Comments on: talky blog: 35 is the new 18.

By: Zarya

Zarya — Mon, 15 Aug 2011 17:57:24 +0000

Whoever wrote this, you know how to make a good atrcile.

By: Thomas

Thomas — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 15:43:04 +0000

I would like you all to take a peek at my lenghty August 18 comment under the caption “To the generations before me: thank you”.
Read about my recent third coming out.

What more can I say? OK, that money never, ever played a role in my growing up or in my pick of friends or mates. We were poor together in poor times and rich together in rich times. And I mean: rich, but not always moneywise.

Now that I’ve turned 60, for the first time in my life I’m also being dated by men who are OLDER than me. I must say, I feel comfortable having all sorts of relationships with men in the age group 20-45 as well as with men in the age group 45-65.

And now that I’ve turned 60, I dare say that I certainly feel like the NEW 35 y/o, he he he.

Let’s hear what you have to add to that…!

By: NIcolas Von Court

NIcolas Von Court — Mon, 10 Aug 2009 03:25:58 +0000

So, 35 might be the new 18, but I wouldn’t date a 35 year old unless I was 35. Right now, I would date a 25 year old just out of college. I come from a wealthy family so I’m used to paying for everything. You said in your video that 35 year olds have already been through everything. I would have wanted to be there with them when everything happened. All in all, I would not want to date a 35 year old yet, and they’re not the new 18. By the way, you so do not look 26. I thought you were 18 when I first saw you.

By: Closeted trav

Closeted trav — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 01:40:14 +0000

That screws me over. I’m not even 18 yet. (or 17,16,15)

By: Debola from Seattle

Debola from Seattle — Sun, 02 Aug 2009 16:07:54 +0000

I’m 27 and I’ve dated a 42 year old who was a little kid, and a 22 who seemed more jaded (in the worst way) than anyone I’ve ever heard of. To contrast these, I’ve also dated a “fresh package” 20 year old, who was adorable, but completely inexperienced and lived in the dorms (that got old really quickly, pun intended) as well as a 39 year old who had the worst stories, even though he was healthy and successful. There were a ton of places he didn’t go to because “he had an ex that frequented them” Also got old fast!!! What I’m saying is: People are people regardless of their ages, yes people of certain ages are more likely to have certain attributes, but one should really be trying to date a person, not their age

By: Vincent Burris

Vincent Burris — Sat, 25 Jul 2009 22:52:16 +0000

I’m 26yrs old, and I’ve mainly dated guys my age or older..I think guys in their mid thirties are hot!…I’m not crazy about the 18-21yr olds b/c they don’t have their stuff together responsiblity wise and I’ve always been very mature for my age and taken care of myself and not dependent on my parents.

By: Dave

Dave — Sat, 25 Jul 2009 10:39:56 +0000

Then I would say that 40 is the new 21.

Having turned 40 this year I’d have to say that the last 10 years were the best so far and am looking forward to the next 10 years being even better.

By: Cal

Cal — Sat, 25 Jul 2009 01:30:46 +0000

I think 25 and 35 are most attractive…
I somehow don’t like the number 30, ha ha

By: Ian UK

Ian UK — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 01:53:44 +0000

I just turned 35 and i just see myself as ‘Old enough to know better, but young enough not to care’. Yes when i was 18 i thought a 30yr old was passed it, however now i’m passed the panic point of turning 30 i still feel the same, do the same stuff (Podium dancing like nobody is watching). Yeah i’d love to be 18 again… aslong as i could have my 35 yr old brain and morals (I had the morals of an alley cat when i was 18).

By: Anthony

Anthony — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 06:08:09 +0000

I think you should give me a call.

By: DavidJi

DavidJi — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 12:23:51 +0000

You are 35? but you look really awesome, just like 25~~~

By: Mr. Jody

Mr. Jody — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 01:23:01 +0000

It’s funny to hear you talking about “35 is the new 18″. Is 44 the “new 27″ ? HA ! I remember being in my early 30′s and feeling pretty much like that was the best age to be. Then BOOM – I’m 44 ! It happens SO FAST !!! We’ll ALL die wrinkled, but only alone if that’s what you choose.

Cultivate good things in life and good things will come to you. Thanks for helping people see what the good things really are !

By: Carlos

Carlos — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 00:15:27 +0000

I used to think the same thing about working out. It was something I wasn’t used to, that I was bad at, and I hated it. But I did it, and what initially was suffering is now sometihng I enjoy immensely.

Work is a part of life, and it’s natural not to want to do it. But we should not be led by that initial disdain, as through work we define our life and ourselves. There is great value behind the smallest of chores. Don’t think of the chore, but rather of what you accomplish with it.

I for one would tell you to stop being so spoiled and, even if you do move back to your parents’, pull your weight around the house and a little more. Find it in you to like the unlikeable chore, because it has to be done, and you (yes, you) have to do it. A spoonful of sugar does help the medicine go down. Hit the stereo with some upbeat music. Dance while you sweep. Imagine your appartment being the centerfold for a design magazine. But do it yourself.

Being successful in life requires endurance. Not merely suffering things we don’t like, but actually trying to like the things we don’t like but have to do.

By: Carlos

Carlos — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 23:53:26 +0000

There is more than one formula for life.
Being a workoholic and trying to amass great wealth and power or being a perennial teenager are not the only options.

After leading a rather formal and demanding lifestyle, I decided that that wasn’t getting me where I truly wanted to be, so I rethought my goals in life. I still have many responsibilities, and do many things, but do not feel overwhelmed by any, and have loads of fun, all the time (without getting drunk, or partying at clubs all night). In my 30′s, having seen many things, and befriended many sorts of people from many different backgrounds, I am more confident, feel (and look) younger, and am in better shape than ever before.

By: rickyt

rickyt — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 18:50:04 +0000

Paris, we are ageless. Being the body, you become that. Be your true self and
become ageless.
rickyt

By: rickyt

rickyt — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 17:04:18 +0000

Hi Sebastian, yes working sucks. after all my years of working, I now can say it sucks.
All I wish to do is meditation and dream of what life can be. I am just finding out that
Time is a mentation, it all mental. Everything is Now! So go home and start to love doing
your house hold chore. And start to learn about the real you. You are not your body.
There are many books out there that can help you to become your true self. And then you
will become the master of your life. Haha a Master of Life do not work for a living
Sebastian, you are so right, working sucks!
rickyt

By: sean

sean — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 08:09:45 +0000

I wanted to respond to Justin, the 18 yr old who wants to be a lawyer. Justin, you sound incredibly mature and focused, not typical for the average young man. It’s obvious to me you will not only meet your goals but excell as a lawyer. I would love to date somebody as sharp and driven as you are. Best of luck to you. seanmagic1964@yahoo.com

By: Justin

Justin — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 05:55:05 +0000

Dave,

I know this is a couple of days late, but i just want to say that i would really like to know what “Experiences” that you think you have had that are different than mine. I’ve been through a lot and i’m only 18. I’m not going to go into that here, but if you really want to know i’ll tell you. I also have a plan for my life. I’m going to college for to eventually become a lawyer. I have bills i have to pay a job which pays me entirely too little and i have my own car. I know that you probably are going to say you have all of that as well plus a house and a mortgage and all that dull and boring things that you get when you get older. But i also think that at 18 i can adapt to situations better than you can. And everything does vary to each person, but the older you get the more set in your ways you become. Take my dad for instance. If you use something and don’t take car of it right away he flips. So basically all that i am saying is that you really shouldn’t judge people by their age and make that a barrier. A lot of people my age have been through things you can only imagine. Also if you choose to say that you would never date an 18 year old except a truly extraordinaty one, i believe you are closing a potentially amazing relationshi that you could have…

Just my two cents,
Justin

By: Oj

Oj — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 03:52:23 +0000

No Sebastian…enjoy your life.

Do NOT hurry to grow up, nor should u waste anything trying to.

Have fun and be good at everything u do!

By: Sebastian young

Sebastian young — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 02:13:02 +0000

Ok so younger guys may not have their s**t together but it’s not all younger guys right ? There is that small percentage that do have theirs together!
But honestly I’m not I. That percentage…. I’m don’t have my s**t together because I choose not to. I’ve moved out of home a month ago and moved over 1000km away from my parents and I’m thinking about moving back because I HATE doing house hold chores! They are the worst! And I working sucks! It’s now a must not something for fun! That is the attitude of some one who is young and I am young but I know when to be responsible and when to be my age… So should we stick to our own age group ? Or should we just grow up and get our s**t together so we can date older guys?!?!?!?

Sebastian!

By: roger

roger — Sun, 19 Jul 2009 01:47:11 +0000

Oh oh! Sounds like Davey is dumping his younger bf! Dave- Can you confirm or deny this fact?

By: Craig

Craig — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 19:54:42 +0000

Yes!! Chronological age usually has very little to do with the maturity level of the person.

By: Mario Z

Mario Z — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 18:36:23 +0000

I agree with you on all your points. I just turned 24, and while I feel like I’m heading “downhill”, deep down I know getting older is actually better. A lot of people I know that are in their 30′s tell me it feels like it’s the best time in their lives.

I’d much rather date a 35 year old than an 18 year old. MUCH less to deal with, and MUCH more to enjoy!

By: Sebastian Young

Sebastian Young — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 15:45:10 +0000

Well i just wrote you a massive comment previously and it kind of had something to do with guys over 30!…

Well i still stick by with what i said…
BUT

i just turned 20 im may.. and ive been legal for 2 years (clubbing wise)
and no i ca see that you are right a 35 year old does have twice as many life experiences as an 18 year old, although an 18 year old, has a lot more freedom than what a 35 year old does, commitments, bills, car repayments life insurance, mortgage, those are all thing that 80% of 18 year old most probably dont have yet, so in saying that, it is more attractive to have someone who has their s**t together and who is grounded, but is it not easier having someone who is 18 (or 20) and not have to worry about the other Adult s**t in life????

Sebastian Young

By: Rob

Rob — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 13:35:43 +0000

I have to say whilst I agree with this in general it would be wrong to exclude someone from consideration because of their age. I am 20 but I think that I have been through a lot of experiences and I feel a lot older. I have my stuff together and I’d rather settle down than be like the 18 year olds that you describe.

I am a student and I do have debts but all the same, I work a part-time job at the same time and am soon going to be promoted to manager so I am more than capable of supporting myself. I have to agree though, I would want some crazy 18 year old sponging from me.

I have also dated people older than myself and have found that even they can be quite immature and all over the place and not really knowing what they want and then 19 year olds that are very grounded and mature. I guess my message is just that 35 is not always the new 18 and that you shouldn’t rule someone out because of their age before you get to know them. You might be surprised…