Perhaps it’s because I’ve never encountered a vagina in my journey of sexual exploration, but I often forget they exist. Yesterday, while talking to Jessica, she was quick to remind me that one half of the world’s population has one.
In fact, up until fairly recently, I thought girls had two holes, not three. As it turns out they have one for pooping, one for peeing and one for sexing. I have two holes – why would they be any different? The vagina, to the best of my knowledge, is a bit lower than its male counterpart. I could point to its general location, but it’s doubtful I’d be able to go in for a blind landing. Wouldn’t you think it would be in the same spot as the penis? It’s poor engineering to put it in a different spot.
So, guys and gals are quite different. But alas, in my conversation with Jessica, we realized that woman and some gay men share a common sexual experience: the act of being penetrated. Being penetrated, we decided, is a big commitment. It’s submitting to the penetrator. It’s an act of surrender. It’s opening yourself up in so many ways, and literally having another human being inside you. That’s a huge commitment.
Meanwhile, the penetrator just has to stick it in. There are no huge emotional hurdles in the act of penetration – at least not in my own personal experience. The biggest obstacle is overcoming the fear that when you pull it out, it could look like a fudgsicle. The joys of butt-sex.
In my personal experience with dating and relationships, I don’t create many rules. However, I find it hard to date guys that are “tops only”. I think their unwillingness to surrender sexually could speak to their unwillingness to surrender emotionally or it could highlight strong internalized homophobia. I’m sure it’s not true for everyone.
Sure, being penetrated is a big commitment. But surrendering to another human being can be a tremendous expression of love and an exciting adventure.
So, bend over.
October 30, 2008 at 7:46 am
I have never encountered a vagina either. I too didn’t know they had 3 holes until recently. I guess at the age of 37 I am still learning new things each day.
October 30, 2008 at 12:44 pm
Hey Guys, Don’t feel bad. I have encounter vagina’s all my life, but with you I have learned that they had 3 holes also. I am married to a woman, although I am also very ignorant of the opposite sex. I love my wife with all my heart. But also i do love the hugs and smell of men. I love the looks of some men and also fantasize about men all the time. I would never leave my wife because I sincerely love her , I am not talking about sex here, I am talking about my wife the human being. The way she thinks , the way she loves me and takes care of me. So vagina and penis do not mean a lot to me, I just love the person whether male or female. Is there anyone else in the world that thinks like me or am I a freak of nature. FYI, Davey is a great looking dude, I do love his sence of humour. I just wanted to know, is love between men just something for the young people????? What happens when someone gets to be in their sixty’s, are they then considered Dirty old men and perverts when they find a younger man attractive and rejected???? I have seen that quite a few times and wonder if that is the norm amonst young gay men or the gay society in general.
Thank you much.
Henry in Duncan BC.
October 30, 2008 at 1:21 pm
Henry:
I have to say, you are by no means the only person who thinks like that. I am currently in one of the most emotional and deep relationship I’ve ever had, and it’s with a man. Before that I was in a very long and meaningful relationship with a woman. The sex of the person I am involved in is irrelevant to me. Like Davey, I have a strong passion to express my love to everyone and contribute that love to the world as much as I can.
Alas, Henry, we are a strange kind, but at least our hearts are in the right place, no?
Cheers!
~Jorge
P.S.: I too think Davey is one heck of a hunk. My boyfriend thinks so too.
October 30, 2008 at 4:10 pm
Henry, Gays and Straights are more alike than you might realize.
Look at how many straight men dump their wives for younger
women. Or for that matter who many older women yearn for and
manage to accomplish affairs with younger men….often behind
their husbands’ backs. Age and youth both have their attractions.
Not all ‘old men’ are thought of as ‘dirty old men’ and rejected.
But because of the focus on youth and beauty in advertising,
we sometimes have trouble getting past what the sales folk think
we will attract us. I’m 66. True, I’m invisible to some, but not
to all, and I find that those who appreciate me for the things
I have to offer are the kind of people I enjoy having around.
Grow old gracefully, appreciating your own life, your own
accomplishments, your possibilities — they never die until you do.
October 30, 2008 at 5:17 pm
You’d be amazed at how many younger guys like older-daddy types too.
It takes all kinds.
October 30, 2008 at 6:33 pm
What’s really important is that we (gay guys) also have 3 holes, 2 of them can be used for sexual pleassure: asshole and mouth. As regards women’s holes destinated to sexual pleassure, they boil down to at most 2 as well: mouth isn’t one because girls cannot give a good blowjob, they barely let their men penetrate them in the asshole, so only vagina usually stands!
October 30, 2008 at 8:48 am
haha.. the whole ‘being penetrated is an act of surrender’ sounds very freudian.
October 30, 2008 at 8:57 am
Wow… Davey you continue to enlighten me daily. I had no idea they had three holes either. The fudgsicle reference and the bendover comments cracked me up. Keep the blogs a coming, I love ‘em.
October 30, 2008 at 9:32 am
Wow.. I bet Mom loved this one!
October 30, 2008 at 9:34 am
Interesting posting today. I think it’s also safe to say that if your mother had any residual interest in sneaking a peek at your blog, this may have cured her of that!
October 30, 2008 at 9:45 am
I have no problem with guys that are tops mostly! I think it’s wonderful that some people are able to be so loving and generous of themselves to be able to give themselves sexually and enter another person to show their love. For the last few months, I feel like I’ve been running on empty- so my tank could use some filling!
When the mood strikes and I’m ready for my turn on top, though, it’s a dealbreaker if he never lets me stick it to him.
Love is a two-way street.
October 30, 2008 at 11:11 am
whoa this blog post blew my mind!!! 3 holes??? This is shocking and a little disturbing but none the less informative. I’m pretty sure i could’ve gone my whole life without knowing that if i hadn’t read this.
October 30, 2008 at 11:24 am
‘being penetrated is an act of surrender’
If only everyone thought this way… I have only done this with boyfriends i love and wanted to keep this special with… this doesn’t seem to ring true in the gay world as bottoms don’t care who’s f*****g them.. but to me you have to keep something sacred to being with the one you love and to me this is what this is…
I have wanted to find out more about women and their vagina, sex etc., the few girlfriends i had, they had too many hangups and they were not ok to just be sexual, which explains why they had a gay boyfreind, but i am curious but don’t want to particpate lol
It’s normal there is a curiousity.. we are sexual beings.
October 30, 2008 at 11:27 am
Where did you guys think women pee’d from?
When I see a picture of a kasslopuss, it looks like it was trying to be something else, but something got messed up.
Butt-sex..lick it before you stick it. Make sure that hole is clean too. Hepatitis will f**k you up. Be safe.
October 30, 2008 at 6:16 pm
“lick it before you stick it” omg to funny!!
October 30, 2008 at 11:28 am
Well I had to learn about it when I was at school because I’m a biology major. Otherwise I would have never known. I remember asking my mom if girls peed from their butts LOL. Yup I’ve never encountered a vagina, and never want to.
October 30, 2008 at 11:29 am
Well…I’m virgin and bisexual, but I want to try all the holes!about give my ass…I don’t think it’s fine…
October 30, 2008 at 11:32 am
First, I must say it also happens to me seldomly that I forget women exist, LOL (just kidding).
Bitch, you have 3 holes (did you forget your mouth?), as it is for me, I give it a lot of use!
As regards penetration, I’ve only been penetrated by my boyfriend and I believe I wouldn’t let a random person penetrate me if I were no longer in a relationship, but just because of health issues, it can be risky even if you take care. Nevertheless, I don’t see it as an act of surrender or submission, not only because you can ride it, but also because the word “surrender” sounds like you didn’t want it but for the sake of whatever (love, etc, etc) you let your counterpart penetrate you. I don’t see it that way, I feel it’s common agreement because both enjoy it.
I agree with you with the fact that committing yourself in a relationship with an only-top guy is not a very good reason for the very same reasons you listed.
And last but not least, this fudgsicle thing was really gross dude! It’s a problem you guys have in America we don’t have in Argentina, we have bidet, which depending on the water pressure can pump a great amount of water into your asshole (then you drop it in the toilette, go again to the bidet and so on until water comes out fresh, LOL, I can’t believe I’m even writing this stuff), so you can make sure you’re clean before intercourse, we call it: LAVATIVA!
October 30, 2008 at 11:52 am
Hey. ok not sure i can agree about the whole…surrendering your ass to show commitment. I think it’s totally possible, and perfectly fine. I am a total top. I’ve tried to bottom a few times, but that just clearly wasn’t my thing. I know alot of vers and bottom guys who would love to be in a relationship with a top only person. it’s possible…just because your top only doesn’t make you any less then vers guys. We can all show our commitment in other ways.
October 30, 2008 at 12:04 pm
I agree with you. But let me ask you something. What if you met a guy, you go out, you really enjoy his company and when it comes to the sex time, you find out he wants to penetrate you. If it were a regular situation, you might say: “thanks, but no thanks”, but I mean you’ve got a crush on this guy, you feel in your guts it could be something great, something unique… What would you do then?
October 30, 2008 at 12:34 pm
At last I know how to spell fudgsickle, but it still looks WRONG…anywho…the act of love to me is having another guys creamy white stuff rolling around in you..and not to make you pregnant, but he has taken the time to show he has lotsa love just for you!…I could show the same for him too!…Still wondering about that “three hole theory” Davey…Is that like the “Big Bang Theory”?…I think that is a NEW show on TV Monday nights..hehehe!
October 30, 2008 at 12:40 pm
This blog is so way off track….pubic hair, then the beauty of the world, then vaginas then the Dalai Lama. I’m officially done. We are at the point where if DW said he ate cat s**t, 50 of you would go out and try it. Or lie about it and say you do it all the tme to get DW’s attention or something. I guess I am too old for it. I loved thinking as an individual and seeing DW’s point of view, but too much hs changed. It’s almost like if DW didnt post pics, and only talked about spirituality most of you would leave.
PLUS it’s clear he loves the adoration.
Be well men. NAMASTE!
October 30, 2008 at 1:42 pm
Bye!
November 4, 2008 at 8:15 am
Well said Gman – i switched channels many many months ago and have NOT missed it – out of curiousity with the election on going i popped in. I cant even bring myself to press play on his talky blogs – his Narcissism is now at a level where there is NO word for it – ineffable – the range of topics from puerile discussions of sex to vain attempts at plagerised spirituality shows his true essence – one thing a few people i have mentioned this to have agreed upon is daveys REPTILIAN influence there is something Dark and twisted in all of this – the ongoing preoccupation with sex and incest and all manner of topics he believes shows his maturity (yeah right!) is a classic sign of that infiltration – i dont give a flying f**k what the ignoramous blog buddies think on this – they will all find out in time – he is distracting you all down a one way street – creating conflict in your minds from do this to love that – he is one very confused isolated boy seeking the limelight via his stripped to underwear appearance – he has no shame which exhibits and enormous lack of true self-respect – you can see it in his eyes his false humility and lack of true empathy – he doesnt give a flying f**k about you except what you can do for him & keep topping up his tip jar during the recession – if you want Truth in your life STAY away from this salacious illusory nonsense it will get you no where – the more of a shock-jock internet dj he aspires to me then perhaps some of you will wake up to the nonsense – this will probably not make sense to most of you but in dumbed down america that does not surprise me as you are so hooked into external stimulation and sensationalism and so deeply programmed to penetrate through those very thick walls of illusion would take one almighty sledgehammer – i just wanted to say my piece – health warning stay away from this site one day you will realise how much living time you wasted listening and watching and reading this blog. each visit you are being programmed more than you can possibly know.
October 30, 2008 at 12:42 pm
I went til I was about 16 or 17 until I realized this. And it was because of my Anatomy & Physiology classes. I remember looking up and looking around the class room to see if anyone else had this same sudden revelation thrust upon them. I didn’t see any bewildered looks though.
October 30, 2008 at 12:45 pm
O.o Hmm I love this blog…..I m thinking
October 30, 2008 at 1:17 pm
It makes me wonder where I have been for so long, as I came across your page accidentally whilst exploring YouTube. So I have recently subscribe to get your daily blog, I have to say that the enlighten blogs that you post are not only interesting with a human humourous twist but honest which I think helps one start realising there are interesting and deep topics to talk about.
To comment on your posting:
I have to say I do like playing both parts in the bedroom (i.e being penetrated and being the penetrator), I guess this helps when spicying it up in the bedroom. It might just be myself whom does with my partner. I think that with reference to the penetrator is to succumb his emotional feelings is a true reflextion on oneself of letting themselves feel a connection with their partner.
October 30, 2008 at 1:29 pm
Once, I was in my hospital room and I saw the doctor putting gloves on as he entered into it.
I was anxious nonetheless I began to open wide the mouth.
He said : relax, it won’t hurt!
At first, I didn’t understand what that meant and I was wondering what kind of new experiment he had planned to do .
He came solemnly and slowly close to my bed, putting his large finger up in the air.
Doing that, I knew rapidly what was going on.
I looked shamefully at him and I surrendered myself to him lying down on the bed, not without saying through my clenched teeths a silent but victorious “f..k you! with tears in the eyes.
But I wasn’t victorious that day!
Now, I will not exactly say I liked that nor that it was a love act but rather that it was a really strange and unexpected experiment of a certain afternoon in my life.
I didn’t tempt anything but I am sure I could have wedge the doctor’s finger!
Since then, I never re-did this medical experiment, even alone or ever envisaged to become a doctor.
October 30, 2008 at 2:03 pm
Count me in. I am 60 and did not know about 3 holes. You can learn so much from Davey. Who needs high school or college……
October 30, 2008 at 3:26 pm
fudgesicle…hilarious
October 30, 2008 at 3:49 pm
Dear Davey, Not all of us men have an ass like a vagina !!
Look, not everybody loves to be f****d, simple as that.
Or they don’t like the pain or feeling. or they do not get arroused by it. or simply their ass is too tight to be penetrated.
I for one don’t like to be penetrated while on of my partners can have a handfull….
What is the bottom line.. enjoy sex in the way you like it most. and if you rather have som one who is versatile, that is just fine by me. Just don’t be a racist when it come to being exclusively a bottom or a top.
I wish you a (joking of course) f*****g night…
Love ya,
Steven
October 30, 2008 at 6:29 pm
I totaly agree! I think be penetrated could be a little painful…when I make it I will discover!
October 31, 2008 at 10:41 am
How I agree with you Steven. I would love to be penetrated, but I am just too tight as a hospital consultant confirmed to me when I was undergoing a series of medical examinations. I have never come across a guy with a penis the thickness of my middle finger! I love being finger f***ed but leave licking and penetration for a closer and meaningful relationship. In a more casual relationship, I stick to using my hands and lips/mouth.
October 30, 2008 at 4:12 pm
lol.
the elusive vagina, i knew there was three holes, i just didnt know the exact place for each one or their shape and size haha.
and as for the other bit of knowledge i have on them?
‘smells like fish, tastes like chicken, once u start, u cant stop lickin!’ haha
so guys who like guys? dont start, we might get stuck there lol.
October 30, 2008 at 6:15 pm
I would hope (although I know it’s not often the case) that in in most relationships people give to their partner. I don’t think there should just be one top and one bottom in a relationship. You should be there to please the other person. Trust me, you please them…they’ll please you.
October 30, 2008 at 6:24 pm
3-holes- Sounds like a bowling ball..
October 30, 2008 at 6:43 pm
this sounds like sex ed explained from the vantage point of a 5 year old…
If we are going to have a grown up conversation lets use grown up words.
and while we are alluding to the delusional, lets not sugar coat the fact you are a total power bottom and any talk of you penetrating is misleading.
November 4, 2008 at 8:33 am
the total top aversion davey has is interesting he puts it down to emotional hangups or internalised homophobia on the part of the person. The truth is these are the very ISSUES davey has and he via his sexual addiction and fascination PROJECTS those onto the respective partner(s). The issue is one of control as davey is a control freak! He continues to blog his way through heavily filtered and veiled mind structures which are his own limited illusory perceptions. Davey just where in the history of this blog have you actually broken the illusion???? No i didnt think so – keep sticking to the textbook psychology and copied spirituality and you continue you delusions – you are one Spin doctor of misinformed misaligned heresay. I know it can be scary davey but give it a go FEEL your true Feelings – stop for one restless doing moment and be with yourself and your true inner feelings. that appears to be the scary part for you.
December 1, 2008 at 12:47 am
If you can’t be nice, shut the f— up. I’d be glad to have dinner with Davey, though I expect we’ll never meet. He sounds like a nice guy. You don’t.
October 30, 2008 at 7:50 pm
Kind of a funny post today! I am shocked that so many of your comments mentioned that they did not know there were 3 holes!!
I’ve never seen a Vagina either, but I did have an anatomy class in high school!!
One thing I totally agree with you about is that whole “total top” thing.
I don’t like them either. It seem to me that total surrender is what making love is all about!
October 30, 2008 at 9:06 pm
OMG!
I hope Mama Wavey isn’t reading today.
October 30, 2008 at 10:22 pm
Sharing something, especially yourself, whether mentally, emotionally, or physically, with another human being on this planet, is one of the most incredibly special and most intimate things we can do. It should be done with trust and a willingness to let go and enjoy each other. I love this about being with another person (espcially the cute ones) but sex and “penetration” is one of those things for which both people commit. It is definitely one of the closest connections we can make and it takes a lot…quite a lot indeed. I hope that everyone experiences this in a positive light and enjoys themselves thoroughly during each surreal second of mind blowing intimacy!
Love you all!
Ciao – J
October 31, 2008 at 12:16 am
Ladies and Gentlemen… you seem to have barely scratched the surface of the elusive Va-J-J…
I thought I knew everything there was to know about Lady “V”… until I performed a pap smear on some 30-something a few weeks ago.
Beyond the mysterious vulva, there is a whole other dark and enigmatic (and sometimes convoluted) world…
I’d share my experiences in great detail but then I would have to kill you… Plus, it’s highly unethical that I discuss someone’s confidential medical information in such a public place.
As infinite as the Universe, so is the mystery of VAGINA!
October 31, 2008 at 4:13 am
YEP!!! AT 49 IM STILL LEARNIN ALSO BUT AS FAR AS THE VERGINTINA YEA I GOT TO MEET HER IN MY LIFETIME,SHES OK,BUT I LOVE MY MEN MO!!!!LOL KEN77, HEY HOW YA BEEN???
October 31, 2008 at 5:39 am
Davey..I have to give you a big “internet”
kiss. I did not think you had it in you to
discuss this subject.
I am truly “dumb founded” at your observation.
very good.
thanks
mike
October 31, 2008 at 2:38 pm
i don’t know if most of you come from very small towns or not, but where i grew up kids learned that from eachother (not from sex) and not from any science classes.
October 31, 2008 at 8:11 pm
3 HOLES?!?! That’s crazy O.o
Of course I have been wondering for ages how women pee…
When I looked at the picture of a womb I used to always think “Where is the bladder?!”
November 1, 2008 at 9:07 am
Anatomy…the Wonders of life! Was married to a sweet woman! So, can address the issues…
Men have the same sexual and physical parts and pieces until the fetus is given the DNA insturctions to turn into male or female. HORMONES take over and there ya go! Ever look at your ball sack? Looks like it has a seam in the middle, right? Those are the two vaginal lips that have sealed together while you were an embryol…You have two hallow cavities(above your testes) area up in your groin…where your balls were stored until the proper time when they dropped! Women have those too…but, never allowed to develop thanks to women hormones! Women have a penis, too(tiny undeveloped)…where the urine comes from like guys!Soooo…ladies anytime someone accuses you of NOT having balls to do something…TELL those “it ain’t so”…YOU do too!! LOL SMILE…Ya’ll
MORE FUN! Isn’t life remarkable, Davey!
Whole process doesnt finish until puberty…when the woman’s breasts man’s penis, balls producing sperm and body hair takes over! ALL FUN stuff, right? Davey, that is one of the parts of nature that is remarkable! and Soooo…there you have it from Docta Doug!
PEACE, JOY and LOVE!
December 18, 2011 at 1:02 pm
Glad that Doug set us all straight! I teach kids and sometimes have done the anatomy lesson, especially as they get towards puberty. I remember how freaked out a few of the boys got when i explained this process of genital differentiation and then we got to talking about nipples and breasts! It blew their minds that men have vestigial breast tissue and that the nipples are identical except we don’t have the hormones…then one kid asked me if men could produce milk if stimulated by hormones. That one stumped even me!
November 2, 2008 at 1:35 pm
I agree with you.. at least with most of your post… I do think that being penetrated requires to submitt to that other person.. and I could not date someone who was a top only.
But I’ll tell you this.. there are people that can’t bottom, whether because they had a bad experience, or are clinically incapable… that’s a sad thing, and they must find someone exclusively bottom, which is not easy to find either. And if they are gay… a girl is not an option…
I also would have a hard time dating someone who was exclusively bottom, for obvious reasons…
Bye Davey
November 4, 2008 at 4:16 pm
I agree with you in regards to dating someone who is “top/bottom only”. I think as myself as a versatile top. I prefer to top but on occasion I get in the mood to be poked. Luckily, I am dating a versatile bottom, so it really works out quite perfect for us.
On another note, vaginas are gross.
November 4, 2008 at 8:11 pm
I totally agree! People who are versatile are just so much more fun!
November 4, 2008 at 5:19 pm
Being top/bottom all the time is booooring.
November 5, 2008 at 1:39 pm
Holy crap!
December 1, 2008 at 12:57 am
As a kid, I thought that girls peed out their butthole. Didn’t have a sister with whom to talk about it. Knew they didn’t have a penis. Also wondered how they hatched babies, especially in the old days before cesareans.
I was close to innocent when I got married – one poor dumb gal who taught me about screwing, and a bunch of others who jerked me off, while I measured their p***y opening on a scale of 1 to 5 fingers. The 3 star general’s cute daughter was a 2 or 3. Fortunately I didn’t do what another Lt. did – he measured the generals other , ugly, daughter in terms of penises, got her pregnant. No wonder I ended up with other guys hozing him and the latrine down one morning, s**t and puke everywhere, and him passed out on the floor with his pants down by his knees. The jerk disappeared quite rapidly, it was 1964, and Vietnam was coming into play. Bet there were times he wished he was gay. Poor Jerk.
But, if p***y is what you like, there is nothing else like it when the balls explode.
December 1, 2008 at 1:06 am
And I should admit – you’ll laugh at this one, that about 10 yrs ago, a gay guy pulled down my shorts, and took hold of my peewee.
But the rest of the story is I was lying on a hospital gurney, in great pain. They were quite certain it was a kidney stone, and he was a physicians assistant. He sure looked and sounded gay to me. Well, he inserted a tube up my pee pee, attached a needle pump body to it, explaining that it would inflate a rubber ring on the tube, so it wouldn’t fall out. Then he started an IV, I’m certain it was loaded with pain killer, explaining they wanted me to pee a lot, as that would help the stone move down and out, as it did.
So I had my ‘gay’ experience.
And the other joke is when I went about 10 years ago to the urologist for a prostate checkup, I said something to the nurse assistant about it being gay day at the doc’s. I think she was mortified about my reminding her that he was going to stick his finger up my rear, as he does every year.
sorry that is the end of the story, except despite a lousy blood test result re prostate cancer (it gives lots of false positives), it seems like I am ok.
January 6, 2009 at 8:59 pm
Even though I’m not a man…
Whats it really like…
I’m scared that its going to hurt and whats going to happen if I let a guy bend me over..
It’s always been a fear of mine ever since I’ve become sexualy active. What’s to expect? Right now I’m not in a relationship but when I do get into a relationship, he might want to do it. So what should i know?
February 21, 2009 at 10:55 am
douche, make sure you are cleaned out. It will take away many insecurities and allow you to relax. Practice with toys on your own beforehand. Taking lots of time to explore the area on your own will make a huge difference to your degree of comfort when attempting anal sex with a partner. Make sure he is experienced and/or is willing to take all the cues from you…like speed of penetration, depth etc. Get a good supply of rather thick lube. Lube makes a huge difference to how it will feel. For anal sex you can seldom have too much lube. Thicker lube is better. Something like K-Y Liquid tends to be too thin, although if that is all you have that is better than not having lube. Also, don’t worry about limiting the amount. It can be expensive so save up and stock up so your partner can reapply when needed. Latex can irritate sometimes, increasing the sting hence lube is very necessary. Have your partner put lube in your ass as well as on his dick. Have him add more as he slowly enters. Lube tends to dry quickly in the air so he needs to keep this in mind. Also, the ass tends to absorb moisture so the lube will “tire” during the act, again reapply. As penetration begins remember to bear down slightly as though going to the loo. This will open the structure and make entry much easier, less painful and far more fun. This is why a good cleaning beforehand is essential.
Clean out using plain warm water. For men they say to use “balls temp” water, meaning water that feels ok when running over your balls — not too hot or too cold. Extremes could cause cramps. If you don’t have a bidet use one of those small blue bulb type things available in the drug store. Also, there are bigger bulbs just for anal cleaning. A proper “douche” is another option or you can use the stream from a hand held shower — remove the shower head and there is usually a strong, smooth stream or water perfect for this sort of thing. There are attachments for “cleaning out” but if you haven’t got one of those just aim the stream and be careful with the metal and any contact with your anus. Scratching is not a good thing, so be careful if there is contact.
Also, there are things called “poppers” that are well known in the gay community. I am neither recommending them nor condemning them I leave it to you. What they do is dilate blood vessels, lower blood pressure and relax smooth muscle. The effect lasts 2 to 5 minutes. There is often a “rush” associated with taking them and a rapid heart rate due to the lowered blood pressure. They can produce a short sense of euphoria. They can make a big difference in making anal sex pleasurable or even possible. There is a lot of information on the risks associated with poppers on the internet so do your research. Not recommended if you are taking erectile meds as they also lower blood
pressure.
Hope some of this info helps.
GD
April 19, 2010 at 10:05 pm
Are you f*****g gay
November 19, 2011 at 2:29 am
I believe the vagina, if you tried to locate the area on the male body, would be where the testicales meet the body.
December 18, 2011 at 1:06 pm
Most ‘bottoms’ have to train themselves to be so…gradually increasing the size of a dildo can help you learn to take a dick. It also takes a patient partner to work with you. I just have not had time to open up, so to speak, but think it would be great. I have been on the bottom a few times but mostly top when it comes to anal but when it comes to oral I am totally a giver and taker. ‘Soixante-neuf’ is my favorite. I have met a few ‘natural’ bottoms but that is rare, I think.