We only have a few short years on this planet, so it certainly behooves us to enjoy and cherish every last second of this life. Here are my tips for doing just that:
- Anyone can see the future, but it takes a true wizard to see the present moment. Don’t spend your present dwelling on the past or dreaming of the future – nothing is promised. Live!
- Walk barefoot.
- Change yourself, not others. If you don’t like or can’t accept what you see in others, change yourself.
- Take your ego out of your relationships. Without ego, jealousy will never find its footing.
- Eat ice cream.
- Take time to love yourself. As you learn to love yourself, you’ll find it much easier to love others.
- Read good books. I’d recommend The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success.
- Eat whipped cream and strawberries off of someone’s bum at least once.
- Don’t do the things you don’t like. Seriously. If you hate your job, quit. Seriously. Life is way too short, man.
- Love the times when you are single.
- Love the times when you are partnered.
- Instead of regretting your “mistakes”, learn from them. It’s much more productive.
- Don’t struggle against the universe. You only need oars if you’re fighting the current.
- Drop the soap.
- Work to create a more loving tomorrow, but accept the world as it is today.
- Be inappropriate at least once a day.
- Express gratitude.
- Smile at strangers. Sometimes, they’ll smile back.
- Throw out these rules and make your own.
Add your own tips in the comments below.
March 3, 2009 at 6:34 pm
here a tip for u try acutally speakin to ur people and reply to there emails
March 3, 2009 at 10:45 pm
You should have leaned by now.
Davey Wavey never responds,
Not even to those who write in full words.
March 4, 2009 at 3:42 pm
don’t be a jerk
March 3, 2009 at 6:55 pm
a tip for the previous comment…
Grammar, punctuation and spelling are all part of communicating successfully.
In referencing your entry above, I can see why Davey might not have understood your e-mail(s) {that I am sure you’re referring to} and thus, was unsure of how to respond.
Have a great day peeps!
March 3, 2009 at 7:10 pm
Wahoo !
I just saw your videos on youtube ! You’re amazingly crazy man !!
No I didn’t say cute … but let’s say that’s the all package !
I’m probably not the first and certainly not the last to tell but man I like that ! Maybe one of the few from FRANCE I suppose…
So now you’re sure being watched worldwide !
And just a little tip …. IF YOU WANT FORESKINS COME OVER TO EUROPE WE ALL HAVE THEM !! I mean I do …
Anyway keep going Crazy
xxx
Pierre
March 3, 2009 at 7:35 pm
go to a different country that speaks a different language then your own
March 3, 2009 at 10:40 pm
I fully agree with you Gabe!! My first overseas vacation was to Australia and I thought to myself “Wow… Travelling is easy. I thought I’d feel like an outsider but I totally don’t.” It wasn’t really an adventurous first trip. I’ve been to Cuba, Italy and Germany since and I speak poorly in German and barely any Italian or Spanish so it was a challenge. The wonderful thing about it was that I had to depend on the kindness and help of strangers in Italy and in Cuba to point me where to go or help me to understand menus, etc. It was a real blessing to open myself up to the kindness of others and to let them be a contribution to me. And now, although I am not Jewish, I feel it is a mitzvah (I love this word) to be of service to others, however I can be.
March 3, 2009 at 11:12 pm
Good points. Hehehe, I love that you know the word mitzvah, and yeah it actually is to help others and be “in service” to them whenever possible.
I agree, travel to a country where you don’t speak the language, and learn about another culture.
I am currently in South Korea, Far from my home back in Toronto, and after coming not knowing anything about korea or the korean culture or language, this has been a tremendous growing experience for me. Only don’t tell koreans you are gay. Despite the very strange homosexual tendencies between every korean guy (I mean holding hands, touching each other, flamboyant clothes, carrying purses, and even giving each other massages and kisses) there apparently are no gay koreans according to the government. It is a country of dichotomies.
March 3, 2009 at 7:36 pm
And what exactly do you mean when you say…”Drop the soap.” Do you mean like in prison dropping the soap…or what…lol
March 3, 2009 at 10:39 pm
I think That ”Drop the soap.”
is Wide Open to whatever interpatation
it brings to mind for YOU.
We should all ”Drop the soap.”
at least once in life.
March 3, 2009 at 10:43 pm
I take it as: Allow yourself to be vulnerable. I’m not sure that’s how it was intended but when you drop your defenses and your masks and face the fire with no protection it is really something. And to have someone with whom you can do this constantly would be the greatest blessing of all.
March 4, 2009 at 11:57 am
dropping the soap can hurt either way.
one is a pain in the ass and the other is
a pain in the heart.
Mike J.
March 3, 2009 at 7:39 pm
I am in Grade 6, I enjoy life very much, but sometimes it is hard to enjoy your self when you have lost a friend or family member. On Saturday, Feb. 28 A kindergardener in my school died from pneumonia. He was in Kindergarden. He was 5 years old. And he had down syndrome, he has 4 brothers and sisters in my school all with down syndrome too. We are having a memorial assembly on Friday in his honnor.
The Principal asked me to write a pome and share it since I would hang around and help him a lot, so just tell me what you think;
I thought of you with love today but that is nothing new. I thought about you yesterday and days before that too.
I think of you in silince, I often speek your name. All I have are momeries and your picture in a frame.
Your memory is me keepsake, with which I’ll never part. God has you in his keeping, I have you in my heart.
March 3, 2009 at 10:40 pm
Kyle
That is GREAT!
March 3, 2009 at 10:46 pm
Wow. WOW. I’m blown away. That was heartfelt, eloquent and very mature. I think if you read this to the people at your school – or better yet to the boy’s family – you will impact them in a deep and positive way.
March 4, 2009 at 10:06 am
Kyle
Your poem is beautiful and obviously heartfelt…bless you
March 4, 2009 at 11:35 am
Kyle, you have written a beautiful poem because you wrote it from your heart. It will be a great contribution to the memorial service.
March 3, 2009 at 8:24 pm
Haha I love it.. throw out these rules and make your own.
I just watched this movie called Vicky Christina Barcelona and one character in the film sort of inspired me to just live… and then I came upon this post and I was like, what a coincidence. Although I know you don’t believe in those
March 3, 2009 at 9:10 pm
Thank ,I understand your reminder.
Studying at front’s walk.
March 3, 2009 at 9:13 pm
Damn! YOU TURN ME ON!
Good looking, intelligent, humourous and humble – not to mention very down to earth – mostly.
I`m not sure I should say all the dirty things I want to do with you – but man I wish I had my way with you – just once.
If only I could find a man like you in real life – all my dreams would come true!
March 3, 2009 at 9:18 pm
I don`t have much gaydar – always getting confused figuring out who`s gay and who`s not – they all give me that look – oh! hell with it! – I`m gonna grab the next cute guy I see and give him an experience he`ll never forget!
March 3, 2009 at 9:21 pm
Two words… Be awesome.
March 3, 2009 at 9:29 pm
swim in the ocean naked
play with puppies
kiss your partner behind his ear
walk in the rain
get in touch with an old friend
write a note to your favorite teacher
March 4, 2009 at 12:31 am
Love your list and people’s comments. I smile at random people. Many do smile back or at least politely acknowledge. And yes, I would like gaydar as well. Would really help simplify things. And you Davey are a great guy. Would like someone like you too, but near me. Where are these guys? Hehe!!! You’re great!!! Keep up the positive flow of energy you put out.
March 4, 2009 at 9:58 am
Sweetie, good guys are all around! I think the biggest problem is that we all have an image in our mind of the “perfect mate” (guy or gal) but if that’s what we are looking for & don’t have realistic expectations & don’t realize that no one can measure up to that ideal, we will continue to look forever never finding what we are looking for! One just really needs to take inventory of the things that are important and form a realistic expectation & just be happy!! I’ve lost a few really good relationships because I realized this too late!! ;-(. Thanks for listening! Cheers!!
March 4, 2009 at 9:27 pm
I found a good guy like him, actually. Problem is, he’s not near me and we may never meet. But we talk a lot online and he’s the best I’ve known for a good long while. We talk about everything. He’s a great guy.
March 4, 2009 at 1:30 am
Make a list of things you want to do before you die, and do them. =]
March 4, 2009 at 1:38 am
Learn from the past, live the present, don’t worry about the future. And remember that every future becomes a past!
( and btw, tip number 8 sounds extremely yummy!
)
March 4, 2009 at 3:50 am
hahaha Davey…. drop the soap…!
))
Great list btw. Here are two more:
- fall in love often
- believe in love at first sight
March 4, 2009 at 6:36 am
Don’t take advice from anyone.
March 4, 2009 at 8:32 am
Smile… just smile to people, to stranger, people cleaning your office for example. First, that´s feel good, but when people smile back a you. It feel even better !
March 4, 2009 at 9:05 am
I would add to your list:
Always say
“Thank you”.
“Excuse me”.
“Please”.
Trust me. From the big city to the small village, it goes a long way.
KG
March 4, 2009 at 9:19 am
19 Tips?
Let’s boil them down to one: The Golden Rule.
And it is apparantly universal, at least on Earth … http://tinyurl.com/46l25
Bahá’í Faith:
“Ascribe not to any soul that which thou wouldst not have ascribed to thee, and say not that which thou doest not.” “Blessed is he who preferreth his brother before himself.” Baha’u'llah
“And if thine eyes be turned towards justice, choose thou for thy neighbour that which thou choosest for thyself.” Epistle to the Son of the Wolf
Brahmanism: “This is the sum of Dharma [duty]: Do naught unto others which would cause you pain if done to you”. Mahabharata, 5:1517
Buddhism:
“…a state that is not pleasing or delightful to me, how could I inflict that upon another?” Samyutta NIkaya v. 353
Hurt not others in ways that you yourself would find hurtful.” Udana-Varga 5:18
Christianity:
“Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.” Matthew 7:12, King James Version.
“And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise.” Luke 6:31, King James Version.
“…and don’t do what you hate…”, Gospel of Thomas 6. The Gospel of Thomas is one of about 40 gospels that were widely accepted among early Christians, but which never made it into the Christian Scriptures (New Testament).
Confucianism:
“Do not do to others what you do not want them to do to you” Analects 15:23
“Tse-kung asked, ‘Is there one word that can serve as a principle of conduct for life?’ Confucius replied, ‘It is the word ‘shu’ — reciprocity. Do not impose on others what you yourself do not desire.’” Doctrine of the Mean 13.3
“Try your best to treat others as you would wish to be treated yourself, and you will find that this is the shortest way to benevolence.” Mencius VII.A.4
Ancient Egyptian:
“Do for one who may do for you, that you may cause him thus to do.” The Tale of the Eloquent Peasant, 109 – 110 Translated by R.B. Parkinson. The original dates to 1970 to 1640 BCE and may be the earliest version ever written.
Hinduism:
This is the sum of duty: do not do to others what would cause pain if done to you. Mahabharata 5:1517
Humanism:
“(5) Humanists acknowledge human interdependence, the need for mutual respect and the kinship of all humanity.”
“(11) Humanists affirm that individual and social problems can only be resolved by means of human reason, intelligent effort, critical thinking joined with compassion and a spirit of empathy for all living beings. ”
“Don’t do things you wouldn’t want to have done to you, British Humanist Society.
Islam:
“None of you [truly] believes until he wishes for his brother what he wishes for himself.” Number 13 of Imam “Al-Nawawi’s Forty Hadiths.”
Jainism:
“Therefore, neither does he [a sage] cause violence to others nor does he make others do so.” Acarangasutra 5.101-2.
“In happiness and suffering, in joy and grief, we should regard all creatures as we regard our own self.” Lord Mahavira, 24th Tirthankara
“A man should wander about treating all creatures as he himself would be treated. “Sutrakritanga 1.11.33
Judaism:
“…thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.”, Leviticus 19:18
“What is hateful to you, do not to your fellow man. This is the law: all the rest is commentary.” Talmud, Shabbat 31a.
“And what you hate, do not do to any one.” Tobit 4:15
Native American Spirituality:
“Respect for all life is the foundation.” The Great Law of Peace.
“All things are our relatives; what we do to everything, we do to ourselves. All is really One.” Black Elk
“Do not wrong or hate your neighbor. For it is not he who you wrong, but yourself.” Pima proverb.
Roman Pagan Religion:
“The law imprinted on the hearts of all men is to love the members of society as themselves.”
Shinto:
“The heart of the person before you is a mirror. See there your own form”
“Be charitable to all beings, love is the representative of God.” Ko-ji-ki Hachiman Kasuga
Sikhism:
Compassion-mercy and religion are the support of the entire world”. Japji Sahib
“Don’t create enmity with anyone as God is within everyone.” Guru Arjan Devji 259
“No one is my enemy, none a stranger and everyone is my friend.” Guru Arjan Dev : AG 1299
Sufism:
“The basis of Sufism is consideration of the hearts and feelings of others. If you haven’t the will to gladden someone’s heart, then at least beware lest you hurt someone’s heart, for on our path, no sin exists but this.” Dr. Javad Nurbakhsh, Master of the Nimatullahi Sufi Order.
Taoism:
“Regard your neighbor’s gain as your own gain, and your neighbor’s loss as your own loss.” T’ai Shang Kan Ying P’ien.
“The sage has no interest of his own, but takes the interests of the people as his own. He is kind to the kind; he is also kind to the unkind: for Virtue is kind. He is faithful to the faithful; he is also faithful to the unfaithful: for Virtue is faithful.” Tao Teh Ching, Chapter 49
Unitarian:
“The inherent worth and dignity of every person;”
“Justice, equity and compassion in human relations…. ”
“The goal of world community with peace, liberty, and justice for all;”
“We affirm and promote respect for the interdependent web of all existence of which we are a part.” Unitarian principles. 7,8
Wicca:
“An it harm no one, do what thou wilt” (i.e. do what ever you will, as long as it harms nobody, including yourself). One’s will is to be carefully thought out in advance of action. This is called the Wiccan Rede
Yoruba: (Nigeria):
“One going to take a pointed stick to pinch a baby bird should first try it on himself to feel how it hurts.”
Zoroastrianism:
“That nature alone is good which refrains from doing unto another whatsoever is not good for itself”. Dadistan-i-dinik 94:5
“Whatever is disagreeable to yourself do not do unto others.” Shayast-na-Shayast 13:29
March 4, 2009 at 9:47 am
Hey, thanks for the above Jack……I particularly like the Taoist belief.
March 4, 2009 at 10:11 am
live,live,live
March 4, 2009 at 11:13 am
Stop using the “F” word and other obscene language.
March 4, 2009 at 11:19 am
I cannot begin to tell you how much I loved todays blog!!!!!!!!!!!!
March 4, 2009 at 11:52 am
I love tips too, Davey. Here are mine:
Coach Lance’s Tips for a Great Life:
1. Be fully present in the moment.
2. Plan your life.
3. Plan your day — the night before
4. Plan out each project.
5. Act according to your plans and your word.
6. Write it down.
7. Simplify – eliminate clutter.
8. Take time to relax and recharge.
9. Love unconditionally through your commitment to others.
10. Be open to coaching at all times.
March 4, 2009 at 2:30 pm
Be inappropriate at least once a day.
This is my favourite one!!!
March 4, 2009 at 3:17 pm
Here is a Wonderful quote from a Sobe Tea Bottle I had:
“Don’t take life too seriously…You won’t get out alive.”
March 4, 2009 at 10:57 pm
I actually do a few of these… 2, 5 and 16 are among my daily activities. Never tried 8, but I’ll put on my to do list…
Two more:
- If a stranger seems to need help, help;
- Sing loudly in public, specially if you suck.
March 5, 2009 at 9:00 am
Davey
you make me smile
you make me think
you make me feel better
you make me do
you make me don’t
you make me be me.
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