I’m writing today’s blog post so that if I get kidnapped – you’ll know why.
As I do on most mornings, I hopped out of bed around 6:00AM. With my boxer briefs twisted and half my ass hanging out, I made my way into the kitchen to eat a banana and mix a protein shake. Through the corner of my eye, I saw movement outside one of my condo’s windows.
Without turning my head, I could see – through the early morning darkness – that someone was watching me from a neighboring building. Slowly and subtly, I repositioned myself to get a better view. As I did, I saw an older man slowly slide along the lower edge of his windowsill – with a pair of binoculars aimed in my direction. Every hair on the back of my neck stood on end.
I’ve been living in this condo for something like four years. During that time, it’s never occurred to me that I might be under observation – and I can only imagine what my curious neighbor may have seen.
Though I like the idea of exhibitionism (at least in theory), part of me feels a little bit violated. On the other hand, it feels like karmic justice. After all, the YouTube video that launched my career is about a neighbor that I caught masturbating. And, over the years, I’ve done my fair share of voyeuring.
The tables are now turned, and I’m not really sure what to do about the situation. I guess I could start wearing clothes, but let’s not get too carried away. At any rate, in the event that I go missing, now you now know where to start the search.
January 18, 2012 at 10:47 am
You know, Davey, he’s likely “seen it all before”, so why do anything differently?
January 18, 2012 at 10:57 am
Haha oh man! well… atleast your admired right? lol but an old man creepy, now that is creepy lol i once has an old man on the bus with 1 eye flirt with me and asking me to go back to his, yeh… stay away from the pervy old men, trust me lol they are they worst creepers, worse than pedafiles as they ask even young girls stuff they shouldn’t.
January 18, 2012 at 11:26 am
And when you’re an old man, what will you say and do? I can see it now, when you become a bitchy “pervy old man.”
January 18, 2012 at 5:53 pm
AND…why is being admired by an “Old Man” creepy. Age is a condition and not a privilege. That is what is really wrong with gay men, they tend to be agist and self absorbed. What an inane and silly comment. Grow Up, every second that passes means that you are getting older.
To Davy…until the moment that you realized that someone was watching, you did not have a care about parading in front of your window with the minimum of clothing…so what is really different except that some guy is looking. As you’ve stated, you have looked so why the concern?
January 21, 2012 at 6:56 am
People People People!
You seem to believe that “older” implies geriatric. We don’t know the age of this “person” but we do know that it is not a child nor is it a young man.
No matter who is doing it, it’s pervy, it’s creepy and it’s an invasion of privacy, (Regardless of age)!
Since when do you have to be “old” to perve! )
January 18, 2012 at 11:02 am
I wouldn’t hate on the guy just because he’s old….he was a young man at one point.
But then again, the binoculars are a bit much. Like tone it down dude!
January 18, 2012 at 11:08 am
I personally wouldn’t mind if someone wanted to watch although that is a bit extreme with the binoculars. When I wanted privacy, I’d just shut the blinds or curtains. Let the old guy relive his life through someone as hot and sexy as you.
January 18, 2012 at 11:10 am
Just think that you’re making an old man very happy.
Why not give him a real show tonight to make his week!
January 18, 2012 at 3:52 pm
Haha.
January 21, 2012 at 7:00 am
I feel he may have already gotten one. A full drag queen make over! LOL.
If that doesn’t make him wonder what’s in the water he’s drinking, (or what’s in any meds he may be taking if indeed he is taking any), I don’t know what else would.
If you were Davey’s neighbour and you caught a mere glimpse of what he gets up to, wouldn’t you be a little more than intrigued?
Just sayin’
January 21, 2012 at 7:07 am
I just had a thought, and saw someone else had a similar thought in a newer post.
Isn’t that how Davey’s blog career got started, perving on someone giving a “show” (of sorts)?
Did that guy have curtains? If he did, why he wasn’t using them? Hmmm?
January 18, 2012 at 11:10 am
I have exactly the same problem, but fortunately I know that my front neigbhbours are only gossip old women. I should recomend you to install courtains. I think they are not very popular in your country, but they are in Spain. And they are useful to avoid indiscreet glances (PS: I´d love to see you home. I´m just kidding!)
January 18, 2012 at 3:53 pm
I don’t want curtains! I like the sunlight too much!
January 21, 2012 at 7:02 am
Can you get your windows tinted? If not for privacy then certainly for UV protection.
January 18, 2012 at 11:13 am
Davey, simply enjoy the other side fo the coin, of giving pleasure where you have taken pleasure. After all, giving is just the quid pro quo of receiving, right? So, flaunt and observe wtih equal abandon!!
January 18, 2012 at 11:18 am
look at him and wave – that might embarrass him and he might stop. If not, you can always write a sign in big letters “Please stop gazing!” and put it in your Window one morning. optionally followed by the words “or I will take actions”
January 18, 2012 at 11:19 am
A) They’re not “binoculars.” They’re opera glasses.
B) I wasn’t looking at you. I just don’t have cable. And,
C) Could you do some more of those deep knee bends?
January 18, 2012 at 11:19 am
Davey you are so self-serving. I figure if I walk around my house in my underwear all day, some people just might want to take a closer look. It’s the way it is.
January 18, 2012 at 11:30 am
Get over it and let him watch. The universe is simply making you give where you’ve taken.
January 18, 2012 at 11:40 am
I live in a high rise and binoculars are de rigueuer for residents!
January 18, 2012 at 12:49 pm
Why were you wearing underwear? Sleeping naked is the best!
January 18, 2012 at 12:49 pm
You should masturbate for him. Maybe he’ll launch a blog career for him too.
January 18, 2012 at 12:49 pm
Davey,
You love having guys look at you. It’s only when young guys pre-define “old guys” as “perverts” that issues arise.
If he or even a young guy hassles you take action to stop it. But we all scope out each other.
January 18, 2012 at 1:02 pm
Start wearing clothes?!!! Now I’m sure we all agree, we shouldn’t change what we are because of someone else’s issue
January 18, 2012 at 1:17 pm
I think you’ve got it perfectly right. How come it’s pervy when it’s an older man, but when you take pictures of you neighbour masturbating, that’s just fine? You had boxers on for Pete’s sake! Let him look, you should be flattered. Why is it that older men are allowed to drool over young girls (models are usually between 14 and 22), but that gay men are only considered OK if they stick to their own age group? As an older man, I have been approached by some younger men, and I find it quite sweet and flattering. I freely admit that I find younger men attractive, not necessarily relationship material, but I’m just looking, what’s the harm in that? Now unlike you, I don’t make an effort at looking into other people’s windows or sneaking a peek in the gym showers, but young guys are often absolutely gorgeous. Not appreciating that would simply be unnatural for me. So, I suggest all the guys who are so disgusted get off their high horses and admit that they look too… older, younger, what’s the difference? If you feel offended by someone looking, make sure your house is clean and them walk up to them and tell them that you would appreciate it if they didn’t do it. Even better, either be presentable or keep your blinds/curtains drawn if you’re not. Not doing so would be like a girl dressing up like a whore and then complaining when men pass comments or whistle at her.
January 18, 2012 at 1:39 pm
Older to Davey is someone over 21 He likes them young
January 19, 2012 at 3:11 am
@Semen:
Maybe you should impregnate yourself,Semen.
January 18, 2012 at 1:48 pm
I say that you could just let it go but keep an eye on it. If he keeps doing it and you are really worried, call the cops or something like that.
But I really hope that you are safe, Davey.
January 18, 2012 at 1:59 pm
Curtains?
January 18, 2012 at 2:06 pm
I am disappointed in you Davey. It is okay to mention your experience of a secret admirer, but the word ‘older’ in your text was an unnecessary adjective in your story. Would not ‘man’, or ‘guy’ on its own be sufficient?
Of course, by using the ‘older’ word it makes the story more ‘pervy’, as it conjours up in the mind of the reader, of some ‘dirty old man’ leching after some youthful adonis (which may be true). You are reinforcing a stereotype of an ‘older’ person who happens to look at beauty (you), as being somewhat unnatural and dirty.
Oscar Wilde would not agree with your innuendo.
January 18, 2012 at 3:55 pm
Older doesn’t mean pervy – that’s something in your mind, not mine.
January 18, 2012 at 4:04 pm
Well I would say that the word ‘older’ was inconsequential to the development of the story. I think that’s what people are attempting to address.
January 18, 2012 at 9:45 pm
THen Davey why say older in the first place. It was a man looking at you.
January 18, 2012 at 10:41 pm
There are so many words that we use that are “inconsequential.” He was just being descriptive. As Davey said, the perviness is “something in your mind, not [his].” There is no way that you can discern from this blog post that Davey intended the man to be portrayed as pervy.
And OMG Davey! You responded to a comment that defended your point of view! I am… I am so happy. I’m happy to see you communicating in that way – standing up for what you wrote in a calm, logical way. =)
January 18, 2012 at 10:54 pm
Er, rather, there is no way that any potential perviness that this man might have is related to Davey’s use of the word “older.” In fact, if we’re getting into the words that Davey used so sensitively here, he also used “curious,” a word that can be taken as a good thing. Why are we not relating Davey’s observation that this man is older to Davey’s observation that this man is curious? Why are we jumping to “pervy,” a word that was not even alluded to in the post but instead thrust upon “older” by readers, and attaching it to “older” rather than using “curious?”
Perhaps it’s the reference to kidnapping? While it is clearly a joke, people can be a little sensitive, so I can see why you might think that mentioning both “kidnapping” and “older” might bring up an idea of perviness. It would also bring up an idea of criminal, though for some reason we want to focus on “pervy.” I wonder why we, not Davey but WE, decide to skip “criminal” and go to “pervy?” It couldn’t be our own ideas, not Davey’s, that are informing our image of this man, could it?
And of course, considering that Davey meant nothing by using “older” other than providing some kind of description to the guy without trying to imply anything is completely out of the question, right?
January 21, 2012 at 5:59 am
Although I disagree that using the adjective “older” implies that the subject is pervy, this man was looking into someone’s private residence using surveillance equipment. Unless he’s in law enforcement I think that qualifies as pervy or creepy, in and of itself. We are all reading that into Davey’s post because it matches this man’s behaviour. And it matches Davey’s behaviour when he videoed his masturbating neighbour. C’est la vie. Pervs of the world: unite and be proud
own your behaviour. It’s part of who you are. I’ve watched my own neighbours have sex before. They left the curtains open and the yards were so close together it was practically hi def. I’m happily and proudly pervy.
January 18, 2012 at 2:13 pm
Why does this remind me of an episode of Friends? Is this an American thing?
January 18, 2012 at 2:16 pm
Maybe he was bird watching and got curious when he saw movement? My first response would be creeped out too- but I like to try to give people the benefit of the doubt. Sometimes a situation looks worse than it really is.
On the contrary, as young people, we cannot forget that just because a person is ‘old’ does not mean that they no longer have a libido. Maybe you’re right and he was peeping- but lets face it, you’re attractive, people will gawk, it’s going to happen. Sooner or later you just have to accept it. The reality of it is just how you choose to respond. ie- my sexuality is complicated but I do not appreciate being hit on constantly by men at work. Especially men 2 and 3 times my senior.. soo I started wearing a fake wedding ring and it stopped. If it bothers you that much then just by curtains or something. Just don’t get kidnapped
January 18, 2012 at 3:20 pm
Hi Davey,
You are probably not going to believe this.
Some years ago while in S. Cal. I meet a woman who needed a bit of help redoing a house she bought. Needing some extra money for the summer I offered to help. The only completed room in this house was her bedroom. I noticed she had see-through drapes. I questioned this. She had me go outside and look in. So I did. You could not see inside to her bedroom. Once inside you could see outside. The trick was the inside drape panel was a semi see-through blue color. The outside drape panel was a semi see-through green color. Sewn together you could see out through the blue panel but could not see in through the green panel. So she could look out and received in the filtered sun. But, no one could see in. What a great privacy idea.
I have never forgot this. I only wished I had asked her about the fabric she had used.
Maybe you could check out this idea with a drapery maker or whatever. Maybe other colors would give the same effect. Although I seem to remember she had said it was only using these two colors together that allowed this effect.
Anyway, love your blog.
January 18, 2012 at 4:00 pm
OMG !!
The most shocking thing I’m still trying to come to terms with…
Davey wears Boxers to bed!!!
January 18, 2012 at 4:05 pm
Haha, Karma is right!! Davey, you are so hot and good looking that even I would be standing by the window every day watching you with binoculars hoping to see something…..lol
Just be yourself and toss him a bone (so to speak), go ahead and “make his day” it just might be the happiest thing he does, and you know how you like to see people smile…..I am sure he is harmless…..
January 18, 2012 at 4:09 pm
Eww that is creepy. Got cold chills reading that, Davey. A total violation of your privacy in my opinion. How about drawing your curtains/blinds instead of starting to wear clothes? If it becomes an issue, report that guy. Hope all is well. xoxo
January 18, 2012 at 6:01 pm
You cant report a guy for looking ANd if you do not want to have blinds or Draperies, then you better expect people, men and women, to look. If you can pick and choose who LOOKS when you are an exibitionist, you are living in an unreal world.
January 18, 2012 at 4:38 pm
We put the stick-on privacy film onto any windows where we want both privacy and light. They come in beautiful patterns and are easily removed when you move. If you want to still look out, then only put the film on the lower parts of the windows. It won’t stop anyone from looking in from a higher vantage, but otherwise you’ll have privacy, light and a view.
January 18, 2012 at 5:12 pm
To be fair if I lived next to you I’d look too, if you like what you see it’s kinda hard not to.
January 18, 2012 at 5:13 pm
Okay. Well, you caught me. It’s not you I am looking at. It’s that wonderful dog……
January 18, 2012 at 6:02 pm
Davey (Mr. Exhibitionist), maybe you should ponder how your near-naked videos for thousands of viewers is different from one neighbor watching. And I don’t believe your statement: “Though I like the idea of exhibitionism (at least in theory), part of me feels a little bit violated.”
January 18, 2012 at 6:13 pm
Nothing to it. Put a good size security type camera in the window and point it in his direction. He will stop. You don’t even have to have it connected.
January 18, 2012 at 6:53 pm
I bought that condo so I could keep watch of you, don’t cha know.
January 18, 2012 at 7:04 pm
He could’ve just been looking out his window, innocently, when you suddenly came into his vision… maybe that was the first/only time he’s ever done it…
January 18, 2012 at 8:08 pm
I wouldn’t be too concerned. Close the blinds or let them watch.
January 18, 2012 at 9:03 pm
davey and his neighbors! long story.
January 18, 2012 at 9:22 pm
I’m kinda an exhibitionist. I think voyeurism is really cool. Sometimes I invite guys from grindr or craigslist to come peep in my windows. And i don’t wear boxers when i sleep
January 18, 2012 at 11:42 pm
I had a similar experience in NYC. I look out my hotel window early one Sunday morning and see a pair of binoculars pointed directly at me from a office building across the street. I figured, if this guy went to the trouble to go to work on a Sunday to indulge himself, I may as well give him a show, so I did. What happens in NY stays in NY!
On second thought, perhaps Davey’s neighbor is an early morning bird watcher.
January 19, 2012 at 12:04 am
Methinks the exhibitionist doth protest too much!
January 19, 2012 at 12:50 am
a) We’re all going to get old (if we’re lucky) and still be attracted to younger men – pity us.
b) Try thin curtains that let the sun in but make it too difficult to see through from far away.
c) No, the sun won’t be as bright, but can you be comfortable knowing you may be being looked at? A lot of people enjoy it – I’m not one. …But then I’m not gorgeous and live a sweet life.
d) Oh yeah, mirrored windows?
January 19, 2012 at 1:38 am
Davey — Not having draperies, blinds, or shutters in your windows, when you live so close to neighbors–and your photo proves how close you are to them–means you WILL be seen by others. Surely you realized that before today–at least the probability of it–even though you just never noticed it before. The difference in this case, however, is that the guy was watching you–actually, he was staring at you with binoculars–which is pretty creepy, no matter what his age. (I see blinds in his windows, so the fact that he was visible may very well have been done by him on purpose.)
You are an exhibitionist–just look at how you appear in your videos–but that’s different than what’s going on here, which is voyeurism, since in the first you are controlling what we all get to see, whereas in the other it’s totally out of your control (although it would have been, had you had drapes drawn). “Peeping Toms” will always leave you feeling violated, no matter what, but as you know, when guys are in a position to watch something that’s a turn-on sexually, they usually go for it, with their heart-beats racing during the process.
Since you are close to moving, it may be a moot point in your current location, but you might in the future consider mini-blinds, since you don’t like drapes. You can adjust them so that light is still coming in, but so that the neighbor can’t see in. For now, I would suggest wearing shirts and gym shorts in the house, since as you now know you ARE on display.
January 19, 2012 at 1:38 am
It could have been me, Davey. If I noticed that you were my neighbor, I would peering in through your windows to get a view of your lovely body and the bright soul that shines out from it. And, I would introduce myself to you. I’m 54 years old, so I’m under no illusion that you would be interested in me in any kind of sexual sense; nevertheless, you’re a lovely person and a pleasure to look at. Revel in it! And, give me … ah, er, your older neighbor … a nice view of what you have so lovingly cultivated.
January 19, 2012 at 2:27 am
I could swear that you talked about this before and I remember you said that he was hiding on a balcony with binoculars.
January 19, 2012 at 3:00 am
Enjoy the attention and give him a nice show. What a nice problem to have! Its when people dont want to look anymore that it will be sad.
January 19, 2012 at 5:13 am
Well, I still think that curtains are the perfect solution. And they are not a complete barrier against sunlight. They can be moved.
January 19, 2012 at 5:40 am
I,m sure you will like this news.
http://sociedad.elpais.com/sociedad/2012/01/19/actualidad/1326960116_639567.html
January 19, 2012 at 7:54 am
Umm Hello, it’s Davey Wavey HQ! What hasn’t he seen going on in your condo?
All that camera equipment must look pretty suspect to anyone who knows nothing about what’s really going on.
It may seem sinister, and it would creep me out, but maybe he’s big on neighbourhood watch and think some sort of illegal and illicit activity is taking place in your home. That is, of course, if he is looking into your home at all.
I don’t believe it’s karmic justice. That sort of thing doesn’t repeat on you, it only happens once to teach you the lesson you need to learn, and once only, provided you’ve learnt that lesson.
Just keep your curtains closed, or blinds drawn (at night) and go about your business as usual. Perhaps consider tinting your windows like you can your car. Think of the UV rays that won’t be entering your home as well as the added privacy. Duel benefit. Although I don’t know if that can be done to a single dwelling of a high rise building but there’d have to be a product available that would suit such an environment.
I’m sorry that you feel as though your privacy is being invaded though. That is serious. If it gets any worse, I know your empowered enough to put an end to it quickly. Only worry if it becomes a real issue.
In the meantime, rest assured that us blog buddies would launch that rescue mission and pay any ransom to secure your safe return. You’re very important to us and we love you as muchas you love us.
Chin up young person.
January 19, 2012 at 1:26 pm
The other day, I looked up the statistics for the average man, and this is some of what I found; On average, men are 5’9″ tall, and weigh 175lbs and can only do a single max rep of 160lbs, and 60% of these men say that they’re in shape, while realistically, only 13% of them are.
TAKE HEART DAVEY WAVEY!! YOU ARE NOTICED FOR BEING BETTER THAN AVERAGE!!
So of the things you can sleep well with is that you have achieved one of your goals, being irresistible to look at. So much so, that you are starting to notice the people who can’t resist looking at you.
Peace!
January 19, 2012 at 1:59 pm
It’s funny, I would have picked you as the type who sleeps naked, guess I was wrong there.
You should try it, it’s really comfortable, but guess now that you may have an audience I could see how you wouldn’t wanna do that now.
January 19, 2012 at 2:55 pm
That’s pretty damn funny…you have to admit you did have it commin’
…..more importantly, is he cute?