Six weeks ago, I came across a part-time job opening at an amazing, spiritually-aligned organization that was looking to vamp up its online presence. When I read the job description, I was certain that this job was written for me; there was nothing that I wanted more than this position.
In my mind, there was no question that I’d get the job. I could feel it in every bone of my body. Confident and excited, I penned a cover letter and tightened up my resume. Ecstatic, I completed and submitted my application.
And then I heard nothing.
The other day, I decided to follow up; I was surprised that it was taking so long to hear back. My follow-up e-mail was answered almost immediately with a painful response: They never received my initial application. Somewhere in the web of cyberspace, my application was either misfiled, accidentally deleted or chewed up by some spam folder.
But instead of ranting or raving or expressing my regret, I’m going to swallow my own advice hard. Things always work out for the best, and in this moment, I’m unable to see the grander plans that are in store for me. Perhaps something even bigger and better is on the horizon, or perhaps I am meant to take a new path altogether.
Though I currently work part-time to supplement my blog-generated income (i.e., ads and workout video sales), perhaps I am meant to dive more fully into my blog and commit myself entirely to my work with you. I’ve toyed with the idea, but it requires a financial leap of faith that – quite frankly – frightens me. Which, of course, is all the more reason to do it.
At any rate, from my fingers to your eyes, it is one of life’s best-kept secrets: Things always go your way. Even when they don’t.
March 29, 2010 at 5:06 pm
That s*cks. Better luck next time…
March 29, 2010 at 5:08 pm
I admire people that can adhere to their own advice. It is often one of the hardest things in the world to accomplish.
March 29, 2010 at 5:10 pm
I so needed that reminder this week. Thanks DW
March 29, 2010 at 5:18 pm
I’ve been checking ur blog for an update all day!! !lol i need to get a life! anyways this was cool! so ur not mad at all? idk about u but when stuff like that happens i flip my s**t! sure it doesn’t accomplish anything but daaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaammmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmn: it makes me feel good!
March 29, 2010 at 5:27 pm
You are always able to turn it into a positive, admirable.
March 29, 2010 at 6:02 pm
My sister told me a few years ago after an accident I had, that ‘things happen for a reason’. And sure enough so much has unfolded in my life that probably wouldn’t have if the accident hadn’t happened.
March 29, 2010 at 7:37 pm
hi Davey,
oh wow i wrote way too much, sorry.
While jumping fully into a blog as your main source of income can be scary, I have seen people doing the same and succeeding. I’m following a guy who was making so much money off his blog and online present that he quit his job and now has his own online solutions company in Japan. I think if you are able to achieve your goal, it would be one of the most amazing gratifications! I think best way to achieve this is to maintain both regular job and work on your blog. As your blog increases in revenue, you would decrease your regular job.
March 29, 2010 at 7:42 pm
i totally feel the same. i lost a job position resently to someone else and took it in stride. there are better things waiting for me out there. this was a great pick-me-up davey!
March 29, 2010 at 10:02 pm
I know this probably goes against everything you believe in,and I don’t judge you, but have you thought of making a bodybuilding and self help blog that could cater more to the non gay? I mean who cares if your gay or run around in your underwear but maybe without all the gay porn websites and sidebar links? Then maybe you could get more sponsorship from other vendors who’s clients don’t like to see that stuff? I like fitness, I like the male form and I don’t mind seeing some pictures. I even like reading most of your material. But when it comes right down to the super gay stuff, not a fan. Suggestion only not being hateful. Karma
March 30, 2010 at 12:01 am
I’m dealing with a situation that seems somehow analogous. A guy messaged me on manhunt a couple months ago. We chatted for a while and lost touch. Then he messaged me again and we reconnected. We have many great things in common and are just different enough that it’s exciting getting to know him. I don’t have much dating experience and this is the first guy I’ve ever had several dates with. I THOUGHT it was going swimmingly. Lately, though – for the past month – he’s been involved in a play and has had no time for me. I thought for sure once the play was done we’d start to see one another again. We chat, periodically, online but that’s it. And the chats are very shallow. The first weekend of the play is over and he has no other commitments and yet I get about 3 lines of text from him. He says he wants to have me over but then he’s got something else going on. His actions and his words are out of alignment and I’m confused. When he first messaged me I thought he was the type of guy I could never attract in a million years. Then as I got to know him he was so easy to talk to and so fully awesome. Now there’s almost nothing.
I never realized why – precisely – I get so attached to things until this past weekend. I had a massive breakthrough in my life that helped me to unlock something that had been concealed for almost 25 years. I’ve always confused letting go and giving up. I never wanted to give up on anything or anyone. I am the guy who – when the chips are down – never gives up. That persistence is one of my greatest strengths and one of my most profound weaknesses. I’ve been confusing commitment and attachment.
Instead of remaining attached to the outcome that I wanted, I’m going to commit myself to finding a guy who I’m compatible with and who is in the right place for a relationship with me. Instead of holding on, I’m letting this guy go gracefully. Like you, I’m unable to see the bigger picture. so I’m trusting that somewhere out there I’ll find someone.
I treasure the experience I’ve had over the past few months. It has been awesome. And I look forward to what’s next.
(just deleted him from FB and MSN
)
This feels like mental diarrhoea but these are my thoughts as they occurred to me and I’m not going to edit them for perfection. I’m letting that go too
Peace
March 30, 2010 at 6:59 am
Mosaic Dave, I don’t know you but I applaud and salute you. This is a really healthy path for you, and I wish you much success as you travel it. It’s not always going to be easy, but as long as you never fall into the trap of confusing “giving up” with “letting go” you’ll be fine.
March 30, 2010 at 2:32 am
I have always said that, no matter how it rolls. Things always work out in the end.
March 30, 2010 at 6:37 am
It is great top see WaveyD back on form and in tune with life ….things his readers really relate too. Good luck with the venture should you go that way. @Mosaic Dave….fab…good on you fella…xx
March 30, 2010 at 6:42 am
I never know what I don’t know, until I know it and THEN it makes sense. And then I don’t know something else… it’s an endless loop called life.
March 30, 2010 at 8:35 am
And sometimes when things don’t go your way it’s OK to take a moment to yell f**k!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
then a a calming breath…….
March 30, 2010 at 9:31 am
my dad always says ‘whats meant for you wont go past you’ and its so true! fate has such a funny way of winding a path to whatever you are supposed to be doing even if the path isn’t very direct sometimes. its happened to me and many others and its so exciting finding out what the next step may be come bad or good! also taking that attitude helps you relax about stuff in life a little. what is meant to be will be, period!
March 30, 2010 at 12:07 pm
I totally get that, If things dont work as I plan them, I dont freak because I feel like maybe it wasnt meant to be. I am in the military and while overseas I rely on this feeling all the time. I believe it has saved my life several times! I have sent away an job application as well and have not heard anything as of yet, but I am a very patient person so I will keep waiting. Not sure if it is connected to Karma or not but its all the same sort of thing I suppose.
March 30, 2010 at 1:09 pm
Davey, Sometimes the only thing worse than not getting what you want is precisely getting what you want! Providence, when it smiles on us, keeps certain things beyond our grasp.
I once applied for two jobs simultaneously, one at the Radio-Canada, i.e. French-languageC.B.C. (Canadian Broadcasting Corporation), the other at another very prestigious Canadian institution, the National Library of Canada, as it then was called. The job that I really hoped most to get was the first of these (Radio-Canada). In fact, I was chosen for the position, but the Canadian postal service delayed the letter a whole month in delivery, by which time Radio-Canada decided that I had lost interest (which certainly was not the case). I was VERY, VERY angry at the postal service!!
However, I did get the other position (at the N.L.C.) and things worked out well. In the meantime, La Société Radio-Canada (French C.B.C.) suffered deep cuts in its funding and had to lay off many employees. I would have suffered that fate myself, since I would have had no seniority to protect me!
So, you never know—.
Jerry Parker
March 30, 2010 at 1:31 pm
To Mosaic David,
Your email about the difference between “letting go” and “giving up” was so right on. I’ve had to deal with that too.
I suspect that you have suffered much pain while coming to this realization. I’m sorry for that. but what you realized will bring a lot of peace and calm.
March 30, 2010 at 2:45 pm
The other side of this is that you’ve made some contact and you are expressing your interest, and have been heard by someone within the hiring department who knows you want the job.
(Of course you also want to work for a company that has good follow-through, and it starts with the hiring process to discover career goals and employee satisfaction with the job.)
Cheers!
Vance
March 30, 2010 at 6:08 pm
owwww I hope that things like that dont happen so often. This is just another reason why i dont fancy technology too much. Personally i would rather have a concrete application. but i know people would argue that is not “green” or that i would get lost easier.
April 1, 2010 at 3:14 pm
what is the secret? I dont know how it works, but it works and I am always thrilled when I´m reading your blog. I´m in the same situation and the same thing happened to me and you are right it must be good for something. It´s not always obvious but when you look back the way you went already, it´s totaly clear. It must have been this way. peace out with love