The other day, I was talking to someone about reputations. We were talking about strippers, and he made a comment that he wouldn’t want to tarnish his name.
In my humble opinion, more important than how others view you is how you view yourself. If you truly love dancing on a pole, and if feel that it is your way of giving back to the world, then I say shake that ass! In fact, shake that ass like you’ve got no class. Regardless of how others view you, you can be at peace with your actions.
My reputation isn’t high too on my list of priorities. If someone wouldn’t hire me because of something that I do and love, then I probably wouldn’t want to work for him or her. If someone wouldn’t want to be my friend because of the things that I’ve done, the friendship probably wouldn’t be worth cultivating in the first place.
In fact, many could argue that this blog is damaging to my reputation. It probably is. But I love this blog. I enjoy the discussions we’re able to have and the message of love that we communicate. Silly as it may seem, I feel that this blog is an important part of my life’s path. It’s a piece of my dharma. Whether my reputation is tarnished by my online presence seems so relatively unimportant.
A reputation is what you are thought to be, but your character is what you are. When you are true to yourself, the thoughts and judgments from the world around you are insignificant in comparison.
From strippers to bloggers and everyone in between and beyond, it behooves us to spend less time worrying about how others view us (and the consequences of those judgments) and more time doing the stuff we love. Life is short, bitches.
June 30, 2009 at 7:14 pm
A lot of stuff has been done for reputations.People hurt and dispose of them to protect what they look like around their friends.It’s something that should be on the bottom of the list (or the top depending on how u make a list.)
June 30, 2009 at 7:18 pm
I screwed up when I wrote that first part.I wanted to put in people in between hurt and and.hopefully it can still be interpreted.
June 30, 2009 at 7:14 pm
I think the same thing. And I’m loving read your posts, that’s constructive. Life is short, so pass fast to dessert!
June 30, 2009 at 8:28 pm
I love this blog, too. And who cares about reputations? I say let it all loose!
If life gives you lemons, put that s**t in yo bra and WORK THAT s**t.
June 30, 2009 at 8:33 pm
Exactly. Be yourself and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.
You are amazing Davey, please, never lose your great and positive attitude. <3
July 1, 2009 at 8:19 am
Brandon-i need to remember your words-those who mind dont matter.yeah-i need to live by those words-everyday.
July 1, 2009 at 1:17 pm
I’m glad, Christopher, that those words resonate with you, they have personally with me. The quote is actually one of Dr. Seuss’s. Go figure, eh? <3<3<3
June 30, 2009 at 8:44 pm
Its the 360…
How we view ourselves.
How others view us.
How we want others to view us.
Each of which have different degrees of variation and wil never be similar. To me a persons reputation falls under the “How we want others to view us” category. By that merit, your reputation will never be what you think it is. Its an internal manifestation of how you want others to view you. Since that is never going to be identical to the way they actually view you… why worry?
B xo
July 1, 2009 at 4:25 am
also… did you photoshop your eyes in that photo? If not theyre amazing!!! If so GREAT JOB lol
June 30, 2009 at 9:33 pm
I agree, we shouldn’t squander our time and energy in what people think about us,
As to the reputation part of it, In my opinion this blog, your YouTube channel and your other internet channels has been building a brilliant image and positive reputation, you are doing excellent by not listening to people who say otherwise.
Cheers
June 30, 2009 at 10:03 pm
Davey,
I think your blog is insightful, witty and smart. You shine beautiful light into our lives every day from where you are and that is an accomplishment. I don’t think you have a bad bone in your body, (or do you) “thinks naughty thoughts” I have often heard it said that “what people think about us is none of our business.”
You keep on doing what you are doing. Karma comes round ten fold so what people sow is what they will reap.
Jeremy
June 30, 2009 at 10:12 pm
Davey,
just started to read your blog and I’m already loving it
life is short, let’s wreck havoc
June 30, 2009 at 10:14 pm
dav, you are totally right!
June 30, 2009 at 10:32 pm
How is your blog ruining your reputation?? It’s not like you’re a big fat douche bag and saying douchey things,like a douche would.lol that was redundant.
I have friends who are terribly unhappy because they think they have to maintain a reputation. They think they have to act a certain way or hang with certain people so that their friends on the football team or drama department etc won’t think less of them. I really hate to see it but they’ll see the error of their ways soon. Those people they are trying to impress won’t be there for them in the future when they’re sad,angry,or just want to be themselves. I know this because I’ve seen it over and over again and it’s happened to me. ever since i stopped that whole reputation thing,my rep has actually improved. When I started being true to myself,the number of my friends increased dramatically. I know quantity doesn’t matter when it comes to friends,but I’m just saying. Okay sorry about that. I wrote too much! O_o
June 30, 2009 at 11:10 pm
I agree with you to an extent Davey but you seem to be mixing your philosophies. Your character is not who you are, it is but a fraction of the things that make up the illusion of self.
I agree with you that reputation should not be important and that you should do what you feel is good, but then again, reputation is how others prejudge you. Whether you like it or not, your reputation is stuck to you and others will judge you based upon it. I believe it is more important to cultivate your reputation on your character, be as real as you can be and let your reputation be as true as your real self.
Just remember, character is as much an illusion as reputation, so try to break both to become free. hehehe, break the illusions.
July 1, 2009 at 1:07 am
omg love your blog and i 100 percent agree with you
July 1, 2009 at 2:57 am
If I were to live my life worrying about what others thought of me, then I would not have much of a life of my own. I do my thing, enjoying my life to how I want to live it. Not how others believe I should live it. I have very few friends, but what I do have, they mean the world to me. I choose not to surround myself with people who do not care. If they cannot accept me for who I am, then I do not need them there at all. I have about five or six true friends, and I couldn’t be any happier with them.
July 9, 2009 at 9:43 am
could I be your friend. I love you just the way you are.
July 1, 2009 at 4:01 am
Davey – a great mission statement for your blog – good for you!
July 1, 2009 at 6:13 am
Dear Davey,
You have “nailed it” once again! Hey speaking of nailing, oops, sorry Davey, I was looking at your picture this morning and thinking, well you know
~
Love, Joey
July 1, 2009 at 6:27 am
I’m not dishy enough to strip – I’ll keep writing instead.
Shouldn’t this be a talky-blog instead?
Yes please.
July 1, 2009 at 6:33 am
Reputation is important to yourself first. If one I’d happy with oneself, then you can hold your head high.
July 1, 2009 at 6:36 am
Who are we to decide what is good or bad for another?
From the perspective of Infinity, we are all doing exactly what we need to be doing.
July 1, 2009 at 6:48 am
I had yet another prostitute approach me and gave me what I considered a low ball offer. She (Yes, I know–please.) said that basically I was cute enough to do for free but “baby needs new shoes.” I said that actually I charge several times the rate quoted, but not to despair because my “day job” consists of selling things that you really can’t afford nor can I and really don’t “need.”( I can’t afford myself.) The only difference in our business is the price we charge for our goods and services–yours being more honest and respectable than mine.I offered to make a donation for the cause a la donating money for girl scouts selling cookies and telling them to keep them feigning diabetic (almost true, now). Why am I not surprised she wanted to “party” with me? You should not be surprised that a condom will not provide a warm and fuzzy anymore than what will later be given will make you more than fuzzy. Kids, addiction goes with the territory–I know it sounds trite but in the words of Nancy Reagan, “Just say no.”
July 1, 2009 at 6:57 am
EH?
July 1, 2009 at 7:01 am
Liked the video. Hey Davey, don’t come up your toes when you do squats- you are shortening and tightening your calf muscles
July 1, 2009 at 7:36 am
David,
I love your posts and I don’t think, Honey, that you’ve shrunk your reputation with your blog, on the contrary!
I’m not gay and I would enjoy to work with somebody like you, mutual improvement (lol).
Once more,I like what you wrote and I agree with you but…. it’s not the first time!
I read your post carefully (twice for a foreigner!) and I must say I like this sentence : “it behoves us to spend less time worrying about how others view us (and the consequences of those judgments) and more time doing the stuff we love. Life is short, bitches”.
It’s true that I spend too much time worrying of what others think of me. That’s not life! And when you write that, then I think it is time for me to remind me to do ALL the things I love. Yeah, “Life is short!”
Good stuff David!
bye,
July 1, 2009 at 8:53 am
Someone wrote a book years ago-
“What you think of me is none of my business”
The less “A tension” we put on ourselves with things going on outside of ourselves, the better.
Love the shirtless DaveyWavey… less is more!
July 1, 2009 at 9:15 am
As long as you can sleep at night and feel that you can hold your head up, why should you care what other people think about you. I know a couple that just care about appearances and they are the most miserable people I know. Like you said life is too short.
July 1, 2009 at 9:55 am
I’ve never worried about my reputation and have always had a great time. I never resisted temptatation and don’t regret a thing. People admire me and my reputation is legendary.
July 1, 2009 at 10:05 am
While I think it serves no purpose to worry about what others think of us – our reputation – I do believe we are responsible for how we show up in the world. People are going to have opinions of us regardless of what we do. They will make judgements and assessments that are subjective and based upon their feelings and their experiences. As Dr. Joy Browne might say, these opinions are interesting but not terribly important. They are more a reflection of the character of the person holding them than the person they are about. An objective look at someone’s life – looking only at what they do and disregarding any interpretations or experiential feelings – would give you a better picture of how someone conducts his or her self.
July 1, 2009 at 10:27 am
Happy Canada Day, eh!
We have a great reputation as Canadians. Not a bad thing. But we also have our odd-balls and our loonies and out politicians, but the one thing we all share is a respect for the other guy’s right to be different. Makes for a neat crowd at any party!
Be well,
July 2, 2009 at 5:39 am
Happy Canada Day to all.
July 1, 2009 at 10:51 am
I love your blog, no matter what you do people will always talk about you. Especially if your out of the social norm. People will attack other things you do just because they dont like one thing about you. You have a good outlook on life and you share it with others. I view you as a sweet guy, to me if anything your blog gives you a good reputation. Plus being naked all the time shows how fine you are
. Steve
July 1, 2009 at 12:39 pm
Yeah, that’s all good, but in the real world it doesn’t work. Might work for you, but if I can’t get a job because i like to shake my thing…then i’m not okay with that. It’s all a matter of compromises. I WANT to drive 95 in the streets of phoenix, but i don’t because it can hurt my reputation (and it could damage my driving record, at which point I wish i DID have that high-paying job, hehe). I love your blog, and read it all the time, but sometimes you live in a bit of a dream-world where everything is love and peace. And hopefully, someday, I’ll be that optimistic. For now, though, the glass is half empty and leakin’ like a siv…
Suffice it to say, I won’t be buying a dance pole anytime soon! Peace out Davey, you’re awesome, and beautiful, and I love you AND your blog.
July 1, 2009 at 1:48 pm
As a blogger I run into that question often and I am in agreement with you. I usually lean on the side of exposing too much of the inner me for the benefit of truth. It is freeing, it feels good, and I love sharing myself with the world (including friends and strangers). So far the reputation holds up but I am not to worried.
July 1, 2009 at 2:49 pm
The world is small and life is short – reputations change as progress is made in our lives. You know who you are and I love the fact that you say if you are true to yourself things will be OK. Very much so…
Ciao!
July 1, 2009 at 3:17 pm
i really needed this blog it was so much help.
July 1, 2009 at 3:43 pm
This is one of your best posts i think. Well at least one of the ones i feel i can relate to most. Now im no stripper, but I am a music student perusing a career in classical music performance ( french hrn and orchestras and what not), and if i got 10 cents for the number of times I get the “look” when what we go to school for or what our future plans are in a discussion (esp in the gay community) then i wouldnt have any student loans and thats saying something ( that comes to about 200,000 looks lol). I know I wont own a condo or two by the time im thirty or have a nice collection of cars for a while. But music is what i love and im sry but im damn good at it. And despite the fact that it took me a while to realize it doesn’t matter what the world thinks, Im glad i finally did because it helped me move forward with what i want to do with my life.
July 1, 2009 at 4:27 pm
The reputation of what you do or dont do is just a form of knowing if a person can trust you. I know im probably stating the obvious, or maybe im not, but thats just how i see it.
To be a Stripper,does not mean you are a bad person, its just means you like to show off your physical efforts and earn a little cash while you dance.
Although this is a innocent but kinky activity, they should not get a bad rep. Longlive strippers!
July 1, 2009 at 5:43 pm
I’m agree with you. I don’t mind being criticized, people is like this and it shouldn’t be a problem for us. Everybody is different and we can do what we want.
And I want to tell you that your bolg is the best I have ever seen, don’t think the reverse.Congratulations!
July 1, 2009 at 8:10 pm
“reputaions are what other people think of you” I’ve learned that especially in the gay world or gay “scene” 99.9 percent of what I hear about someone is here say and a lie, so I pay absolutely no attention to it. When I hear someone say something I know first hand is not true I tell them they do not know what they’re tallking about and shouldn’t go around telling lies about other people. They act like they swallowed the big one.
I’ve witnessed too many people just make stuff up (usually negative and for some jealous reason) try to spread lies about someone.
So, true enough – “be true to yourself” for only you know who you really are.
July 1, 2009 at 11:42 pm
One really has to think about what is being written here. There are reputations that matter and there are reputations that don’t.
The ones that do matter are the ones that deal with character. Are you honest, do you seek to deal with people fairly, are you trustworthy. If you are in business for the short haul, even these don’t matter. If you have customers and you want them to continue to do business with you, you had better care about your reputation.
The other reputation is based on superficial criteria – and those tuly do not matter.
July 2, 2009 at 5:37 am
although not related to this blog subject-Happy Canada Day-to all our blog buddies in Canada.
July 2, 2009 at 2:33 pm
I agree with this post, and would just like to point out that the line of reasoning here is consistent with your world-view, Davey. If you swap out “dancing on a pole” for “masturbating” you will understand why there was so much distress over that anti-jerkin’ post from earlier.
July 3, 2009 at 8:23 am
I love it!!!…So True, So True!
July 5, 2009 at 4:59 pm
I started to laugh really loud at the end : ‘Life is short, bitches’
July 6, 2009 at 11:36 pm
Iam a Marine who walk around in a Fursuit now or maybe just this summer i give back to my community by serving and putting smiles on the faces of kids when they see a tiger walk up to them and motion for a hug or when they run up and want a hug..
July 11, 2009 at 7:46 am
to Steven Cortez: i am in 100%-agreement with you, and i couldn’t have said it better! __davvi
July 31, 2009 at 9:39 am
“Life is short, bitches” lol. I loved that. I agree with everthing you said here.