When I look at this picture, my heart melts. I see the gentle and loving greyhound named Chipotle of which I am the caretaker; I see love.
When the lady in the elevator sees Chipotle, she immediately exits at the nearest floor. She sees, perhaps, an animal similar to one that once attacked her; she sees fear.
There is something quite curious about human beings: We don’t see things as they are. We see things as we are. Everything that we experience gets processed through an internal filter of memories, beliefs, knowledge, perspectives and so forth.
Even more curiously, we have that power to change that filter. If you don’t like what you see, change how you see it. I dare say that even the most challenging and bleak of circumstances can be seen in a beautiful light. Case in point: Think of the number of lives saved and changed by the recent slew of tragic gay suicides, and the bullying reforms that they will likely inspire; these boys will not have died in vain.
When you put a critical eye toward your own life, realize that though you might not be able to change what’s there, you can certainly change how you see it – powerful bitch that you are. So, on this Monday afternoon, I remind you: Don’t forget to change your filter.
October 18, 2010 at 3:49 pm
so true… love it
xoxoxo <3
October 18, 2010 at 3:57 pm
Love me now for who I am and who you wish me to be and think not of who I sometimes appear to be.
October 18, 2010 at 4:03 pm
You are so inspirational…
I wish I knew what it feels like to be you. Love you.
October 18, 2010 at 4:06 pm
Very Good post, but why ruin it by calling us bitches? I am a man not a bitch. If anything I am a prick. But whatever job well done DW.
October 18, 2010 at 4:17 pm
I agree but sometimes life distracts and we forget there is even a filter there. It’s good to be reminded. Thank you Davey.
October 18, 2010 at 4:40 pm
This is very inspiring and touching Davey. Thanks for your insight and words of wisdom!
October 18, 2010 at 5:04 pm
T. I went to your blog-very good. Very kind and honorable that you are speaking about STD’s and providing links to other sites. This is a vey important issue that all persons not just homosexuals.
It is my hope DW will stop being silent on this issue and raise a powerful voice, sadly actively gay men are spreading STDS- especially HIV and syphilis at almost unheard levels. Maybe DW will speak or do a video on this most concerning issue within the gay community. Thanks
October 18, 2010 at 5:34 pm
The newspaper delivered to me today had an article by Jeffrey Weiss of The Dallas Morning News titled “R time effective curbing bullying”. It explains how some schools in the US (they highlited Richardson, Texas) are using a simple program which began in the UK to help very young students learn to interact with each other. Apparently this has been very effective in England in reducing the incidents of bullying and harrassment.
Hopefully more schools will adopt this approach or find another effective way to prevent bullying in the first place.
October 18, 2010 at 5:54 pm
People fear what they don’t know, instead of trying to learn about it, they mostly jump to wrong conclusions.
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(don’t call me a bitch again btw
October 18, 2010 at 6:45 pm
Hi-Davey Wavey-I don’t like my older brother getting attacked on this website. No he didn’t tell me to come here, he kick my ass for even speaking up. Do you have a brother? Is he as awesome as my brother? Davide is the awesome and everyone loves his-and he’s built like a brick s**t house-he make you look scawny! I don’t think it is you who is the asshole but some guys here are. I read your website once a week- I called Davide and asked him why all the s**t-he tells me its okay. It isn”t okay it bites the big dick! Think some guys owe my brother an apology. Laters
October 18, 2010 at 6:48 pm
Sorry about the spelling I’m pissed off! My brother deserves none of this! He a sweet and loveable person who doesn’t take s**t from punks.
October 18, 2010 at 7:01 pm
Davey Wavey-don’t think Davide is against gays cause he’s not. I bet you didn’t know he got arrest in Miami, florida for beating two homophobes almost to death because they jumped two gay kids outside a gay bar. Davide beat the s**t out of three homophobes, one sent to hospital cause his skull was bashed in. My brother is not violent but he was defending two gays that would have been robbed, asses kicked but my brother stopped it and went to jail for the weekend. Bye
October 18, 2010 at 7:11 pm
no one thinks Davide is against gays. its just some people (not everyone) has different views and opinions than he does, and comment about it. its all about discussions. we dont hate Davide, we know hes not against gays. we love him. its just a difference of opinion..thats it.
i will apologize for the people who may have said something rude or mean towards Davide. if he feels,,belittled or attacked, then i will apologize for everyone too. its not really intentional. somethings just come across as mean but they dont want it too.
i will also add that if Davide IS feeling attacked, then he should say something, not his brother. but because he hasnt personally, we dont know it.
AGAIN:
i personally apologize to you and davide, for the people on this site who may have said something hurtful or mean to him.
October 18, 2010 at 7:42 pm
Hi adam thanks. I don’t know if Davide felt attacked or not. He would never admit it to me. He is going to punch me for defending him but he’s in Italy imma in Ohio. Davide is like a stoner nothing gets to him be blows everything off. I know he is passionate about God and Church we all are-how we raised and he knows how to fight and he never backs down. He would have defended any gay guys like he did those strangers in Miami. Even guys here who hate him. If you go to a club in a skirvy part of town-he is they guy you want with you. He has a black belt since he was like 18. He’s physically fit and never eats junk, soda but loves beer and wine. He is so going to kill me but by the time he returns to Ohio I hope he forgets about this! I am so dead! Lol actually he spoils me-imma his favorite! Bye adam
October 18, 2010 at 8:08 pm
I know, I know.
Deep breath Davey, deep breath.
xo bitch!
October 18, 2010 at 9:19 pm
Wise words, Davey, although I agree about using bitch in this context.
Mike
October 18, 2010 at 10:06 pm
aww your welcome. thats cute! i like that you guys have a good bond. keep it strong.
October 18, 2010 at 11:09 pm
Adam thank you for the kindness you have shown my goofy-ass brother. Only believe half of what he says- he was a crack baby and we found him in a dumspter outside of Milano–okay total lie
Skip-I going to punch you!!
October 18, 2010 at 11:42 pm
maybe the lady that gets off at the first opportunity isn’t actually afraid of chipotle, maybe she has allergies. my mother loves animals, especially dogs, but if she spends much time around them she is unable to breath well, she gets a cough, sinus problems, and sore throat that can last for days from only a few minutes of exposure. love your insights. hugs
October 18, 2010 at 11:55 pm
– TO FEAR WHAT WE DONT UNDERSTAND IS TOO COMMON TO CALL CONFORMITY. TO CHANGE FEAR INTO LOVE AND LOVE WHAT IS MISUNDERSTOOD, IS THE TRUE MIRACLE OF OUR TIME –
- ANONYMOUS
YOUR POST REMINDED ME OF A QUOTE FROM PHILOSOPHY CLASS. A VERY WISE AND TRUE STATEMENT THAT IS UNFORTUNATE TO BE THE OUTLINE OF OUR SOCIETY.
THANKS DAVEY!
ANTHONY -
October 19, 2010 at 12:01 am
Davide,
Thank you for your compliments. It’s not about me however. It’s for anyone in need, whatever the need.
To take Davey’s lesson, maybe you should change your filter. He allows links to websites, free expression of ideas, and does address some health issues.
He may not be addressing the topic you want directly but he does create an environment where it can be talked about, directed to, and learned.
Make it what you will. It’s your passion, write about it, link to it on your blog, and offer unbiased education. Solve the issue. Don’t wait for someone else.
Peace,
T
October 19, 2010 at 12:01 am
Um my school has Wat the call GSA aka gay straight alliance and seeing how ur an actives could u possible make a video about subicied that have been increasing in California lol forgot I go to John F. Kennedy in Sacramento, CA
October 19, 2010 at 12:26 am
Davey I agree that we all have the power to change the filters with which we are laden. I would proffer, though, that if people don’t know they experience the world through filters and if they store experiential information in filtered storage then they have no access at all to the knowledge of how to change or uninstall the filters. The things that limit us completely in life are the things we don’t know that we don’t know. For this reason alone, having a life coach or other counselling professional can be invaluable in moving beyond the things that once limited us. They are trained to help us distinguish our filters.
October 19, 2010 at 2:50 am
Probably one of my favorites!
October 19, 2010 at 4:56 am
Thanks I have addressed the widespread STD on my blog several times, no way can I solve it. Only hope and solution to this is education and prevention. The days of silence in the gay community must end. Thanks
October 19, 2010 at 8:17 am
I interpreted ‘bitches’ (a ‘gay’ colloquialsim?) as a term of endearment from Davey and smiled when i read it (i guess that demonstrates his point on ‘filters’)
October 19, 2010 at 8:20 am
Davide,
What is the link to your blog?
Thanks…..
October 19, 2010 at 8:54 am
Maybe she gets off because it’s her floor.
October 19, 2010 at 9:19 am
Thanks so much for this. I really needed this today.
October 19, 2010 at 9:46 am
I get the point of this message and there is a valuable lesson in it. I think it’s also caled “reframing”.
The exception that I take regarding this subject is that I have lived my entire life filtered. I don’t hold my boyfriend’s hand in public or kiss him in the movie theater during an emotional scene because of the filters placed on me where I live. Acting outside these filters could cost me my life or at least a disapproving glare. The str8 people don’t have those filters installed.
I refrain from talking about gay marriage or “don’t ask, don’t tell” in front of str8 people.
There have been only a couple times in my life where I have been truely authentic and that was when I threw off the filters and said, “f**k you” to the rest of the world and did a few things that I am still proud of.
October 19, 2010 at 12:03 pm
Davide, have you told the Pope to stop telling people that condoms use is a sin? That just might make more of an impact than anything that DW could say. And since you have your own blog, why are you telling others what to say on theirs? Say it on your own, dude.
Be well,
October 19, 2010 at 12:07 pm
Not violent? What does it mean when someone “based in” another person’s scull?
October 19, 2010 at 12:15 pm
Yay!! life sure molds us in so many ways yes it does but you are right its only us who have the power on how we should react to it keep it inside of us what we want to keep, I think I need to face my fears and try to make my world as positive as i can because drama and awful things out there will only be that if i let it.I can be the change the world needs
October 19, 2010 at 1:56 pm
click on his name
October 19, 2010 at 1:59 pm
Greg, my brother over-exaggerates. Technically speaking I did not bash in anyone’s skull.
I was leaving a gay bar in Miami, Florida (coconut grove) two skinny gay guys (twinks) who could never defend themselves was being harassed by two guys that were clearly not gay was trying to cause s**t with them, probably beat the crap out of them and steal their money. I don’t need to explain this type of s**t happens all the time to some gay guys.
I walked up to the guys and asked what the problem was. One guy threw a punch at me, I stepped back to avoid then I clocked him in the face..down he went. The other guy jumped on my back, arm around my neck choking me.I grabbed him by the back of his head, bend slightly forward and tossed him over in front of me. He gets in my face and I clocked him too. His head smashes against this concrete bench knocked out cold.
Cops come, ambulance come. I am hauled off to jail one of the guys is sent to the hospital for a busted face and skull fracture…come Monday morning the two twinks was question further I went to a judge released..charges dropped I came home. End of story.
As for your Pope comment don’t be blaming the Holy Father for the spread of AIDs and other STDs it is clearly the fault of homosexual men who are not using safe-sex measures, namely abstinence, since this is impossible for most; condoms….but even that is not 100 percent safe.
Think it would be beneficial for both of us if you simply left me alone.
The moral of the story two twinks enjoyed the rest of their weekend, I went to jail and two skin heads-homophobes got the s**t knocked out of them by this faggot!!! I am sure the didn’t tell their girlfriends or wives that a queer kicked their ass!!
October 19, 2010 at 2:07 pm
I’ve got MINE changed!!! Cheers! XOXO -Stu
October 19, 2010 at 11:42 pm
I’ll stick to, better safe than sorry. LOL!
Some filters are important to protect us from real dangers. If you have a gut feeling then go with your gut. That is usually the best way to deal with things in the real world. Proceed with caution and know your own limitations.
Take care all.
Chuck
October 20, 2010 at 12:59 am
I think this is why Davey challenged us saying “If you don’t like what you see, change how you see it.” If your filters work well for you, no need to change them. If they limit you then change them.
October 20, 2010 at 2:30 am
Some things can never be changed. You just have to accept things for the way they are in life.
“God, grant me the serenity to accpet the things I cannot change. Change the things I can. And the wisdom to know the difference.”
A saying my Mother taught me when I was young and it still holds true to this day. It has got me through some of the most difficult times in my life. She may not have known in what ways it meant to me personally because I was bullied and picked on throughout all my years in School. It taught me more about Human Nature than it did any other academic I was supposed to be learning but of course ended up hating going to School every day for that very reason. I can only imagine what my life would have been like if I actually enjoyed going to School every day, but I will never understand Human Nature. It never ceases to amaze and disappoint me.
Take care all.
Chuck
October 20, 2010 at 10:16 pm
The serenity prayer is a great thing and I agree there are some things we cannot change. But I hold it true that we can, if we want to, change our minds about anything. It sounds to me like you don’t want to know or hear anything different than you already know. And if it’s working for you then keep it.
November 5, 2010 at 2:08 am
You have a wonderful looking dog. It is so sweet to see videos where you are with your dog and you can just tell the dog is so happy to be with you and knows you love him(her?)I have a soft spot in my heart for animals and wish I was in the position to be able to take care of one right now. Thanks Davey Wavey.
Jeremy
December 1, 2010 at 5:00 pm
Wow! Thank you! I always wanted to write on my website something like that. Can I include a part of your post to my blog?