People often ask me how I stay so relaxed and happy, or how I never manage to get upset. The answer is simple: drugs. Lots and lots of drugs. That’s a joke. I am only relaxed because that is the state I enjoy the most. I don’t enjoy being stressed or angry or bitter, so I am not any of those.
The difference is probably one of two things. First, some people like being upset or unhappy. It sounds counterintuitive, but it’s very true. So, some people gravitate towards that state. Second, a lot of people don’t realize the choices that life is filled with. If someone cuts in front of you, you don’t have to be upset. You make the choice to be upset. You could just as easily decide not to be upset, and to think that perhaps that person is in a rush because of some circumstance in their life. A lot of our responses are conditioned, so we aren’t even aware of the choice. If it rains, and you have beach plans, you don’t have to be upset. You can just go with the flow and find something else to do. Clearly the universe has something even better in store for you — you just have to be open to it. So, if in your heart of hearts you want to be happy, relaxed, or anything else, well then, make that choice now. And, throughout the day, become aware of the choices you make, and make decisions that uphold whatever outcome you desire.
Really, the world is yours to create. You will get out of it whatever you put into it. It’s as simple as that.
October 24, 2007 at 8:21 pm
Just wanted to say thanks. I needed to remember this truth. It’s sometimes difficult for me to really be aware and remember that I’m in control of my life and the way that I feel. Too easily I lose sight of what’s really important to me and get caught up in other people’s expectations. Anyway, thanks for your helpful words.
November 12, 2007 at 2:11 am
ha ha drugs, lots and lots of drugs! You’re funny and really insightful, I agree with a lot of the things you say and I was gravitating away from my own beliefs, but reading your blog is really pulling me back to what I really believe in.
November 12, 2007 at 7:58 pm
drugs! that may work for me, seriously, since I work in customer service – I definitely agree – People choose their attitude – Attitude don’t choose people. Don’t stop spreading love.
March 21, 2008 at 8:48 pm
true to that……..I agree……so then what shall i do about being betrayed by my ex/girlfriend, i just found out that 16 years ago 1990′s, when we were dating, she got pregnant and adopted our baby girl out without my knowledge , she turned 22 this month, by the way we were married 2 years after the adoption and she still did not tell me.Divorced now about 15 years
p.s. the adoptive parents new about me , in fact she gave them pictures and my family background at the time. Advice ..?? ?? clueless in L.A.
March 22, 2008 at 12:39 pm
I’ve just discovered your blog and am reading it from the beginning. You really are a peaceful person and I try to surround myself around people like that. Sometimes it is soooo easy to get upset about [anything] but like yourself i choose not to… because life is so much more fun when you are happy!!!
x, and a big O!
June 22, 2008 at 2:37 pm
When I am feeling blue i watch a talky blog, haha.
They are the best.
Davey, thank you for your blogs, you’re helping me to accept a lot of things in life and have more fun.
December 8, 2009 at 9:41 pm
The thing is, everytime I read what you’ve written, I tear up because its like I’ve already known all of it and just got amnesia for a bit. It’s so beautiful and true and…..simple
December 28, 2009 at 12:58 am
This is an interesting concept that I’m glad to hear. See I also think this is the case. Usually people get overworked by the minimalist details or issues. I think it’s amazing you realize you are most comfortable in a state of calm, but I think there are several people who don’t realized what state they are more comfortable in. I think there are those, like you said who like to be worked up, or who just expect to be stressed out. Eventually through a self-fulfilling prophecy they end up gravitating into this state. Something I realized about myself is that I come from a place where there is always drama, family/ friends/ or personal. I like to be calm (avoid the stress), but I always expect some kind of drama to come from around the corner. Doing an internal analysis I realize that it’s the expectation of drama that tends to destabilize how calm I may be, so thanks for this post.