Though this talky blog may seem a bit elementary to you advanced and enlightened gurus, I think it’s important to remind ourselves that self-worth can only come from the inside. That’s the whole point – that’s why it’s called self-worth.
Nonetheless, so many of us try to feel better about ourselves by looking a certain way, getting validation from others or even through shopping. As it turns out, none of these things can improve our self-worth.
True self-worth comes from the realization that our value as a human being is intrinsic. It has nothing to do with our actions or behaviors, or anything that other people might say about us. You have value because you are. And that’s all there is to it.
If you know of anyone that needs to be reminded of this message, please click the “like” button below to share this video on Facebook. 
June 24, 2010 at 10:35 am
I hope you were able to retrieve your flip cam from the toilet, unharmed.
June 24, 2010 at 10:44 am
It would appear that a great deal Davey’s self worth comes from posting/watching videos of himself shirtless and/or in his underwear? Then again, what sells, sells.
June 24, 2010 at 11:12 am
I feel no self-worth right now-no Italians do. Italy sent home-famous Italy world champions will not advance to the final 16. You got a blog post for this? I do- Italy shameful. They wil be greeted with rotten tomatoes and I not even kidding. A disgrace. All eyes on the Americans now! Go team USA
June 24, 2010 at 11:40 am
gott sag dank da war keine würstchen…
jajjjaja…
June 24, 2010 at 12:21 pm
OMG!
June 24, 2010 at 1:22 pm
Wow thanks davey I was acually feeling down in the dumps yesteday and it had to do with my apearance but I think this video helped me a little thanks so much loveee your videos<3
June 24, 2010 at 1:27 pm
Wise words. What’s the song in the end of you vid?
June 24, 2010 at 1:46 pm
I really enjoy your creativity when making your blogs. Hope you haven’t given up painting. Please paint more and show your paintings. Im sure you would have lots of eager buyers. You’ve got the audience, might as well use it! Love. Peace. From a fellow painter.
June 24, 2010 at 3:02 pm
Davey, you’re so happy you can’t even fake being angry.
June 24, 2010 at 6:03 pm
OMG Davey, what’s that song at the end of the video!? It’s like AWESOME!
June 24, 2010 at 7:28 pm
HAHAHA, eff thats funny!!! I bet you screamed when it fell. LOL!
June 24, 2010 at 9:05 pm
umm.. this is the first time iv ever posted something i feel or felt about but i came out to my parents about a year and a half ago and they dont like the fact im gay and make me feel like i dont belong in the family and i feel worthless at times and i had to tell my parents that i want to change just so they would look at me again but truth is i dont want to change i want to be who i am cause im not a misstake at lest thats wat i tell myself everyday to make myself feel better but the more and more my parents say the way they feel about gay people i feel like im not worth to live with them i need some help
June 24, 2010 at 9:49 pm
It takes a big man to come out to his parents when he’s still living with them, especially if he knows they disapprove of gay people. You must have known at least a little about how they felt about gays before you told them about yourself.
Our parents are the people we most in the world want to approve of us, it’s natural, they’re the closest people to us growing up. Unfortunately, not all parents approve of their children, or even love them, and not just because they’re gay. Even people with small hearts can have children.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being gay. Trying to change so others will approve of you will only make you very, very unhappy. For now, you only get this life to live. You can either live the life you have, or a pretend life, which is no life at all.
When you leave your parents house and make your own home, if you are an honest, decent and kind person (which it sounds like you are), you will meet many people who approve of you. You may even meet people who will love you. Your parents may never approve of you but it will be their loss, not yours. Cherish the people you meet who do approve of you and return the love of the people who do love you and your life will be more rewarding than you now think it can be.
Be your wonderful self and never believe anyone who thinks you are less than magnificent or treats you with unkindness. It’s only a reflection on them, not on you.
If there is a gay youth center anywhere near you, check it out so you can meet and share your feelings with others in a similar situation. If not, keep your wits about you and work to put yourself in a position to claim your independence as soon as possible, either by going to a school away from home or getting a job to support yourself.
It’s a bad position to be in being dependent on people who don’t approve of you. It will mess with your head and self esteem. Avoid drugs and alcohol for the time being and work on developing those qualities which will gain you your freedom.
Good luck to you. I wish you a happy and productive life.
June 25, 2010 at 7:37 am
Well said blfstyk.
HUGS to you Nicholas. Hang in there.
June 25, 2010 at 7:39 am
DW – LOVED the surprise ending. Maybe even a surprise to you? LOL
June 25, 2010 at 7:58 am
The song is called “Make It Right” by Scotty Dynamo.
That song is soooo sky. You can hear all of it and a lot more of his amazing music by clicking this link to his MySpaceMusic page:
http://www.myspace.com/scottydynamo
June 25, 2010 at 8:08 am
The song is called “Make It Right” by Scotty Dynamo.
That song is soooo sky. You can hear all of it and more of his amazing music by clicking this link to his MySpaceMusic page:
http://www.myspace.com/scottydynamo
June 25, 2010 at 8:25 am
Davey Wavey..Good Morning!..Could “YOUR” self-worth have anything to do with your “little” blue car you drive?..Stop looking in the mirror and look elsewhere…Love “your” David
June 25, 2010 at 9:48 am
Great vid. Loved the last bit of unscripted humour. I needed to be reminded today, so this was perfect.
June 25, 2010 at 10:46 am
DW,too often you take a truly important insight and take it to the extreme as you did today. True, there is an intrinsic element of us the needs to be nurtured by our selves. One way to catch this is to realize we JUST ARE gay.
But another just as real aspect of our lives is that we are born as social animals and this helps us become who we are, for the better or worse. Nicholas, above, really expressed that who we are in terms of self-concept and self-evaluation (and all the other “Self” related ideas), are definately the result of interaction
June 25, 2010 at 11:01 am
No hate here! Love your advice, keep it goin! And HAPPY MINNESOTA PRIDE!!!!!
June 25, 2010 at 11:28 am
… definitely the result of interaction with others and ourselves.
The idea that we have control over who we are and how we act when carried to the extreme you often do, is to spin a myth. It is a social influence that encourages some of your fans avoid the real world
And if you don’t feel that you influence others, you wouldn’t blog except to make money or boost your own Self-esteem from the comments you receive from others. —BTW I noticed on this post there is a button to report “Like this” but no button for “do not like this. Haha!!
Yes, it is very good to remind us that who we are and our worth are intrinsic to us, as human beings.
But not also realizing that we concretely flesh out what this means requires social interaction with others can not portray who we are. It’s a question of balance and too often we fail to remind ourselves that we do have some control over who we are and how we feel about ourselves.
Wish you would do more to show emphasize that who we are depends on self and society (others). I do like you very much, Davey. I subscribe to and watch your blog every day. Best of everything to you.
June 25, 2010 at 11:29 am
sry, needed to check the “Notify…”
June 26, 2010 at 3:02 am
Davey, my spelling i so wrong, but french is so perfect: not like american, please no say, you are correct about being self-loved, the most important thing. I say this to al my loves.
June 26, 2010 at 11:10 am
For such a Catholic country, perhaps Italy could learn a thing or two about the sin of pride and grace in defeat. Maybe they didn’t play their best but we all have bad days. At the 2006 Winter Olympics Canada came in 7th in Hockey. It was shocking because Canada IS hockey. And yet we still celebrated our team. They are great players and they had a bad tournament. In Vancouver we took the Gold. There’s something to be said for letting go of one’s pride and having grace in defeat. People learn more from making mistakes than from being perfect every time. Perhaps the Italian soccer team had something to learn.
June 26, 2010 at 1:05 pm
thanks for what you said it helps more than you know and i have this problem doing something to myself so i was sapost to go to new york for treatment but they turned me down cause im gay and i wasnt really looking forward on going i didnt even want to but when i found out why they wouldnt it hurt more than any of my family could know and i hate when we dont get excepted to things just because of who we are its wrong and i think its angenst are Constatutional rights. (forgive spelling) o and about the saport group you were talking about how would i go about finding one i will try if you tell me how.
June 27, 2010 at 3:06 am
So..I was feeling like s**t because my confidence and self worth were very VERY low. This helped a little..so thanks. Happy Pride.
June 27, 2010 at 9:22 am
Google is your friend. Also, I’m getting the impression you’re engaging in a little “creative writing” here. Good luck.
June 27, 2010 at 10:20 am
Dave-I agree with you. However Italy is a catholic country in name only. Sadly faith is dead in Italy. All of Europe God is dead-faith is dead. Too much progressive idealogy. Governments have replaced God. Most countries in Europe are “welfare states”. But yes we were taught a valuable lesson.
July 1, 2010 at 9:25 am
Davey, I hope your flip phone is still working. If it isn’t try pulling the battery and putting the phone and battery in a container of uncooked rice for a couple of days to help remove the moisture that might be shorting out some circuitry.
July 5, 2010 at 2:48 am
Hey Davey,
I know what you mean about self-worth coming from within. My whole life since I was a little kid I got soooo much attention from everyone and it has continued throughout my life. I actually don’t like to go out to much anymore cuz I hate when people make you aware that you are attractive when you go to any public place I have men women gay men old men old women flirt with me or comment to their friends on my attractiveness it’s unnerving and uncomfortable. The other day I was on the bus and I saw an old woman sitting with her friend and they were both watching me I assume her husband was gone or whatever anyway…. I overhear her say to her friend well if I’d known there was stuff like that out there when I was young I think I would have married different and I was insulted not just for me but for her husband and I made really sure that I sat as far away as I could and couldn’t look in that direction. But it’s not just that I just used that one cuz it was a bit extreme. You know it’s like hard, when people look at you and see that you are very attractive and they seem to think that that automatically makes you a slut. I’m like one of the biggest prudes ever, Clarissa has the same issue.
You know the sad part is that untill I was about 26 or 27 I was convinced that the only good quality/talent I had was that I was attractive and so because I was attractive people had a right to my attractiveness because we all need to contribute something. Even now walk boldly with my head high and steady firmness and confidence of body language cuz I know that confidence along with an attractive body makes people look more than they would everywhere I go in public. Even the days when I try to look like a loser or try to look like I have a low self-esteem or distracted or anything that might make people stop trying to eye me up or pick me up, they just go on and on about it, I HATE it so much. I don’t hate nothing but that one thing. I have now over the last few years learned to be assertive and realized all my fantastic qualities and that all my qualities are fantasitic and beneficial and I have a very easy time saying no to people now or letting them know that if I was interested in them as a relationship or sexual encounter I would reciprocate and if a person pushes I can now walk away!
Kenneth R. Livingston
P.S. I guess I need to just be that confident part and forget about their BS lol
July 6, 2010 at 8:38 am
I need to remind myself of that every day when I wake up
July 18, 2010 at 12:13 pm
I liked that video a lot. It is brief, funny and it has a deeper meaning. The self-worth-o-meter was a great idea.
The last part was hilarius. I hope it’s not broken.
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