Comments on: Dear people in long-term relationships, http://www.breaktheillusion.com/pictures/dear-people-in-long-term-relationships/ a little davey wavey goes a long way Fri, 10 Feb 2012 11:30:01 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: A-Ron Clements (Wash DC) http://www.breaktheillusion.com/pictures/dear-people-in-long-term-relationships/comment-page-3/#comment-69484 A-Ron Clements (Wash DC) Fri, 02 Apr 2010 19:35:39 +0000 http://www.breaktheillusion.com/?p=2076#comment-69484 I didn't read the other comments. I didn't want to color my answer. After 6 or 7 years, like us you will both have gone through a pretty good set of mutual transformation from being around each other. As a couple you will either decide whether you want more of x, y, z....and how you will go about getting it. Whatever it is. OR you might decide you are happy with what you have. You may come to compromises or arrangements, or you may live happily in what others would call a rut. But one thing I hope you never do is take any other couple as an example to follow, as we are all unique. Relationships are not something to be trended, but dissected at the individual level. Examine the comments you see in this post with extreme caution. The options are not the best for everyone. Davey, both of you will just know what to do. Even if that means not being together. Remember that everything happens to (eventually) suit something else. Cause and effect. But you know this already, bucko. Hi from DC! A-Ron I didn’t read the other comments. I didn’t want to color my answer. After 6 or 7 years, like us you will both have gone through a pretty good set of mutual transformation from being around each other. As a couple you will either decide whether you want more of x, y, z….and how you will go about getting it. Whatever it is. OR you might decide you are happy with what you have. You may come to compromises or arrangements, or you may live happily in what others would call a rut. But one thing I hope you never do is take any other couple as an example to follow, as we are all unique. Relationships are not something to be trended, but dissected at the individual level. Examine the comments you see in this post with extreme caution. The options are not the best for everyone.

Davey, both of you will just know what to do. Even if that means not being together. Remember that everything happens to (eventually) suit something else. Cause and effect. But you know this already, bucko.

Hi from DC!
A-Ron

]]> By: ametroguy http://www.breaktheillusion.com/pictures/dear-people-in-long-term-relationships/comment-page-3/#comment-68715 ametroguy Thu, 18 Mar 2010 18:03:00 +0000 http://www.breaktheillusion.com/?p=2076#comment-68715 Maybe you need to learn to appreciate your BF every day in some way, or, maybe you need to grow up some more. Maybe you need to learn to appreciate your BF every day in some way, or, maybe you need to grow up some more.

]]> By: Davey Gravy http://www.breaktheillusion.com/pictures/dear-people-in-long-term-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-68702 Davey Gravy Thu, 18 Mar 2010 14:39:23 +0000 http://www.breaktheillusion.com/?p=2076#comment-68702 I agree with you both! I always thought that love was this Disney movie, with rockets and singing cartoon birds . . . instead it's more like an old sex in the city rerun . . . or lack there of in my case. I've been with my bf Michael for a year . . . and I can't hel but lay in bed at night wondering if I can stay in this relationship for the rest of my life! Last night i actually slept on the couch . . . we haven't had sex since like Thanksgiving . . . and when I tried again last night I got the stooooop I'm too tired. So J, if ur near NH hit me up and we can do coffee ;-) lol Davey Gravy I agree with you both! I always thought that love was this Disney movie, with rockets and singing cartoon birds . . . instead it’s more like an old sex in the city rerun . . . or lack there of in my case. I’ve been with my bf Michael for a year . . . and I can’t hel but lay in bed at night wondering if I can stay in this relationship for the rest of my life! Last night i actually slept on the couch . . . we haven’t had sex since like Thanksgiving . . . and when I tried again last night I got the stooooop I’m too tired. So J, if ur near NH hit me up and we can do coffee ;-) lol

Davey Gravy

]]> By: Scott Golden http://www.breaktheillusion.com/pictures/dear-people-in-long-term-relationships/comment-page-2/#comment-67402 Scott Golden Sun, 28 Feb 2010 17:14:14 +0000 http://www.breaktheillusion.com/?p=2076#comment-67402 Thanks for a thought provoking and valuable insight. I agree whole heartedly that shared memories are a wonderful cement to a life together! Scott Thanks for a thought provoking and valuable insight. I agree whole heartedly that shared memories are a wonderful cement to a life together!

Scott

]]> By: Scott Golden http://www.breaktheillusion.com/pictures/dear-people-in-long-term-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-67398 Scott Golden Sun, 28 Feb 2010 16:52:56 +0000 http://www.breaktheillusion.com/?p=2076#comment-67398 On February 9, 2010 3:34pm 'Another John' wrote:"Is it me or is every fag in this world named John? Hi me also John! I read some of the comms but come on davey these boring old sexless queens need 2 get off their comps & start livin it up. 4get ur lil twink. We are waaaaay 2 young 2 b in a LTR. U had fun in AUS & GOOD ON U! Ur young ur hot & its time 2 play yaay :p kiss kiss baby boy 4 syd-ner-nee" ... You sir, are the perfect embodiment of the completely vacuous, self-obsessed, self-centred, selfish ignorami who sadly, more often than not, are the face of what we, laughably call our Gay "community". Your attitude typifies everything that is mean, cheap and self-serving in what is, regrettably, but in many ways correctly portrayed as a pleasure seeking, thoughtless and empty lifestyle, where we, gays, are but effete vamps, more interested in how to satisfy either a craving for the latest fashion trend or the between our legs (read that as you will). I'm not suggesting that life should be or is, without excitement, pleasure, dreams or desires. Far from it and I am by no means claiming to be or have been a celibate angle - in fact quite the contrary. Nevertheless I know the meaning and value of being in love, loving someone and commitment to a relationship and I would never, never - let me repeat that again for you in case you are slow on the uptake, I would never disrespect nor refer so disparagingly, to people who opened up to us all and so wonderfully shared something very intimate and personal with us. They did this in answer to a very honest question from Davey and one that ultimately laid him open to some reflection and questioning from us his www friends. They also did it, I like to think, in the hope that it will help all of us who are SO fortunate to have met someone with whom we can and hope to share the rest of our lives. The richness of soul and the joy that this brings to our lives is beyond price, for who could offer one of us anything we would trade in place of the loving relationship we have with our partner? You let yourself down and the rest of our "community" in your "just for kicks" thoughtless response. Shame on you! In my opinion you ought to apologise for this graceless fau pas! Stop squandering your time here and lear to value what is important. As my fellow islander once put it "Youth is wasted on the young" or words to the affect. There are none to whom tomorrow is so precious as those to whom it looks uncertain -think on! Scott. On February 9, 2010 3:34pm ‘Another John’ wrote:”Is it me or is every f*g in this world named John? Hi me also John!
I read some of the comms but come on davey these boring old sexless queens need 2 get off their comps & start livin it up. 4get ur lil twink. We are waaaaay 2 young 2 b in a LTR. U had fun in AUS & GOOD ON U!
Ur young ur hot & its time 2 play yaay :p
kiss kiss baby boy 4 syd-ner-nee” … You sir, are the perfect embodiment of the completely vacuous, self-obsessed, self-centred, selfish ignorami who sadly, more often than not, are the face of what we, laughably call our Gay “community”. Your attitude typifies everything that is mean, cheap and self-serving in what is, regrettably, but in many ways correctly portrayed as a pleasure seeking, thoughtless and empty lifestyle, where we, gays, are but effete vamps, more interested in how to satisfy either a craving for the latest fashion trend or the between our legs (read that as you will).

I’m not suggesting that life should be or is, without excitement, pleasure, dreams or desires. Far from it and I am by no means claiming to be or have been a celibate angle – in fact quite the contrary. Nevertheless I know the meaning and value of being in love, loving someone and commitment to a relationship and I would never, never – let me repeat that again for you in case you are slow on the uptake, I would never disrespect nor refer so disparagingly, to people who opened up to us all and so wonderfully shared something very intimate and personal with us.

They did this in answer to a very honest question from Davey and one that ultimately laid him open to some reflection and questioning from us his www friends. They also did it, I like to think, in the hope that it will help all of us who are SO fortunate to have met someone with whom we can and hope to share the rest of our lives. The richness of soul and the joy that this brings to our lives is beyond price, for who could offer one of us anything we would trade in place of the loving relationship we have with our partner?

You let yourself down and the rest of our “community” in your “just for kicks” thoughtless response. Shame on you! In my opinion you ought to apologise for this graceless fau pas!

Stop squandering your time here and lear to value what is important. As my fellow islander once put it “Youth is wasted on the young” or words to the affect. There are none to whom tomorrow is so precious as those to whom it looks uncertain -think on!

Scott.

]]> By: Sebastian http://www.breaktheillusion.com/pictures/dear-people-in-long-term-relationships/comment-page-3/#comment-67041 Sebastian Wed, 24 Feb 2010 02:22:07 +0000 http://www.breaktheillusion.com/?p=2076#comment-67041 Yes, Rick in Chapel Hill, You said, "If you have to think about it…it is not time yet." and I couldn't agree more with you. I've hoped Davey and Scotty actually live together for a time. If they do, it will become clear very quickly whether they "have to think about it." If they aren't up to the opportunity and challenge, they are not up to it for sure, at least for now. Seb in Western NC (and the snow. Haha) Yes, Rick in Chapel Hill,

You said, “If you have to think about it…it is not time yet.” and I couldn’t agree more with you. I’ve hoped Davey and Scotty actually live together for a time. If they do, it will become clear very quickly whether they “have to think about it.” If they aren’t up to the opportunity and challenge, they are not up to it for sure, at least for now.

Seb in Western NC (and the snow. Haha)

]]> By: Rick in Chapel Hill, NC http://www.breaktheillusion.com/pictures/dear-people-in-long-term-relationships/comment-page-3/#comment-67022 Rick in Chapel Hill, NC Tue, 23 Feb 2010 20:46:17 +0000 http://www.breaktheillusion.com/?p=2076#comment-67022 Davey, Relationships are like snowflakes; no two are exactly alike. At that point in your existance, if you desire a lifelong mate, you will know and both of you will decide how to walk forward in life together. And yes, sometimes you will walk far apart and sometimes way too close together. If you have to think about it...it is not time yet. Peace, Rick in Chapel Hill, NC Davey,

Relationships are like snowflakes; no two are exactly alike. At that point in your existance, if you desire a lifelong mate, you will know and both of you will decide how to walk forward in life together. And yes, sometimes you will walk far apart and sometimes way too close together. If you have to think about it…it is not time yet.

Peace,

Rick in Chapel Hill, NC

]]> By: str8fedupwithlosers http://www.breaktheillusion.com/pictures/dear-people-in-long-term-relationships/comment-page-3/#comment-66984 str8fedupwithlosers Mon, 22 Feb 2010 22:28:53 +0000 http://www.breaktheillusion.com/?p=2076#comment-66984 Nice of you to share such a personal piece of your life. I enjoyed reading it and totally understood what you went through and why you are back where you should be. Inspiring! Nice of you to share such a personal piece of your life. I enjoyed reading it and totally understood what you went through and why you are back where you should be. Inspiring!

]]> By: Jay http://www.breaktheillusion.com/pictures/dear-people-in-long-term-relationships/comment-page-3/#comment-66884 Jay Sun, 21 Feb 2010 14:45:23 +0000 http://www.breaktheillusion.com/?p=2076#comment-66884 I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. I'm 29 years old now and certainly not in my prime anymore. Last summer I went through an early "mid-life crisis" and decided it was time for our relationship to end. I had met a boy of only 20 and became somewhat infatuated with him. While my boyfriend (or ex at the moment) continued to live together, we did not spend much time together. I spent every moment I could with my "infatuation" and avoided being home. Long story short, my boyfriend and I are back together. We were officially apart for a month or so and what I realized in that time is that no infatuation or excitement of the "new" could match what I had with my boyfriend. There is a level of comfort that you achieve when you have spent so much time with someone. They know you... often better than you know yourself. To be honest, the prospect of going through all of that learning process with the infatuation was daunting, and really not one I was looking forward to. After spending a month with that new boy I realized that no matter what, no one was going to match up to my boyfriend and I would spend the rest of my life wondering why I threw that away. We as humans are not perfect and as such cannot expect the product of two humans being together to be perfect too. Anyone who claims to have the perfect storybook relationship is delusional or is self medicating. To be honest, the feeling I get knowing that my boyfriend understands me and accepts me is better than any butterflies that I would get from the "new" relationship. Is life perfect? No. Do we have the butterflies and the excitement of that initial dating? No. To be honest, the first year of our relationship, though exciting, was hell. Constantly worrying if the other person is being honest, faithful. Granted this was all a product of a previous unfaithful partner, but they are still issues you have to deal with. I'm quite content... yes content with my relationship. Is it storybook? Not by any stretch of the imagination. Can I imagine life without him? Only for a month... and that was a miserable hell I don't want to visit again. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. I’m 29 years old now and certainly not in my prime anymore.

Last summer I went through an early “mid-life crisis” and decided it was time for our relationship to end. I had met a boy of only 20 and became somewhat infatuated with him. While my boyfriend (or ex at the moment) continued to live together, we did not spend much time together. I spent every moment I could with my “infatuation” and avoided being home.

Long story short, my boyfriend and I are back together. We were officially apart for a month or so and what I realized in that time is that no infatuation or excitement of the “new” could match what I had with my boyfriend. There is a level of comfort that you achieve when you have spent so much time with someone. They know you… often better than you know yourself. To be honest, the prospect of going through all of that learning process with the infatuation was daunting, and really not one I was looking forward to. After spending a month with that new boy I realized that no matter what, no one was going to match up to my boyfriend and I would spend the rest of my life wondering why I threw that away.

We as humans are not perfect and as such cannot expect the product of two humans being together to be perfect too. Anyone who claims to have the perfect storybook relationship is delusional or is self medicating. To be honest, the feeling I get knowing that my boyfriend understands me and accepts me is better than any butterflies that I would get from the “new” relationship.

Is life perfect? No. Do we have the butterflies and the excitement of that initial dating? No. To be honest, the first year of our relationship, though exciting, was hell. Constantly worrying if the other person is being honest, faithful. Granted this was all a product of a previous unfaithful partner, but they are still issues you have to deal with. I’m quite content… yes content with my relationship. Is it storybook? Not by any stretch of the imagination. Can I imagine life without him?

Only for a month… and that was a miserable hell I don’t want to visit again.

]]> By: Thom http://www.breaktheillusion.com/pictures/dear-people-in-long-term-relationships/comment-page-3/#comment-66853 Thom Sun, 21 Feb 2010 04:59:29 +0000 http://www.breaktheillusion.com/?p=2076#comment-66853 Davey, your absolutely cute, and I enjoy watching your talky blogs online. Your also insane (but in a goodway). I have been with my current partner nearly 4 years now, and yes at first the butterflies were storming the walls of my stomache. They have quieted down now, and I occasionally feel a "flutter" of wings. Personaly for me, love is not a Disney movie with singing bluebirds. Its more like screaming evil witches most of the time. But for me, thats what makes this relationship work. We yell at each other more than we say "I love you", but thats just the way we work together. Davey, your absolutely cute, and I enjoy watching your talky blogs online. Your also insane (but in a goodway). I have been with my current partner nearly 4 years now, and yes at first the butterflies were storming the walls of my stomache. They have quieted down now, and I occasionally feel a “flutter” of wings. Personaly for me, love is not a Disney movie with singing bluebirds. Its more like screaming evil witches most of the time. But for me, thats what makes this relationship work. We yell at each other more than we say “I love you”, but thats just the way we work together.

]]> By: Cubbybearks http://www.breaktheillusion.com/pictures/dear-people-in-long-term-relationships/comment-page-3/#comment-66833 Cubbybearks Sat, 20 Feb 2010 22:06:57 +0000 http://www.breaktheillusion.com/?p=2076#comment-66833 I can tell you that after almost four years, yes the magic does wan but it just becomes a comforting glow. When you look at that person or feel there touch the magic is still there, it's just hiding in amongst the day to day life that we live. It may not always be apparent that there is magic and singing birds but they are there in the way that you look at each other and the passion you feel for one another. The singing is in the little things, like when he brings you a flower because you feel down or sick, or when he offers to go with you to the clinic because you are nervous, but in the end I think that each person has there own definition of what the magic is and depending on their view it may or may not still be there. I do however, know that even after 4 years with the same man, I still have the spark and nothing is better than that. I can tell you that after almost four years, yes the magic does wan but it just becomes a comforting glow. When you look at that person or feel there touch the magic is still there, it’s just hiding in amongst the day to day life that we live. It may not always be apparent that there is magic and singing birds but they are there in the way that you look at each other and the passion you feel for one another. The singing is in the little things, like when he brings you a flower because you feel down or sick, or when he offers to go with you to the clinic because you are nervous, but in the end I think that each person has there own definition of what the magic is and depending on their view it may or may not still be there. I do however, know that even after 4 years with the same man, I still have the spark and nothing is better than that.

]]> By: Ray http://www.breaktheillusion.com/pictures/dear-people-in-long-term-relationships/comment-page-3/#comment-66574 Ray Wed, 17 Feb 2010 14:03:18 +0000 http://www.breaktheillusion.com/?p=2076#comment-66574 Davey, Please do not mistook that butterflies as sign of love, they are just sign excitement, not love :) Imagine that you have won a huge prize, something you really like and always wanted, and you have to walk a few blocks to get it... you will have that butterflies too when you walk that few blocks, when you first get it and took it home for few days after when you tell people about it... but then after a sometime, that prize is just normal, it has become part of your everyday life, nothing much exciting, no more butterflies... Hence I guess Love is just a word created to describe "something".... I'm not sure what is that "something". But for me that "something" between my bf and I is the great companionship for each other. My small life bubble that I have when I'm single has expanded when I have a long term bf, its better, but not exciting... And i guess the same for hetero couple who have children, their life bubble expands more and its even better, but its still not exciting, just their everyday life... Don't get me wrong, everyday life is awesome... :D Davey,

Please do not mistook that butterflies as sign of love, they are just sign excitement, not love :)

Imagine that you have won a huge prize, something you really like and always wanted, and you have to walk a few blocks to get it… you will have that butterflies too when you walk that few blocks, when you first get it and took it home for few days after when you tell people about it… but then after a sometime, that prize is just normal, it has become part of your everyday life, nothing much exciting, no more butterflies…

Hence I guess Love is just a word created to describe “something”…. I’m not sure what is that “something”. But for me that “something” between my bf and I is the great companionship for each other. My small life bubble that I have when I’m single has expanded when I have a long term bf, its better, but not exciting… And i guess the same for hetero couple who have children, their life bubble expands more and its even better, but its still not exciting, just their everyday life…

Don’t get me wrong, everyday life is awesome… :D

]]> By: ron http://www.breaktheillusion.com/pictures/dear-people-in-long-term-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-66567 ron Wed, 17 Feb 2010 10:06:17 +0000 http://www.breaktheillusion.com/?p=2076#comment-66567 You get what you put out. If you're looking for love a-la Disney, you end up with a cartoon. And all cartoons end. If you're only looking for hot sex and butterflies in your stomach, that is an unrealistic approach to real life. I've been with my partner for 6 years now (and dated for 4 years before we decided to take that plunge). I found a wonderful guy who is worth building a life together with. A fantastic long term relationship is not for quiters. Sure, there is always someone hotter out there. Some piece of eye candy. And on the other side, sure there are days (weeks - months) where do don't get along/fight/can't stand the guy. But what are you really building for YOUR life? What is it YOU really want out of a relationship. Davey is always talking about knowing yourself first - loving yourself first. So I'm a bit surprised by this question. A relationship doesn't make you better or worse - but it can really add a wonderful facet to your wonderful life. A wonderful book that really helped me with my coming out process and the building of who I am was the book 'The Male Couple' by David P. McWhirter MD and Andrew M Mattison MSW PhD. copywrite 1984. I know it's an older book, but it really goes into detail about male relationships over short and long term periods. You get what you put out. If you’re looking for love a-la Disney, you end up with a cartoon. And all cartoons end. If you’re only looking for hot sex and butterflies in your stomach, that is an unrealistic approach to real life. I’ve been with my partner for 6 years now (and dated for 4 years before we decided to take that plunge). I found a wonderful guy who is worth building a life together with. A fantastic long term relationship is not for quiters. Sure, there is always someone hotter out there. Some piece of eye candy. And on the other side, sure there are days (weeks – months) where do don’t get along/fight/can’t stand the guy. But what are you really building for YOUR life? What is it YOU really want out of a relationship. Davey is always talking about knowing yourself first – loving yourself first. So I’m a bit surprised by this question. A relationship doesn’t make you better or worse – but it can really add a wonderful facet to your wonderful life. A wonderful book that really helped me with my coming out process and the building of who I am was the book ‘The Male Couple’ by David P. McWhirter MD and Andrew M Mattison MSW PhD. copywrite 1984. I know it’s an older book, but it really goes into detail about male relationships over short and long term periods.

]]> By: Daniel http://www.breaktheillusion.com/pictures/dear-people-in-long-term-relationships/comment-page-3/#comment-66521 Daniel Tue, 16 Feb 2010 19:18:12 +0000 http://www.breaktheillusion.com/?p=2076#comment-66521 Davey, I won't be saying much here that hasn't already been said, but I'll pass along my experiences nonetheless. Michael and I have been together for over six and a half years now, and in October 2008 we got married in Massachusetts, though we live in Illinois. Our Disney-movie stage was brief--it only lasted around six months (although he does a lot of musical theatre, and I do occasionally still feel like I live in a musical...), and we moved in together when we had been together for less than a year. But I realized something. The butterflies aren't the magic. The magic *is* the friendship. Many here have talked about how the sex has waned, the butterflies are gone, and one fellow even said, "Show me a happy marriage and I'll point out the lobotomy scars." I don't get butterflies when my phone rings and it's Michael--I get the feeling that he's left something at home and needs me to bring it to him. We argue about how to decorate, and grumble about the checkbook, but at the end of the day, we are friends. Things aren't perfect--no marriage, no relationship between any two people no matter how compatible, can possibly be perfect. But if you have that friendship, that mutual respect and affection for one another, you see that's the magic of the relationship. Six and a half years. I am twenty-seven, but that six and a half years feels like it's been my whole life. We may argue about what color shower curtain to buy, but I can't imagine having to pick one out by myself, or going to the grocery store alone, or, hell, filing only one set of taxes. :-) It honestly just wouldn't be as fun without him. I hope that helps... ~Daniel Davey,

I won’t be saying much here that hasn’t already been said, but I’ll pass along my experiences nonetheless. Michael and I have been together for over six and a half years now, and in October 2008 we got married in Massachusetts, though we live in Illinois. Our Disney-movie stage was brief–it only lasted around six months (although he does a lot of musical theatre, and I do occasionally still feel like I live in a musical…), and we moved in together when we had been together for less than a year.

But I realized something. The butterflies aren’t the magic. The magic *is* the friendship. Many here have talked about how the sex has waned, the butterflies are gone, and one fellow even said, “Show me a happy marriage and I’ll point out the lobotomy scars.” I don’t get butterflies when my phone rings and it’s Michael–I get the feeling that he’s left something at home and needs me to bring it to him. We argue about how to decorate, and grumble about the checkbook, but at the end of the day, we are friends. Things aren’t perfect–no marriage, no relationship between any two people no matter how compatible, can possibly be perfect. But if you have that friendship, that mutual respect and affection for one another, you see that’s the magic of the relationship.

Six and a half years. I am twenty-seven, but that six and a half years feels like it’s been my whole life. We may argue about what color shower curtain to buy, but I can’t imagine having to pick one out by myself, or going to the grocery store alone, or, hell, filing only one set of taxes. :-) It honestly just wouldn’t be as fun without him.

I hope that helps…
~Daniel

]]> By: Monkey http://www.breaktheillusion.com/pictures/dear-people-in-long-term-relationships/comment-page-3/#comment-66498 Monkey Tue, 16 Feb 2010 10:57:20 +0000 http://www.breaktheillusion.com/?p=2076#comment-66498 I have been with my best friend for 25 years. Good times, bad times. Still madly in love. Can't imagine life with out him. I knew the moment we met. Don't over rate sex. It's great, but like an organism, it's fleeting. Go with your heart and understand love for what it is. The joining of souls. I have been with my best friend for 25 years. Good times, bad times. Still madly in love. Can’t imagine life with out him. I knew the moment we met. Don’t over rate sex. It’s great, but like an organism, it’s fleeting. Go with your heart and understand love for what it is. The joining of souls.

]]> By: sharongilo http://www.breaktheillusion.com/pictures/dear-people-in-long-term-relationships/comment-page-3/#comment-66431 sharongilo Mon, 15 Feb 2010 17:13:00 +0000 http://www.breaktheillusion.com/?p=2076#comment-66431 Marriage is very hard work needing determination, selflessness, and a belief in the value of partnerships. If you cannot put another person first at times, and sometimes it will be for a lengthy period of time, marriage just isn't for you ... www.ashortguidetoahappymarriage.com Marriage is very hard work needing determination, selflessness, and a belief in the value of partnerships. If you cannot put another person first at times, and sometimes it will be for a lengthy period of time, marriage just isn’t for you …

http://www.ashortguidetoahappymarriage.com

]]> By: Kenneth Livingston http://www.breaktheillusion.com/pictures/dear-people-in-long-term-relationships/comment-page-3/#comment-66403 Kenneth Livingston Mon, 15 Feb 2010 07:53:10 +0000 http://www.breaktheillusion.com/?p=2076#comment-66403 Hey Mike, I'm insulted, kidding, but I'm only in my mid 20's and so is she, lol. Kenneth R. Livingston Hey Mike,

I’m insulted, kidding, but I’m only in my mid 20′s and so is she, lol.

Kenneth R. Livingston

]]> By: Mike http://www.breaktheillusion.com/pictures/dear-people-in-long-term-relationships/comment-page-3/#comment-66394 Mike Mon, 15 Feb 2010 04:15:50 +0000 http://www.breaktheillusion.com/?p=2076#comment-66394 Sidebar: Davey never talks about, talky walkies with, nor even seems interested in anyone who is not cute, twink and younger than he. Yet judging from the above, Davey seems to have huge numbers of middle aged or older readers. Hmmm...why? Sidebar:
Davey never talks about, talky walkies with, nor even seems interested in anyone who is not cute, twink and younger than he. Yet judging from the above, Davey seems to have huge numbers of middle aged or older readers.
Hmmm…why?

]]> By: Gary Bing http://www.breaktheillusion.com/pictures/dear-people-in-long-term-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-66387 Gary Bing Mon, 15 Feb 2010 03:03:26 +0000 http://www.breaktheillusion.com/?p=2076#comment-66387 Butterflies are free and so should you be. Butterflies are free and so should you be.

]]> By: Gary Bing http://www.breaktheillusion.com/pictures/dear-people-in-long-term-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-66386 Gary Bing Mon, 15 Feb 2010 02:57:22 +0000 http://www.breaktheillusion.com/?p=2076#comment-66386 After being wined and dined at all the 'it" restaurants and then the other half decides to take gourmet cooking classes, it makes a man want to go to a "normal" srangers house and join them for dinner of leftover meatloaf. After being wined and dined at all the ‘it” restaurants and then the other half decides to take gourmet cooking classes, it makes a man want to go to a “normal” srangers house and join them for dinner of leftover meatloaf.

]]> By: Gary Bing http://www.breaktheillusion.com/pictures/dear-people-in-long-term-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-66385 Gary Bing Mon, 15 Feb 2010 02:46:10 +0000 http://www.breaktheillusion.com/?p=2076#comment-66385 Okay now I've got the cards Who's going to sit where for dinner? and I hope the caterer's don't screw up while the cook's out on holiday.SOS.just different bank accounts. Okay now I’ve got the cards Who’s going to sit where for dinner? and I hope the caterer’s don’t screw up while the cook’s out on holiday.SOS.just different bank accounts.

]]> By: Gary Bing http://www.breaktheillusion.com/pictures/dear-people-in-long-term-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-66384 Gary Bing Mon, 15 Feb 2010 02:40:39 +0000 http://www.breaktheillusion.com/?p=2076#comment-66384 I like the line "Like moths to a flame.." a REAL scandalous line in the '20's. I like the line “Like moths to a flame..” a REAL scandalous line in the ’20′s.

]]> By: Gary Bing http://www.breaktheillusion.com/pictures/dear-people-in-long-term-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-66383 Gary Bing Mon, 15 Feb 2010 02:36:49 +0000 http://www.breaktheillusion.com/?p=2076#comment-66383 Then you never have, and are a lady in waiting. Then you never have, and are a lady in waiting.

]]> By: Gary Bing http://www.breaktheillusion.com/pictures/dear-people-in-long-term-relationships/comment-page-1/#comment-66382 Gary Bing Mon, 15 Feb 2010 02:34:38 +0000 http://www.breaktheillusion.com/?p=2076#comment-66382 I can't get used to gays using the fag word anymore than I can accept blacks calling each other the "N" word. I can’t get used to gays using the f*g word anymore than I can accept blacks calling each other the “N” word.

]]> By: Davide http://www.breaktheillusion.com/pictures/dear-people-in-long-term-relationships/comment-page-3/#comment-66346 Davide Sun, 14 Feb 2010 22:36:54 +0000 http://www.breaktheillusion.com/?p=2076#comment-66346 Bravo Bravo

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