The other day, my barber asked me, “Of all the places that you’ve lived, where are people the nicest?” I though about it for a moment or two, and here’s what I said:
The other day, my barber asked me, “Of all the places that you’ve lived, where are people the nicest?” I though about it for a moment or two, and here’s what I said:
November 11, 2010 at 10:13 am
So true, all of are actions have their equal reactions… Definetly going to smile and be happy, and hopefully, all the jerks around me will smile and also be happy… But for now, it’s off to bed in Australia… Nighty night everyone, have a wicked friday the 12th! Love you <3 xxx
November 11, 2010 at 10:14 am
Davey, thanks for that blog you always make SMILE thats what i love about you.
peace xx
November 11, 2010 at 10:15 am
Thursday the 11th*
My phones already telling me it’s the 12th, etter get some rest :/
November 11, 2010 at 10:16 am
You turned his question into something negative. It’s okay to say that in your experience one city displayed the nicest people, and I stress, IN YOUR EXPERIENCE. You can be having the happiest day of your entire life and your energy is positive positive positive and then someone comes up and spits in your face. I mean, it happens. It’s okay for every now and again to be a little cynical about things, it’s healthy. Just saying.
November 11, 2010 at 10:23 am
Franco, I’m sorry that you saw that as negative. I saw it quite the contrary. Being nice to people is not negative and that’s what he’s saying.
November 11, 2010 at 11:14 am
@ DW great video!
I find the nicest/happiest people are the ones that are dead…
November 11, 2010 at 11:43 am
Oh my………Can’t argue with you on this one…….cause it’s so true……
November 11, 2010 at 1:23 pm
Neither can I
Dead people can’t bitch about anything, can’t piss you off anymore and when the funeral is held, everybody goes out of their way to stress all the ways in which the deceased was a great person.
By that analogy, every dead person is the nicest person there can be.
I do feel however that what goes around, comes around. If I have a day where I’m simply pissed since I didn’t sleep well, that reflects on the people around me and how I feel they rub me the wrong way.
If I slept well and my mood is fine, that also reflects on the people around me.
That being said, I’m sad to say tomorrow will be a day of angry, somewhat evil and vindictive noldreal.
But tomorrow night would be great since it’ll be boozecruise friday with my best friends:)
November 11, 2010 at 1:27 pm
Although It’s true that if you are nice to people, people tend to be nice to you, there’s also a variable about the people and the places you visit.
I’m currently staying in Lansing Michigan and the people is really friendly, open and warm. I am from Mexico and the people from Mexico is way to friendlier and warmer as well as much more open to help you and aid you if need it.
ON the other hand, when I visited Pennsylvania I got myself a huge surprise: the people is really not that friendly, they are somewhat rude and they are all about “personal space”. I found that “odd” and altough I had a great time at Penn studying, I found out that the people is not the nicest.
So yeah, your attitude definitively helps you out in whatever you do, not only in how you treat others, but there are some places where people is not that nice and that’s outside of our control. We have to learn to live with that.
November 11, 2010 at 2:25 pm
Don’t be nice, Johnny be good!
November 11, 2010 at 2:42 pm
Dave -
I’m shocked you go to a barber and not a stylist. How un-gay of you.
November 11, 2010 at 3:35 pm
I have to agree. If your nice and respectful to people you usually get it in return. There is no need to be loud, boisterous, and rude. We all have feelings and deserve civility.
November 11, 2010 at 4:33 pm
Awwww Davey, that was the kind of subject-changing non-answer that politicians are so good at giving to reporters. It would’ve been “nicer” to the barber if you answered his question directly
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November 11, 2010 at 4:51 pm
Not if they went to hell!
November 11, 2010 at 6:45 pm
hahaha, I enjoyed that.
November 11, 2010 at 6:47 pm
Thats so weird that people are turning what you said into something rude. Your post is (mostly) true, but I think Davey was trying to turn it into a lesson in life. Well done, it certainly brought up a valid point that I handnt thought of before. I kinda want to know the real answer though?!?!
November 11, 2010 at 10:46 pm
Hey D. I happen to agree with you but I will make a slight nuance… I am always nice up front… but if you are rude or uncivilized, well don’t expect a smile from me X-(
November 11, 2010 at 11:40 pm
Franco, of course it’s OK to be cynical sometimes. It’s OK to be however someone is being. But it is not always productive. It doesn’t always have life working the best it can. Cynicism sometimes feels right at the moment because it allows us to shirk responsibility for creating our world as we want it to be. If the world is s**t, it’s because someone else made it that way. I feel more empowered looking at the world and other people in more objective terms. The person who spits in my face is obviously doing it because he perceives it’s going to get him something he desires. So what is that? I might not like what he did but I cannot ignore that sometimes I do things other people don’t like. If I expect them to act with understanding I have to do it myself. And I find when I do I definitely rack up a lot more karma
November 11, 2010 at 11:55 pm
Although I’m sure your barber was only making casual conversation I’m sure he didn’t REALLY consider the implications and deeper meanings of his question. When you ask someone “Which one of those things is the nicest?” you’re really asking “Which one of those things do you like or enjoy most?” People are nice everywhere in the world if you give them a chance and if you show a little understanding. Even the French – who are commonly considered to be terribly rude – are nice in their own right. They just have a different way of interacting with people than most North Americans understand or appreciate.
For me (or you, Davey) to say that people from one city are nicer than others says a lot more about us than it does about the people in that place. I’ve traveled a few places in my lifetime. The people in Australia seemed to be the most laid back. The people in Italy the most passionate and appreciative of beautiful things. The people in the USA are SO varied I could barely pick one trait that I noticed symbolizes them all. The Germans seemed warm, inviting and kind. And, of course, we Canadians are notoriously peaceful and understanding but don’t get in our way on the hockey rink! But these are my judgments and say nothing of the people themselves.
People are people. Each individual has a plurality of traits that comprise him or her and, whether I get along with them or not, people are all wonderful and beautiful. We are all essentially the same. We are all seeking happiness and fulfillment; just in different ways.
I’m sure your barber had no idea his question would be turned into a philosophical pondering of such magnitude but I’m glad he asked it
November 12, 2010 at 12:32 am
what i would like to know is why all the people that didn’t like your answer don’t seem to care what ur barber said, btw what did he say? nice video and nice hair cut it looks good
November 12, 2010 at 4:01 am
Your barber is very lucky to get to play with your head.
November 12, 2010 at 8:16 am
Why don’t you shave yourself? Why do you need a barber?
Or maybe he is your new bf???
LOL
November 12, 2010 at 8:20 am
Like the song says…you only get what you give.
Peace,
Rick
November 12, 2010 at 8:23 am
All people are nice when you are polite and considerate to them. Add a warm sincere smile and they love you in return no question asked. As simple as that. I live in Thailand (Land of Smiles) in Costa Rica (coldest people on earth but most considerate) visited Panama, (rude like hell) Nicaragua (nicest on the scale) El Salvador (most hard working and neat)and Mexico (neatest of them all) and I had the privilege to live in Atlanta 4 years and was responsible for a huge territory of the old South where people are friendly, hospitable and fundamentally adorable. And I am a Canadian living in a very cold country where people knows the price of a frigid smile when you are stranded in a ditch under 3 feet of snow and that your car is a total box of dead ice. Smile -people will do anything for you. Davey is so right on this one. The barber wanted to know which people were the bitchest! Which is always a crusty morsel to know. From our Davey he got nothing there because he is a natural loving person.
November 12, 2010 at 8:59 am
I would rather deal with honest/rude people (people from NYC) than fake/nice people. Mid-westerners seem to be fake/nice people most likely because of religious ethics.
People from the west are nice but they are usually stoned. I would rather deal with a not nice/not stoned person than a nice/stoned one.
Honesty: I think the most honest places are bath houses and the Dick Dock in P-town. It’s in these places where the answer is either “YES” or “NO”. Not much praying going on there…..
November 12, 2010 at 9:12 am
Very true, and a great way to get the word out;)
November 12, 2010 at 11:07 am
When you smile in France they think something is wrong with you. LOL
November 12, 2010 at 1:32 pm
Nooooooo, I am from Texas and I think it is a pretty good combination of nice and polite, and a little caring but not over the top fake.
November 12, 2010 at 1:42 pm
“Blessed are the peacemakers…” and I’m sure that people do enjoy living in a peaceful world. Declare peace around you and be nice.
Peace! (Well said Davey Wavey! Thank you.)
November 12, 2010 at 4:46 pm
Hi Davey
Love the blog. I hope there’s room for some other opinions. I was wondering if Davey Wavey or the readers of the blog have ever looked at the unintended negative consequence of all this positive thinking we are all doing? Here is a great you tube clip animated from a part of Barbara Ehrenreich book Smile or Die: How Positive Thinking Fooled America and the World.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u5um8QWWRvo
I would really like to know what Davey thinks about it.
November 12, 2010 at 6:39 pm
thanks noah… amazingly interesting you tube article & perspective!
November 12, 2010 at 7:00 pm
Nice haircut, Davey!
November 15, 2010 at 12:04 pm
Thanks Noah! I totally agree with the ideas expressed in the video. Barbara Ehrenreich’s great.
January 1, 2011 at 2:01 pm
unless that barber might be gay-one of us.
January 1, 2011 at 2:22 pm
people are people all around the world-except maybe North Korea and Somalia.even in these places there must be some good redeeming qualities.in the u.s.it seems the most agravating people are religious fundamentalists-why is it they must shove their beliefs on others.best to ignore them-except they make so much noise as well as the politicians that act as they do.