A lot of people e-mail me with questions about coming out. More specifically, many of the e-mails are about coming out to parents. Overwhelmingly, the question is: Should I tell my parents that I am gay? I’m not an expert on all things gay, but I’m usually glad to add my own two cents.
Coming out is difficult. Coming out to people that we know and love is even harder. More often than not, it brings two people closer together. Hiding your sexuality from someone you love creates space in your relationship; it is a large secret to keep. But not everyone will be so accepting. There is always a risk involved in coming out.
But at the end of the day, I’d rather people hate me for who I am rather than love me for what I am not.
It must be acknowledged that when you tell your parents that you are gay, your risk losing their role in your life. In making the decision to come out to your family, you must be okay with the possibility of this unlikely outcome. For this reason, it helps to build a network of support from close friends. You may need it.
Let’s be real: There is no ideal time to tell your parents that you are gay. If you’re waiting for the ideal time, you’ll be waiting forever. There are, of course, some times that are better than others. Coming out during a fight, for example, is not productive. I think it is wisest to come out when things are quiet, tempers are muted and there is plenty of time to talk.
But how do you know if that time is now? I can’t answer that question for you. Some people, like me, come out when they are 17. Some people come out when they are 14. Others come out when they are 40. Some people never come out.
When I came out, I knew that the time was right. In my heart of hearts, I could feel that it was something that I needed to do. The misery of living a lie outweighed to possibility of a negative reaction by my parents. For a month or two, I dragged my feet – but I knew it was time. And eventually, it happened.
I suspect the same experience may be true for you. When the time is right, you’ll know it. The circumstances may never be ideal, but you’ll feel it in your heart.
And always remember that there are many resources to help you, and many people to support you. You are not alone.
January 26, 2010 at 10:38 am
This is a topic guaranteed to generate a lot of conversation (posts)…in our community. I managed to read about 1/3, will read more later…but here’s my 2cents’ worth to those who haven’t come out: Do it when it feels “right”…but don’t put it off until you are in your 40s, if want to enjoy a full life as a 20 and 30-y.o. My story: I was 46, had taken a new job 3 months previously. It was around my birthday (March 6) when I took a bottle of champagne over to my folks’ (along with several of the “classic” coming-out support books, which I kept in my briefcase until the best moment)
We opened the wine, my folks thinking we were celebrating my job. After some decent conversation I said, “I have something to tell you…and when I am through, you will either throw me out and never speak to me again or it will be the beginning of a lot of good conversation and improved relationships.”
Mother: “Huh? What’s…what do you mean..”
Dad: [silence]
I: [raising my glass toward the den ceiling, bringing it down}: "I'm Gay." [gulped the drink]
Mother: [short silence] “well THAT explains a lot.”
Dad: [choked on his champagne, never finished it: it sat in the refrigerator for weeks]
Mother: “Are you being safe?” (she is a pharmacist)…
and so it went. BTW, Mother said she “didn’t need” the books.
They didn’t attend our wedding-same day as their anniversary(probably Dad’s issue),but included both of us as a couple in family things… especially now that Dad has passed on, Mother regards my husband same as her other kids’ spouses….she sponsors the annual family vacation.
Best wishes and may the Force or whatever higher power you trust be with you, as you come out.
January 28, 2010 at 12:25 am
After reading that I’m now rethinking my position on Champagne after drinking and selling it for nearly 40 years, that its only good for christening boats.
January 26, 2010 at 4:56 pm
Hello! I must say that your blog is very good. I am from Sweden and I read your blog every day! Oh, I like your wisdom
Davey Wavey, you’re the greatest! Keep up the good work =)
January 28, 2010 at 10:55 am
i wish i had come out at an earlier age-37-oh well.my parents are accepting despite their church idealogy.my uncle was gay.unfortunately i found out the day he died.he didnt want to live a double life.i dont either-thats why i came out.wrote two letters one each to my parents.—-the dont ask-dont tell issue-compelled me to come out.i was sick and tired of keeping to myself.and im glad i did.i just need a steady relationship-to be closeted-that sucks.being out-its the most liberating feeling.being true to yourself and others-what a great feeling.
January 28, 2010 at 6:29 pm
I came out to my parents yesterday!! I did it over Skype because it’s likely going to be Christmas before I see them again, and I had a long talk with a new friend about it the previous evening.
They knew (I knew they did)- and were really, REALLY happy that I told them- it was hilarious; they wasted no time in reacting. I knew they were excited because they both got up within moments from eating and circled around the computer to talk to me all about it.
It feels really liberating to go though with it, although I have to admit that currently I’m a bit unnerved. I think that’s just because I lack sleep and food at the moment
January 29, 2010 at 6:55 am
Hi. I’m James from the Philippines. I love your blog. Hehe. I hope I had your very positive view on life. You’re great at what you do. Keep it up. If I may ask, what is your religious background? In case you didn’t know, but I think you do, Filipinos are very deeply rooted to Catholicism. That made my struggle with my being gay very difficult. Funny, in your video regarding your coming out experience you thought it weird that your parents sent you to your parish priest. That was funny indeed. There’s just this difference, I reckon, with Filipino priests and Canadian ones. But that’s a whole new story. Anyway…my coming out to my mom would not have been possible had I not confessed first to my then school’s priest. I expected the worst. Imagine me crying my eyes out explaining vaguely what it was I was asking forgiveness for. When the priest did understand. He just smiled to me and said that “that’s the way God created you. That doesn’t make you any less his creation and less worthy of His or anyone else’s love”. That was a shock. Though I’ve forgotten the priest’s name, I think he did serve as an instrument from above. I just wanna share this experience, perhaps, to let people know that someone still is out there, someone’s who’s greater than us and that he definitely isn’t homophobic. Haha. Hope you get to read this. Thanks.
February 1, 2010 at 12:09 am
I’m 17 soon to be 18 I’ve come out to the majority of my friends, we always joke about different guys that we think are cute. The thing is that I have all girl friends and one guy friend….we’ve been friends for 9 years we used to do everything together until recently about a year ago when he moved, I’m afraid to come out to him as well as my family for fear they will all reject me for who i am.
February 1, 2010 at 5:10 pm
Great advice man! Although, haha I came out to my parents when I was 12, a year after confirming to myself of my own homosexuality and a year after reaching puberty. I pretty much told my mother and father “Hey, I am gay, I am not going to appologize for who I am, but I will ask for your support and love for I am still your son no matter what.” Well what happened after that did not shock me one bit, I got kicked out, and have been emancipated for nearly 6 years. I think my failed relationship with my family is what has lead me to having any other relationship problems, I suppose I just never learned to trust again after my parents abondoned me because of their hatred for who I am.
February 1, 2010 at 5:17 pm
How about this. I was dating a guy when we were both 18 and I witnessed him coming out to his mother. We were in his room messing around and she walked in. Lol. If she came in 5 minutes earlier she would learn what tossing salad is.
Needless-to-say she flipped out and kicked us out right then and there.
But don’t fret folks. Steve became super closer to his mother soon after. We gave her one hell of a shock but she came around showing how amazing she is!!
February 4, 2010 at 10:06 pm
Here’s my story: I called my parents when I decided to come out, hoping to talk to my mother (who I was more certain would be OK with it), but it was my father who answered the phone. Since I didn’t know how to say “Nice to hear from you, Dad, but I wanted to tell Mom something I can’t share with you”, I proceeded to tell him.
I only learned about my parents getting a speakerphone a few weeks later. Or the fact that my siblings were visiting at the time, and heard me. After getting a few letters from family members (mostly along the lines of ‘Thank God, we were worried you didn’t know’), I learned what had happened.
So my advice is: always ask if you’re on a speakerphone before coming out to your parents.
PS – my family couldn’t be more supportive of me or my husband. I always knew they were fantastic, but this proves it conclusively.
February 10, 2010 at 5:24 am
Worst thing I ever did was to tell my father. He never got over it and has held it against me ever since. Think twice before you blurt it all out. Some people don’t want to be confronted.
February 17, 2010 at 3:39 pm
It was a few weeks after I turned 16 that I started coming out to my family. I told my grandmother first, but initially she thought I needed to mature a lot more and that I hadn’t met the right girl. But she became more accepting of it gradually. I still haven’t told my brother or my Dad, but I hope that they’ll be okay with it.
Friendwise, everyone knows cos i was open enough to tell them. A few people think I’m only doing this for attention but that’s not why I’m gay. I’m doing it cos I love guys.
February 26, 2010 at 12:51 am
I found out quite recently (I’m 42) that my parents always knew that I was attracted to men but didn’t want me to be and were happy to look the other way. I was closeted and it wasn’t until a divorce at 29 that I finally started living my truth. No one can help you speak up for yourself, they might actually prefer that you don’t, however the pain you will save yourself and others is well worth having the courage to come out. Stay strong my brothers.
March 4, 2010 at 10:26 am
I came out to my Mum on national coming out day last year (by complete accident and unaware of the day’s significance) The air was uber thick and awkward for what seemed forever. Then she pulled her fist back and punched me in shoulder saying, “You f*****g Moron! I have known since you were ten!” I was baffled to say the least but then she broke out a box of condoms saying “be safe” and immediately flipped the channel to Logo so we could watch Queer as Folk. I laughed and said I love this episode. After she learned I had a huge drawer full gay stuff (all five seasons of queer as folk, porn, rainbow everything, my out subscriptions, and a tee shirt that had a big rainbow on it and said my mom doesnt know im gay) she got excited and keeps stealing my f*g flicks….. I still can’t find some of my porn….. oh this was just after my 20th birthday……lol. Now she and I are volunteering at the aids foundation together and she is on her way to becoming san antonio’s f*g-hag of the year….
March 6, 2010 at 1:06 am
im 20 yrs. and i havent told my family members, i recently told 4 of my close friends and 3 of them were like “i knew it” and the other was like you just need to find a gf. and i dont tell my parents b/c 1st of all my dads side is very very religious.. so religious that my grandfather was almost a priest, and my mom…. well to put it simple she saw on the news that some state were legalizing gay marriage and when she saw two men kissing she felt like throwing up.. and if thats her reacting to ppl she doesnt, i cant imagine what she will do to her own son.
March 7, 2010 at 3:43 am
I have looked through the comments on this post and have had a rush of emotions. I laughed and I cried, and now I am just confused.
Reading all the stories about how people were religious and their parents just knew and stuff like that, I just know that the time is soon for me. I am kind of assured now that things will be OK for me. I mean, all my friends know. My mom tries to hint to me that she knows. Or whenever something gay-related is around she gives me this look.
I know it seems like I am ready and that i should come out, I just have no idea why i cant do it?
Does anyone else have the feeling where they know it wouldn’t be that big of a deal, but still can’t find the courage to tell their family?
March 18, 2010 at 4:43 pm
Hi. I’m from Thailand. I found out that I liked men at age 14 . Now im 19 and havent told my family members or even my close friends yet. It’s a big deal for me because i worried that they will all reject me for who i am because non of them are gay, and i always pretend to be a man like them, though i really am gay.
Actually i love one of my close friends but he has a girlfriend already…and that makes me hurt alot :’(
I just dont know what to do next….i really wanna come out to them but it seems to be impossible for me…..
March 19, 2010 at 6:45 pm
Alright…I’m 20 and when I was 16, I came out to my best friend that I was bi, but I’m gay. My sister found out (underhandedly) and we talked about it where I cried and said I hated myself and so on. She said I should jus be careful and asked me “have I ever” questions, which I replied to all w/ no (which was true answers). My mom found out thru a weird and shocking way (porn), and I denied it as much as I could. Then I confessed and said I was curious (but I knew I was and always had been gay). She then was angry, asked me if I’m sharing gay photos at school (NO! and WHY?!), and she said she hope I wasn’t going down a gay path. I left and we never spoke about it again. I’ve tried to like girls, but it’s not what I want, but I continue to act straight (I’m very good at this role, but never had or wanted a girl friend).
My sister who knew would hold it over my head, when I was in high school, and threatened me w/ it a couple of times.
I’ve recently accepted myself and been happy and cleared my mind of the negative thoughts that I had of myself. I want to live my life and now that my sister is out of the way, I’m not in high school, I’m a great college student, and have a good character, I want to come out to my mother becuz she sees I’ve always been good and that I’m not under anyone’s influence. I have my own mind and have liked guys ever since I was really young. My bro knows something’s up, but he can’t place his finger on it and got mad at me cuz I wouldn’t tell him (every time he would bring up dating girls and how we would double date, I would try to get excited, but I would get sad and angry). My mom half knows (she thinks something happened to me in high school and now it’s over, or that I was trying to follow a trend), but we had both been in denial. Now that I have accepted it, I want to be “out” so I can live my life, which won’t be too different except for the boys I date. I wanna do it while I’m young. I also wanna do it soon becuz I know her opinions have kind of changed of gay people, but I’m just still waiting for the right time. Maybe when I’m more independent, moved out or whatever. I’m an inspiring actor and I feel the same that most people won’t care that I’m gay. My talent speaks for itself.
Anyways, thanks for your blogs and advices as to how to come out. I’ll definitely stay posted, check out your workout vids, probably become a facebook friend when I come out and give u an update as to how it goes. Thanks again.
March 28, 2010 at 6:43 pm
I’m 13 (almost 14!!!) I’ve come out to my 2 best friends. I basically said ‘I have a secret, see if you can guess it.’ One got it on her third guess, the other the first. They’re both really supportive and I love them for it.
April 9, 2010 at 5:31 pm
I’m 17 and I came out to me mom. At first she took it ok and said that she loves me no matter what, but that only lasted like a week. After that week was over she told me that she doesn’t want me to bring any boyfriends home. That was like 6 months ago and I wouldn’t tell her that I asked a boy to prom, because I didn’t know how she would react. I guess what I’m asking is how do I remind my mom that I am gay without he blowing up in my face? I mean she knows, but it’s like she forgot. she keeps trying to hook me up with females. What should I do?
April 12, 2010 at 10:19 pm
well what you can do is just tell kinda talk about prom and the fact that you already have someone, and if she asks then just tell her that its a friend, and if you really think that she can take it then tell her its your bf.
May 18, 2010 at 7:42 pm
Hi Davey, I’m Isaac and I’m 14 years old. I’m through a really hard moment because 6 days ago my parents knew that I’m bi, that night was a really hard and a sad time… They told me a lot of things about my situation, they said that it wasn’t okay and that it was disgusting, both of them cried, I felt like the worst person in the world, I felt that I let them down, they want me to go to a psycologist this Thursday and well, I said yes, I really hope everything be okay because
May 18, 2010 at 7:44 pm
(ontinue here) because I want they feel right and feel proud of me… so I was watching your videos and I felt better because you helped me to understand a lot of things that I wasn’t sure about so THANKS
Isaac, from Panama!
June 23, 2010 at 2:21 pm
Hey Davey, my name’s David and I am 16. I just have a few questions. How do you come out to your family, when you are the only male of your generation with your family’s last name? I’ve konwn I was different since 3rd grade, but realized why and how in 6th grade. I’m currently a junior in high school. My family wants me to carry on the name since no one else can. A lot of pressure, no? And I hate to let them down. so, what could I do to tell them?
David
July 9, 2010 at 2:55 pm
hey, my names tuesday. im 17 and all of my friends and my brothers know im gay. im seeing a girl, but she doesnt want to make the relationship official until i tell my parents, which i completly understand because the secrecy of it and everything would make things harder. ive known who i was for 6 years now. and ever since i started hanging out with more lesbians in gr.7, my mom has been asking me almost daily if im gay, then telling me “honey, you know ill be honest, if you liked woman i would love you less” (no joke). i really want to tell them because otherwise my mom and i are close, but i dont want to lose them forever, at the same time as i want to be with the girl. i dont know how to tell them so that they understand. any suggestions?
July 20, 2010 at 8:10 pm
well ben from eastenders! , i akways knew you were gay but dont be shy to show the world how you feel! be proud of what you are! god made you this way. ! Amen little dik
August 18, 2010 at 4:39 am
So I’m 15 and moved recently. Life here is good, though I know I’m young, and am often told it’s only a stage, is a whole life stage… a stage at all? I have just been watching you all night (and morning at this point) and decided it’s time. Though most of my immediate family knows, my mom found me on a gay teen chatroom (Oh well) she was fine with it. My sisters found out when I had slept with a guy at a party we were having. All were fine with it, but my mom is an understanding lady, and I told her when I was 12, and 9 that I was gay, she saw it coming. My sisters did as well.
I’ve been attracted to men all my life, though at first I was also attracted to women, I realized early on, by my third girlfriend or so, that I was not getting any satisfaction besides social acceptance. My life has been nothing abnormal, but I feel as though my father, a right winged conservative mormon, will not take it so well. My father is a great man and father, but it does not exclude him from the norm of what he was raised upon. My uncles will take it hard, though they’ll get over it. The other gay kid in my family is ostracized to an extent, and I’m ready for it now. After watching 10 or so of your videos, I was on facebook and thought to myself, “Why am I keeping this a secret? I’m in high school now, god damnit I have a right to be happy!” I wanted to post these exact words “f**k it, I’m gay” I still want to so bad, I know it’ll make me lose friends, but again, i’ve been a bit of a loner all my life, and I can wait till I meet more genuine friends. I’ve decided to wait until after orientation day (tomorrow) and go ahead and tell the world (my facebook page) just to avoid the oddities which’ll follow on orientation and everyone is staring at me, instead I’ll allow a few days to let it set in. I know it might seem a little stupid to write this all on here, but I deeply feel like I need to do this now, I feel empowered
November 24, 2010 at 12:18 am
I have 2 things to say. 1) I’m having trouble figuring out my sexuality and I would like to ask is there a way to figure out my sexuality? Besides experimenting… I have already tried that and it help but not really… then I went back and thought “Did I do those things because i wanted to or did I force myself to do them?” all came out to be I wanted to do them. 2) How can I tell my family that i am gay if they thinks I’m dating every girl i hang out with? My grandmother is super religous and if i tell my mom she will tell her and I’m super afraid that she will like have a heart-attack if she finds out… so pretty much if I tell my family i will have to move out because i would feel really weird living in the same household as them and them knowing that…
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January 3, 2011 at 3:35 am
im gay to and am wanting to tell my grandparents that i live with bc my mom and i think i should
January 3, 2011 at 6:21 am
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January 4, 2011 at 11:03 pm
To whom it may concern,
I’m 15 and i can’t seem to figure out my sexuality i know i should probably already know if i’m gay or bi but i can’t seem to figure out my sexuality. All of my friends say i’m bi but for some reason i can’t stand being bi. I know i have a attraction to guys but one of my friends says it might be me making my self think i like guys but i don’t think i am. What do you think? e-mail: soki53@yahoo.com
January 9, 2011 at 1:44 pm
Well, people don’t agree with me. But yes, I am 12. The first thing my mum ever said to me when I was bourn is that ‘He’s going to be gay’ so yeah, she didn’t make me gay. Atall! How can a parent force you to turn gay? It’s inpossable. They carn’t just change your sexuality or the people I ‘like’. So it’s not my mums fualt. I first told my bestest friend. She was like, ‘Omg, like, proper full on GAY?’ I was like ‘Yess:/.’ and she was like ‘OMG YEY’. Then she told one of her friends, which I wasn’t to happy about! So like, she said sorry and all that. So i’m not just going to hate her because she told one of her friends. So yeah, the person she told, told like allot of people. So people began to tell people, spreading around the school. So people come up to me and ask me, ‘are you gay?’ I would reply ‘No.’ at first. But then about 6 weeks later, people would keep asking me. So I got sick of it and replyed ‘Yes!’ so like, I come out to like the whole school befor my parents. I admit, I do have it different. My mum LOVES gay men. So much! So like, we was in the bedroom. She was on the laptop and I was just sat up on my phone. So I thought that, omg. It’s quite, calm. I should tell her! I put preasure on myself, by saying… ‘Look, I have something to tell you…’ which really did put preasure on me. It’s the way I could make myself say it. So then, I kept bringing myself to say it, but then I wrote it in a text and threw my phone at her to read it. I was like, UHG, SHALL I THROW IT? like yeah, and she read it and was like ‘WOOP WOOP!’ and I was like, ‘mhm’. I know gay is how your bourn and I don’t want to force myself to be someone I’m not, so I want to be the way I am. The next day, I told my step dad… I’ve never met my real dad. He was like, ‘I know? I’ve known all your life’ I was like, yeah. I found out my mum told my auntie… She was like, ‘NO, HE CARN’T BE! IT’S A PHASE! YOU CARN’T BE, YOUR ONLY 12!’ I’ve known I was ‘different’ from when I was around 8. I’m so glad i’ve come out at the age of 12. I see people 30s and still not told anyone, I have to admit. I do feel sorry for them. I’m very mature enough to know! People say, ‘HAVE YOU EVER HAD SEX WITH A BOY AND A GIRL?’ but then.. Have you ever had sex with a (The same gender as what the person asked me)? They say no, but then how can they know there not gay/bi? It’s stupid. People are gay, get over it. Ever since I told my mum I was gay, i’ve been changing so much. I always used to be scared to be the person I wanted to be. But now, I wear make-up, I wear better clothes. I’m liking different bands. I only told her about 4 months ago. So I come out to everyone in the space of… 7 months? Everyone knows. Suprisingly, i don’t get bullied as much as I thought I would. I get called gay, but yeah. I can live with that, I am gay? So yeah, thats it… Thanks for reading:)xxx
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February 24, 2011 at 4:35 am
Good night, before all i´ve never wrote here jeje is my first time wiiii jejeje….
ok i like this page thank you Davey.
About the topic..
My mother knew that i am since last year on sept, but my father does not know it, ¿why? i feel terrified ´cause he is old and he was grew up to the former.
i have a cousing(30y) we live in Nuevo Laredo (Mexico) and my cousing lives in Florida, when my father knew that he is gay he said -is the first one, who else?- and he has never talked with him again, so i feel so bad just imagine he is my cousing, what will happen with me??
he may kill me and i do not want to say it to him, it could be a huge problem.
also my mother said to me do not say anything about you to your father i love my family and i do not want to live alone and have family´s problems, she is very religious i and she tries to accept me.
think that i found the perfect person for me his name is Jon jejejeje i love him and i would like to say to all my family about us but i can´t, i just can´t.
But i will do, i do not know when but i will do it, i am sure..
p.s:
-Davey Thank youu¡¡ n.n you are so amazing.
-jejej sorry my english is bad jejeje i hope you will understand.
March 16, 2011 at 6:58 pm
Im gay only 12 had a boyfriend and really want my parents to know, I have tried once I asked my dad what he thought of gay people and he said they are fudge nudging cu*ts. And I’m really unsure on what to do? Please help me
January 25, 2012 at 4:12 am
I’d ask him, “Well dad, I’ve been your son for 12 years and I think you know me pretty well, do you think I’m a fudge nudging cu*t?” That may shock him, because he may realize where you’re going with it, but in the case he doesn’t and says, “no.” Tell him you’re gay.
April 14, 2011 at 5:17 pm
Im 12 now and scared to tell them.Im scared to tell my dad.My mom probably won’t take it as bad.Should i wait for now?
April 29, 2011 at 5:17 pm
I think the most important thing is to not be scared. I came out to my mother about 4 months or so ago and I can honestly say it was really a step in the right direction for me. (I’m 17 at the moment as a side note.) I understand that it may be hard for some parents to handle and confusing for them at first, but if you’re gay, don’t hide it
you’ll feel better and it helps you to grow as a person by being true to yourself. And, in the end, they’re your parents. They’re going to love you no matter what, it just may take some adjustment time for your father especially (my father knows because my mom told him, but he hasn’t ever addressed it). Hope that helps a little 
May 16, 2011 at 9:57 am
I’m gay and, in general, I like things that are stereotyped as ‘straight male things’ (videogames, soccer, paintball and whatever). Because of this, most of my closest friends ARE straight guys and I feel that I ‘owe’ them the truth. Some people will probably say “if they are real friends they will accept you”, but I’m pretty sure that coming out to them will affect our friendship. Any advice?
January 25, 2012 at 4:09 am
Just tell them. I’ve had friends that said they never expected it, because I hid it so well. It wasn’t that I was hiding it, I was just being myself, and I’m not effeminate… except when I’m drunk, lol. Most friends I’ve told didn’t mind at all.
June 23, 2011 at 4:51 pm
I had some friends over at My Moms and one
happened to bring someone they wanted me to meet!!!And didnt know that mt mom didn’t know and said hey burt i have someone i want u to meet!!!And when she seen it was a guy she just smiled!And then later said that she thought i was gay but wasn’t sure till then!!!
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January 25, 2012 at 4:04 am
Well, my parents flipped when they found out my brother was going to marry a girl they didn’t like and they used to criticize my sister’s relationship with her boyfriend, I think because they thought they were having sex. My parents are very conservative christians. Although, they calmed down in both situations, it took weeks! I know they’ll still love me, but I’m afraid they’ll excuse it with, “it’s a phase” or they’ll want me to go to counseling… and I’m almost 23 and in the Marine Corps! With the kind of parents mine are, they’ll probably say it’s a spiritual attack from demons. The thought of coming out to them is gut wrenching!
May 11, 2012 at 4:47 pm
Hi my name is jonia i have a amazing soon to be girlfriend the only thing is that i have not told my parents my mom died and my father is ni where around so i havent told my grandma and other relative i scared and dont know what to do i think i may lost my soon to be girlfriend because of this and they Commons on it