I made this video with the younger generation in mind (I wish someone told me this when I was in 5th grade), so its message may be a bit obvious for you advanced and enlightened gurus. Check out the video below:
I made this video with the younger generation in mind (I wish someone told me this when I was in 5th grade), so its message may be a bit obvious for you advanced and enlightened gurus. Check out the video below:
September 23, 2010 at 10:54 am
Love it.
September 23, 2010 at 11:03 am
DW-Your voice sounds perfectly fine to me. Even though I have never been made fun of for being gay. I perfectly understand how wrong and morally unacceptable it is to harass or bully gays or anyone else for that matter. But none of us our perfect, and even gays are capable of hate.
September 23, 2010 at 11:12 am
That quote is a title of a book by Terry Cole-Whittaker. She is also a friend of mine. She is a wonderful and fun spiritual teacher. She has a business call ADVENTURES IN ENLIGHTENMENT. Google her.
September 23, 2010 at 11:14 am
Awesome
September 23, 2010 at 11:33 am
love it!!! i understand being made fun of for being gay, as it’s happened all my life…..OMG DAVEY WAVEY you have a 12 in dick???!?!?! it was also nice to see your nips in HD again
September 23, 2010 at 11:37 am
“A coward is incapable of exhibiting love; it is the prerogative of the brave.” -Ghandi LOVE YOU DAVEY XOXOXOXO
September 23, 2010 at 11:39 am
I totally agree with you. I have a really high voice, and of course I’m outwardly flamboyant, and I strut when I walk, I have nice writing, and I love fashion, all of which other people notice and all of them are reasons that I was made fun of. People made fun of me for being gay, because of my voice, even before I truly knew myself that I was !! I also find this somewhat shocking, cuz I was made fun of really starting around the 4th grade. That means the people making fun of me were 8-9 years old, calling me gay and a f*g, making my life miserable. It hurts when people so young have so much hatred for something they don’t fully understand.
love yaa
But I know I’m better than them.
Thanks Davey !
xoxoxo
September 23, 2010 at 11:47 am
Yep, still gonna need see that 12 inch dick.
September 23, 2010 at 11:47 am
OMG, the American Society of Plastic Surgeons is SOOOO gonna sue you, now!!
September 23, 2010 at 12:03 pm
I’ve seen some very hateful and violent people in life that would harass or hurt me for being me. Sends you into the “Act Straight” mode so you don’t become a target.
Still I agree change must come from within. I’ve under gone a recent journey to resolve things in my life. I can relate to your words Davey.
In the end I think there comes a point when you have to confront fear. Fear of rejection, pain, harassment… It boils down to stepping out and being at risk in life, relationships, even just being you.
I know in my life its been forward, backward, forward… Each obstacle you face and overcome though makes you stronger. But never stop moving forward even if you get setbacks.
Finding our voice is important. Sometimes we have to borrow another persons to find out where we stand. It may be close or maybe different from ours but it is a process.
Your point about we in the gay community not learning the lesson. I have to whole heartedly agree. I’ve known more hurtful people, at least online, in our community than good ones.
We all have problems, need love and attention, even just to know someone shares our struggle. What does not help is being harassed, ignored simply because you do not fit their ideal, or even just dismissed.
Give people chances even if they are not in your criteria. If you took a chance you may meet a wonderful person or make a difference in their life.
What other people think of you…not always as easy to deal with. Some people never get validation of their peers. Even the strongest person can only endure a billion pin pricks for only so long.
I agree though we should try to ignore what others think. Change does come from within and our actions to shape that is outside of us.
In the end love is the answer. Love of ourselves, others, and our journey in life. It’s not always an easy thing to achieve but as Davey has said before we make choices.
I’ve choosen to be more me and face some of my fears in life. I hope everyone else does to. We all deserve happiness and peace. So as a fellow blog buddy on this rugged journey in life please love and make choices for you.
Davey likes to say life is perfect the way it is and so are we. I’ll disagree about life being perfect but it can be a journey to perfection. No we are not all perfect but we can learn to improve ourselves and find a place of content or happiness and in that it is the perfect place for us.
Peace and love to all of you,
T
September 23, 2010 at 12:29 pm
adamJ’s comment really touched me. “That means the people making fun of me were 8-9 years old, calling me gay and a f*g, making my life miserable. It hurts when people so young have so much hatred for something they don’t fully understand.”
It’s so true. I mean, they learn that prejudice and hateful behavior at home and then share it with other kids.
Kids these days are too “smart” and mentally aware of so much more than they should be at their ages, so much more then they were years ago. What happened to the sweet, innocent and unassuming childhood demeanor kids used to have? The easily amused, childish wonder in their behavior is far gone and dare I say, lost for good.
September 23, 2010 at 12:30 pm
regarding the quote you closed the clip with, I first heard it from Dr. Wayne Dyer & then wrote a short blog about it which I’m including here. I hope you don’t mind.
1. What you think of me is none of my business
8/17/06
I was just listening to Dr. Wayne Dyer on HayHouse Radio (http://www.hayhouseradio.com/show_details.php?show_id=16#) and he said that in the program. It is important because if I base my self worth on what you think of me, when you think less of me, my self worth is diminished. If I base my self worth on what I do, when I’m not doing that anymore, I have no self worth. If I base my self worth on how my body looks, or what my physical condition is, when it no longer looks good or my body is in bad condition, my self worth is diminished to the same degree.
Conversely, when I base my self worth on the true spirit within me, that which endures beyond all time and space, which is perfect and pure, and loving and enduring, I acknowledge that I am a creation of the supreme source which creates perfectly, therefore however I may appear to others to be, whatever I happen to be doing, whatever I look like and whatever my physical condition is, it is perfect in the eyes of God, my Father in heaven, my source and substance. By acknowledging this perfection within myself, I find the highest self worth which endures even as the world crumples around me, even as this body grows old and dies the self worth and therefore the bliss associated with it radiates as the true expression of God through me and is God’s gift to me.
Therefore, consider adopting the attitude “What you think of me is none of my business.” Consider letting go of the desires and needs outside of yourself which result in low self worth and self esteem. Turn rather to the source of your self worth at the center of your being and bask in the bliss which is you.
September 23, 2010 at 1:15 pm
Oooh! Make your dick growl again!
September 23, 2010 at 2:02 pm
!! Great Message !!
September 23, 2010 at 2:28 pm
Thanks for reading my post !
Kids know to much stuff that they shouldn’t. Being called a f*g by the same people almost every day since the 4th grade really takes a toll on your self esteem and confidence, and it’s much of the reason why I hated going to school, and a bit scared to start college in January..
September 23, 2010 at 3:19 pm
If what others think of me is not my business, if they love me, is it my business?
Just a philosophical question…
September 23, 2010 at 4:31 pm
Adam and Ben, I totally agree with you about gay children getting harassed/bullied. However it is not just gay kids that get this treatment, a Jewish boy might be harassed because he’s a “Jew”; a pleasantly plumb kid might get harassed cause hes “fat”; or a not so bright kid might get harassed cause he’s a “tard”, or a kid with epilepsy (me) who had to wear a helmet; might get bullied because he is a “freak”, the list is endless.
But what doesn’t break us makes us stronger right? My point is simple and this goes for all that were harassed or bullied.
We can lay in self-pity let the actions of others to continue to harm us, or we can forget about it, learn from it and move on. And forgive those even all those bratty kids that made fun of us because we were gay, Jewish, fat or whatever. But to dwell on mistreatment we received as kids from other kids is just silly and we are stuck in the mud of the past.
September 23, 2010 at 4:38 pm
Im still trying to grasp that someone would poke fun at your voice! I like your voice, both the literal and the physical.
September 23, 2010 at 4:40 pm
Im trying to grasp that someone would poke fun of your voice! I love your voice, the literal and the physical.
September 23, 2010 at 4:56 pm
keep your head held high man!
September 23, 2010 at 4:57 pm
very eloquent and well written (even though reading it took up half my afternoon!
) XOXO -Stuart
September 23, 2010 at 4:58 pm
haha! that was hot!
September 23, 2010 at 5:09 pm
Thanks Stuart. (you have more attention than you give credit.)
T
September 23, 2010 at 5:24 pm
that is a great topic to talk about and I am really glad you did it because I think it’s very important as well, great job Davey:)
September 23, 2010 at 5:26 pm
Who cares about your voice Davey. It’s the hair that needs serious attention … Mwhahaha … Your way cuter with more hair. Once that’s sorted you can look within.
September 23, 2010 at 5:31 pm
Oh ya, I didn’t mean only gay kids get teased, it’s just my childhood was gay bashing
Sticks and Stones can break my bones, but Names can never hurt me
September 23, 2010 at 6:30 pm
Is sharing the love back. MUAH!
September 23, 2010 at 10:53 pm
I have always felt like my voice sounds girly. I used to be sad about it. Now I realize that if someone does not like me how I am the that’s their problem. I like my voice.
September 23, 2010 at 11:25 pm
I agree with Stuart. Nice work T.
September 24, 2010 at 1:03 am
It hurts when people so young have so much hatred for something they don’t fully understand.
Most people fear those things they don’t understand. They seek to destroy it or abolish it because it doesn’t fit well into their world views. This is not hatred. It is simply misunderstanding peppered with closed-mindedness. And it applies to all of us. How many people in our community hate the likes of Glenn Beck, Rush Limbaugh or or Bill O’Reilly because of how they act or what they say? I agree that it can hurt if you let it. But I believe more strongly that when we seek to understand what’s really going on and when we start building bridges into these people’s worlds we find out that we all have essentially the same hopes, dreams, goals and motivations.
September 24, 2010 at 1:06 am
Davide, I totally agree. Bravo
September 24, 2010 at 1:13 am
It depends on what you want for yourself. People’s opinions are merely that; opinions. They are made up thoughts. Everyone in the world has a different opinion of everything. None are right. Our truths are our own and we get to choose them. So if a compliment or a positive opinion empowers you I say choose to let it permeate you. If an opinion doesn’t empower you then forget it. Either way it doesn’t make you any more or less than you are – whole, complete and perfect.
September 24, 2010 at 1:39 am
Firstly, do you really believe that any words are intrinsically hateful? Words are words. Humans invented them and defined them. And the definitions change over time depending on usage. But to declare a word loving or hateful, good or bad makes about as much sense as to declare a day good or bad. Intrinsically these things have no value. The feelings behind them, though… Those could be hateful but, as I posted in a comment above, are more likely just frustrated from misunderstanding and not truly hateful.
That said I think it would make such a difference to most people’s lives if they learned early about the distinction between opinion (invented) and reality (intrinsic). Opinions don’t mean s**t except to the person who created them. They have no value whatsoever besides that we place on them. Should we choose to pay credence to them they have value. And we get to choose what we acknowledge and accept. And life becomes a lot simpler when we realize we can choose the things that empower us and we can forget the things that don’t. Neither the compliments nor the criticisms have anymore value than the other and it’s important to remember that but, again, why not empower ourselves by letting the opinions we like and enjoy permeate us while disregarding the others?
Lastly we needn’t act like victims in any situation. People are only victims because they’ve given up their stand; they’ve given in to whomever or whatever they perceive is working against them. Look at Helen Keller or more recently Tenzin Kyatso (the Dalai Lama). These people’s lives have, arguably, been fraught with more difficulty than what… 99% of people’s lives? And yet we never heard Helen and we never hear the Dalai Lama complaining about their lot and about how things aren’t fair. If we focus on working towards those things we can control and those things we can influence or change and stop working against or complaining about the intractable problems then we’ll have no time to worry about fairness and we can do something that would benefit us all; get on with our lives.
September 24, 2010 at 2:32 am
True that! Love ya back, Word!
September 24, 2010 at 4:07 am
Sweet and True
Love ya Davey 
September 24, 2010 at 5:51 am
You are right, Davey! I wish someone told me this when I was in 7th grade. I was the target of almost all harrassment in my class. Not for being gay (because nobody knew), but only because I was a calm and quiet person and therefore the perfect target. It would have helped to hear someone say these things.
Thank you for this video. I love you too.
M
September 24, 2010 at 12:33 pm
your thoughts actually transcend all ages. I have used the thought “what other people think of me is none of my business” on a journey I began almost 4 years ago. It’s all about self love Davey, and you get it! I may be older than you but still love to hear and read what you have to say. Your an “old soul” Davey!
September 24, 2010 at 2:55 pm
davey, i dont kno you, but i absolutely luv you, you are fraekin awesome, watchin your youtube makes my day better no mattter how bad it was, i dont kno wat it is but you just got this thing baout you lol, oh and ur smokin lol, thanks for sharing your blog and youtube your great.
September 24, 2010 at 3:41 pm
thanks !
And to Mosaic Dave,, I see what you mean…
September 24, 2010 at 6:06 pm
http://quepensezvousblog.blogspot.com/ love it!
September 25, 2010 at 2:17 am
I have something of the opposite problem. My voice is not high, and doesn’t have what many people might call a gay “accent”. Succinctly, I am not the stereotype. Thus I get the “straight acting” label, which I am always quick to correct. I am a man who sleeps with other men. In what other way do I need to “act gay”? I am me, I act like me, and I am gay. I think that’s good enough.
September 25, 2010 at 6:54 am
Thanks, Davey. Keep up the good work!
September 25, 2010 at 1:41 pm
When I was in fifth grade my voice was really in high pitch but when I reached adolescent age, my voice became deeper but still not that so deep.
My classmates bullied me because I’m not like most of the guys they know coz I am quiet and usually alone during free time unlike those guys that when our professors were not around, all they do was chasing each other or bullying my girl classmates.
I hate to reminisce those days!
September 25, 2010 at 2:11 pm
Sadly anything that does not fit ‘normal’ is attacked in society. It’s a method of control. What’s worse are the ones who join in simply to cover their own points of difference.
We all have something different about us. Celebrate that. It’s diversity that enriches life.
As a fellow person who always enjoyed doing my own thing and only talking when I wanted to I understand. Allow me to make a suggestion remember those days but as an example of what you will not do in life and how you will help others with such problems.
Life changes when we stand firm on our principles and compassion.
T
September 25, 2010 at 6:14 pm
hello davey plz can i talk to you
peace out x
September 25, 2010 at 9:45 pm
Davey…I think your voice is fine…and u r such a STUD!!! I Love your talky blogs…you keep everything so fresh & nothing hoe hum or boring. So 12 INCHES huh!..guess we will neve know if IT is really that big or not!