I agree entirely, behind every face there is a story and the real decision is whether or not you want to hear what that story is.
Many a perfectly good opportunity for a relationship could be passed by being so oblivious to the fact that these stories exist and that the people using Grindr are still human at the end of the day.
Welll.. my straight friends are jealous of Grindr. They just can’t compete with it.
I don’t really think its dehumanizing at all. For some people who cannot come out at home have a huge network of people to meet at their fingertips. Also, you use it as you wish, if you want to have more meaningful relationships, you talk with those who say they want friends or a more meaningful relationship and not just a quick f**k. Its definitely nice to know that its so easy when you want it.
I have been on Grindr but not for months kinda stopped when the 51 y/o dude showed up at my work. Not cool, never used it for hookups, basically just to chat with other gay men. Bad thing no way to delete profile
chipotle! wow! hahaah!! love your intro, and love your new logo at the bottom left! 5 stars!! what about if u are buying mcdonalds, and the cashier is logged on to grindr? that would be awkward… or your taxi driver.. if it works on the plane, u may even get a yummy steward as well!
in response to this vid i have been a user of grindr for about 6 months and recently i have found a guy i have started to chat to and we even have arranged to go out on a date this app is brill for someone like me who is shy it is a great way to start to chat to guys who are local and it makes you feel out which are safe and which are not
davey this blog is cool and i think as long as you use it safe and responsible then it is yet another way to meet and get connected in this modern digital age
I’ve met several people online who have become friends. I realized I have to be careful and not keep the relationships totally online – that is dehumanizing and has me living life inside my condo when I would rather be out and about. So I think if you’re willing to take the relationship offline once you’ve met and have a rapport then go for it!!
GRINDR, like any other dating/cruising site doesn’t dehumanise in any way, shape or form…. everyone (i mean everyone) checks out boys or girls on the street every day, this is no different only you do it online.
Some people just look, some people play, some people are just there for shag and others something more.. it gets tricky though when people are not honest and true to those they are GRINDRing (?) with, or are offensive…. but then they are probably like that in real life anyway.
I searched the word “gay” on the iTunes store and Grindr was the first app to pop up. I didn’t buy it because it sounded kinda sleazy. After seeing your video I went on my iPod and bought it. I have now had it for like 2 hours and I love it.
Dude you paid for it. That costs like $2.99 per month. Use the free version it’s basically the sam except for the push notifications. And Grindr is great on a college campus b/c you can bitch about a professor then work out your frustrations after class
I even saw one of my neighbors on it and I didn’t even know he was gay. I just came out to him via Grindr and he is the first person I know that I have told.
hey hey davey! ive been a grindr user for a while now haha and have met several guys with some interesting stories to tell! haha just going to say that not everyone looks just like the pic on the profile!!! But i have met some guys that have become friends and some other guys for some fun…all in all it is a fun app and actually the dallas gay club Station 4 (S4) is hosting a grindr party tomorrow night! cant wait!
Davey Wavey
Good Morning!
I put your talky blog on mute and between looking at your expression…following your hand gestures…giving thought to what you will be like when you c*m back to my place in Jerszzy…I think I got the gist of what you had to say…and it was ALL good..
Love David
Grindr serves a purpose. Where it can be useful in finding friendships, when in the hands of a weak minded chat addictive partner that can’t differ between 20yr olds honeymoon love and a committed long term partnership it can easily lead to destructive behavior to a couples relationship. Grindr has taken a once beautiful man of my dreams and transformed him into scum. Im sure im not the only angry partner who’s had their dreams destroyed because there is an “app for that”. Fu*k Grindr!
I understand your anger but try not to blame the tool; blame the man who was holding it in the palm of his hand (who I hope is now or soon will become your “ex”).
If your partner was willing to cheat on you using Grindr he would have been—and probably was—willing to cheat using any other tool to facilitate a connection with others. Personally speaking, apps such as the one that DW has focused on in his talky blog are probably great for helping gay men find other gay men. However, when do we quit depending on the “back rooms” and the parking lots to get our nut off and just start to get to know people better IRL? And once we’ve seemingly found our dream guy, why not “be content” to live out our fantasies with HIM (or in your case, you)?
Personally, I don’t blame Grindr and I don’t blame the chat rooms; I blame the lack of honesty (with our partner and with ourselves) with regard to our wants and expectations. Most 20-year old men are still very much controlled by their c**k and balls so it takes more of an effort for two twenty-somethings in a relationship to stay true to one another (imo). That doesn’t mean it can’t be done but both are going to have to be willing to stay in it for the long haul and work hard to try and avoid falling for the many distractions along the way.
Matt, don’t settle for less than your BF has (or should have) to offer. If he’s cheating on you and seems unwilling to stop, kick his ass to the curb and find somebody who is willing to give you the attention everyone does deserve in a relationship.
Damn, Michael, that was beautiful…such good advice, bravo; young gay guys need to know this….we just don’t settle down before 30 or later? lol
Davey attracts some real people with genuine; helpful advice!
I’m an old fart who has been around long enough to have experienced some of what Matt is feeling today. The key is to direct his anger at what it “should” be directed at; his partner. We should all take more time to really get to know our “romantic interests” better before we make the decision to settle down with that person for the long haul. Else wise, we’re no better than all the straight people who are getting married, getting divorced, getting married again (and well, you see the vicious cycle). LOL.
Personally, I don’t know that I really like the idea of Grindr or not. Davide points out a real risk with it when he spoke of the 51-year old guy who showed up at his workplace (Davide’s) unannounced and uninvited. I consider Davide to be a friend and it pisses me off that somebody would use such an app to “stalk” another person (which is precisely what that person did). Davide doesn’t need my protection (in truth, perhaps I need his—ROFL!!) but I don’t like it when my friends are placed in harm’s way or taken advantage of. It sounds to me as though they need to work out some of the flaws with this app.
But we have to direct our anger and blame where it belongs, nonetheless. I was moved to blog about this today because of some of the comments I’m seeing here.
Damn, Michael, that was beautiful…such good advice, bravo; young gay guys need to know this….we just don’t settle down before 30 or later? lol
Davey attracts some real people with genuine; helpful advice!
Grindr serves a purpose. Where it can be useful in finding friendships, when in the hands of a weak minded chat addictive partner that can’t differ between 20yr olds honeymoon love and a committed long term partnership it can easily lead to destructive behavior to a couples relationship. Grindr has taken a once beautiful man of my dreams and transformed him into scum. Im sure im not the only angry partner who’s had their dreams destroyed because there is an “app for that”. (
Well, the internet and all the handheld devices bring a new meaning into our life (gay and straight). While in the past, people would wait for the right moment to go out of their way to do something fishy, nowadays it is in the palm of their hands or their desk. I don’t think it dehumanizes people, but I am sure it has a major impact on what we consider as our social values, etc (all the “ethical” rules that we’ve been passed along as being the norms). I think now people can act easier toward a hidden need that would have been kept suppressed if it was in the 60’s, 70’s or the 80s. The internet is just putting the hidden truth out. We just have to face the fact that our way of seeing things should now adjust to the advancement of technology. It can’t stay static!! A cheater will always be a cheater; a sincere honest guy will always be sincere and honest. Regardless, the temptation is more available now. BTW, thanks Davey for being who you are!!
It is so fun to find out who is gay around you. I live in the South (even though I’m not that fond of it) and here the following is constantly an issue for gay men: “Do I come out and risk everything, or do I stay closeted and miserable relying on craigslist or grindr for my satisfaction?” I go to law school and as you can imagine, there are many people there that I have suspicions about. It is always interesting to see the people that you suspect are gay pop up on your screen without a shirt on or even worse. HAHA!
I met my boyfriend on Grindr. We have been together 6 months and he is my best friend. I think it is awesome that someone I would have just passed in the street without a second look is now in my life.
I wouldn’t use this app if I was single. But I guess it serves a good purpose for those who are just looking to hook-up. If thats your cup of tea go for it, but be safe
hey wavey.
ive have been following your blog for a while now! you seem to always bring a smile to my face. i love always smile when i see something new you on your page. however – in regards to grindr – i meet my boyfriend via grindr. happy to say, that i love him dearly – it was a six month anniversary last week. just thought id let you know that there are positive outcomes from the digital era. we connect so well its scary – almost like the same person. anyways. hope your well. peace out! shaun
Interesting post I’m just responding cuz you asked for opinions. I’ve actually never spent time with someone I didn’t meet through some social interaction with someone I already know. I’ve never been in a chat room, I can’t seem to wrap my head around the concept that the person on the other end of the line is really there, unless….I know them and have met them previously. A photo of someone to me is not who that person is you can talk cuz words mean something, but really I rely so much on body language to define in my own mind who someone is, that I can’t seem to bridge less complicated human meeting. If you can’t really someone’s eyes like really see them how do you know if their honest, how do you know if they are sketchy or shady. I’m not against these concepts of defining relationship by computer or electronic interaction it’s just, maybe I’m deficient but I just can’t imagine meeting someone without real person interaction from the beginning.
To Kenneth…nice post, I liked it…it’s the young guys coming out today…all they know is FB, Grindr, etc. they don’t know how to interact like we do..I asked some young Twink his {landline} phone # and he said what? GUY
I don’t think that these websites necessarily dehumanize people. I definitely think that some guys do, but that’s not the website’s fault.
A former friend of mine seems to think it’s really entertaining to give out my phone number on manhunt. (It took me a long time to figure out why I kept getting kinky pics/messages.) Most of the people I’ve talked with thanks to his little prank have actually been quite nice. (many have been old pervs too.)
I don’t really care how people meet. Each person has their own perception of the world and their own unique was of experiencing it. If one of those ways is through the internet and it works for that person, then so be it. (Although I may personally disagree with the whole hooking up part, my morality can only be applied to my life.)
I think this app for iphones isnt such a bad app. i mean i have met some amazing people on there and have made some solid friendships out of it! i never even thought of meeting this amazing guy… did not think it would be possible through a simple iphone app.
I was simply wrong. I’ve met the guy of my dreams on this app. I used it for a while … probably about 6 months, and one day whilst i was at university, this guy popped up with a message. a simple “hello” message. from that day onwards, my life changed. We had several problems because of his ex, however we are working things out now again, and hopefully we will be stronger than ever before.
It makes you think… my potential boyfriend studies at my university… yet i had no idea about him and i would have no idea about him if it wasnt for this amazing app.
I really am happy about this app… and yes sometimes you may get weird people sending you some REALLY weird messages but all u have to do is hit the ‘block’ button and your done.
And when it comes to peoples boyfriends cheating on them through this app… i certainly do not think you should be blaming the app… only person you should be blaming is either your self or your partner. If he managed to cheat through this app then he would have definitely cheated on you by meeting a guy at a random club without any hesitations!!
My first bi experience and I would never have done it without grindr.I think it’s a great app it’s just so easy and I don’t think dehumanises anyone at least you get to chat you don’t need to meet up if you don’t wana. You would be swell saying dating sites dehumanise to the only differance between the two is grinder is alot faster and you get more response!
I decided to design my own mobile app that works on all devised that have a browser, its called http://InstantMALE.com i’m still working on the app but its coming along
Can anyone tell me that if grindr keeps you logged in after you don’t use it? I’m asking because I met a person 2 weeks ago, we seemed to hit it off. We are crazy about each other, and one day I go on and his profile is logged on it. I know sometimes when I use it and log off I get messaged the next time I’m on it.
Grindr IS dehumanizing, if you become addicted to it, and let’s face it, most users are. But trying to get them to acknowledge that is the same as asking a drug addict if he is one: no, it’s just fun, I’m in control. All of you who do not agree it is dehumanizing, tell me how much time do you actually spend on grindr each day? Do you keep using it when you are watching tv, or when you are with friends?
Ok, there were previous ways to meet guys, but “f**k places” and gay social networks are dull anyway – useful, but their only purpose is to “hide” the loneliness of the people they attract by telling them that they can help them to be less lonely, when they actually hurt them. I know some people meet that way, but maybe if you stop using grindr in a bar and you look around you, you could find someone better – if he’s not using grindr on his phone, otherwise he won’t see you. But anyway, what existed before was much sounder than grindr: because you had to use a computer, gaydar for example was not FOLLOWING you. Grindr is on your phone, it constantly sends you messages, you can access it from anywhere so if you tend to be addicted to it, it really does not help – it’s a bit like facebook. With moderation, yes, it is fun and useful. Having an application which make you live THROUGH facebook if you are using it all the day, that’s awful.
So, be honest, think of it, if you tell me that you ONLY use grindr when you are actually getting bored or alone, that is fine. But I am sure some of you are conscious that once they have tried grindr, stopping using it makes the rest feel boring, that is what an addiction is. Go back to real life guys, before it’s too late.
And stop saying we don’t have figures and data. This is normal, it takes years to gather. Just look around you, look at your friends. Look at gonorrhea becoming stronger, the number of STD among people you know, and how lonely and self-centered our whole superficial gay scene is becoming. Are you happy with that? Stop being children and asking for rights if you are not able to stand for yourself, be responsible for our community and actually care about society.
March 25, 2010 at 1:34 pm
I agree entirely, behind every face there is a story and the real decision is whether or not you want to hear what that story is.
Many a perfectly good opportunity for a relationship could be passed by being so oblivious to the fact that these stories exist and that the people using Grindr are still human at the end of the day.
Another great talky blog Davey!
March 25, 2010 at 1:42 pm
Welll.. my straight friends are jealous of Grindr. They just can’t compete with it.
I don’t really think its dehumanizing at all. For some people who cannot come out at home have a huge network of people to meet at their fingertips. Also, you use it as you wish, if you want to have more meaningful relationships, you talk with those who say they want friends or a more meaningful relationship and not just a quick f**k. Its definitely nice to know that its so easy when you want it.
March 25, 2010 at 2:35 pm
You should have thrown in the obligatory safe sex comment. Some of your blog buddies might be young or just naive.
March 25, 2010 at 2:59 pm
helo!mane gillialdo.usted es una graciñaestoy encantado con su película.
March 25, 2010 at 3:14 pm
GRINDR is the best and I love it. lol
March 25, 2010 at 3:23 pm
when can u work o ur clothing line w/DAVEY/WAVEY Logos and pics and sayings…what u hav needs work. sorry GUY
March 25, 2010 at 3:24 pm
O..I love GRINDR too!
March 25, 2010 at 3:25 pm
…and u can;t model ur own briefs, gee, ur a certified hunk, fox, babe, etc.!
March 25, 2010 at 4:33 pm
I have been on Grindr but not for months kinda stopped when the 51 y/o dude showed up at my work. Not cool, never used it for hookups, basically just to chat with other gay men. Bad thing no way to delete profile
March 25, 2010 at 4:40 pm
Love you too Davey
March 25, 2010 at 4:57 pm
chipotle! wow! hahaah!! love your intro, and love your new logo at the bottom left! 5 stars!! what about if u are buying mcdonalds, and the cashier is logged on to grindr? that would be awkward… or your taxi driver.. if it works on the plane, u may even get a yummy steward as well!
March 25, 2010 at 6:36 pm
How’s the foreskin restoration going, Davey? What are you using specifically?
March 25, 2010 at 7:04 pm
in response to this vid i have been a user of grindr for about 6 months and recently i have found a guy i have started to chat to and we even have arranged to go out on a date this app is brill for someone like me who is shy it is a great way to start to chat to guys who are local and it makes you feel out which are safe and which are not
davey this blog is cool and i think as long as you use it safe and responsible then it is yet another way to meet and get connected in this modern digital age
March 25, 2010 at 7:40 pm
Online “Relationship” chat of any kind is dehumanizing.
March 25, 2010 at 9:13 pm
i met someone online we met.
March 25, 2010 at 9:36 pm
I’ve met several people online who have become friends. I realized I have to be careful and not keep the relationships totally online – that is dehumanizing and has me living life inside my condo when I would rather be out and about. So I think if you’re willing to take the relationship offline once you’ve met and have a rapport then go for it!!
March 25, 2010 at 9:39 pm
Wonder if this is available for BlackBerry users
I have the Bold9700 which has a GPS… I’m off to search for it!! Tanks for the tip.
March 25, 2010 at 7:52 pm
GRINDR, like any other dating/cruising site doesn’t dehumanise in any way, shape or form…. everyone (i mean everyone) checks out boys or girls on the street every day, this is no different only you do it online.
Some people just look, some people play, some people are just there for shag and others something more.. it gets tricky though when people are not honest and true to those they are GRINDRing (?) with, or are offensive…. but then they are probably like that in real life anyway.
GRIND away peeps, just keep it real!
March 25, 2010 at 9:09 pm
Chipotle is adorable. Thanks for including her in the video.
March 25, 2010 at 10:06 pm
I searched the word “gay” on the iTunes store and Grindr was the first app to pop up. I didn’t buy it because it sounded kinda sleazy. After seeing your video I went on my iPod and bought it. I have now had it for like 2 hours and I love it.
March 25, 2010 at 11:12 pm
Dude you paid for it. That costs like $2.99 per month. Use the free version it’s basically the sam except for the push notifications. And Grindr is great on a college campus b/c you can bitch about a professor then work out your frustrations after class
March 26, 2010 at 2:12 pm
No. I didn’t pay for it. It was free on iTunes.
March 26, 2010 at 3:00 pm
I even saw one of my neighbors on it and I didn’t even know he was gay. I just came out to him via Grindr and he is the first person I know that I have told.
March 25, 2010 at 11:55 pm
hey hey davey! ive been a grindr user for a while now haha and have met several guys with some interesting stories to tell! haha just going to say that not everyone looks just like the pic on the profile!!! But i have met some guys that have become friends and some other guys for some fun…all in all it is a fun app and actually the dallas gay club Station 4 (S4) is hosting a grindr party tomorrow night! cant wait!
March 26, 2010 at 6:23 am
Davey Wavey
Good Morning!
I put your talky blog on mute and between looking at your expression…following your hand gestures…giving thought to what you will be like when you c*m back to my place in Jerszzy…I think I got the gist of what you had to say…and it was ALL good..
Love David
March 26, 2010 at 8:14 am
Grindr serves a purpose. Where it can be useful in finding friendships, when in the hands of a weak minded chat addictive partner that can’t differ between 20yr olds honeymoon love and a committed long term partnership it can easily lead to destructive behavior to a couples relationship. Grindr has taken a once beautiful man of my dreams and transformed him into scum. Im sure im not the only angry partner who’s had their dreams destroyed because there is an “app for that”. Fu*k Grindr!
March 26, 2010 at 3:35 pm
I understand your anger but try not to blame the tool; blame the man who was holding it in the palm of his hand (who I hope is now or soon will become your “ex”).
If your partner was willing to cheat on you using Grindr he would have been—and probably was—willing to cheat using any other tool to facilitate a connection with others. Personally speaking, apps such as the one that DW has focused on in his talky blog are probably great for helping gay men find other gay men. However, when do we quit depending on the “back rooms” and the parking lots to get our nut off and just start to get to know people better IRL? And once we’ve seemingly found our dream guy, why not “be content” to live out our fantasies with HIM (or in your case, you)?
Personally, I don’t blame Grindr and I don’t blame the chat rooms; I blame the lack of honesty (with our partner and with ourselves) with regard to our wants and expectations. Most 20-year old men are still very much controlled by their c**k and balls so it takes more of an effort for two twenty-somethings in a relationship to stay true to one another (imo). That doesn’t mean it can’t be done but both are going to have to be willing to stay in it for the long haul and work hard to try and avoid falling for the many distractions along the way.
Matt, don’t settle for less than your BF has (or should have) to offer. If he’s cheating on you and seems unwilling to stop, kick his ass to the curb and find somebody who is willing to give you the attention everyone does deserve in a relationship.
Namaste,
Michael
March 26, 2010 at 4:06 pm
Damn, Michael, that was beautiful…such good advice, bravo; young gay guys need to know this….we just don’t settle down before 30 or later? lol
Davey attracts some real people with genuine; helpful advice!
GUY
March 26, 2010 at 6:37 pm
LOL. Thanks…
I’m an old fart who has been around long enough to have experienced some of what Matt is feeling today. The key is to direct his anger at what it “should” be directed at; his partner. We should all take more time to really get to know our “romantic interests” better before we make the decision to settle down with that person for the long haul. Else wise, we’re no better than all the straight people who are getting married, getting divorced, getting married again (and well, you see the vicious cycle). LOL.
Personally, I don’t know that I really like the idea of Grindr or not. Davide points out a real risk with it when he spoke of the 51-year old guy who showed up at his workplace (Davide’s) unannounced and uninvited. I consider Davide to be a friend and it pisses me off that somebody would use such an app to “stalk” another person (which is precisely what that person did). Davide doesn’t need my protection (in truth, perhaps I need his—ROFL!!) but I don’t like it when my friends are placed in harm’s way or taken advantage of. It sounds to me as though they need to work out some of the flaws with this app.
But we have to direct our anger and blame where it belongs, nonetheless. I was moved to blog about this today because of some of the comments I’m seeing here.
Again, thank you…
Michael
March 26, 2010 at 4:06 pm
Damn, Michael, that was beautiful…such good advice, bravo; young gay guys need to know this….we just don’t settle down before 30 or later? lol
Davey attracts some real people with genuine; helpful advice!
GUY
March 26, 2010 at 8:15 am
Grindr serves a purpose. Where it can be useful in finding friendships, when in the hands of a weak minded chat addictive partner that can’t differ between 20yr olds honeymoon love and a committed long term partnership it can easily lead to destructive behavior to a couples relationship. Grindr has taken a once beautiful man of my dreams and transformed him into scum. Im sure im not the only angry partner who’s had their dreams destroyed because there is an “app for that”.
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March 26, 2010 at 9:17 am
Well, the internet and all the handheld devices bring a new meaning into our life (gay and straight). While in the past, people would wait for the right moment to go out of their way to do something fishy, nowadays it is in the palm of their hands or their desk. I don’t think it dehumanizes people, but I am sure it has a major impact on what we consider as our social values, etc (all the “ethical” rules that we’ve been passed along as being the norms). I think now people can act easier toward a hidden need that would have been kept suppressed if it was in the 60’s, 70’s or the 80s. The internet is just putting the hidden truth out. We just have to face the fact that our way of seeing things should now adjust to the advancement of technology. It can’t stay static!! A cheater will always be a cheater; a sincere honest guy will always be sincere and honest. Regardless, the temptation is more available now. BTW, thanks Davey for being who you are!!
March 26, 2010 at 10:04 am
Davey, how was the Stud Professor?
March 26, 2010 at 10:17 am
It is so fun to find out who is gay around you. I live in the South (even though I’m not that fond of it) and here the following is constantly an issue for gay men: “Do I come out and risk everything, or do I stay closeted and miserable relying on craigslist or grindr for my satisfaction?” I go to law school and as you can imagine, there are many people there that I have suspicions about. It is always interesting to see the people that you suspect are gay pop up on your screen without a shirt on or even worse. HAHA!
March 26, 2010 at 10:59 am
I met my boyfriend on Grindr. We have been together 6 months and he is my best friend. I think it is awesome that someone I would have just passed in the street without a second look is now in my life.
March 26, 2010 at 11:17 am
good for you Stuart !! Happy that people can find the love of their life using grindr !
Love y’all !!
March 26, 2010 at 1:29 pm
Surely you dont really sleep in that bright white room? Nice place to have sex thought LOL!
March 26, 2010 at 1:45 pm
I like GRINDR
I used to have it (:
But then No-one talked to me, because i was (still am) too young ):
March 26, 2010 at 5:18 pm
This is probably one of the reasons to get an iphone, yes? unfortunately I’ll have to wait for an android version of that app
I don’t believe meeting people that way is necessarily bad, as long as it’s just that: meeting people.
March 26, 2010 at 5:47 pm
I wouldn’t use this app if I was single. But I guess it serves a good purpose for those who are just looking to hook-up. If thats your cup of tea go for it, but be safe
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March 27, 2010 at 6:38 am
hey wavey.
ive have been following your blog for a while now! you seem to always bring a smile to my face. i love always smile when i see something new you on your page. however – in regards to grindr – i meet my boyfriend via grindr. happy to say, that i love him dearly – it was a six month anniversary last week. just thought id let you know that there are positive outcomes from the digital era. we connect so well its scary – almost like the same person. anyways. hope your well. peace out! shaun
March 29, 2010 at 3:39 am
Hey Davey,
Interesting post I’m just responding cuz you asked for opinions. I’ve actually never spent time with someone I didn’t meet through some social interaction with someone I already know. I’ve never been in a chat room, I can’t seem to wrap my head around the concept that the person on the other end of the line is really there, unless….I know them and have met them previously. A photo of someone to me is not who that person is you can talk cuz words mean something, but really I rely so much on body language to define in my own mind who someone is, that I can’t seem to bridge less complicated human meeting. If you can’t really someone’s eyes like really see them how do you know if their honest, how do you know if they are sketchy or shady. I’m not against these concepts of defining relationship by computer or electronic interaction it’s just, maybe I’m deficient but I just can’t imagine meeting someone without real person interaction from the beginning.
Kenneth R. Livingston
March 29, 2010 at 8:53 am
To Kenneth…nice post, I liked it…it’s the young guys coming out today…all they know is FB, Grindr, etc. they don’t know how to interact like we do..I asked some young Twink his {landline} phone # and he said what? GUY
July 20, 2010 at 4:01 pm
Hey Davey,
I don’t think that these websites necessarily dehumanize people. I definitely think that some guys do, but that’s not the website’s fault.
A former friend of mine seems to think it’s really entertaining to give out my phone number on manhunt. (It took me a long time to figure out why I kept getting kinky pics/messages.) Most of the people I’ve talked with thanks to his little prank have actually been quite nice. (many have been old pervs too.)
I don’t really care how people meet. Each person has their own perception of the world and their own unique was of experiencing it. If one of those ways is through the internet and it works for that person, then so be it. (Although I may personally disagree with the whole hooking up part, my morality can only be applied to my life.)
January 30, 2011 at 3:10 pm
I think this app for iphones isnt such a bad app. i mean i have met some amazing people on there and have made some solid friendships out of it! i never even thought of meeting this amazing guy… did not think it would be possible through a simple iphone app.
I was simply wrong. I’ve met the guy of my dreams on this app. I used it for a while … probably about 6 months, and one day whilst i was at university, this guy popped up with a message. a simple “hello” message. from that day onwards, my life changed. We had several problems because of his ex, however we are working things out now again, and hopefully we will be stronger than ever before.
It makes you think… my potential boyfriend studies at my university… yet i had no idea about him and i would have no idea about him if it wasnt for this amazing app.
I really am happy about this app… and yes sometimes you may get weird people sending you some REALLY weird messages but all u have to do is hit the ‘block’ button and your done.
And when it comes to peoples boyfriends cheating on them through this app… i certainly do not think you should be blaming the app… only person you should be blaming is either your self or your partner. If he managed to cheat through this app then he would have definitely cheated on you by meeting a guy at a random club without any hesitations!!
October 15, 2011 at 3:57 am
My first bi experience and I would never have done it without grindr.I think it’s a great app it’s just so easy and I don’t think dehumanises anyone at least you get to chat you don’t need to meet up if you don’t wana. You would be swell saying dating sites dehumanise to the only differance between the two is grinder is alot faster and you get more response!
October 23, 2011 at 1:32 am
I decided to design my own mobile app that works on all devised that have a browser, its called http://InstantMALE.com i’m still working on the app but its coming along
December 4, 2011 at 9:59 am
Can anyone tell me that if grindr keeps you logged in after you don’t use it? I’m asking because I met a person 2 weeks ago, we seemed to hit it off. We are crazy about each other, and one day I go on and his profile is logged on it. I know sometimes when I use it and log off I get messaged the next time I’m on it.
March 27, 2012 at 3:23 pm
Grindr IS dehumanizing, if you become addicted to it, and let’s face it, most users are. But trying to get them to acknowledge that is the same as asking a drug addict if he is one: no, it’s just fun, I’m in control. All of you who do not agree it is dehumanizing, tell me how much time do you actually spend on grindr each day? Do you keep using it when you are watching tv, or when you are with friends?
Ok, there were previous ways to meet guys, but “f**k places” and gay social networks are dull anyway – useful, but their only purpose is to “hide” the loneliness of the people they attract by telling them that they can help them to be less lonely, when they actually hurt them. I know some people meet that way, but maybe if you stop using grindr in a bar and you look around you, you could find someone better – if he’s not using grindr on his phone, otherwise he won’t see you. But anyway, what existed before was much sounder than grindr: because you had to use a computer, gaydar for example was not FOLLOWING you. Grindr is on your phone, it constantly sends you messages, you can access it from anywhere so if you tend to be addicted to it, it really does not help – it’s a bit like facebook. With moderation, yes, it is fun and useful. Having an application which make you live THROUGH facebook if you are using it all the day, that’s awful.
So, be honest, think of it, if you tell me that you ONLY use grindr when you are actually getting bored or alone, that is fine. But I am sure some of you are conscious that once they have tried grindr, stopping using it makes the rest feel boring, that is what an addiction is. Go back to real life guys, before it’s too late.
And stop saying we don’t have figures and data. This is normal, it takes years to gather. Just look around you, look at your friends. Look at gonorrhea becoming stronger, the number of STD among people you know, and how lonely and self-centered our whole superficial gay scene is becoming. Are you happy with that? Stop being children and asking for rights if you are not able to stand for yourself, be responsible for our community and actually care about society.