in a relationship again but am lacking the skills to date successfully in today’s environment. I am not as attractive as I once was and feel as though the gay clock may have ticked it’s last tick for me.
I do tend to be attracted to younger guys that hit on me all the time. I have a great job, am considered attractive, educated, fit, fun, stable, and blah, blah, blah:-)
I feel as though I need to get to a point of being a happy middle aged gay man and come to grips with the fact that I may be single for the rest of my life! My view of the grass being greener is: single is fine, but coupled is way cooler!
What is your take?
Regards, happy holidays, and all the best!
Ready to take a chance again!