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Dear seat-skipping straight boy,
November 28, 2009 | 98 Comments
Dear seat-skipping straight boy,
Last night, I went to see The Twilight Saga: New Moon with a friend, Craig, from Massachusetts.
My friend is gay and we were discussing the tendency of some straight guys (like you) to leave an empty seat in between them at the movies. I don’t know if this is an international phenomenon, but any American that has gone to a Friday or Saturday night movie probably knows exactly what I’m talking about. In other words, you are not alone.
Craig understands this spectacle first-hand. One of his friends is straight, and he won’t sit next to Craig. Even if they go to the movies with a girl, he’ll make sure that the girl sits in the middle. Craig assured me this his friend was tolerant of gay people – but I couldn’t help but wonder if this straight friend was tolerant of himself?
I don’t know that leaving a seat between you and your male friend is homophobic so much as it smacks of insecurity. It’s an act that says (at least to me), “I’m afraid of what people are going to think of me.”
To varying degrees, almost all of us care about the opinions of others. But the more we learn to love ourselves, the easier it is to move beyond the judgments of others. In the paraphrased words of Jill Bolte Taylor:
I know how wonderful and miraculous I am. I’ve seen it! If someone else can’t see it, that is their issue.
I don’t want to tell you what to do, but seat-skipping straight boys take heart!
Love,
Davey Wavey
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So true >//< Not to mention it does piss me off. Not a lot, but it does :/
i never will do that even because everyone thinks i am straight . i went for time traverlers wife with my guy friend and we were right beside each other we dint care of what people had to say
For me it depends on how well I know someone and how comfortable I am with them–I really have a lot of body space issues (in addition to my overall body issues) and there are times when, if there is enough space and I’m feeling a little cramped or just overly tense in general I’ll take the extra spot. I’m bi, and it does have something to do with my past, but it’s also because of personal issues–so I just take it as when other people do that they have issues as well. I would want people to understand if I did that, too.
I haven’t noticed the same kind of behaviour in straight guys in the cinemas here in Germany. But I HAVE noticed similar behaviours that stated EXACTLY what you have written about the fear of what other people might think of them.
some guys are even aware of the fact that they think along that line but they do not know what to do about it. They want to be tolerant, they are tolerant but they really don’t want no other person to thinkt they could be gay themselves!
so insecure…
I know. It’s the same with racists who don’t want to sit next to people of other races in movies and other events. Just plain stupid.
I have a straight best friend and thankfully he’s never done that to me because we’re very close and he’s really open-minded.
dear davey
as a straight man i have nothing against gay people hell if you wanner be gay that is your deal not mine tho i cant help but to agree with your straight male friend us straight men are often afraid of what we don’t know that includes me if a i know a person is gay and sitting next to me in a cinema i also move a seat away i know this sound crazy and just on this point i must admit im afraid to have a gay male friend the simple reason is im afraid if he all of suddenly think it is more then a friendship and i end up with a dick in my ass i know this might sound horribly homophobic but i assure you i have nothing against gay people…anyways that was just me 2 cents
wow… that’s rather… odd….imo
i regularly go to the movies with my (straight) male friends (im closeted) and all 3 or 4 of us will sit in a row beside each other- without question…
leaving a seat in between us sounds absurd lol
dear davey
as a straight man i have nothing against gay people hell if you wanner be gay that is your deal not mine tho i cant help but to agree with your straight male friend us straight men are often afraid of what we don’t know that includes me if a i know a person is gay and sitting next to me in a cinema i also move a seat away i know this sound crazy and just on this point i must admit im afraid to have a gay male friend the simple reason is im afraid if he all of suddenly think it is more then a friendship and i end up with a dick in my ass i know this might sound horribly homophobic but i assure you i have nothing against gay people…anyways that was just me 2 cents
Enjoy
Wow, that’s kinda weird. The only other thing I could think of is that some guys love space. Its nothing against you per se, but maybe they just like to have lots of room around them. For example, my male friend (who is straight) could possibly like me now, because I notice he’s now actually sitting beside me. Before, he would leave a seat between us in class. Maybe guys see the seat as “friend space” and the sitting next to each other as “I like you more than a friend” space? Don’t take offense is what I’m saying. If they’re straight, they see you as a friend, and that is why they give space.
oh ya… and were/im canadian…
and i’ve never seen other guys at movie theatres leave seats between them tbh
I have experienced this act by straight boys (good friends of mine) many times when going to the movies. I think Davey is over analyzing this subject because most straight guys want room and a dark movie theatre is a romantic setting. I don’t blame them. If I went to a movie with a gay friend who had a BF I would do the exact same thing and skip a seat. Guys like to stretch and scratch there sack without worrying about others judging.
think thats just an American thing to do!! you lot are a bit weird haha
definitely weird… in my entire life i’ve never seen such fenomenon! n’ been made aware of it makes my very confused about it! WHY SUCH THING???
I always say…
If a straight guy needs to leave a seat open because they are afraid they will have no control when the lights go out…
They have more problems than they know!
I always say…
If a straight guy needs to leave a seat open because they are afraid they will have no control when the lights go out…
They have more problems than they know!
j-sizzle pop: A dark movie theater is a romantic setting ONLY if you make it one, so I don’t think that’s the reason.
I do think it has more to do with what other people might think of them. Oftentimes their fear of what people might say is more powerful than their tolerance towards gay people. I don’t excuse them, but I don’t completely blame them because I was there at one point in my life…and I’m gay. Go figure!
I never saw that!
I live in England and that doesn’t happen here, I go to the cinema with my male mates (Friends) all the time. We all sit side by side, it’s the opposite here if one of us left a seat inbetween us we would all think that person is strange. It’s abnormal here to leave a space not the other way around.
If you are sat away from each other how can you talk to each other and have fun?
A simpler explanation might be that nobody likes sharing an armrest. If you put a seat between you, you both get your own.
It might be for providing some space, but I think that the real reason is insecurity with themselves, actually insecurity about the image of them that others would create… so I totally agree on this one
but I would probably be OK with these kinds of acts, it is important to forgive them for their acts because that is not homophobia, that’s just their insecurity about themselves in the eyes of the others…
Well, a couple of years ago when I was a junior in high school, a straight friend and I went to the movies during the middle of the day. Everything was fine until we went to sit down. He proceeded to leave an empty seat between us and sit down. So it was me, an empty seat then him. I was so perplexed because it was just the two of us! I looked him in the eye and just moved to the seat next to him. You could see the “fear” in his face as I did this but I thought it was just ridiculous. He didn’t say anything, he maybe got a little tense but by the end of the movie we were fine. I had no intentions of “messing around” or doing “stuff” in the movie, I just wanted to watch a movie with a friend and I think he blew it way out of proportion.
This should’ve ended as a practice years ago! I’ve heard younger guys don’t shower together after gym class anymore either. It’s voluntary now.
Especially in the US men are so hung up on such things! I’ve never understood why you are all so uptight! Most gay men aren’t interested in you anyway! Stop skipping seats! lol
Does that happen? I’ve never seen it/have it happen to me here in Aus. In fact, I just saw New Moon the other day with a straight buddy who happens to look like Jacob Black.
He spent most of the movie inches away from me, whispering comments in my ear. At one point he asked me if the couple on the other side of me might think we were boyfriends, then laughed it off. Thank god for comfortable, secure straight guys!
I’d rather have a seat between me and someone else because it means I get the army rest!
I love it when my straight friends sit next to me at the movies!
It is okay kewl you get to hold the popcorn!
**** This is a message to the Straight guy who is afraid of ending up with a dick in his ass! I highly doubt that a gay guy would rape a straight guy who considers you a friend. I wonder why you think every gay guy has the hots for you!?
Heck, I am gay and don’t ever worry about having a dick in my ass from my gay friends.
JUST RELAX AND ENJOY THE MOVIE!
I had an ex who did something similar when we traveled together. He would leave a seat between us whenever the opportunity presented itself. On the plane ride home one particular trip, I asked him why he did it, and he answered, “I’d rather people not automatically assume we’re together”. I responded “well there’s a simpler solution to that”. I broke up with him when we landed.
gay or straight – boys are raised to inflate their territorial zone around other men as a warning – just as a male wolf in any pack gives space to a dominate male wolf around it. violate the perceived comfort zone and your intent is to intimidate and challenge. so in many respects those who leave a space between themselves and others are not only “marking” their territory – but respecting the “comfort” zone of others.
That is soo true. I have two straight friends(males). One is very open minded and will sit next to me while the other is somewhat open minded and will not sit next to me. Even when in a crowded theather and you can see guys sitting next to each other, he still will not. He would rather have someone strange I think sit next him, rather than me.
Hey Davey ! You speak the truth and you always say the right things. I have got to say that todays picture is super sexy and actually gave me a deadly hard-on maybe you can loose the underwear in your next picture.
Does this really happen? It’s never happened to me here in Australia. In fact, I just watched New Moon the other day with a straight buddy. He was sitting right next to me, and in fact spent most of the movie whispering comments in my ear. At one stage he asked me if I thought the couple sitting on the other side of me thought we might be gay, and we laughed it off. Thank god for comfortable, secure straight boys!
Never heard of this happening. I’m from the Netherlands though.
I’m currently residing in the States, so I’ll keep my eyes out next time I am at the cinema here.
It’s really not the same: In the cases Davey’s talking about, the people came to the theatre together but sit a seat apart from each other. I’m sure the KKK member isn’t coming with a black man and purposefully leaving a seat in between them because he can’t stand him.
It doesn’t sound homophobic to me; just insecure.
I’m Canadian and live on the US border in Windsor. When I go out with one friend we usually sit a seat apart for arm-rest control. That includes most of my female friends and even when it’s me and another out gay guy. When we go out in a group or to a packed film we usually sit all together with no space. The two exceptions are my two best friends – Josh and Sabrina. We can share arm rests just fine between ourselves. LOL
i live in australia and no one does it here gay strait lesbian i mean no one i am always happy to sit next to my gay and strait friends as they are happy to do the same. maybe i just do not notice it because i am comfortable with doing it not sure
I don’t understand why you think he could put his dick up your ass if you didn’t let him……hmmmmm…perhaps you had better question yourself and find out how you truly feel about gays?
I go to the movies every Wednesday alone (lots of reasons for that) to an outer suburban cinema in Sydney (in western Sydney which is not gay-friendly). I often see guys sit one seat apart when there are just two of them. If there are three or more guys together then they all sit side by side.
I think that they feel if there is just two of them and they sit beside each other then other patrons will think they are a couple.
Davey, what you say about insecurity is spot on. Guys seem much more accepting of gay friends these days but they still don’t want people to think they are gay. Its not the usual homophobia we have experienced in the past, which I can assure you still exists in all parts of Sydney and Australia.
Be prepared if you leave the gay-enclaves when you come to Sydney for overt homophobia.
Ian
psychobable balls…
Hey Davey, since I go to the early movies, I am often one of a dozen folks in the theater, but DAVEY, if I saw a handsome boy like you, I’d definately ask if he (you) minds if I sat next to him (you!)
And, Davey, if I sat next to you at the movies, and it was a sad part, you can always cry on my shoulder, after all, if we can’t help each other through life, then what?
Love, Joey
….good for you! good ridance!
I’m bi and when I go to the movies, (usually alone), I prefer having no one in front, on the sides or in back of me…..for at least 4 seats. I enjoy the movie and hate being disturbed at any point. It’s not a gay thing at all with me. When an ex and I would go we always sat beside each other and often held hands during the movie, but we both respected the other being silent during the show. It drives me crazy to sit even a few seats from someone munching popcorn or opening candy wrappers, so I make a point to pick a deserted area whenever possible. Usually the first or second afternoon matinee is pretty well empty so it’s no problem.
Here in México if there is a bunch of guys and girls they would try to seat one guy one girl… but not so many would leave a seat in between when they know each other and there’s only two of them that would be silly. My guess is that they rather not go to the movies or would invite a girl friend to seat in between them. So it’s kinda international phenomenon. And then is when you know that they “accept” us but would not like to be confused as “one” of us. Too bad.
I’m so glad that you mentioned this, because it came to my mind that sometimes I also need some personal space, and that has nothing to do with someone’s sexuality (to start with, I’m gay)… but I think that seat skipping maybe has something to do with this need for space… I don’t like to go to movies, but recently (actually not so recently, before like month or so) I went for concert of Josipa Lisac when she came to Belgrade, Serbia ( http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O7vArPfpHkY sound is not so well recorded, but she has a stunning voice anyway) with my female cousin which I was OK with, but some older man had a sit next to mine, it was crowded, and I hated that feeling of physical nearness of someone I don’t know well yet… even in school I don’t like to sit with someone… and I know those people like 3 and a half years. So I guess that I would might feel more comfortable if my straight mate is nto sitting so near, actually I wouldn’t go at all, because, on the one side – it is so stupid feel to go with someone and there’s empty spot between you, and on the other hand – if he’s sitting near to me, I wouldn’t feel comfortable, neither… so I’m totally screwed up, anyway…
It really isn’t same, but anyway it is stupid thing to do to someone and i guess that it’s making one of them feel pretty bad and uncomfortable anyway…
Lucky you… I’m only “outed” to my female straight friend… and I’m not “outed” to any male friend of mine… but I’m planning to come out to my best friend who is brother of my female best friend soon… I think he’ll be OK with that, but nothing will be the same again
here, people often think that if you’re being gay, that means you’re going to jump for their ass first time you get the chance, which is so irritating and stupid thing to think… so they probably wouldn’t even go to movie with you…
depends on how many people in the cinema… personally when I’m watching a movie i’d rather give friends their own personal space… but if it’s a full house then I guess we’ll just have to sit next to each other… no major drama’s!
But that is silly insecurity… to begin with, if he knows you’re straight he wouldn’t try anything, second> who told you he thinks you are attractive? It would be same thing for some of your female friends to avoid being near you because she’ll end with dick in her ass or vagina… I mean, come on, that’s so irrational and sooo silly, sweetie, you are not god given example of irresistible perfection. And you sure won’t end up with dick in your ass if you don’t agree on that, and even if you’re ok with that, he might not find you attractive, and even if both of you are in mood for having sex, you are still in public, in the cinema, and trying to have sex in cinema is illegal and impossible and stupid… so, just try to chill out and have some fun watching that movie with him, like any normal friends would do!
P.S. And I’m really starting to be frustrated with this because where I live people even doesn’t want to talk with someone who is from “ILGBT” group, and “outed”.
Hmm… I HAVE seen this phenomenon somewhere before, but I don’t think it’s around where I stay. I’m asian, and we don’t seem to have this ’seat-skipping’ thing. (Unless of course the person were a stranger.
Sometimes me and my buds up to 4-5, sometimes more, all just sit side by side. I don’t see anything weird about it. Even if someone brings a girlfriend along, it’s more likely that the guy will sit beside ANOTHER guy and the girl beside another girl (meaning the couple goes “in the middle”. Coz guys would usually have more to say about the movie to each other I think. Same goes for the girls.
I’m gay, and my friends know too. But gay or straight… it doesn’t make a difference.
-BiRD-
wait, wait, wait, well I’m not outed, neither and “they” are acting normal while hanging out and communicating with me… BUT if you were outly gay, they might change the way of treating you… and they might do such silly things like leaving seat between…
once more>
ut that is silly insecurity… to begin with, if he knows you’re straight he wouldn’t try anything, second> who told you he thinks you are attractive? It would be same thing for some of your female friends to avoid being near you because she’ll end with dick in her ass or vagina… I mean, come on, that’s so irrational and sooo silly, sweetie, you are not god given example of irresistible perfection. And you sure won’t end up with dick in your ass if you don’t agree on that, and even if you’re ok with that, he might not find you attractive, and even if both of you are in mood for having sex, you are still in public, in the cinema, and trying to have sex in cinema is illegal and impossible and stupid… so, just try to chill out and have some fun watching that movie with him, like any normal friends would do!
P.S. And I’m really starting to be frustrated with this because where I live people even doesn’t want to talk with someone who is from “ILGBT” group, and “outed”.
yeah, but I still think that that is silly of them…
Here in Belgium, Europe, it’s not allowed to leave seats open.
God bless them!
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La la da de da da….hmmmm….now what…? Oh yeah……
Anyhoo, about the cinema seating business! I go often to the movies alone as my popcorn and choc top indulgence (ie enjoyment) is apparently (sic) not so on the (finishing school etiquette) side of acceptable social behaviour!
However, I have shared a movie outing with both sraight and gay friends and we always sit next to each other, how can we share oue laughter or fright without disturbing other patrons?
My bestie is a straight guy (and so adorable) but our friendship is unique that he has no issue with our differing choices of sexual partner, We are above being concerned about what people think, our times together are ours!
Oh BTW, I’ll be looking out for you in Sydney, be sure to bar hop the entire town, it’s such a fun place to be in the summer, the beers cold, clubs packed, bars are hopping and the men…..oh my, you’ll be right mate xxxxxxx
I am a total sydney sider and dam proud!
I wonder why it is a “Dick up his Ass” that he worries about.
Why that particular act?
There are so many other things that are more likely to occur.
Is a “Dick up his Ass” something he thinks about often?
I think it’s something he has a hidden desire for.
I don’t think most straight guys spend much time pondering this, for it’s not something that often occures when it is not something you desire.
I just don’t feel the need to scrunch up next to someone unless
I’m on a date with him – otherwise as one of the Three Stooges said “Spread Out!”
Idk Davey.
my friends are straight.
they dont mind going to see some movies with me and sit next to me. in fact, im in the middle and they all sit right next to me.
but i never really noticed that straight boys dont sit next to each other…
i went once with just one of my straight friends and he was fine and he even shared his drink with me.
maybe i should look closer to what other straight guys in the teater are doing
Its all due to societal and parental conditioning and totally illogical. I would prefer sitting next to a friend in a theatre or elsewhere to enjoy the movie together and have a chat before and after. To raise one’s voice to be heard by the other is nonsense. Leaving a space between smacks of insecurity on the part of the other. I too would wonder what’s wrong with him or her. Perhaps its an American thing! Insecurity and homophobia live all over the world, even in Canada where I live, but leaving the space still doesn’t make any sense!
Happily I never had to experience anybody doing this. I’d not have wanted to stay, because I do usually not go to the cinema with someone to be alone. As far as I know I’m the only gay I have contact with therefore all these straight guys behave differently from those in America. Living in germany…
Why be a hypocrite and of two minds, one in public and another in private. This doesn’t appear logical. Good for you for standing up to your principles!
And that zone will vary depending upon the society we live in but its all just societal conditioning and not logical. Logic and reason will dictate more enlightened courses of action.
~Paul, dunno whether ur referring2 Joey with ur: ‘…good for you! good riddance!’ But i am in total agreement with Joey! i could-Not have expressed-it with more love than he has. Wish we could all think-like Joey
’ Davey is “Spot-on” 
as-well. P & L to “All,” _ _ davvi
I happy he had the balls to dump the jerk!….and his name is Glenn btw.
How odd.
I’m an aussie and I haven’t seen this in the cinemas i go to. I’m gay and regularly see films with my straight buddy. We sit right next to each other and often whisper in each others ear. He is fine with me and other gay people because he knows we are respectful.
Maybe its an american thing
Lol my bestfriend is straight he doesn’t mind sitting next to me
I don’t have much to do with insecure seat skipping straight boys – all the hetero guys I have crushes on will sit right next to me.
As for the Twilight books and movies, they’re written by a Big Time Mormon gal. Most of the money she gets from them goes right to that horrid Church of the Yesterday Saints, so no way am I going to buy a ticket to see that movie. Do you want to fund your own oppression?
I did see the 1st movie (I didn’t know about the Mormon connection then) and thought it was an OK story, BORING lead actress, lovely lead male, but I don’t care how beautiful Robert Pattinson is as Edward the Vampire, I won’t fund the Fundies.
I’m Scottish, I’ve been out for nearly 15 years and I’ve never seen this at the cinema or theatre with my straight friends.
I like a double seat to myself on trains or buses but that’s because the seats are usually to small on those.
They might be afraid that they’ll accidently brush up against u & like it. that they’ll catch ‘the gay’. lol
Yeah, hm, but what if you buy tickets for specific seats?
Well that person isnt a friend at all I dont think. Although it didnt occur to me at first that the only reason he did that was BC he was afraid of the way people were looking at him and not that he was uncomfortable with his friend.
Also, everyone does that. no one is comfortable sitting next to a stranger and if they had a chance they would sit a seat away. We all like our own space, at least from people we dont know. It doesnt always have to do something with sitting next to a gay person, I mean if you are just sitting down next to a person then you dont know you are gay right off the bat.
LOL, i’ve never, ever heard or seen this in the land of the sydney eastern, northern or city suburbs…
could be cause i’m not looking though.. but i’m sure this is an american (or fear of judgement) thing.
too funny, i’ll be watching out from now on
People have issues, I have issues, you have issues, can’t change that without serious time on the shrinks couch! Cest le vie
If i saw at the cinema what i saw in the pic above i’d SO take the seat in the middle
ive had this split seat arrangement sometimes-but that is an exception.only with someone who really isnt close to me.not the case with my circle of straight friends.my straight friends we constantly sit close together.my best friend Alex-he is str8-but we have so many things in common-were so talkative-dont think we care what others think-if they do at all.oftentime we take the suburban train into the city.he to school-me to meet up with other friends-we sit together-drink together-laugh-bitch about everything.i would be crushed if we sat apart.but that wont ever happen.just because guys sit together doesnt mean its sexual.then again-i think its a generational thing.younger people fist pump-even hug.we value our friendship.—-i couldve on the last movie i saw-last week-i shouldve gone with a friend.i went to see 2012.if you see this flick-you need support.do not see this movie alone.
Hey Davey,
I think his insecurity might be more like, “Will I be able to continue to control my curiosity if I’m actually that close to another guy in a silent dark room?”. lol
lmao,
Kenneth R. Livingston
Hey Steffi,
Thank you, in reading your post I just came to the realization
that I am extremely opinionated all the time because, #1 I
actually don’t care what people think of me. #2 but because
in a way I want them to know I don’t care what they think
of me. So I just want attention, I don’t care what they think
so in a way I have to be an authority for them.
Thank You,
Kenneth R. Livingston
And when I do act a certain way cuz someone is there, I
manipulate my body language and behaiour to make them think whatever
it is that I want them to think so as to reach a certain
goal
Wow seriously nice post man!!
Cheers
Hey Mosaic Dave,
lol that was hilarious
Kenneth R. Livingston
Hey ~Paul,
lmao, such common sense is hard to find, lol
Kenneth R. Livingston
Hey gnjen,
On Your P.S,
I assume you are from a Fascist country?
Kenneth R. Livingston
Hey j-sizzle pop,
lol, I don’t think it’s Davey over analyzing I think it’s everyone else who’s posting that makes it seem that way.
Kenneth R. Livingston
Hey Michael Moniz,
Typo there you mean loose control, lol.
Kenneth R. Livingston
Hey Will,
That is so true, I can realate when you’re forced to share an armrest at a movie it’s absolutely frustrating, seriously I’ve gone to movies with people and sometimes when you have to share the armrest you almost feel like leaving the movie it’s sooooo uncomfortable.
Kenneth R. Livingston
Hey CJW,
On your last sentence, OK then :~ you sure bout that
Kenneth R. Livingston
I’m thankful to have good friends. I can go to the movies alone with my straight male friends and it’s not a problem. They’re accepting of me and secure enough with their own sexuality to hang out with me like they would with any other friend. I have had friends in the past who were too self-conscious… but I’ve found those people were barely friends. =)
Omfg! You’re so hot. :>
I wish I could have your body.(:
Omfg! You’re so hot. :>
I wish I could have your body.
well… that’s true…
how can I say?
hum… well, when I assumed for my friends that i like boys, some friends (of mine) just stopped to talk with me… and anothers, just stopped to look at my eyes….
this is soo sad, man… :’(
so let me say this: how could you call a guy your “friend” when he panicly leaves a space between you and him in the cinema? how ridiculous! how sad! how homophobic! and: how under-confident! how self-punishing!
yeah, i leave a space to other unknown people – if possible. yeah, i put a girl in the middle (it’s not sexual!), as it might be usable.
but i never watched such a scene here in europe!
I have never been in this situation! all my straight male friends are more than happy to sit next to me and hug me when we meet! some even kiss me. If there is a waryness with them its homobhobic on their part, they are out of thier depth, not your fault is it…?
Actually your friend’s friend doesn’t really seem to be a good friend. I don’t understand what is wrong with sitting near a person that is gay. Of course, if it is stranger (whatever if (s)he is straight or gay) I like to have some space, but it’s not necessary. But friends and space? Ridiculous.
Ps. Did you like that movie? Sadly I did not ._.’
ha ha
my “straight” friends do this, and I for some reason it never did cross my mind as you put it.
lol
my brother is like this to…so I asked him, and he said, he doesn’t want to be to close like that to another guy…
lol
I had a physics teacher in high school explain it really well. The Pauli Seclusion Principle. He called it the urinal principle. Electrons in an atom are paired in twos, however when there are 8 electrons in one ring they go on their own before they are paired next to each other. They don’t like to be next to each other unless they absolutely have to. For the girls in the class he called in the lunch counter principle.
u silly born and raised Americans? why does intmacy between two men always considered gay? um in southern Italy it is common for men straight men included to go somewhere hand in hand or arm in arm..no one thinks twice and all of Italy is not filled with gay guys! In my family we freely love each other, touch and kiss..to my “american” neihbors i am sure this was difficult but who cares. the theatre? i will plant my ass down wherever i find a seat..to sit right beside someone and no seat in between to me seems normal..i think its more of a american culture thing, than “a gay or straight thing”
I had a VERY STRAIGHT Italian Stallon friend John from Boston. The first time we went to a movie ‘I’ left a seat just so he would be comfortable about being with a gay guy. He was insulted and said “You came to the movies with me, So sit with me”. He always treated me so Squarely when it came to Me being gay. My own Boyfreind Gary would leave a seat between us. So I used the same ‘line’ on Gary. He never did that again. THX JOHN!!
My best friend used to sit next to me at the theater. But ever since I’ve been out with him he won’t unless it’s a packed theater. I’m not sure if I mind or not, more of an academic interest I guess.
What bugs the hell out of me is, that most “straight guys” think that if they have a gay male friend, they’ll try to stick their dick in your ass. WRONG! If a gay guy was to do anything, it would be, giving you a blowjob, or putting your dick in their ass. I would never rape a guy. But I sure would let him ‘rape’ me if he was hot. For the straight guys, guys give better blowjobs than girls do.
Trust me. And gay sex is so f^cking amazing!
Davey, You’re so amazing.
You’d be surprised at some of the ’straight’ guys that went to a movie recently…and I loved it. One sat behind the other, reached between the armrests and put his free hand inside the front of his friend’s shirt for about twenty minutes…thought of you, Davey.
Very hot!