On any given day, I receive over a thousand emails, comments and messages from blog buddies (and blog buddes-to-be) all around the world. While I can’t respond to each message, I do read them – and if certain trends emerge (i.e., a lot of people ask about a specific thing), I try to touch on the subject through a blog post or YouTube video.
Whether it’s comments or criticisms, I do a go job not measuring myself by either. After all, what other people think of me is none of my business.
Having said that, one of the most common criticisms I receive is that I’m “obsessed” with sex. “Talk about something different,” they often demand.
Let’s rewind to August 4, 2011 when I posted a collaboration video that I produced to raise awareness about LGBT suicide. I had worked on the video for several months and was excited to share it through YouTube. A week after posting the video, it had received only 25,000 views. On August 11, 2011, I posted a video about loud love-making. Within 24-hours, it received 40,000 views. Nearly twice the views in 1/7th the time.
The moral of the story is that I do post about things other than sex. It’s just that not to many people tend to read or watch them.
Moreover, I’m drawn to the topic of sex because it’s something in which I’m interested – and it’s something about which not a lot of people discuss. When creating the video about loud and vocal love-making, for example, I was blown away by the lack of resources available on the subject. Not many people are talking about these things – and I think it’s important to have a dialogue.
If I am obsessed with sex, it’s a pretty fun one – as far as obsessions go. Just watch TLC’s series titled My Strange Addiction to see what I mean. It could be much worse. 
August 18, 2011 at 1:54 am
Hey,
uI just started seeing your vids on YouTube that lead me here and i gotta say i like your blog! On one of your vids i left a comment about wanting advice and if you have the time i think i have an interesting problem to tell you about. Please send me a message. I need help!
Kyle (Lax_Brah)
August 18, 2011 at 2:13 am
Dear Kyle(Lax_Brah)[no dis-respect,but what is that?_Sounds like abadly fitting bra or a Gaelic laxative],
As much as I can figure,most help on this site comes from the legion of commenters (I have no idea whether D.W. sends messages directly to anyone).Lots of very sincere sympathetic/empathetic comments happen here (along with the occassional ball-busting/snarkiness)_____It might help if you wer to state your issues/problems:what you need help WITH.
August 18, 2011 at 2:21 am
Haha, you start out with “I don’t know if you are obsessed with sex…” and then just assume a whole bunch of s**t.
He has done stuff on HIV, and he did a BlogTV episode on it.
August 18, 2011 at 2:23 am
xD Probably a republican? You’re pretty crazy…but really funny. =)
August 18, 2011 at 2:31 am
Dear bill(guillermo3)
Its a term me and my fellow lacrosse players of the world use to describe ourselves however i may have adjustided it a little. And no disrespect taken. My problem is that when i realized that i was for sure gay i had just started relationship shortly before. Its has been a few months since then (i thought maybe it was a phase or somthing) now i am at the point where i love her, shes great. But i dont love her like she does me. I love her but shes IN live with me. At the same time i dont want my being gay to be out in the open yet. I dont know what to do. And for curious minds my stoupidity is due to my being an 18 year old guy.
Kyle (Lax_Brah)
August 18, 2011 at 2:53 am
I am a closet Republican!
August 18, 2011 at 3:49 am
Dear Kyle,
Thanks for the explanation…I know nothing about lacrosse.Don’t think you’re stupid,just that you can’t spell[a common thing today,I've noticed] and,MORE IMPORTANTLY,incredibly VAGUE:I didn’t know, until your last sentence,your gender_wondered at first if you were a woman who’d just started a relationship with another woman & that your feelings weren’t mutual.The actual situation is a HARD one,I think.Having done a pretty good job of f*****g up my life,I’m probably NOT the best person to give advice,BUT,I will advise you on your current relationship:I didn’t realize I was probably [or even maybe]gay,until my early to mid 20′s.One of the ways I tried to deny,or at least to avoid the issue was to have several relationships [a few of them long-term,most of them sexual] with women.Result:Hurt several women[most of whom I really liked,some of whom I really loved] AND myself.I don’t know how you should handle this:You could take the risk of telling your girl that you think you’re gay_maybe that you also really like/love her.You could take the equally scary[I feel]tack of saying :”You’re great,but our feelings aren’t mutual & never will be.It might help if you can find counselling from a very level-headed friend[perhaps a gay friend,if you have any],or a decent shrink.I really hope that some of the other ‘blog buddies” will have some insights to share.
My only other advice is sort of “House of the Rising Sun”-like:Don’t do what I have done.I imagine that as you’re an 18 year old jock,you are pretty hot now.Don’t be careless,but don’t waste it either.I would also say that [I know this to be true,from having been around,excuse the expression:kids, for most of my adult life]at any age,but especially at your age,sexual orientation is very often fluid/changeable.Wish I had known that as far as sexual orientation & behavior go :It doesn’t matter.
Good luck,Kyle (Lax_Brah)[I still think that sounds like a Scottish laxative].Please DO KNOW that you are not alone.
August 18, 2011 at 3:59 am
Listen,YOU COWARDLY SHITHEAD:!!!!!!S T O P!!!!!!
POSTING fake comments under my name.
I have never been,can’t imagine that
I ever could be a Republican. I AM:a
SOUTHERNER,a RED,and,apparently,UNLIKE
YOURSELF, a HUMAN BEING.
the REAL bill(Guillermo3)
August 18, 2011 at 4:00 am
No,YOU ARE AN OUT MORON.
August 18, 2011 at 4:13 am
@Connor[god,this f-ing comment system hasn't gotten any more efficient/definitely no less frustrating/infuriating] Thanks for both your remarks on my comment that included the R word!Crazy
AND funny:What could be better?!!
August 18, 2011 at 4:31 am
I am the REAL bill(Guillermo3. You are the fake!
August 18, 2011 at 4:32 am
You piss me off.
August 18, 2011 at 8:15 am
we are all obsessed with sex-its no different.and its intensity is even greater with my current lasting body transformation.DW-dont ever change a thing-keep doing this-just the way you are.
August 18, 2011 at 12:01 pm
You may or may not be a closet Republican [you have both my pity & my contempt,in any case].I do sincerely wish that you were in a specific type of closet:a black box with six sides.WHOEVER YOU ARE:You ARE NOT bill(Guillermo3).Two more facts:A).:
YOU ARE FILTH and B):posting BOGUS COMMENTS and do so purporting to be someone you are not is TOTALLY ILEGAL.
August 18, 2011 at 1:42 pm
Sad that sexual vids and blogs get all of the attention when the more serious topics don’t. It goes to show what is found to be valuable. And, I believe that sex, should be valued. It is a very important aspect of our lives!
You did practically build yourself based on the fact that you found your neighbor masturbating in the window! Which is hilarious. But of course, you’re not, “obsessed” with sex. You talk about a wide variety of things, and you often times do it with your shirt off because that is how you are comfortable! =)
August 18, 2011 at 2:19 pm
if someone doesn’t like to talk about it they probably don’t watch tv either because there is alot of it on there. further more when you educate people about sex it keeps people more inform but if you brag about a sexcaped ( which davey i dont think you do) then i understand peoples opinions. all in all we are humans and sex is procreation and its natural to do it and talk about it. but some drama queens need to stop demanding if they don’t like what they read then go somewhere else but i bet if they leave they will regret it, You have alot of interesting topics keep them coming davey…. your blog buddy Rene
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August 18, 2011 at 2:51 pm
Davey, you’re young and HOT..so why shouldn’t you talk about sex. At your age it’s a huge part of your life. Thing is, you don’t talk about it frivoloulsly..and you talk of many other things as well with a wisdom beyond your years. So just carry on as before and ignore the naysayers. One thing though..could you please allow your pictures to come out bigger when they’re saved
to desktop. They don’t fill my screen which I’d really like them to do…sooooooooo…help!!
August 18, 2011 at 4:53 pm
Dear real bill(guillermo3),
Thamk you very much for the advice. I have much to think about but i think you are right that teen sexuality is somewhat flexible at times. It all comes down to what i want and for now thats unclear.
Thanks again,
Kyle(Lax_Brah)
August 18, 2011 at 9:46 pm
Davey, When I was your age I thought about sex all the time. As I got older I realized that out that is NORMAL. Enjoy yourself and be safe while doing so.
August 18, 2011 at 10:32 pm
Thank YOU,Kyle(Lax_Brah) It has been a trying few days on this blog’s comment page:My spending WAY TOO MUCH TIME ON IT[up til past 5 AM today)_that's the least important complaint;
Some asshole managing to post many comments using my tag: All comments which are polar opposites of anything I personally think,feel,or believe,and suspicious activities on/arising from this site:BLECCH!! __I LOVE the DIGITAL WORLD:It's great for building up both my paranoia & my frustration.
SORRY for that venting_I'm [perhaps being incurably naive] assuming that you are area REAL PERSON,not some ‘net scam ,SO,Back to you:What you are going through now,I’M ALL TOO FAMILIAR WITH_was a few years older than you are now when GAY “fell”on my identity.The Anxiety IS NOT FUN!
I had realized/ wish I had known many years ago/very much you could REALLY KNOW NOW,what I only understood late in life: your,my,anyone’s,everyone’s sexual orientation[identity/ preference/whatever]DOES NOT MATTER. About all that__WHO GIVES A FCK??
I’M AFRAID I can’t agree with you that”IT ALL COMES DOWN to what I Want”.I was given well-intentioned,but very bad counselling[btw,just what i wanted to hear & believe at the time]by a very good therapist_that, even though it’s very difficult,I could control/even change my sexual orientation.That MAY be true for some,very unusual people,but in general IT’S NOT TRUE.I believe that the truth & the BEST WAY is to KNOW AND ACCEPT WHO YOU ARE.In the best of all possible worlds you would not only accept,but WANT TO BE WHO YOU ARE[fascists,child-molesters,sadists,tea-baggers,axe-murders,Republicans EXCEPTED,of course]
Best of luck to you, Kyle,in WANTING,KNOWING, and,most of all,ACCEPTING KYLE!!
the REAL,the ONLY bill(Guillermo3)
August 18, 2011 at 11:26 pm
@Kyle (Lax_Brah)Sorry for all the typos,Kyle !
What I meant to say was:”I wish I had realized,wish I had known,many years ago,AND VERY MUCH WISH that You could REALLY KNOW NOW what I only understood late in life:Your,my,anyone’s,everyone’s sexual orientatiom[etc,etc,etc,whatever]DOES NOT MATTER.”
AGAIN,Kyle,Best Luck,Best life!!!!!
August 19, 2011 at 12:12 am
Dear, bill(Guillermo3, Thank you for all of this advice it has been helpful just to “talk” to someone about this even if its anonomous postings. Your completely right, “what I want” Is not a possibility, and i never thought about it that way before. When I had these thoughts and such at first I thought that I would be able to control them and they would go away but the truth is they didnt and i need to embrace them.
Thank you so much the REAL,the ONLY bill(Guillermo3).
Kyle (Lax_Brah)
August 19, 2011 at 5:13 am
Dear Lax Brah [I noticed you've droped the Kyle and the__]Again,Thank YOU!! Not to go too far afield,but you seem real.I hope some of this really HAS BEEN HELPFUL.Just finished a long e-letter to someone who’d told me not to waste time arguing with ‘those idiot kids”on BTI.As some one who in early old age who is still trying to “come to terms” with my sexulity,I really like this site.i don’t think dealing with this stuff is ever easy for most people:There’s so much,REALLY UN-NECESSARY ANXIETY,but I would have loved to have had a talking place when I was young.Recently,I told a gay friend who has been out since he was young[he has a husband & 2 adopted kids]how much I admired & envied him for having the balls to accept and be himself at a young age.Now,Kyle,you have that opportunity too,AND however you turn out_gay,straight,bi_It’s all O.K.’Net is funny,isn;t it? We say things to people we’ll never meet that we might not say anywhere else.
Best,Lax_Brah,
the Real bill(Guillermo3)
August 22, 2011 at 9:24 am
Hey DaveyWavey!
I´m female, 45 years old and close friends with two gay-boys. They tell me a lot about their lives, -and their sexuality. (I think they do it, because they know, that they are welcome just the way they are. If there was more opportunity to talk about it, they maybe would not choose to talk to a woman, that could be their mother. I told them about your videos and blogs.)
I think there is a great need to talk about sex. Staight people do it all the time and see it in every film, every commercial and so on.
I think the way you talk about gay-sex is good and very very important.
I have learned a lot and it helps me to understand.
The way you do it is relaxed, not a bit disgusting, sometimes funny, always honest -it`s just the way it should be.
Thanks for doing it -
and thanks for the moving video about the LGBT suicide, that made me cry.
Both has to be said.
I hope you carry on!
Lots of love and peace!
September 27, 2011 at 9:31 am
Les gens sont hypocrites car parler de sexe, tout le monde le fait d’une façon ou d’une autres et c’est un sujet vaste de débat. De la blague au sérieux le sexe est le sujet qui ne se démodera jamais et qui passionne malgré ce que certains en disent. Pour moi tout ceux ou celles qui disent que trop parler de sexe tu le sexe est bien je leur dit que vos vies doivent bien être triste. Moi j’aime parler de sexe et pratiquer le sexe tout les jours car c’est un sport qui fait perdre des calories et qui déstresse (cela a été prouvé) – Moi je revendique le sexe !
September 27, 2011 at 9:31 am
Les gens sont hypocrites car parler de sexe, tout le monde le fait d’une façon ou d’une autres et c’est un sujet vaste de débat. De la blague au sérieux le sexe est le sujet qui ne se démodera jamais et qui passionne malgré ce que certains en disent. Pour moi tout ceux ou celles qui disent que trop parler de sexe tu le sexe est bien je leur dit que vos vies doivent bien être triste. Moi j’aime parler de sexe et pratiquer le sexe tout les jours car c’est un sport qui fait perdre des calories et qui déstresse (cela a été prouvé) – Moi je revendique le sexe !
November 27, 2011 at 5:10 pm
I guess everyone goes through a stage in their lives where they are obsessed with sex. That being said it’s not always all fun and games.