Trust your intuition – AGREED.
Have Fun – HELL YEA!
Hey Dave, did you meet your boyfriend online? What do you say when people ask how you met? Because there is still a social stigma on online dating… your thoughts?
Just to clarify, my name is Dave and I am not Davey Wavey
Social stigmas (stagmata? stigmae? LOL) are only that because people believe them or agree with them. They buy into what other people think and say. Stigmas live in the realm of opinion. Opinion is just that; it’s the story of one person on how something occurs for them. It becomes a social reality when there is agreement amongst a plurality of people. It is not real – it is merely what someone thinks – but with that agreement there is the illusion of being ‘right’ because so many people agree. The only way to show people the stigma is not 100% accurate is to live an example of why it is not the ‘truth’. If you’re in a great relationship that began online let people know how it’s going and why it’s going so well. If you’re happy they’ll see it. And to be honest, who gives a s**t what people think anyway? If everyone else in the world believed that online relationships were weird and yet you were in a solid and well-founded online relationship would you believe them? Would you let their opinion matter to you? Would you let them dampen what you’ve got? There is a force I call ‘the world’. ‘The world’ is a collective force that seeks to keep us within the normal distribution. It strives to have the majority of people in the world live very average lives. It protects most people from living really dismal lives and it insulates most people from living truly extraordinary lives. It is in our collective psyche that most of us should be normal. That is it is ingrained in us that we, for the most part, should be living average, everyday lives like the majority of the other people in the world. This collective belief is ‘the world’ at work. It protects us from being hurt or depressed but it also causes us to be completely ordinary. Fortunately ‘the world’ only matters as long as we allow it to. It wxists in that sea of opinion. It exists only in the thought – on which most people agree – that we should be ordinary and we should be just like everyone else. I say ‘bullshit’!
Living an extraordinary life starts when you discard ‘the world’, and stop considering what other people believe when making decisions for yourself. Base your decisions on what you want, what you believe and how you want to live. In the end you will win big or fail big but you’ll be living BIG! That’s a lot more exciting than living in ‘the world’.
good info Davey! love the Facebook/myspace/webcam verification idea.
maybe i will try again. i just hate when i am upfront with people that i want a real relationship from the start and they try and turn me into some sex-slave fetish. would you suggest match.com or sites like that for more relationship-oriented guys?
i live in europe and my boyfriend lives in the US. for me the distance is quite hard because i often wish he could be closer to me to support me. i just came out a few months ago and im sure he could have helped me.
by the way, i love ur site. Good work!
Hey Steff,
If it is not too privete, please tell me:
How does your relationship survive?
How do you two do to maintain alive what you two have?
Im asking for my own personal information.
Thanks,
All true. I’m coming out and I’ve met a support system in internet. LOL. It’s true, I met many real gay friends on internet, which is amazing. Thanks for the tips! Kisses from Brazil =)
I agree with you! I’m also from Brazil and I’ve found a
lot of help from my internet gay friends.
Actually, my first guy(with first kiss and everything=P),
I met on internet. We are best friends today=D
just different lighting.
Davey is usually very good at getting the whole lighting/smoke/mirros thing happening.
This time – strong lights highlight under eye bags and make him look pale.
If I had to guess, I’d say nothing at all to worry about.
What the hell are you guys all talking about? He looks fine to me! From the looks of things he got a haircut, and might i mention it looks very nice Davey! Thanks for the tips on online dating. I just set up a profile again last week, after not going on dating sites for close to a year…and I guess there are some decent people out there after all! Met an awesome guy in a neighboring city, and we talked for probably 3 hrs ! Thanks for the tips. Some people need these sort of things pointed out to them, as common sense stuff, like telling a friend where and who you’re going with. Good idea!
Have a good week!
You mentioned that there are many benefits to having a long distance relationship. Maybe write an entry on that? I’ve only experienced and heard of the down side, so I’d like to see the pros to it, too.
Having been in one myself, I can say that while I was in it…it was amazing. To have a monthly get away to meet up and just share in life…it was something I had never experienced before. But once the relationship came to an end, I just began to realize how the distance was not a good thing. How the meetings were so strenuous and how we wanted to do everything in such a short period that we couldn’t do otherwise and therefore everything was so forced. It was a shame too…cause I really believed in what we had. Even today, I still think it was something so powerful, but I think a long distance relationship requires a LOT of patience…no rushing…and an active mentality to apply the breaks as often as needed so that things aren’t rushed and over looked.
Perhaps it’s different given the specific relationship and the people involved.
Davey Wavey is amazing, and I admire his energy and zeal. He might still be dealing with what almost happened to Chipotle in the dog park. I read his tweet over at Twitter, and I’m hoping he’ll post a talky blog about it.
Great blog Davey. You were very informative. Except, for one thing. What happens when you know it’s time to get back into dating and a relationship, but you’re terrified of getting hurt again. I keep saying I’m going to do it, but I bail at the last second. Any suggestions on what I can do, or a good kick in the pants? Any advice would be welcome.
well…. i dont have a facebook or myspace because of the online privacy issue, however im honest about the pictures i send out. If ppl dont believe me then i dont have time for those gams
It helps if you’re young,attractive,personable,have good teeth, a great body, money, a decent job, web and personal savvy,an extrovert,good ‘gaydar’ and not battling depression.
Be honest? Sure. Easy to say when you’re all of the above.
Is there really someone that has all of the above… actually, if I ever meet a guy on line who pretends to be that perfect, I wouldn’t even waste time to talk or chat with him… I already know that he’s a cheater.
Especially if you intend to hook up for real with the guys you meet on the Internet… it is better to tell the truth in the first place… I’d prefer a negative answer on facebook over a door slammed in front of my face.
my long distance relationship seems to be going well so far but we havent had our first meeting yet. this saturday morning he’s coming in early. We’ve been going together for 2 months.
I’ve never understood “tell someone where you’re going, what you’re doing…” Is that so if you don’t come back, they can find your body easier ? Anyway, Davey is right: if you feel uncomfortable or feel like something’s not quite right, just don’t do it. Over the years, I’ve had several internet “dates” and never had a safety issue. Unfortunately, there were several where I should have said, “you know, I’m just not feeling the chemistry here.” But I felt sorry for them. Then again, maybe I was just horny and lazy…
I like how so many of you guys are talking about how Davey looks sick, tired, old etc. Shows the type people that are here reading his crap. I would LOVE to see what you guys (the ones that made comments) actually look like.
First of all:young guys (21-30)rarely meet each other off internet.Those who are on manhunt,craigs….etc. are usually older than 30,they are shady,they never reveal their actual age.Younger generation meet their future BF’s in coffee shops,clubs/bars,library,parks,etc.
Second:internet guys are very picky-they know what they want,they went through thousands of profiles,they would never stop their choice on you,even if u will meet in person,coz they always think that there are more attractive guys out their,on manhunt/craigs….Such type of guys are usually single for a long time…..if you decided to meet someone off the internet,do it somewhere in public,never in private setting (you never know who is waiting for you on the address which was given to you online….)
Third:It is always hard to explain to you friends that you’ve met your BF on manhunt.com…
As for me,i don’t do internet matching,it’s just weird.I tried it,even mypartner.com.It did not work out.So I came to conclusion that it’s way much better to stay single and safe and just to wait for someone to find me.
I’m so glad you put up a video about meeting guys online. I have this boyfriend I’ve been dating for about a year and a half that I met off myself. He lives in South Carolina, I live in Michigan. Things were good for the first couple months until he started hanging out with ALOT of girls. I’m not jealous, at all. But then I started hearing things from his friends about how he was cheating on me and doing stuff with these other girls. I tried asking him about it and he just got mad at me. It’s so hard to tell what he’s really getting mad at; the fact that I would even consider him cheating on me, or that he just got caught.
I love him, but trusting a boyfriend that lives so far away is the hardest thing right now in my life.
I was just wondering if you, or anybody readying this, had ever experienced anything like this or knew what I should do.
Had to laugh over this talky blog, as I tried to do you a favor to report this dude “using your picture” on Manhunt in Calgary. I first told him to take it down, as I knew it was was fake. When that didn’t work I tried reporting the profile to the admn people and I told them to just view your blog, but they gave me some excuse that the person that is in the picture needs to prove that its not them. Etc etc., well I tired too…. I could only imagine how many fake profiles of you are out there, being as cute you are. LOL I guess take it as a compliment. I just went through all 34 pages and didn’t see it. So maybe he took it down. anyways……Hope to catch a peek of you in “real life” on the streets of Toronto. I”m headed there for pride this year. Can’t wait. Cheers
there is a guy on gay.com ,whos nickname on there is daveywavey .
I find it funny.people are so silly.
Why would they do that?
i understand if they would name themselves online bradpitt or antoniobanderas….
Bem eu na verdade atualmente acabei de terminar com minha namorada,eu não sentia desejo sexual por ela,mas, agora eu descobri realmente o porque,sou gay,e estou afim de um cara da minha sala,ele é lindo,antes eu achava que era só admiração,até o dia de vê-lo se trocando no vestiário,senti uma coisaa ,nossa muito boa =D
tenho 17 anos =D
e vocês quando descobriram??
Renan Terlecki (adorei seu nome)parece ser polones ;D
vc já namorou meninas?se na morou meninas também não tinha desejo sexual ?e meninos?
o que vc achou ?
May 26, 2009 at 8:28 am
haha love the porn music lol
May 26, 2009 at 8:36 am
Trust your intuition – AGREED.
Have Fun – HELL YEA!
Hey Dave, did you meet your boyfriend online? What do you say when people ask how you met? Because there is still a social stigma on online dating… your thoughts?
May 26, 2009 at 8:30 pm
Just to clarify, my name is Dave and I am not Davey Wavey
Social stigmas (stagmata? stigmae? LOL) are only that because people believe them or agree with them. They buy into what other people think and say. Stigmas live in the realm of opinion. Opinion is just that; it’s the story of one person on how something occurs for them. It becomes a social reality when there is agreement amongst a plurality of people. It is not real – it is merely what someone thinks – but with that agreement there is the illusion of being ‘right’ because so many people agree. The only way to show people the stigma is not 100% accurate is to live an example of why it is not the ‘truth’. If you’re in a great relationship that began online let people know how it’s going and why it’s going so well. If you’re happy they’ll see it. And to be honest, who gives a s**t what people think anyway? If everyone else in the world believed that online relationships were weird and yet you were in a solid and well-founded online relationship would you believe them? Would you let their opinion matter to you? Would you let them dampen what you’ve got? There is a force I call ‘the world’. ‘The world’ is a collective force that seeks to keep us within the normal distribution. It strives to have the majority of people in the world live very average lives. It protects most people from living really dismal lives and it insulates most people from living truly extraordinary lives. It is in our collective psyche that most of us should be normal. That is it is ingrained in us that we, for the most part, should be living average, everyday lives like the majority of the other people in the world. This collective belief is ‘the world’ at work. It protects us from being hurt or depressed but it also causes us to be completely ordinary. Fortunately ‘the world’ only matters as long as we allow it to. It wxists in that sea of opinion. It exists only in the thought – on which most people agree – that we should be ordinary and we should be just like everyone else. I say ‘bullshit’!
Living an extraordinary life starts when you discard ‘the world’, and stop considering what other people believe when making decisions for yourself. Base your decisions on what you want, what you believe and how you want to live. In the end you will win big or fail big but you’ll be living BIG! That’s a lot more exciting than living in ‘the world’.
May 26, 2009 at 8:51 am
good info Davey! love the Facebook/myspace/webcam verification idea.
maybe i will try again. i just hate when i am upfront with people that i want a real relationship from the start and they try and turn me into some sex-slave fetish. would you suggest match.com or sites like that for more relationship-oriented guys?
May 26, 2009 at 8:59 am
i live in europe and my boyfriend lives in the US. for me the distance is quite hard because i often wish he could be closer to me to support me. i just came out a few months ago and im sure he could have helped me.
by the way, i love ur site. Good work!
May 26, 2009 at 12:29 pm
Hey Steff,
If it is not too privete, please tell me:
How does your relationship survive?
How do you two do to maintain alive what you two have?
Im asking for my own personal information.
Thanks,
May 26, 2009 at 10:00 am
All true. I’m coming out and I’ve met a support system in internet. LOL. It’s true, I met many real gay friends on internet, which is amazing. Thanks for the tips! Kisses from Brazil =)
May 26, 2009 at 2:50 pm
I agree with you! I’m also from Brazil and I’ve found a
lot of help from my internet gay friends.
Actually, my first guy(with first kiss and everything=P),
I met on internet. We are best friends today=D
May 26, 2009 at 4:28 pm
entao vamos aproveitar pra fazer aumentar nossa rede? hueuheuhe
tens facebook, Renan?
May 26, 2009 at 4:40 pm
teeenho sim heuaheuahea
=D
procure por “renan terlecki”
=P
May 26, 2009 at 10:09 am
You look & came across so different Davey!
Have you been smoking something????
Cant put my finger on it but yeah… you seem spaced out or sad even.
Anyone else agree with me?
May 26, 2009 at 4:10 pm
agree.
Davey didn’t u get your beauty sleep? anything wrong with the ice cream…. hope for you it is not too bad…
send you much positive energy and luv!
May 26, 2009 at 5:10 pm
just different lighting.
Davey is usually very good at getting the whole lighting/smoke/mirros thing happening.
This time – strong lights highlight under eye bags and make him look pale.
If I had to guess, I’d say nothing at all to worry about.
May 26, 2009 at 10:09 am
Disco beats and dating tips…awesome!
Ciao!
May 26, 2009 at 11:27 am
I think it’s the lighting. Davey looks ill and older here than usual.
May 26, 2009 at 11:36 am
Your looking rough Davey, Is your BF keeping you up too late?
May 26, 2009 at 1:43 pm
Looks like he might be coming down with a cold. That’s okay Davey… we still love you!
May 26, 2009 at 2:08 pm
What the hell are you guys all talking about? He looks fine to me! From the looks of things he got a haircut, and might i mention it looks very nice Davey! Thanks for the tips on online dating. I just set up a profile again last week, after not going on dating sites for close to a year…and I guess there are some decent people out there after all! Met an awesome guy in a neighboring city, and we talked for probably 3 hrs ! Thanks for the tips. Some people need these sort of things pointed out to them, as common sense stuff, like telling a friend where and who you’re going with. Good idea!
Have a good week!
May 26, 2009 at 3:19 pm
go have some fun
*wear a condom
XD !
May 26, 2009 at 4:08 pm
I was going to saw wear a condom as well. That seems to be the only major piece of advice missing from the video.
May 26, 2009 at 5:15 pm
more than just a footnote…be safe, be safe, be safe
May 26, 2009 at 5:55 pm
This was perfect timing. I just joined a gay social website for the first time this past weekend. Thanks for the advice.
May 26, 2009 at 6:16 pm
You mentioned that there are many benefits to having a long distance relationship. Maybe write an entry on that? I’ve only experienced and heard of the down side, so I’d like to see the pros to it, too.
May 26, 2009 at 7:43 pm
Having been in one myself, I can say that while I was in it…it was amazing. To have a monthly get away to meet up and just share in life…it was something I had never experienced before. But once the relationship came to an end, I just began to realize how the distance was not a good thing. How the meetings were so strenuous and how we wanted to do everything in such a short period that we couldn’t do otherwise and therefore everything was so forced. It was a shame too…cause I really believed in what we had. Even today, I still think it was something so powerful, but I think a long distance relationship requires a LOT of patience…no rushing…and an active mentality to apply the breaks as often as needed so that things aren’t rushed and over looked.
Perhaps it’s different given the specific relationship and the people involved.
May 26, 2009 at 6:56 pm
have u considered using an eye cream?
May 26, 2009 at 7:42 pm
so when you are in a long distance relationship, what do you do in order to keep the relationship effective?
May 26, 2009 at 7:55 pm
Davey Wavey is amazing, and I admire his energy and zeal. He might still be dealing with what almost happened to Chipotle in the dog park. I read his tweet over at Twitter, and I’m hoping he’ll post a talky blog about it.
May 27, 2009 at 12:05 am
you’re looking very tired..eye bags
May 27, 2009 at 6:24 am
yeahh.. good, sensible advice. i really liked the background music. very talk-show-ish.
May 27, 2009 at 8:50 am
Great blog Davey. You were very informative. Except, for one thing. What happens when you know it’s time to get back into dating and a relationship, but you’re terrified of getting hurt again. I keep saying I’m going to do it, but I bail at the last second. Any suggestions on what I can do, or a good kick in the pants? Any advice would be welcome.
May 27, 2009 at 11:04 am
getting bored…………..
May 27, 2009 at 11:26 am
well…. i dont have a facebook or myspace because of the online privacy issue, however im honest about the pictures i send out. If ppl dont believe me then i dont have time for those gams
May 27, 2009 at 11:26 am
i meant to write games, not gams
May 27, 2009 at 11:43 am
It helps if you’re young,attractive,personable,have good teeth, a great body, money, a decent job, web and personal savvy,an extrovert,good ‘gaydar’ and not battling depression.
Be honest? Sure. Easy to say when you’re all of the above.
May 28, 2009 at 2:30 pm
Is there really someone that has all of the above… actually, if I ever meet a guy on line who pretends to be that perfect, I wouldn’t even waste time to talk or chat with him… I already know that he’s a cheater.
Especially if you intend to hook up for real with the guys you meet on the Internet… it is better to tell the truth in the first place… I’d prefer a negative answer on facebook over a door slammed in front of my face.
May 27, 2009 at 12:44 pm
my long distance relationship seems to be going well so far but we havent had our first meeting yet. this saturday morning he’s coming in early. We’ve been going together for 2 months.
May 27, 2009 at 2:49 pm
I’ve never understood “tell someone where you’re going, what you’re doing…” Is that so if you don’t come back, they can find your body easier ? Anyway, Davey is right: if you feel uncomfortable or feel like something’s not quite right, just don’t do it. Over the years, I’ve had several internet “dates” and never had a safety issue. Unfortunately, there were several where I should have said, “you know, I’m just not feeling the chemistry here.” But I felt sorry for them. Then again, maybe I was just horny and lazy…
May 29, 2009 at 8:25 am
LMAO – Mr. Jody that last line is priceless!
May 27, 2009 at 9:39 pm
I like how so many of you guys are talking about how Davey looks sick, tired, old etc. Shows the type people that are here reading his crap. I would LOVE to see what you guys (the ones that made comments) actually look like.
May 29, 2009 at 11:34 am
No you wouldn’t.
Could be scary!
May 28, 2009 at 7:47 am
How do I meet you online? LOL!
May 28, 2009 at 8:21 am
lol i also love the cheesy 70s porno music, an indeed always wear a condom!
May 29, 2009 at 9:23 pm
First of all:young guys (21-30)rarely meet each other off internet.Those who are on manhunt,craigs….etc. are usually older than 30,they are shady,they never reveal their actual age.Younger generation meet their future BF’s in coffee shops,clubs/bars,library,parks,etc.
Second:internet guys are very picky-they know what they want,they went through thousands of profiles,they would never stop their choice on you,even if u will meet in person,coz they always think that there are more attractive guys out their,on manhunt/craigs….Such type of guys are usually single for a long time…..if you decided to meet someone off the internet,do it somewhere in public,never in private setting (you never know who is waiting for you on the address which was given to you online….)
Third:It is always hard to explain to you friends that you’ve met your BF on manhunt.com…
As for me,i don’t do internet matching,it’s just weird.I tried it,even mypartner.com.It did not work out.So I came to conclusion that it’s way much better to stay single and safe and just to wait for someone to find me.
June 4, 2009 at 12:42 am
I’m so glad you put up a video about meeting guys online. I have this boyfriend I’ve been dating for about a year and a half that I met off myself. He lives in South Carolina, I live in Michigan. Things were good for the first couple months until he started hanging out with ALOT of girls. I’m not jealous, at all. But then I started hearing things from his friends about how he was cheating on me and doing stuff with these other girls. I tried asking him about it and he just got mad at me. It’s so hard to tell what he’s really getting mad at; the fact that I would even consider him cheating on me, or that he just got caught.
I love him, but trusting a boyfriend that lives so far away is the hardest thing right now in my life.
I was just wondering if you, or anybody readying this, had ever experienced anything like this or knew what I should do.
June 5, 2009 at 2:11 am
Hey Davey,
Had to laugh over this talky blog, as I tried to do you a favor to report this dude “using your picture” on Manhunt in Calgary. I first told him to take it down, as I knew it was was fake. When that didn’t work I tried reporting the profile to the admn people and I told them to just view your blog, but they gave me some excuse that the person that is in the picture needs to prove that its not them. Etc etc., well I tired too…. I could only imagine how many fake profiles of you are out there, being as cute you are. LOL I guess take it as a compliment. I just went through all 34 pages and didn’t see it. So maybe he took it down. anyways……Hope to catch a peek of you in “real life” on the streets of Toronto. I”m headed there for pride this year. Can’t wait. Cheers
June 9, 2009 at 3:51 pm
there is a guy on gay.com ,whos nickname on there is daveywavey .
I find it funny.people are so silly.
Why would they do that?
i understand if they would name themselves online bradpitt or antoniobanderas….
December 5, 2009 at 6:23 pm
Bem eu na verdade atualmente acabei de terminar com minha namorada,eu não sentia desejo sexual por ela,mas, agora eu descobri realmente o porque,sou gay,e estou afim de um cara da minha sala,ele é lindo,antes eu achava que era só admiração,até o dia de vê-lo se trocando no vestiário,senti uma coisaa ,nossa muito boa =D
tenho 17 anos =D
e vocês quando descobriram??
Renan Terlecki (adorei seu nome)parece ser polones ;D
vc já namorou meninas?se na morou meninas também não tinha desejo sexual ?e meninos?
o que vc achou ?
x.o.x.o boys (g)