Today, I decided to bring in a special guest; I’m uniquely unqualified to talk about masturbation, so I’ll leave this one to the experts. Austino, tantric guru, teacher and friend, helps shed some light on a very sticky situation.

Is it true that most guys masturbate and cum in 3-5 minutes? Some do. However, no matter how long you go, most of us want to last longer and enjoy it more. So, Instead of racing to the end so quickly, lets see what happens if you go with the flow and tune into the moment. Here are a few Tantric tips as your guide. Let’s share stories. I’d love to hear what happens after you try some of these.

  1. Go Longer – Set your intention to make it last longer and create more enjoyment.  Try 30 minutes or more.
  2. Slow Down – Get in touch with slow and sensual. Move your hands slower.
  3. Love Yourself – Use this time to touch yourself with great love and respect for the perfect being that you are.
  4. Breathe Deeply – A few deep breaths will help you relax and enjoy more. Try making some sound on your exhale with an open mouth.
  5. Relax and Tune In – See what you may feel inside – tingling, heat, waves of sensations and more.
  6. Touch Differently – Touch you body all over. You body is a sexual instrument so play it like a symphony. Light touch, scratches and more.
  7. Stroke Differently – Try the other hand or use a different stroke. I have come up with 25 of them, how many can you come up with?
  8. Express your pleasure – Let your body move, shake, and shiver. You might even have goosebumps with all that movement, breathing, and sound.
  9. Enjoy yourself to the fullest – Surprise yourself with how much you can enjoy.
  10. Try Peak Of Pleasure – Bring yourself to a high level of stimulation, but not too far, and then back off and slow down or stop stroking. That is one peak. How many peaks can you have before going over the top.
  11. Rest In Bliss – Afterward, enjoy the sensations that you have created in your body from head to toe. Tune in once more.

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55 Comments

  • At 2009.03.10 14:12, stan_64 said:

    another great post. thanks for the info!

    • At 2009.03.10 14:29, frank Allison said:

      I had no problem today with a friend it was wonderful!

      • At 2009.03.10 14:41, Derek said:

        Davey,
        You should post a video for demonstration…. I don’t think that I am doing it quite right ;-)

        • At 2009.03.10 18:25, Ace said:

          30 minutes or more…is that a joke. The point of masturbation is to get in and get out.

          • At 2010.05.22 14:34, cameron said:

            are you kidding me? masturbation is more than just a quick thrill. you just must be doing it wrong ;]

          • At 2009.03.10 19:03, Sean said:

            I couldn’t agree more now that spring and Davey have sprung I’d love to get a look at what so many of his fans want to see.

            • At 2009.03.10 19:05, Jasna said:

              I wouldn’t say that. The point is to enjoy yourself. I’ve spent over two hours doing it once, and I’ve known a friend that’s gone for even longer.

              • At 2009.03.10 19:42, Jared said:

                Excellent tips for this wonderful Tuesday!

                Ciao!

                • At 2009.03.10 19:43, John said:

                  Yes, I agree completely. Why rush a good thing? The slower the better…masturbate as long as you can without coming…the key is to relax, and breathe…go for hours if you can handle that much pleasure…but go gradually…if you can last 30 minutes this time, try to reach an hour next time…have fun trying…I have gone for several hours, into quite a blissful state of consciousness. Make time, setting aside an hour or more for yourself. Enjoy mutual masturbation with a friend or two. See how long you can last. Relax. Breathe. mmmmmm.

                  • At 2009.03.10 20:27, ross mCdaniel said:

                    its so humuliating to talk about this… men here in the philippines even finds it difficult to admit that they masturbate. if you approach them and asks how often they masturbate they just smile and walk off.

                    • At 2009.03.10 21:53, Mark said:

                      “uniquely unqualified?”… I want details. Davey Wavey, do you have a harem of men at hand? Or are you just worried you’ll go blind and it’ll fall off?

                      • At 2009.03.10 23:09, Brad Horton said:

                        ok… ok… either I am going crazy, or you have posted this once or twice below… dejavu!

                        One can always use better masturbation though. I’m with the others. Sell a masturbation tips video, and you will make some MAJOR dough. hahahah

                        • At 2009.03.10 23:20, Dave from Windsor said:

                          I go for hours. I love it for a long time. There’s so much rush and hurry in our daily lives. It’s nice to be able to lay back and experience pure, unabashed pleasure without thinking about time and thinking ‘git er done’. LOL I enjoy the ride. The destination is just icing on the cake.

                          • At 2009.03.10 23:25, Dave from Windsor said:

                            If someone approached me out of the blue I’d be a little put off by it too. LOL All joking aside, though, masturbation is not something that is spoken of casually even here in Canada. Most guys would admit to doing it but from my experience there are few who, outside of their close friends, would discuss it woth others.

                            • At 2009.03.11 07:42, David AKA Boot said:

                              Davey..You seem to know how to do it when you were with me in Jerszzy…so we will stick to that method..It sure worked well!..hehehe!…Love “your” David

                              • At 2009.03.11 08:11, Jason crape said:

                                what a great topic to have to wake up to early in the morning.. I will try theses tips and hope for better resoults in time!!!

                                • At 2009.03.11 08:50, Ian said:

                                  LMAO woop woop when the g/f is out 2nite I’ll have a loooooooooooong quiet time then have a relaxin bath :P

                                  • At 2009.03.11 09:16, Wordshock said:

                                    Tantric gurus drive me up the wall – all this orgasm through breathing business, it’s a lie I say! A Lie! But that’s not what we’re talking about – Masturbation…Now, to be honest, I think we could all last longer if we wanted to! I believe it comes down to discipline and when we’re “wanking” having none and wanting to explode and feeling that rush – it won’t happen on every occasion, I’m sure we’ve all had a few hours where we’ve kept it going – but most of us also live busy lives!

                                    Wordshock x

                                    • At 2009.03.11 10:08, William said:

                                      I must agree with everyone else. I love your talky blogs but it would be so much more informative if you could demonstrate your skill in this area.

                                      • At 2009.03.11 10:20, christopher said:

                                        variety is the spice of life-so it is with masturbation.

                                        • At 2009.03.11 10:45, Lance Webster said:

                                          I find it fascinating that most people refer to masturbation obliquely. If you use almost any verb with almost any noun, it becomes a metaphor for jerking off. For example, some randomly chosen verbs: whip, pound, tease, powder, tickle, with equally randomly chosen nouns: noodle, potato, tomato, doorknob, moosehead….the variety is endless.
                                          I’m going to whip the ole’ noodle; pound my potato, tease my tomato, powder my doorknob, tickle the old moosehead, and of course all interchangeable, as I’m gonna whip the ole moosehead, tickle my noodle, etc.
                                          Go ahead. You try it. Be creative….

                                          • At 2009.03.11 10:47, Lance Webster said:

                                            Sorry …I got aroused by this discussion and have to go belabor my metaphor.

                                            • At 2009.03.11 11:02, ron said:

                                              hey, couple of questions come to mind, what does your mind do while your jerking like what does it think offfff – and how about your eyes, what you watching or how are they reacting to this 2 hour fantacy of pleasure? think of a cool hot wrestling hold myself that makes it togetherness in the actions you?

                                              • At 2009.03.11 11:25, Tony said:

                                                Recently I was introduced to webcams. I don’t have one but I’ve been watching these guys almost wack off, some do. These exhibitionist will show you how to hold off, wanting it to last a while. Watch them and you can spot what they do when they start getting there. Tips of the fingers, play with their butts, thumb action, etc. Learned a few things watch them.

                                                • At 2009.03.11 11:27, Andrew Reyes said:

                                                  oh my!!
                                                  Thanks for the pointers ;)

                                                  [xoxo andrew]

                                                  • At 2009.03.11 11:49, daqian said:

                                                    i did it this morning!!!Before I went to work.
                                                    XDXD

                                                    • At 2009.03.11 12:25, Chad Hensley said:

                                                      You’re so cute. <3

                                                      • At 2009.03.11 12:30, Sardinia said:

                                                        3-5 minutes? I’m gone in 30 sec. :)

                                                        • At 2009.03.11 14:04, Anthony Carlson said:

                                                          In my classes of english as a second language here in Mexico I always devote one hour to course words and one hour to masterbation euphemisms. I always let the girls off for those classes. The stdents think all Americans talk openly about sex because I always come out to my students as a bisexual. Most of them have never known an out homosexual. I always ask them how many years they have been masterbating. I never ask IF they masterbate. I always tell them that My maximum times inone day was 12 times.

                                                          • At 2009.03.11 14:10, gary bing said:

                                                            25 different strokes! Talk about fucking up a wet dream.

                                                            • At 2009.03.11 17:03, Jon said:

                                                              I love making noises… Not like over the top yelling but sexy. Hah I don’t… I find I like masturbating better when I make some noise hah

                                                              • At 2009.03.11 17:38, L. said:

                                                                Haha, awesome tips. I already tried the edging tip. Intenser orgasm guaranteed!

                                                                • At 2009.03.11 19:24, Noel la Belle said:

                                                                  That’s just raunchy. You can’t be serious? I mean isn’t that inappropriate too talk to students about..? Come on, Anthony. I mean, anywhere else, it would be hilarious, but not in a class (of -I’m assuming- high schoolers?)

                                                                  • At 2009.03.11 19:43, Anthony Carlson said:

                                                                    Most of my students are college graduates
                                                                    but you try to find a 16 year old that doesn’t masterbate. YOu’ll be looking for a long time and won’t find him. At the beginning of the class I ask them how they say it in Spanish. That breaks the ice then I start writing vocabulary words on the board. They always get a kick out of the class

                                                                    • At 2009.03.11 21:12, BigDaddy said:

                                                                      You need good spanking dirty naughty boy

                                                                      • At 2009.03.12 15:25, Grant said:

                                                                        haha i do atleast 30 minutes and alot of peaks. I used to think that it was wrong and i would feel giulty but now i dont, my first time was great, seems like we all try to get a great ejac in thats better than the last!

                                                                        • At 2009.03.12 15:25, Grant said:

                                                                          Thanks Davey!

                                                                          • At 2009.03.12 16:41, Kat said:

                                                                            Sean, tell me more about you :) .

                                                                            • At 2009.03.13 12:32, Doug said:

                                                                              Please share these web sites for use view too!

                                                                              • At 2009.03.13 13:27, almuzaini said:

                                                                                “…Actually,MASTURBATION is Great SAFE SEX!!
                                                                                do it by yourself or MUTUAL MASTURBATION with ur partner as sex alternatife.
                                                                                Frequency of masturbation is different time in every ones,for me almost everyday on the last time when i’m single fighter. but now i can manage my desire become twice a week on my bed or in the shower, beside i’m bussy for my working.
                                                                                there are so many tips i’ve got from anywhere for this, tips from DAVEY is almost similar like them. but ok, i’ll try it at home softly then forward this info to the others.
                                                                                Fyi, do you know i’ve got my cum in 15 minutes, yeeaahh!!! but,i ever got my cum in 30 minutes because after the party i didn’t get any partner because i’m affraid on STI & HIV / AIDS.
                                                                                so…enjoy yourself guys…
                                                                                believe in yourself..
                                                                                make yourself satisfy..”
                                                                                THX FOR THE TIPS DAVEY…
                                                                                KEEP ON FIRE..!!! (alma_zeni@yahoo.com)

                                                                                • At 2009.03.15 16:59, Joey said:

                                                                                  I totally agree. I have been masturbating since i was 6 or 7 (too long to remember) but now that i am wiched older … it can last longer and i usually make it last for a couple of hours.

                                                                                  JOey

                                                                                  • At 2009.03.15 17:01, Joey said:

                                                                                    lol llooll …

                                                                                    • At 2009.03.15 17:42, Sam said:

                                                                                      hmm.. so do you use lotion or go dry?

                                                                                      • At 2009.03.16 21:57, Juan said:

                                                                                        I do it once in a while and I think that it will help me to enjoy much better. You have the right information.

                                                                                        • At 2009.04.13 08:27, jammy b said:

                                                                                          i agree
                                                                                          :)

                                                                                          • At 2009.04.23 04:02, ehsan said:

                                                                                            yaaaaaaa fine

                                                                                            • At 2009.08.01 17:12, martin said:

                                                                                              me too, been bashing the poor thing since I was 7. used to do it 6 times a day, but had to cut back since I started working. lol. less time now, but still manage at least 3 a day. Go for it guys, a cock is a wonderfull thing, use it or lose it, if you dont use it regularly, you WILL lose the urge for sexual gratification.

                                                                                              • At 2009.08.29 05:20, dutch reeves said:

                                                                                                omfg u started a 6-7 could u even get hard then????
                                                                                                lol ummm well wat ever peace out

                                                                                                • At 2009.08.29 05:29, dutch reeves said:

                                                                                                  lol im 15 and already cant go off im less than 5 mins normally takes me 10-15 but if i want i can make it take over 1/2 an hour mmmmmmmmmmm it gets to the point where each stroke is a wave of pleasue andu cant stay on the board
                                                                                                  hhhhhmmm its making me want to jack off right now just thinking abt it plus my friend showed me this amazingly no insanely hot guy from california where i used to live and he is all i can think abt

                                                                                                  • At 2009.08.29 05:32, dutch reeves said:

                                                                                                    i like totally agree moaningand deep exhaling make masturbation so much more pleasureable
                                                                                                    :) peace out and go do some autoeroticism to show ur body how much u love u

                                                                                                    • At 2009.08.29 05:36, dutch reeves said:

                                                                                                      davey u said 25 ways so y dont u do some illustrations and explanations of them im so tried of the 3 ways i know cause 1 is so intense i cant use and other 2 are forehand stroke and backhand stroke

                                                                                                      • At 2009.09.28 17:43, daniel said:

                                                                                                        same thing with me about not being able to remember when i started. apparently we are unique :)

                                                                                                        • At 2009.11.23 11:05, Ya. ur correct. I too do same like you. My cock is 9.8 inch long. I masturbat 3-4 times per day without cum. said:

                                                                                                          I want to b inside this wapsite

                                                                                                          • At 2009.11.23 11:08, 9.8 inch said:

                                                                                                            Hi my dick is 9.8 inch n i too masturbat like u

                                                                                                            • At 2010.06.14 05:19, 010 said:

                                                                                                              This makes me a wannabe guy :B

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