It’s no secret: Valentine’s Day is my favorite holiday. It’s a day all about love – and there’s nothing that I love more!
Of course, now that I’m single, the holiday feels a bit different. And it’s the topic for today’s talky blog via my second YouTube channel, Davey Wavey Raw.
P.S. Make sure you bid on the Davey Wavey portrait to benefit The Trevor Project. Only a few days remain in the bidding!
February 6, 2012 at 10:02 am
Every year I pick one of my friends who has been extra nice/special and send them some flowers to their work/uni with chocolates etc etc.
Even though im single, I agree with your message, Valentines day is about sharing the love, and you can love people even though you may not be ‘in love’ with them, and you don’t need to be partnered to share the love.
Simply love your blog videos Davey, never miss them.
Love
Me x
February 6, 2012 at 10:40 am
I’m totally stealing your idea!
Glad you enjoy my videos – thanks for tuning in! xo
February 7, 2012 at 5:05 pm
Isack Hunt — What a lovely idea you have there.
I think EVERY day should be treated as Valentine’s Day–IF you have a special someone in your life–hence the commercialism around Feb. 14th makes me want to gag. That said, it could be a nice thing to use the day as a way to say “thanks” to someone special in a less-than-traditional way, as you’ve suggested here, and I like that idea a lot.
Please accept this written “thank you” as my flowers and chocolate to you for such a good idea!
February 6, 2012 at 10:55 am
Because i am single this year too, my mom sends me a text message last night asking me what i want for Valentine’s day. What would we do without them?
February 6, 2012 at 12:39 pm
Sadly Adam, someday you and Davey are going to find out because they aren’t going to be there forever. Those of us older admirers of Davey have found that when we have lost both of our parents. Enjoy them to the fullest while you can. They’ll be gone all too soon, and then, without a significant other in your life, holidays in general, but particularly Valentine’s Day get torturous to endure as you see everyone else’s joy more acutely.
February 6, 2012 at 11:11 am
You are more than welcome to, I love it
BTW did you get my email? I sent it on 27/01/12 at 21:37GMT with subject “Hey Davey – Im In Need Of Some Advice Please”
xx
February 6, 2012 at 11:42 am
This Valentine’s Day I am going to be with (hopefully) a large group of people as we march on the Scottish Parliament in Edinburgh as part of the Equal Marriage campaign that has been gaining popularity here for the last couple of years. We are trying our best to spread the love!
February 6, 2012 at 12:08 pm
I have never had a Valentine’s Day when I haven’t been single…Sounds sad and pathetic but it’s true. Last year for Valentine’s Day my BFF and I got a couple chick flicks to watch but then she had a fabulous idea. We each picked out a great piece of lingerie and we decided to take “Pin-up” photos of each other for the “Future Men in our life”. We’re both “Shutter Bugs” and it made us both feel great…Me, because it made me remember that I really don’t need a relationship to be sexy and fabulous and it helped her keep her mind off of the fact that it was her first Valentine’s Day being single since she was in the middle of getting a divorce.
However this year I will be spending the day before Valentine’s Day with the one guy in my life who will always love me as I am (Other then my Dad and my younger brother)…My Nephew Nic (My BFF’s son). When he was 2 years old he was diagnosed with Apraxia of Speech (http://www.apraxia-kids.org/ ) and started undergoing aggressive speech therapy so that he could even say Mama. On Valentine’s Day last year I received something that is more priceless to me then any flowers, chocolate or jewelry…My BFF walked in the house with Nic and asked him who I was and for the first time I heard words that I never knew if I would ever hear when a little voice said “Antie Way” (Auntie Raye). I don’t know how many of you on here are parents or aunts&uncles but to me every time I walk into my BFF’s apartment and I hear “I Love You Auntie Raye” or “I missed you Auntie Raye”…Other then the day when I hopefully have kids,that is the most precious thing to me because he loves me just as I am and always will. I don’t have to change a thing, I just have to be his Auntie and love him.
Who could ask for a better Valentine?
February 6, 2012 at 12:33 pm
Valentine’s Day is always interesting for me. Im one of those closeted folk, but have a “friend” in Toronto. Ill send him a special ecard!! It’s my way of connecting with him
February 6, 2012 at 12:46 pm
Dear Davey,
I have never spent a Valentine’s Day before ’cause I think this is mostly about commercial reasons, you know.. fake red hearts, silly flowers, going out with your partner, teddy bears and staff like that. No matter how I tried to convince myself that those people who celebrated the holiday like this, were trully in love with each other, I failed! Since after a couple of months they broke up! So what’s wrong? Those people who celebrated the holiday with “fireworks” and expressed their “love” for each other in public suddenly broke up. Did they brake up ’cause their relationship was based on these kinds of elements? Where is the true love? And if it does exist, shouldn’t we celebrate it every day with our partner instead of waiting this specific day to do it? Since every holiday has been commercialized we as human beings loose the true meaning of the holiday and as a result we loose the truth in all its magnitude! That’s why relationships have become shallow. Well, this year I decided to celebrate Truth, and the truth is that I’m single and happy! It’s time to think my present now…
February 6, 2012 at 12:47 pm
Those retrained by the USA holidays, such as San Valentín, are so strange to me that even considering the idea of celebrating them makes me smile. If it is Saint Valentine, let´s go to mass.
February 6, 2012 at 12:54 pm
That’s all well and if you’re actually Catholic
February 6, 2012 at 1:30 pm
Great message! We all receive love from someone in our lives on Valentine’s Day, whether it’s from a lover or not doesn’t really matter (okay maybe a little bit).,,Don’t be bitter, try not to be bitter!
February 6, 2012 at 1:51 pm
Let me start by saying that I love you videos..
I was watching the Valentines one and I started to cry, I have been in love with this friend of mine for the past year, and he knows how I feel for him, at the same time, I know that he loves someone else. So we hang out like friend, go to dinners, movies, dancing at the club.
Three weeks ago, we went drinking and got back to his place, we “almost” had sex, but we didn, either way we felt weird about it, so we talk and said that we are friends, and he doesnt see me taht way, so the sex part is not going to happend and we didint talk about the subject anymore.
Last Friday, same story, we went out, got really drunk, he left with a girlfriend of his, then 30 minutes later he called saying he felt really sick, so I took a taxi back to his place. I covered him with a blanket and slept by his side.
Minutes later he started to touch me and we both got excited. He was leading me so I replied, thinking that thats what he wanted. Im a top and his a bottom and he was the one in control.
When we finished, he called me by another name! Needless to say I felt like crap!! He sent me a message saying that nothing happend between us, and we were going to be friends but thats it. Next day we saw each other at a party at his place, I felt I should go but he called me saying that i needed to be there, since the party was for a mutual friend, so I went.
We didnt talk all night, so hours later i decided to take a taxi and go home, he came out behind me and ask me, “what happened last night” I told him and he started to over react saying that I knew that he didnt want this to happend between us and that he felt sick just thinking about the idea of us having sex. That we were suppose to be friends.
I dont know what to do, cause I feel like a rapist or something. And everytime I close my eyes I can hear his voice saying, ” I FEEL SICK”.
I love him, I really do, and I dont know what to do. !
Please help me!
Mario
February 6, 2012 at 1:54 pm
Sorry about the grammar mistakes ! My hands are shaking.!
February 6, 2012 at 11:09 pm
What I can identify with is mixing alcohol and sex; I think us gay and bi guys do a lot of it and it usually ends up being a big problem. I don’t believe that we do things drunk that we would not do otherwise and I don’t buy the line that he did not remember what you all did. Try some non drinking things like going to a museum and having lunch in the cafe. I have been through this whole process of falling in love with a best friend and sometimes it led to sex and other times it did not. See how things go…try to feel good about yourSELF in all of this and maybe spread your wings a little. I have confidence it will work out.
February 6, 2012 at 11:45 pm
Thanks Marty.
I know that he was aware of what we were doing, but it hurts, the way he said the things he said. I try not to think, but it just keeps playing over and over again in my mind.
Thanks again for your comment !
February 6, 2012 at 1:58 pm
More love yourself blogs Davey, I love it.
February 6, 2012 at 3:47 pm
I’m most likely going to be single this V’Day too. Which kind of sucks because I’ve got a really cool idea for a date. But I’ll just go there myself and make a day of it. hahaha
Blog-buddy meet up in Palm Springs, DW? Think about it! I’ll gladly drive from San Diego for that.
February 6, 2012 at 4:57 pm
I have been single my whole life (54 years) but I am not complaining about it. You can’t complain that you’d never been sky diving if you never put on the parachute and climb in the plane. I can’t even find the airport!
But to all you out there (and Davey): Put your right hand on your left shoulder and your left hand on your right shoulder. Now squeeze. Consider that a hug of love from me. (How can something as simple as a hug be SO powerful?!) As the song from “Into the Woods” says “You are not alone. No one is alone.” Now go to the start of this paragraph and repeat as needed.
February 6, 2012 at 5:37 pm
While I understand what it is you’re saying and to some extent see the wisdom and truth behind it, it’s not always that easy. I’ve always been alone, I’ve never had love my family has been nothing but abusive and horrible and everything I’ve done, I’ve had to do on my own. truthfully I don’t know what love is, I’ve never felt it or even heard the words spoken in the same sentence as my name. I don’t want to feel this way and I’m trying everyday to change things and make them better, but since I really don’t know what I’m doing or what so wrong with me it just seems like it’s an impossible task. So this valentine’s day is pretty much going to be like all the others, ignored and if I’m luck slept through.
February 7, 2012 at 2:38 am
Charles, this made me so sad =( Everyone deserves to be loved, weather it be from a boyfriend, family member, or just a really good friend. I know I’m just one random guy over the internet and this might not mean much, but from one human being to another… I love you Charles! There’s nothing wrong with you; you’re another human being on this earth, and someday you’ll find the love you deserve! It can totally be hard to open your heart up when there’s the chance of it backfiring horribly… but when you can, everything will eventually work out! I’ll be thinking of you this Valentines day, and I hope you’ll be able to feel the good vibes I’ll be sending your way =)
February 6, 2012 at 6:08 pm
Davey, you are single again. Every time you become single you just seem to pass it off as an everyday thing. Every time I become single, I suffer the most awful heartache and it doesn’t matter whether it was me or him or even a mutual decision to part. I expect every relationship to last forever.
Am I unrealistic in my expectation? Are you so comfortable in your head that the end of a relationship means you just move on without any heartache or regret? You actually sound happy that you are single again and single for Valentine’s Day.
Are you human? Don’t you ever suffer sadness?
February 6, 2012 at 6:08 pm
Valentine’s Day is a day for self-indulgence.
February 6, 2012 at 6:50 pm
I will be out delivering Singing Valentines with my Barbershop Quartet from 9am to 9pm here in Rhode Island. It is the most fun day of the year knowing how much joy we bring to people when we sing to them in 4 part harmony. It is especially fun when we sing to someone’s mother or grandmother in a nursing home.
February 6, 2012 at 7:54 pm
An Addition to my comment. Okay, I AM a broadway queen. Sue me!http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LnLKbc2hvxk&feature=share
February 6, 2012 at 9:29 pm
Loved that! Thanks for posting it…Bernadette Peters is wonderful.
February 6, 2012 at 10:48 pm
I really wish I was spending V-day with my boyfriend, but until DOMA is repealed and Maryland legalizes marriage equality, he is stuck in Bulgaria during the winter
((((
February 7, 2012 at 6:09 am
I’ve heard it said that if you’ve been single for an extended period of time you become a “Born Again Virgin”.
Why?
Because, you’re first time with each new partner is a new beginning.
(Or so I’m told).
NB: This only works if you haven’t been “intimate with anyone else” since your last relationship (boyfriend / girlfriend). No stand ins or fly by nighers allowed!
February 7, 2012 at 6:21 am
IDEA!!!
If you are single, and you have friends who are also single, why not have an “Anti-Valentine’s Day Party”!
Invite only single people, not in the hope of hooking up, but to celebrate being unique and beautiful individuals who are able to stand tall on their own.
Say, bah humbug to being alone! Join together with other people and love one another.
Don’t be miserable, yet enjoy company!
February 7, 2012 at 6:36 am
I’ve never had a valentine. Ever! **sadness** NOT!!
February 7, 2012 at 10:27 am
nice very touching video.none of us are without-we have this blog-here Valentines Day-is Everyday.
February 9, 2012 at 7:08 pm
Well i do have a partner of just over 10 years now…and i do love Valentines Day…however I have to work a double shift of work (8a to 10-11pm!!) So I will be working and knowing that My Love Of My Life will be waiting for me to snuggle up with him & go to sleep! Just having him to snuggle up to me at nite is A Great Valentines Day gift! I’m sure we will do something next weekend that we will cnsider it as “our Valentine’s Day Date”