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• At 2010.07.20 06:44, Brandon said:
  

  Guilty pleasures are what make us happiest, and what’s so great about them is that they’re usually very small things. And we all know, the best things come in small packages.

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  • At 2010.07.20 07:15, Dan said:
    

    That pic\photo is so cool! What software did you use to create it? Nice reply. Thx Dan

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  • At 2010.07.20 08:10, dave said:
    

    If they make us happy – let’s take the guilt out of the equation!

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• At 2010.07.20 06:50, Nat said:
  

  Mysterious is sexy and Curiosity attracts attention

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• At 2010.07.20 06:54, justin said:
  

  I’ve always thought we should have a telethon or a walk for those poor unfortunate guys who have hot bodies but sadly don’t have a head. It must cause such problems in their daily lives and we should help the headless in any way we can.

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• At 2010.07.20 06:55, CeltboyGary said:
  

  Hear hear! I could not agree more, Davey!

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• At 2010.07.20 07:07, Renan said:
  

  I also could not agree more! I used to be one of those! one day I realized how much it was destroying me and started to embrace my identity. Im still working on it, since it has been a long time down that road, and somehow impresive the different feedback you get while doing so. A lot of negative feedback, but moustly from the same guys who fear their one identity the most. So in the end, im happy I saw a difference

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• At 2010.07.20 07:09, Neil said:
  

  here here Davey! I’ve always wanted to see what Grindr was like, but alas I don’t have an iPhone! You should never be ashamed about what you do!

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  • At 2010.07.20 08:11, dave said:
    

    And if you are ashamed about what you do, then you probably shouldn’t be doing it!

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• At 2010.07.20 08:21, Andy said:
  

  I treat my face pic like a mark of trust. There too many whack jobs out there to just make it plain public. The vein colors that choice. Facebook is fine, manhunt is less than fine. Everyone has headless photos for their own reasons, sometimes it’s a matter of safety, not modesty.

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• At 2010.07.20 08:38, Thirdy said:
  

  Love Love Love

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• At 2010.07.20 09:01, Edmond said:
  

  While we are at it, let’s add current! Sure you looked good in your 20’s, but what happened? I went to meet the guy in the picture, not the aftermath.

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  • At 2010.07.20 12:39, jonathan L said:
    

    yes, i agree, part of the honesty being promoted here is the honesty to describe and display yourself exactly as you truly are. why tell a lie that will be instantly exposed upon meeting a hookup? i am a middle-aged bear with a small endowment, and have never portrayed myself as anything but. and the joyous discovery i made is that there are many, many out there looking for exactly who and what i am. be honest in your profiles, and you will be rewarded for it! lie or mislead, and it’s guaranteed to blow up in your face. honesty is the watchword, always. – Jonathan L

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• At 2010.07.20 09:29, W said:
  

  In my Grider-radius are exactly two headless ones, all the others show themselves.

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• At 2010.07.20 09:49, Nick said:
  

  Amen Davey!

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• At 2010.07.20 10:01, Mark Renn said:
  

  Unfortunately, this is too common. I know a lot of guys who own’t show their face. The problem: they are still in the closet, they are married, they are afraid of reprisals at work, they are just looking for sex. Plenty of reason, all selfish, why they don’t want to be open and honest about their sexuality.

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• At 2010.07.20 10:22, Davide said:
  

  Who goes to grindr and Manhunt any ways? Guys who have masturbational fetishes with people they never meet? Or the freaky crazy stalker who takes no for an answer? I rather live in the real world….than some homos fucked up fantasy.

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  • At 2010.07.20 12:44, jonathan L said:
    

    hey, don’t knock social networking sites – the vast majority of people on them are just like you – sincere individuals looking for love, compassion, kindnes, tenderness, and/or sex. yes, exercise caution at all times, but don’t be ruled by fear and paranoia. love, jonathan L

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    • At 2010.07.20 14:18, Davide said:
      

      Jonathan-I understand what you are saying I get it…but in reality many gay guys do go to those sites because of things in their own lives or a lack of.This is the only gay site I come to. To see Davey Wavey bare-chested? No in fact I wish he get dressed. I come to this site to see the comments from others. To help me better understand what other gays think. To me there is no need or desire to go to grindr or manhunt…all I am saying.BTW the vast majority of people that go to those sites are nothing like me. Grazie

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    • At 2010.07.20 14:44, davide said:
      

      Jonathan-I did wanted to tell you another thing. I did belong to grindr about 4 or 5 days about a year or two ago. I really thought it was a gay networking site, where other gays talk and vent. What I found out was this “Hey dude you’re hot can I see your dick” “send a picture of your dick” over and over again or “is that really you?” or “Hey man I live in ohio lets hook up” More than a couple got totally obsessed with me. Kinda wigged me out. Left grindr. That is why I come here, this site has a little class and rarely of the other crap that plagues so many sites. Us gay guys can actually come here voice our opinions (in my case piss off a bunch of guys)and leave. This site has a higher standard not so much because who owns it but the type of guys who come here. Websites such at breaktheillusion. com does serve a valuable purpose, even if we sometimes disagree. If I want to have a hook up–I’d go get a hook-up–go to a gay bar–but then my boyfriend would kill me. Grindr and such is nothing more than places were other guys can give out pictures of their own dicks, balls asses or whatever and get others in exchange. All it is. Why guys just hand out nude pictures of themselves I don’t get–but whatever. grazie–take care

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      • At 2010.07.20 15:54, jonathan L said:
        

        dear davide – yes, breaktheillusion is a wonderful site, but it’s not in any way in the same category as grindr, et al – those are sites designed to be hook-up sites, and nothing more, and as i say, i believe they have their place in the great scheme of things. if they’re not your style, then i totally respect that. i agree with you that the site davey has created here is a friendly, fun, spiritual, and issues-oriented place, and like you, i visit it daily and love it madly; but to compare grindr to breaktheillusion is really an apples-and-oranges situation! love, jonathan L

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        • At 2010.07.20 17:36, davide said:
          

          You think? that was my point from the beginning.

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• At 2010.07.20 10:47, b3n03vil said:
  

  Silly Davey, I know those tits anywhere. Now I’m gonna blackmail you or stalk you. Or tell your job. Or tell your wife.

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• At 2010.07.20 11:47, Marcel said:
  

  Please, let them decide for themselves. It’s none of anyone’s business. I sense some judgement in your post, that’s very DW unlike.

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  • At 2010.07.20 12:46, jonathan L said:
    

    i perceive it, not as judgement, but rather a plea for us all to love ourselves enough to be completely honest, with ourselves first, and subsequently with one another. love, jonathan L

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    • At 2010.07.20 15:39, Marcel said:
      

      That’s why I sensed it and not stated that it was judgemental.
      It’s an assumption that the headless masses are not honest and do not love themselves enough. A face pic is not “the only way” to be honest with yourself. Out and proud is not “better” than secretively in the closet. It’s a choice, consciously or unconsciously.

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• At 2010.07.20 12:29, jonathan L said:
  

  dear davey wavey – repeating a prior comment, amen, indeed! out and proud means exactly that. as tony kushner wrote in my beloved angels in america, “we won’t live secret lives anymore” – or words to that effect (i’m paraphrasing – it may actually have been, “we won’t die secret deaths anymore,” but anyway, roughly the same sentiment…). let’s not just say the words, let’s live them, each and every day. if we act shameful, we will be perceived as shameful beings, and more importantly we will INTERNALIZE shame. we need to prove the opposite is true. as always, oceans of love to you, davey wavey, and to the entire blog buddy community, who have demonstrated deeply-felt, enormously moving, and helpful kindness to me here in this blog, AND outside this forum in expanded internet relationships that have formed and flourished. kushner again: “the great work begins.” – jonathan L (two future blog entry suggestions to you, davey: 1. angels in america, your thoughts and feelings on it and its impact, both play and movie; and 2. the blog buddy community that has been formed here, thanks to you, a network where we interact, support, and express love and compassion to one another, all following your(davey’s) precepts of love and acceptance. (and, yes, sometimes we bicker, because nothing is perfect, and even bickering can come from a loving place)- those are both blog entries i’d LOVE to see.) thanks again, davey, for all that you do; much love to all…. jonathan L

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• At 2010.07.20 12:40, Rene R. said:
  

  afraid to step out i guess, but if you noticed they do it because they feel they have to. No one is forcing them to live like that but themselves. Those men don’t want to change their lives for fear of losing alot. I now believe its better to live in the truth then to live a lie

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• At 2010.07.20 13:47, JACK said:
  

  Hi davey how are you? I just started watching your videos and I love it, u are very cool and funny lol, I`m from brazil, but now I`m english student in ny, and i`m learning a lot english from your videos lol. Thank you for you videos. Bye

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• At 2010.07.20 14:03, FX said:
  

  This seems very judgmental. Not everyone in the world is at the same place and some people are not keen on having their full picture strewn to the world. Does that mean that just because someone isn’t out that they can’t hook up? I would think that members of the US military would be a perfect example. Their experience of the Universe isn’t the same as yours Davey, so show them some love and respect.

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• At 2010.07.20 15:17, David said:
  

  And while we are at it, why not use our real names instead of silly assumed ones.

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  • At 2010.07.20 17:15, David said:
    

    Like “Davey Wavey.”

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    • At 2010.07.20 20:50, jonathan L said:
      

      give the guy a break – he has thousands of fans, he’s got the right to lead a safe and at least semi-private life outside of his internet work. and speaking for myself, i DO use my real name. it’s – jonathan L

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• At 2010.07.20 15:44, Kurt said:
  

  They do that because of the shame they feel for being on those sites in the first place. They know that most guys are there for casual encounters and it brings them shame. I always feel for the headless ones because I was once a headless homosexual. I was filled with shame and embarrassment at the possibility that someone I actually know might find me there. It didn’t matter that if they found me on that site then they are obviously fine with it – its because we cover our faces to hide from the shame that our lies have brought on to us. Being proud is a journey and I hope everyone can get to the point to show their faces…if not to us…then at least be able to look at yourself in the mirror and not feel ashamed for what you do in your private life.

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• At 2010.07.20 16:42, Paul said:
  

  Hey Davey,
  Many of us had trouble posting our faces on the dating or hookup websites at least once in our lives. So, I just say, when they come out, they make it better for all of us. Until then, they deserve as much space and time as they can get…to get them to the point of getting their own Pride…

  Until then, we’ve got you and your smiley face and your hockey bum

  Paul

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• At 2010.07.20 18:37, Peter from Brazil said:
  

  Davey, you and your words are so cute. I’m badly in love with you. You can’t bet how big it’s in me…see ya blogbuddy! =)

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• At 2010.07.20 20:21, Stephen said:
  

  Faceless profiles are such a turn-off, but I agree that it’s a balance between online openness and privacy. I’ve found sunglass pics to be the happy medium. Everyone looks good in shades (no backfires yet, haha)

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• At 2010.07.20 21:35, oskyldig said:
  

  I don’t blame the people for not posting their face. The majority of people aren’t physically attractive to everyone so the reasoning behind it probably to ‘catch’ the largest audience without deterring any attention.

  I don’t think it’s the greatest thing, nor do I agree with it; but I certainly can understand the pressures and superficialities in gay-culture, and can see how it drives people to act in such a way. If you aren’t perfect, then you aren’t anything…

  The sad reality.

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• At 2010.07.20 23:40, Dugaldo said:
  

  You know what. I think I’m going to download the grindr app right now and plop my avatar right on there. I’ve been thinking it might be a good idea to promote my blog, and the online flirting wont hurt either.

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• At 2010.07.21 06:36, Marty said:
  

  Oooh, I love your body…those pecs, that set of muscles in your lower abdomen…not sure what they are called but I love the way they point to the money…can you lower the pants more, please…oooh….ooh….LOL…yeah, it is a crazy world. Me, I remember the days of cruising and all the elaborate eye contact, looks over the shoulder, toucing oneself discretely to signal interest…and then the contact, excitement and then moving away…a bit triumphant at the ‘catch’ but also a bit empty with the aloneness.

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• At 2010.07.21 06:51, diego. said:
  

  peinlich!…Wenn du eine tunte sein wirst…warum nimmst dein Kopf weg!. sorry!!!

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• At 2010.07.21 08:31, dancemonster said:
  

  Davey! I just wrote an article in my blog about this very same topic! About fakebooking more specificly… I love your blog and you!
  XOXO

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• At 2010.07.21 10:29, Oracle_sod said:
  

  I think people that don’t post pics are rather gut-less… if they are scared of someone at work seeing them, chances are that person from work is on there for the same reason… I dont know of any HR department that scans gaydar, manhunt, dudesnude before giving you a job…

  and to be honest, if you don’t post a face pic and you get knocked back by someone that doesn’t like your face, well tough… thats the risk you take… if you do put it up, you may not get as many hits/winks/msgs/pokes but you know the ones you get are from people that have judged and you have passed their interest test… because really… we all judge on some level, anyone that says they don’t at all, is kidding themselves…

  so yea… show your faces… you’ll be pleasantly surprised that the responses you get

  my 2c

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• At 2010.07.21 11:49, JoshiePooh said:
  

  I’ve never heard or seen anyone do this, but I’m surprised that someone would even though they are out of the closet, are they afraid of the world? Are they afraid of themselves? Is it starting out to be a trend even!?

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• At 2010.07.21 17:59, christopher said:
  

  to be headless on social network sites is oh so last century.

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• At 2010.07.21 20:48, Jerry Parker said:
  

  With a body like the one you’ve got, Davey, who needs to see your head? (Nah, I don’t really mean that!)

  Guys will reveal themselves as gay when they are ready themselves to do so, Davey, not when you want them to do so (which is right this very minute). Keep that in mind, though it does not do harm to remind them that they do not have to live in that cramped closet. It may not be good for a gay boy, teen, or man to come out too soon. He should be ready when he comes out. (Of course, surprises can out someone, like the magasines with photos of buck naked males in them that Mama or Daddy, or Little (Big) Brother finds under your bed or between the mattress and box springs of the bed!)

  Give the timid guy a chance, Davey!

  Pax, Jerry Parker

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• At 2010.07.21 20:55, Jonasan said:
  

  ._. no comment. i just have to say that most people are superficial so they only care what their body looks like and not their face. or some people think that having washboard abs are a feat to be enjoyed like “i am man see my abs?” having no washboard abs myself i cannot take a picture of myself. it may be the 12 year old in me saying i dont want my picture taken but im not photogenic….((off topic now xD)) yeah people only care about their looks. it is the looks that attract us and the personality that makes us stay.

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• At 2010.07.21 21:35, salvador said:
  

  wow!…
  I love it…
  SEXY…

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• At 2010.07.21 23:45, Nick said:
  

  lol dont you have a boyfriend? What are you doing on Manhunt and Grindr anyway? Tsk.. tsk..

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• At 2010.07.25 21:51, Morgan said:
  

  Hey Davey
  I love your blog and I am a very long time admirer! I just wanted to know what your comment on your nude pics that are circulating. I don’t know the whole story behind them, but I heard that you had people take them off-line. I will admit that i to little avail searched for them… Anyway, keep doing what you are doing. You’ve helped me through some tough times in my life, and I want you to know that what you do has changed the course of my life for the better.

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• At 2010.08.16 20:38, peter said:
  

  for me i think i kinda have to show my face in a pic…..face is all i got…unless they want something worse..haha lmaoo ur amazinggg daveyyy

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