Saying goodbye is tough, especially after such a wonderful summer with such wonderful people in such a wonderful city. But everything with a beginning has an end, and this trip is no exception.
This goodbye is especially difficult as Toronto is home to my boyfriend. With tears in my eyes, I’m challenging myself to evolve beyond this world of time and space in which goodbyes are allowed to exist. The trick isn’t minimizing the goodbyes. The trick is realizing that there is no such thing. The entire universe is one – and saying goodbye to a partner is like your toe saying goodbye to your thumb.
The love that I have for my boyfriend defies this physical world, and the suffering that I have created is the result of a misinterpretation of the universe. In this area, I have so much room to grow. If goodbyes are imagined, then I’ve done a pretty good job of fooling myself into believing that this is real.
And this goodbye is even harder knowing that I probably won’t be coming back to Toronto next summer. Though I’ve called Toronto home for three summers, I’m ready to experience something new.
So, if there were such things as “goodbyes,” I’d be bidding Toronto one with a very heavy heart right now.
And now, it’s off to Rhode Island. My car is packed, and I’m ready to roll. On to the next adventure…
September 25, 2009 at 3:48 am
Safe journey home Davey! I look forward to the next adventure!
September 26, 2009 at 9:07 pm
As they say, ‘Home is where the heart is.’ and you’ve made friends here and abroad Davey Wavey! Good health and happiness to you in your journeys!
September 25, 2009 at 6:43 am
Travel safely Davey. I’m glad you will be back home in RI . It’s nice to know you are close to Mass where I am. Sending love your way….
September 25, 2009 at 6:59 am
Sorry you are leaving your BF in Toronto and I perfectly understand what you mean with pretendind the good byes are imagined, because I’ve done it twice in the last 3 years, Now I live in Boston ( since last Monday ) but still hard. And drive safely
XOXO
September 25, 2009 at 7:06 am
You look great in purple. That color is yours.
September 25, 2009 at 7:14 am
…and you never came to Niagara! Oh well.
The burning question is: Where will Davy spend next summer? London, Barcelona, Sydney, Capetown, Shanghai, Buenos Aires, Mumbai??
Lets help Davy decide. Post your pic for Davy’s next port of call for his summer residency.
September 25, 2009 at 7:15 am
“pic” = pick, choice.
September 25, 2009 at 7:18 am
Davey, the lyrics of a song from the movie “Cooley High” circa 1975-76 come to mind…
“How do I say goodbye to what we had?
The good times that made us laugh
Outweigh the bad.
I thought we’d get to see forever
But forever’s gone away
It’s so hard to say goodbye to yesterday.
I don’t know where this road
Is going to lead
All I know is where we’ve been
And what we’ve been through.
If we get to see tomorrow
I hope it’s worth all the wait
It’s so hard to say goodbye to yesterday.
And I’ll take with me the memories
To be my sunshine after the rain
It’s so hard to say goodbye to yesterday. ”
I hope your have a safe and journey to RI
September 25, 2009 at 9:06 am
If he hooks up with Olivia Newton John and does a duet I most assuredly will gag.
September 25, 2009 at 8:21 am
Going to miss running into you (and your dog) on the streets of TO.
At least I introduced myself last time!
September 26, 2009 at 12:17 am
I’m glad I stopped and said hi – and pet Chipotle – when I saw him too
September 25, 2009 at 8:31 am
Good fortune on your next move Davey, I affirm a fountain of happiness, abundance and growth!
Hugs
Anthony
September 25, 2009 at 8:53 am
Hey Davey, You can’t possibly not come to Sydney, it’s summer soon (Nov Dec thru March) and even now it’s rockin warm (apart from that nasty dust storm recently) However as we aussiea are as we are, no worries mate, she’ll be right!
Getyr hot butt and perky abs downunder pronto!
Cheers Davo Rick xx
September 25, 2009 at 8:57 am
safe journey, sir! and welcome back to the usa! its a much better place with you here!
September 25, 2009 at 9:02 am
And there is a middle, too. Lest we forget, there’d(sic) be no story at all. So you’d be essentially full of hot air, hence this post.
September 25, 2009 at 9:30 am
The native land is not the land -*- Elle est la communité des affections
La patria no es la tierra -*- It is the community of feelings
Die Heimat ist nicht das Land -*- Es la comunidad de los afectos
La partie n’est pas le sol -*- Sie ist die Gemeinschaft der Gefühle
Take care
Aurum_adamas
September 25, 2009 at 9:31 am
The native land is not the land – Elle est la communité des affections
La patria no es la tierra – It is the community of feelings
Die Heimat ist nicht das Land – Es la comunidad de los afectos
La partie n’est pas le sol – Sie ist die Gemeinschaft der Gefühle
Take care
Aurum_adamas
September 25, 2009 at 9:43 am
Safe travels
…. can’t wait to see an update when you’ve settled in to your new “home”.
September 25, 2009 at 9:45 am
It must really suck to tell your boyfriend you want to “experience the universe” while you leave him behind in a city that you love.
September 25, 2009 at 10:05 am
Hey Davey having to say good bye is never easy, I hope you have a safe trip home.
P.S My Partner and I both love your blog, Hugs and a kisses. your blog friends in fort erie,on
September 25, 2009 at 11:33 am
All the best, Davey!
September 25, 2009 at 12:26 pm
If there is one thing you’ve taught me, it is that you can do anything you want to.
I will come and see you if you’re ever holding anything in Rhode Island – I know our paths will cross at some time. The world is too small.
Have a safe trip
September 25, 2009 at 1:31 pm
David,
I hope that you will have both of you(chipotle) a safe trip and I hope to hear from you as soon as you will be home and quiet in your little town of Rhode island.
bye,
September 25, 2009 at 3:53 pm
That’s why in France they say Bon Voyage instead, however in good old Blightly we say ‘see yeeeeeer, or possibly Tara
JL
September 25, 2009 at 4:49 pm
Were going to miss you Davey! Try to come back and visit
September 25, 2009 at 4:57 pm
why do you have to leave toronto???
did i miss something?
what is there to do in RI?
September 26, 2009 at 9:29 am
theres a simple answer why DW-leaves Toronto or NYC or RI-London-Sydney-Rio-etc etc.he will never find total bliss.that is the illusion.Break the Illusion?not now-not ever.———–one place not to go is eastern Kentucky-or for anyplace in Appalacia.then again-the lynching of a census worker doing his job-is a sign of the rot this country is headed into-and fast.riots of the 60s come to mind-marshall law-then civil war-a revolution-no doubt.united we stand-divided we fall.we on this blog care about each other-lets be grateful for this-we are the exception.p.s.i applied and took tests to do census work-i wasnt chosen-my math skills are lacking-in this case-thats a good thing.
September 25, 2009 at 6:51 pm
yeah david…..why r u moving out from toronto suddenly….did i miss a post or something?
anyways sad to hear bout ur boyfriend but u can always keep connected…its the 21st centuary!!!!
safe trip.
September 25, 2009 at 7:20 pm
Hey Davey, sorry to hear you have to leave Toronto and your boyfriend, I know that must be hard. But, if you were to decide to, come on down to Atlanta. We have a great park in the heart of the gay community (Piedmont Park) plus many beautiful suburbs, golf courses, and boys…plus it really doesn’t get that cold down here during the winter! And we always say down here, “Come on down y’all, you’re sure welcome!”
September 25, 2009 at 8:21 pm
Hey Davey,
I have to say that when you are out of Canada, Canada will be loosing one of it’s best assets. It is nice to hear such great inspirations and to realize that there are other fantastic people out there.
Cheers to your new journey!
Kenneth Livingston
P.S. You better keep blogging though or I will be very upset, lol.
September 25, 2009 at 9:46 pm
WELCOME BACK TO GOD’S COUNTRY – STATE OF RHODE ISLAND AND PROVIDENCE PLANTATIONS!!!!!
See you at Providence Place!
September 25, 2009 at 10:11 pm
Hey Davey Wavey,
I know it is very hard to say goodbye but this reminds me of a quote that you have said in past blog entries. “Davey nothing real ever dies and your love for Scotty and the city of Toronto will never die.” leaving will only make that love grow stronger and when you and Scotty see one another in Rhode Island it will be fine. I wish you very safe travel home.
Love,
Anthony Gallo (Pennsylvinia)
September 26, 2009 at 12:28 am
Godspeed Davey.
September 26, 2009 at 12:47 am
have a safe trip wish luck
September 26, 2009 at 8:20 am
bon voyage, davey!
September 26, 2009 at 1:12 pm
Davey Wavey you are a gem! You can only become stronger with time and your influence and love that you leave behind make us a more understanding and compassionate community within a larger community, known as the human race.
Have a safe and enlightening experience.
Cheers
September 26, 2009 at 1:24 pm
“The love that I have for my boyfriend defies this physical world, and the suffering that I have created is the result of a misinterpretation of the universe. In this area, I have so much room to grow. If goodbyes are imagined, then I’ve done a pretty good job of fooling myself into believing that this is real.”
What the hell is that supposed to mean? Any suffering you have created is real suffering. DON’T try to wriggle out of it.
September 26, 2009 at 9:17 pm
Goodbyes are always difficult I never really liked saying them which is why I don’t do goodbyes but how about, “until next time.”
September 29, 2009 at 10:17 am
Davey,
It is too bad I didn’t find this blog earlier. I live in Hamilton and would have loved to have a coffee or something whilst you were in Toronto. The way you think and express yourself is unique and I think, I could learn a lot.
Peace,
T
September 30, 2009 at 12:57 am
Davey, one request: can we see a picture of your hubby? =P Fanks!
Haha, have a save trip, take care, we will miss your adventures in TO! More on rhode island though, hopefully!
September 30, 2009 at 12:59 am
Having spent a lot of time this summer in Ottawa, I know how rough it can be leaving Canada behind. Such a wonderful place… even though I didn’t spend enough time in Toronto to get to know it well.
You’ll get back there, I’m sure!!
For now, there’s the memories…
*hugs*
October 1, 2009 at 12:46 pm
Good luck with the travels!
Where about in RI are you going to? I live in Warwick.
October 2, 2009 at 5:35 am
You are leaving your BF and blaming someone/something else for it, a trans univers something bla bla. Are you serious? Its you and your decision and your responsability nothing else. Maybe you just haven’t met the right guy and may be he is/was your current BF only. But then admit it. sad:-( but true.
October 4, 2009 at 11:40 pm
Very nice words spoken about your boyfriend.