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GOOD RIDDANCE, 2009!
December 30, 2009 | 25 Comments
During a recent interview, I was asked, “Does Davey Wavey ever have a bad day?” I don’t. And that’s the honest to God universe truth.
[I] never [have] a bad day. The hardest days are usually the best, because those are the days with the most learning experiences and opportunities for evolution. I don’t always have a smile on my face, and sometimes I’m grouchy, but I do have an undying love for this adventure that we’re all on.
I never have a bad day. And, similarly, I never have a bad year.
2009 hasn’t been easy for a lot of people. It certainly has had it’s fair-share of setbacks (marriage equality voted down in CA), challenges (the economy) and disappointments (continued wars). But because of this, it has also been a year full of lessons and opportunities for growth.
In 2009, I learned that everything is going to be okay. That’s my lesson of this past year. Take a few deep breaths, things will be okay.
The other day, I received an e-mail from a blog buddy. This past year, he was hospitalized. He lost his job. And then his house burned down. He said that these obstacles were the greatest things that had ever happened to him; he felt blessed. Incredibly blessed.
Things will be okay. And if we can learn from the speed bumps that come our way, things won’t just be okay – they’ll be even better.
So, in honor of an even better 2010, what are some of the things that you learned in 2009? Leave your answers in the comments.

















i learned that i’m so lucky to be gay.
David,
It’s not the first time I read an article on blogs talking about you. You are well appreciated, yes, maybe sometimes a bit criticized but I’m glad that you never let people indifferent. That said, I ‘ve learned nothing special in 2009!
bye,
I learned the same thing as you Davey. I also learned that I have the power to control how my day is going to be by making the right decisions.
I learned to breathe when things go wrong. Similar to you, I learned that life goes on even when life is very rough. I learned to let things go a lot easier.
well Davey, I invite officially you in Italy, when you want to run here!
Happy new year!
2009 was exactly the same for me too. I made it this far, everything has been alright; everything will be alright. After finishing my mediation, the morning light fell on big snowflakes blanketing Santa Fe; life is good!
Setbacks are one thing, but realizing personal shortcomings is quite another. With a setback, you’ve simply found yourself in a situation outside of your control, which you must make the best of. Things didn’t go your way, but it’s not your fault. When we realize we’ve sold ourselves short, on the other hand, we find ourselves in situations entirely of our own doing, which we ourselves must rectify. And because we dug ourselves into this hole to begin with, sometimes it can be all the more difficult to come to terms with the fact that we are, in fact, able to dig ourselves back out. Owning up to what we’ve done requires a special kind of self-acceptance and self-love, but it’s a love that’s forged in fire. Learning that I had a choice to forgive myself, and then choosing it, has been one of the most cathartic moments of my life so far. Tom Robbins wrote, “Embrace failure. It is the only way you will ever be free.” I learned this truth the hard way, but I’m so glad that I did.
Here’s to 2009: 2010 is looking up.
During the past year I have learned to appreciate the things around me ….husband, family, friends, dog. I had a health scare and instead of freaking out and dwelling on the negative side of things, I chose to deal with the situation and move ahead. And you know what? It works!!!
I overcame depression and suicide and learned that life is great when you look at it in the right light!
I’ve learned to let go and let god/universe, which just so happens to be today’s daily word. When I trust that all is exactly how it’s supposed to be for the highest good then life is no longer a struggle. I go about my life with intention and purpose and I allow myself to bend and adjust to life at this moment which is all that we really have. The past is just that, The future is still a mystery the NOW is a gift which is why it’s called the PRESENT.
I’ve experience a major year of transition in 2009. I shifted and was shifted all at the same time into a new thought and experience. It’s brought me to different comprehension and understanding which has given me much peace and joy.
I have experienced that when I come to alignment with the now I AM alive, at peace, filled with love and joy and all is well.
When I experience the past or expect/want for the future I experience a lack or fear mentality and I no longer am centered and aware that I have all that I need.
The more time I spend in the NOW the less time I loose being stuck in the past or dreaming about a different future.
Being in the NOW allows me to choose my path, my experience and my blessings.
I experienced much gratitude this year when I BEcame aware of all the blessings I have and I experience on a daily basis. When I chose to see all things taking place in a new light. Old experience were left behind and an opening was create for new ones.
2009 a year of learning yes – but mostly a year of unbelievable spiritual awakening – a deepening sense and appreciation for the spirits around us – and an acknowledgement that love is sometimes all we need.
may you DW and all the blog buddies have a blessed 2010 filled with the joy, love and passion for life you inspire in all of us. Peace.
Davey,
2009 has been a year of learning for me…both academically and mentally. I have learnt that if I believe in myself completely I can achieve what ever I want. If you’d asked me at the beginning of 2009 where I’d be in two years time I’d have said ‘finishing my degree’. Yet through me believing in myself I am now instead working for one of the worlds biggest pharmaceutical companies. Something I myself wouldn’t have believed possible.
It took me 20 years of life, a miserable relationship and one fantastic counsellor to build that trust/confidence in me as a person. I just hope 2010 will continue building on that. As such, my New Years resolution I have decided is to spend more time using my skills and abilities to help others less fortunate than me. I’ve been given the chance of change…now its time they are given that too.
I learned that are a lot of beautiful, loving, caring and generous people who I am extremely proud to know them, and that at the end of the day it these people that made 2009 a fanstastic year!
Also I have learned of the power of being positive (at an interview for a job I desperately wanted, but did not get)
I discovered your blog in Summer 2009 and it changed my life. You are the highlight of my year. Thank you. Your words of wisdom and love have really helped me, even if you don’t know the details.
That I am fortunate enough to be a homo
well-if i was str8-i would never have encountered this DW-blog and the gr8 blogbuddies here.so again-why would i want to be str8?
i can see DW-posing for the camera-nearly naked at a Piazza.
i persisted with govt agencies-im getting some money-to help pay the bills-and my life turns around in a big way end of january.
In 2009 I learned that most of the things which surround us are fake. Happy 2010, buddy!
I discovered:
A 401k can go down over $100k in value and I’ll survive.
I am truly loved by my partner, family, and friends
I’m nearly 47, and I’m still learning each day.
I left a job that was toxic and I started a second career with 2nd graders. I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE my “work”.
MONEY is the root of all evil if you make it your first priority
People are in need around us, help them, they’re very appreciative – it will make you feel better.
Volunteer work is not work.
We’re more connected than we think. Is it just me or has the world opened up a little bit more? Are we more connected b/c of the extra challenges this year?
Happiest of years and Peace Davey!
Steven in Dallas
Way to go AJ! Have a peaceful, most wonderful new year buddy.
I never have bad days either. I have a photograph that I look at when ever I think I’m having a bad day, and because I am not the subject of the image I can find profound gratitude for things like electricity, running water and food.
If you are interested you can find the image by googling Kevin Carter Pulitzer. The image won the Pulitzer Prize in ‘94. It is a *very* powerful image. Be sure you are ready to view it.
i did as you said, Michael and you were “Spot-on” regarding the image. It is “heart-breaking
.” … And Kevin, in the end, committed souicide
.’ i can only believe his death was triggered by those of whom later criticized him for his not having picked-up the child and carried her the rest-of-the-way to the un food-bank. idk, but i’m totally saddened to tears. Thank-you, Michael. … … Love and Peace to you, Davey and All here, – - – davvi
In his suicide note Kevin mentions what he has ’seen’. He worked as a photographer primarily covering violence and unrest he saw many people dead or being killed. The thing in the note that he keeps referring to is a lack of money. Depression may not have been his only demon.
When I look at the photo it grounds me, it helps me find gratitude for the simplest of things.
I learned that what I focus on will come to me.
In effect of that, I control the aspects of my life.
I also realized (from you Davey) that every person is doing the very best they can at any given time.