Back in December, I made a video called “Straight People Say the Darndest Things.” Turns out, we gay people say some pretty crazy things, too.
A few weeks ago, I collaborated with Alex to make this video. I would have posted it on Thursday (it’s my talky blog day!), but internet in Utah was super unreliable. Hopefully, it’s worth the wait!
Click below to enjoy:
January 31, 2011 at 9:22 am
I liked that one……..
January 31, 2011 at 9:23 am
Agree, liked that Point>>>
January 31, 2011 at 9:31 am
Funny!!!!
January 31, 2011 at 9:54 am
You have a lot of good comments here, Davey, and I like most of them and agree. As a Senior Gay man, I have seen a lot of things in my 50 years, that I knew I was Gay, both changes and things that have not changed. One: Gay men and women will be discriminated against if you are out, to one degree or another. Example, the behind the back slurring of speech mocking of a person, I’ve seen it happen, even recently. The overly concern about AIDS, well meaning as it may be, still offensive, “aren’t you afraid to kiss on the lips someone who is Gay, or even live with them”, like most people who still don’t know the passing of the HIV virus. Lets face it, the whole thing is a educational thing and that sometime takes a lot longer than you think it should. Internet programs, just like yours, Davey, help understanding to both Gay men and women as well as straight people.
Tolerance is just a word if all you do is agree with all that has been said here, and still go back to the same old routine of “making fun”, “we didn’t mean any harm”, “you know how he is”, cliche yes, but they hit home if a person takes them seriously. For years we were trying to get people to refer as “Gay”, “Lesbian”, now with the popularity of QAF (Queer as Folk) the term “Queer” is being advocated as proper, it shows you how times and words can bake the cycle.
Back in the 40s there was a very good movie about words, hate, intolerance, it was called “Gentleman’s Agreement”, watch it, it’s a keeper. The point was that there was no good point when it came to intolerance and that being nice to someone and still telling jokes behind there back, even if you were disgusted by the joke, If you don’t speak up loud and clear to let people know that you don’t like hearing that kind of thing, and that it doesn’t belong in our society, then you are even more guilty than the person telling the joke. I’ve said enough, like to close saying that this type of forum is needed if not to just let people spew their interests and concerns about these topics, Thanks Davey, PEACE AND LOVE xoxoxo
January 31, 2011 at 10:07 am
The reason you ask that cute twinky if “he’s changed teams yet?” is because he IS cute, he’s video-calling you with his shirt off, and he’s communicating with a gay guy. All these things are suggestive. Some of them are suggestive to our inner dirty-old-man, which would love to jump on that twinky’s bones and “do the nasty,” while other elements are suggestive OF the twinky’s actual interests.
Our culture doesn’t teach open inclusiveness with gay people by straight twinkies like him. He should be RUNNING away from you and putting a shirt on when he’s around gay guys … that’s what our sick culture teaches him. He’s not responding to you that way, hence the question arises: “perhaps he’s gay and hasn’t yet discovered it or some to the realization yet?” And THAT is the inner question that’s behind the outer question: “have you switched teams yet?” It’s not an affirmation of the thought that one chooses to be gay or straight; it’s an affirmation of the REALITY that a lot of us have faked being straight, have denied our identity for so long that we have trouble admitting what we are. We think we’re fooling others by pretending to be straight. For a twinky like Alex, it’s a question of him coming to the realization that he’s gay.
Is he? I don’t know. But he does do things that are suggestive. And it’s those suggestive things which occasion the question … not the question of him “switching teams” but the real question: “have you come to the realization yet that you really ARE gay?”
And, of course, if you are … can I “do” you???
January 31, 2011 at 10:37 am
boy-thats so true what gay guys say-it comes out in a social setting from time to time.im preparing for the day when and im preparing for this-a comeback-for when plastic bags are banned in stores.what do i say to tick off my str8 friends-especially how he talks about those cloth/fibre shopping bags-as he says it-man bags.but he says it in a negative way.oh-im so ready for the plastic bag ban.
January 31, 2011 at 12:55 pm
Ok. I guess I will not get with anyone else, but I will still do what I like to do and collect what I like to collect.
January 31, 2011 at 2:39 pm
I love the video, I agree with you about the str8 acting label. who wants a str8 guy? I mean sure you can look at them.. like your friend Alex, but in the end you cannot touch. so guys like that always turn me off. I like a gay men who list them self as masculine, athletic or just plan sexy. but to me str8 acting just means you’re a closet case. But by far the biggest peepive I have about gay men, and it is not something you have dealt with yet. But when a guy thinks you’re hot, sexy and then he ask your age. When he finds out your not that 30 y/o sexy thing he thought, but older, your are now some 3 headed freak. I do not understand what is the difference is if five seconds before that you were this hot sexy dude and now your this 1000 year old mummy. If you find a guy hot who cares how old is my rule, life is short and hot men are in short supply. so why let age get in the way of what could be the best thing to ever happen to you in your life? Str8 people don’t let that bother them. Why should we?
You always make my day when I see your video and you great smile and those hot tits And when are we going to see this lucky boy friend of yours? Or have I missed that video?
January 31, 2011 at 3:14 pm
Alex, str8 or not, I’d eat your ass till your head caved in…
January 31, 2011 at 3:24 pm
He looks like a 14 year old child don’t be surprise if he underage… Yikes
January 31, 2011 at 4:26 pm
Yeah, definitely! “Straight-acting” is by far the most insulting thing someone can say in an ad on a gay web-site looking for Mr. Right now! If you are acting, you are nor really being you. We all have our moments when we might prefer a feather boa to a wool scarf, or another when we get really turned on by an aromatic underarm instead of perfume. And that’s all in the same person, eh? People are complex beings who defy labels. I know I’m gay because I love c**k (uncut, of course). Whether I wear construction boots or ballet slippers, makes no difference to that fundamental reality.
Be well, (please say Hi to Alex)
January 31, 2011 at 11:36 pm
The only thing I have a beef about this video is when Davey says, “Let him be…..” LET!!??
When you say this it sounds as if you are give us, the femmes of the world, your permission to be effeminate. Pardon my french, but, f**k YOU! We don’t need, nor have ever needed, someone’s permission to be who we are.
February 1, 2011 at 2:34 am
The real issue is…is whats being said demeaning. If its demeaning then it shouldn’t be said. People use the “oversensitive or even hypersensitive” argument to continue spewing hateful comments. Sensitivity is not the issue. Hate is. BTW thank you for not being oversensitive.
February 1, 2011 at 7:22 am
Holy Schnikes….drama queen…think you are being over sensitive about the whole thing….
February 1, 2011 at 1:57 pm
straight acting does not mean they are acting it means the men are looking for masculine men or men that have sex with men and that is about the only thing that is gay about them…
As for me I only find ‘straight acting’ or stromo men attractive..and don’t give two damns who it pisses off…
February 9, 2011 at 12:24 am
agreed. I think that using words that are seen as hateful if another says it only promotes the use of those words by others and in turn they are used in a hateful context. I do agree that we shouldn’t be so serious with our interactions with one another too but even joking about some issues (like being feminine) can be laughed at but really hurt the person on the inside.
There are soo many light hearted funny things out there that I’m sure you can find other things that are non-offensive
June 2, 2011 at 11:15 am
Hey Davey
You make a good point but many of these things are stupid or offensive only because we let them become so. Lets take the following words for a second and see who finds some or all of them offensive – Gay, faggot, poof, queer, queen, homo. OK so take this to a different section of the population – Old, Pensioner, Geriatric, Senior Citizen etc etc.
OK so the point is that all of these in both groups have been used over the years. Once they are in common use ‘we’ start to take offence. My Grandmother never took offence at being a Pensioner but my mom certainly would.
There is kinda something that tells me we a lot of what we say is down to how its said and to whom and not the content its self. I have one mate who calls everyone ‘girl’. If he did it to me I’d be mightily pissed off but he doesn’t. I used to find it strange but that’s just who he is. I call many people sweetie but I’m thinking my boss would be offended (amongst other things.
We do say stupid things but in the right place at the right time is it stupid. As for askjng Straight guys if they have switched teams yet – its not an actual question it’s a wishful thought in the same way we might (have done it) ask the same person out hoping they wil;l eventually change their mind.
Anyways thats my 2 cents. Keep up the good work Davey