As I continue with the “30 Day Blog Challenge” – which, consequently, is taking me much longer than 30 days – we move into day 7.
Day 7 is all about the person or thing that has had the biggest impact on your life. For me, this one was easy to answer. But I think you’ll be surprised.
Click below to watch the talky blog via my second YouTube channel, Davey Wavey Raw:
Who – or what – has had the biggest impact on your life? Let us know in the comments below.
January 14, 2011 at 3:59 pm
Dang! I was hoping it was me.
January 14, 2011 at 4:06 pm
hey davey wavey i have a guestion if you didn’t have a boyfriend can we maybe go out.
love ya!!!
willy woka
xoxoxoxoxox
January 14, 2011 at 4:12 pm
Bravo!!! You are so cute with the corky smile and a innocent quality about you…
…Biggest impact on my life? s**t that’s a hard one..do I have to name just one? How about three?
1. My father
2. My identical twin
3. Nicola my x-boyfriend (now best buddy)
January 14, 2011 at 4:18 pm
nice!!
ONE of the biggest impacts on my life, freelz freelz, is you, Mr. Wavey.
ever since finding your videos, suscribing to your channels, and following your blogg on a daily basis, i believe that you really have changed me into someone better! i’m becoming more and more OK with being gay, i’m realizing that i’m not a loser, and i’m OK with who i am! you’ve helped me open my eyes to the beauty in the world and the beauty in other people, and i’m so thankful for that! i used to “hate” so many things, but after listening to you and what you say, i realize that i actually don’t hate what i used to..in fact i don’t hate anything! your an amazing, AMAZING! person and i am so thankful that i found your videos, and that i’ve connected with your other blog buddies and i’m so glad that we have become one giant, gay, happy family! your an inspiration and a fabulous rolde model.
thank you, for being you!!
love alwaaaaays!!! <3333
adamJ (:
XOXO
January 14, 2011 at 4:31 pm
About 8 years ago, I was an administrator and technician for a drug/alcohol detox unit. I worked 80+ hours/week, was perpetually exhausted, and was able to feel little satisfaction from the care I was providing to my clients. After five months of this, I was ready to give up on helping people. One of the RN’s in the unit sat me down one day and told me all she’d noticed about my dedication, assessment skills, compassion, and innovation with managing the clients. She inspired me.
I eventually left the job, and began a long journey to reorganize my life, perceptions, and focuses. Eight years later, today I am also a nurse, and continually work to inspire others as she did me.
January 14, 2011 at 4:38 pm
hey adam j add me on msn i want to tlk to you dont worry im nto a freak lol im 14 and my name is mike so add me on msn or facebook lmaoriot@hotmail.com Or mike paparamborda for facebook and ym display picture is a lambourgini
January 14, 2011 at 5:00 pm
Davey Wavey you have had a big impact on my life but not the biggest of course.
January 14, 2011 at 5:00 pm
I was one of those people who worked at a brokerage firm- did so for about 10yrs and I HATED it!!! Now I’m a Registered Nurse and I LOVE it!!
January 14, 2011 at 5:24 pm
Biggest impact on my life would be my Grand Father. I miss him so much though. As a kid, you learn so many different things from so many different people, but Grandpa taught me the most important thing… He taught me as much as he could about life itself. All the little things that we so often neglect.
Thanks Granpa!
January 14, 2011 at 5:27 pm
Well… to say there’s one person who greatly impacted me to push me to become what I am today, would prove to be quite diffcult. Perhaps I haven’t had the “life-changer” yet and am still wandering in a dark forest of being unknowing.
I could, however, say that each person who I’ve come in contact with, has made me into the person I am today.
They all in a big or small way contributed to me in some way. There’s a man who helped me discover God in my life. There’s a man who made clear to me I was gay. There’s a man who said I could be happy and not finish my education. There’s a woman who instilled good values in me. There’s a woman who sparked my creativity. There’s a woman who taught me to play the guitar.
There are so many people who shape us every day.
We are like rocks. The people around us are like water, shaping us. Sure it takes time (sometimes a lot of it), but in the end we get our shape. And it might not be perfect, but we don’t need to be perfect.
Because we can’t be.
We can only be perfect to ourselves. Other people should just learn to live with the fact that we’re perfect by our own standards, and we won’t be perfect by the standards of others.
January 14, 2011 at 5:57 pm
The biggest impact on me would be reading Le Petit Prince in my highschool senior french class. This book changed the way I look at life. My favorite lines in the book are:
-On ne voit bien qu’avec le cœur. L’essentiel est invisible pour les yeux.
(One sees clearly only with the heart. What is essential is invisible to the eye.)
-Les enfants seuls savent ce qu’ils cherchent.
(Only children know what they are looking for.)
<3
January 14, 2011 at 6:04 pm
Wow… at my age (early 50′s) I can think back to so many wonderful people who have impacted my life. They have given me advice… taught me things I needed to know… and supported me in both good times and bad. I could name most of them off the top of my head… except for one. The one that asked me to join her to go to an audition at work that lead me to being able to have an impact on literally millions of people.
Short and sweet version… I worked for Walt Disney World and was at the Contemporary resort in concierge. A girl I worked with (whos name I can’t remember) asked me to join her for a character audition she wanted to go to… I said no… then i said yes… so we went. 8 hours later, she did not get the job but they offered it to me! I took it cause it paid more than the hotel. I spent the last 10 years of my time at Disney performing in many different roles and brought many fun and wonderful memories to many kids and adults. I sat down one day and figured out that I have signed over 1.8 million autographs as well as posed for 1.4 million pictures. It was one of the most rewarding jobs I ever had but I never would have gone if it was not for that girl I worked with who dragged me to that audition.
I so need to write a book…
January 14, 2011 at 6:19 pm
The person who’s had the biggest impact on me is my partner Steve. He’s an amazing man currently serving our country in Iraq till this coming December. He’s done so much for everyone around him that I marvel on a daily basis as to how lucky I am. Steve has served now for twelve years under the DADT and now under its much needed repeal. He fought for all our freedoms and continues to do so even when the institution he worked didn’t for him. He’s a sincere individual whose relationships are based on soul and not money, popularity or looks.
I strived for years after coming out to try and improve or change myself for the longest time. After meeting Steve he showed me that who I was, was good enough and even perfect for him and that it should be for me as well. He makes me laugh, smile, dance and even cry (tears of joy). He’s my best friend who brought me closer to my family, friends and even myself. He impacts my life daily and I can’t wait for him to come back safe so we can be together again.
January 14, 2011 at 7:18 pm
Obviously, the person who has had the biggest impact on me is my creator, my mother.
January 14, 2011 at 8:15 pm
Davey, I really agree with you! I just spent 12 years locked away in the corporate world and decided to make the change to follow my dreams and fulfill my personal goals! Thanks for the inspiration! Much Love! Christopher
January 14, 2011 at 8:20 pm
The person who has had the biggest impact on me is you Davey. Without your blog id still be scared and confused about who i am. as i am in high school it was very hard for me to come out to my friends but with your support you have helped me so much.
your videos always seem to cheer me up and your an amazing person.
Thankyou for everything
Love Daniel xxx
January 14, 2011 at 9:25 pm
ok, i added you
January 14, 2011 at 11:39 pm
For me I have 2, my first sergeant from the school and my spanish teacher. If it wasn’t for my 1st sergeant I wouldn’t live were I am now and also I don’t get a long with my father so my 1st sergeant is like my father. And if it wasn’t for my spanish teacher I wouldn’t b living at all. Don’t wanna get into details, unless u want me 2.
Lots of hugs,
Jean
January 15, 2011 at 12:33 am
Richard Dawkins and Alan Watts
Richard Dawkins helped my establish my strong confident views, which when I was 15 it was scary enough, it was nice knowing there’s a better way. Alan Watts because he opened my perspective to eastern religions and new thought processes I had always been on the way to, but just needed a few pushes in the right direction
January 15, 2011 at 2:29 am
gone to university
gone to interview
aaahhh you are not f*****g European. You live in upper Rhode Island.
Please put the “the” back in your sentences so you have not completely dissolved into artifice.
January 15, 2011 at 7:06 am
Other than you Mr. Wavey, my very very good friend Kevin(actually a coworker with my mom, but he has become my best friend [yes he's gay]). Though I am only 15 my life is very hectic and stressful. But Kevin coming over every weekend is something to look forward to. I haven’t come out to him yet but I am beginning to realize that it does get better and Kevin is my rile model.
P.S. He introduced me to my third greatest impact on my life, IKEA…
January 15, 2011 at 8:23 am
Davey Wavey
Good Morning!
There are many things/people that have made an impact on my life, but one that cums to mind today was finding yahell ADULT groups some years ago..as NOW I am moderator/owner of over 156++ bi/gay ALL male groups..
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/BOOTSPLACE7
..with over 298,000 bi/gay guys..and after 12++ years of doing them..I feel MORE gay than ever!
I suppose finding you makes me feel gay every too!..Bet you like hearing that Davey..hehehe!
Love “your” David
January 15, 2011 at 8:48 am
Influences: Good or bad?
The person who had the biggest influence on me was my father. Sounds like a wonderful story, doesn’t it… it wasn’t. He molested me, belittled me and made me feel like s**t most of my early life. It wasn’t till I saw the recent Oprah show where she had hundreds of men on who were molested. Seeing that I finally realized why I was so angry and insecure most of my life. Back then we didn’t go for help, we just grinned and bared it. It took seeing an hour long show for me to see everything come to realization for me. I’m going to see someone now at 66 y/o for more understanding of what happened.
January 15, 2011 at 9:28 am
Thich Nhat Hanh has made a huge difference in my life. I started reading his books about 6 years ago. He is a Buddhist monk and teacher that I could actually understand. I started planting seeds of love and compassion and my life has really turned around.
Contratulations DW on inspiring so many young guys that it is OK to be gay. I’m 57 and got OK with it when I came out at age 19. But I see from reading the comments on your post that some young guys are still having trouble. Bless you for the good work you are doing. Love your talky blogs the best.
January 15, 2011 at 9:41 am
THAT VIDEO IMPRESSED ME. SOMETIMES I THINK YOU GET SO… WHAT IS IT, WRAPPED UP IN WHAT YOU’RE DOING THAT IT’S HARD TO SEE THE MORE PERSONAL YOU. THAT’S WHAT I DISLIKE MOST ABOUT THIS IS YOU DON’T GET THE SPIRITUAL VIBE FROM PEOPLE IN THIS MEDIUM. WITH THAT BEING SAID YOU WERE VERY PERCEPTIVE IN YOUR ANALOGY OF THE SITUATION AND MADE A BETTER CHOICE TO DO WHAT YOU DID.
I HAVE MET SEVERAL OR MORE PEOPLE IN MY LIFE THAT AFFECTED ME PROFOUNDLY. TO SAY IT WAS JUST ONE I CAN’T BECAUSE THEY ALL OFFERED SOMETHING EQUALLY AS IMPORTANT. THE FIRST PERSON I WOULD HAVE TO SAY WAS MY GRANDMOTHER AND SHE WAS JUST A BEAUTIFUL PERSON INSIDE AND SHE TAUGHT ME A LOT, ESPECIALLY HOW TO LISTEN AND SHOW LOVE. SHE PASSED ON VALENTINE’S DAY IN 1986 AND I WILL ALWAYS LOVE AND MISS HER VERY MUCH.
TAKE CARE.
January 15, 2011 at 10:08 am
The person who is responsible for who i am now is my father.
I can remember the last thing he told me on his death bed he said “Never dream dont be a foul and dream for things because dreams are what lazy people do, you have goals if you acomplish your dreams it was never a dream it was a goal a dream i something you want but never get a goal is something you fight for” but i cant forget the person who has recently helped me.
Dave your videos have shed light on so many things and for that i cant thank you enough i hope to see more videos and blogs in the future
January 15, 2011 at 11:46 am
Say what?
January 15, 2011 at 12:46 pm
Right. Saint Exupéry wasn’t only a great writer. He was a great humanist too
January 15, 2011 at 1:00 pm
When I was a senior in high school in a small town in Vermont (and pretty confused about my sexuality) one day the achingly handsome young man who sat in front of me in Chemistry class, turned and offered me a piece of candy. He certainly caught my attention and I soon found out that he was even more confused than I was. The next few months were the most exciting and exhilarating period of self discovery in my life. It’s now 38 years later and we are still together. I can’t begin to imagine my life’s path without him.
January 15, 2011 at 4:49 pm
There have been so many in my 66 years on this turn of life on Earth. But one stands out among them all. We met in 1967. He was an Australian Buddhist monk in Thailand. I was in the Peace Corps teaching English there. I heard there was a western monk near by. We met. Became fellow monks for a short while. We have remained friends over the years. He just made it through the floods in Brisbane. I now live in Montreal. Every seven years (more or less)we meet up and compare notes. We are both gay, still Buddhists, we both made lives for ourselves in academia and we both live with a man several decades younger that us. He opened my mind to a new, Buddhist, way of seeing who we are and where we are in the universe. He is my “kalayana mitra”, good friend. So here’s to ya old mate. Cheers.
Be well,
January 15, 2011 at 8:26 pm
Hey Davey Wavey,
One of the many people who has had a great impact on my life is my best friend he is 33 years old this January 24 he is a fire Captin and an EMT and he is openly gay. He has showed me that it is ok and no matter what anyone else says you have to be happy with your decisions and what you choose for your life. In a carrier field that being gay is not openly acepted he had to hide and fit in and after alot of time and hateing himself and second guesses it has become known at the fire house and at the EMT station that he is gay. It means so much to me to have him as a part of my life and he has showed me that it is ok no matter what others may think and say as long as your are true to yourself everything will turn out ok.
P.S. Thanks Davey Wavey for the chance to say this and it also means alot to read these other posts and hear others stories.
Sincerly,
Anthony Gallo ( Pennsylvinia )
January 16, 2011 at 1:49 am
Holy s**t, I don’t wanna say this because its SO cliche but really, you so far have been the biggest impact in my life. Well, you and Jesus
. I guess I should add that I’m young, as in like freshman young. I homosexual realization isn’t exactly the most cheerful greeting card in your life. But I watched one of your videos on YouTube and ever since then have been following this blogs like an anime rapist. And may I say Davey, you have changed my entire perspective on life and how I want to live it. Thank. You.
January 16, 2011 at 9:17 am
dear davey wavey,
I have to say this vid just reaffirms my chosen path. I to thought corporate america was the way to go. I use to pull the 60hr weeks working 7 days a week giving up vacation time neglecting sleep and most importantly “me” time.
I still work in corporate but I have shorten my hrs to only 40 a week and building a company on the side so i can be my own boss and not have to punch a clock. The guy you showed us is my inspiration to. I knew that i wanted to succeed in life but thought only working crazy hours, kissing a** and backstabbing was the only way to go in order to secure the lifestyle that I wanted. Today i see that is truly not the case. VERY VERY soon i will wake up each morning free from the confines of Corporate and step into my own office and ask myself what will I accomplish today instead of being told what I need to get done.
thank you very much for this post. I hope all continue to go well!
hugz
Austen
January 16, 2011 at 9:44 pm
yes, the persons that impacted those are Shakira very human being humble nices person and of course Miss universe colombia Natalia Navarro she is amazing cute, humble and she work so hard to help other that not have power
January 16, 2011 at 11:26 pm
Well I have a few…each helped in so many ways. 1st off I would say when my Father was killed in a car accident. (my mom was killed in a car accident in 1985 I was 6yrs old & dad remarried 2 yrs later to my ‘step’ Mom then dad was killed in 1993 I was 14yrs old) After going through all that hardship from such a early start Then losing my father…It nearly killed me, but I held back the pain & depression & was there for my mom. older sister, & ynger ‘step’ sister. But from that moment on It MADE me growup! I was a very mature 14 yr old more than any I have seen. It wasnt until a yr or so later that I had therapy sessions –which didnt help much. Dad being gone changed soo much — not just the obvious ones. I can look back now and see that EVEN THOUGH I went through soo much pain & anger there were some positive things that came out of it. I wouldnt have been able to go to Spain for 10 days (twice! once in HS & once in College) & take in ALL that culture, learning, exciting things that happened on those trips, nor whould I have met people that I am STILL close friends with. It would have been much more difficult for me to go to college; I wouldnt have come to terms with my sexuality & be PROUD of who I am!; I wouldn’t have realized who my TRUE Family & Friends were…and soo much more!
2nd I would have to say meeting my partner! We’ve been together since Nov. 30, 2001! & have lived together since Feb. 05, 2002! He really completes me (i know thats a quote from ‘Jerry Maguire’) but its true we have so much in commong and share the same interests & hobbies. From the moment I first saw him, i just knew we’d be together for the rest of our lives…it’s been over 9 yrs now and i love him more than i did back then, even though i didnt think that could be possible! Meeting my ‘hubby’ (no not ‘married YET!) took me out of my comfort zone of living in Morgantown, WV (and barely making enough money to pay the bills) to Raleigh, NC. I was in a whole new world…i could come out of my shell more (I’m a Cancer too!)& have MUCH more fun & make more $$ which helped lessen my depression. I became what I had always thought was impossible — to be a happy gay man w/ a wonderful & meaningful & lasting relationship; To start the next BIG Chapter in my life. He was there when I went through so many rocky roads that i honestly dont think i could’ve been able to handle had i been alone. We have a nice house & 2 wonderful ‘sons’ (Silver Egyptian Mau Cats). And ultimately we want to have real sons of our own one day. I have learnt so much more since i met him; I cant even begin to describe everything that he has done for me & been there for me! He is my Soul Mate!!! I Truely know that I had to go through everything I had; take those lessons I’ve learnt & apply them! And after going through all that I did…this was my ‘reward’!! The 1 true thing i never thought I’d get to LIVE!!!
Sure I’m not perfect — far from it. I still deal with the depression & loss of my parents. BUT I know that no matter what…my hubby will be there for me!
January 17, 2011 at 6:58 am
Wow
What a story you have to share!!
it could help so many other people. Please find a way to share it
January 17, 2011 at 7:02 am
Hi Greg
I would like to learn more about Buddism, as one of my only loves has turn Buddist. And don’t know where to find out more about it and a gay view. you can email me @ gabb106@gmail.com
thanks look forward to learning more.
Glen
January 17, 2011 at 7:22 am
Perhaps you could sent my email address to your friend in Brisbane as I am on the Gold Coast just south of Brisbane. And could do with a couple of friends and people to talk with up here?
gabb106@gmail.com
January 18, 2011 at 7:08 pm
Gee, Davey, i think you are a person who is having a great impact on the life of me, a 79 yr old fan. I look forward to your next posting every morning. You are are right on target and provide the most helpful advice and stimulating thoughts! Keep up your good work, guy!
January 19, 2011 at 2:24 am
Email me at jalexzander@yahoo.com
January 20, 2011 at 4:16 am
Definitely my best bud, Cameron. =]
January 20, 2011 at 4:19 am
Hey Dylan,
Thank you, i forgot how much impact it had on me too…for many years..and strangely i forgot about him…but seems that he really had a great impact on me as i tried to do diferently ,but it didn’t work for me and decided for ever de regarder avec le coeur..tomorow i’ll read it again..
March 15, 2011 at 1:52 am
Anthony,
Thanks for that story. I am currently shifting fields from Military life to Firefighter/EMT. I really want to be open in this job as to who I really am and this story has contributed to my confidence.
~Adam