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January 4, 2011
by Davey Wavey

Week 1 of Retirement!

I’ve been joking with my friends and family that January 1, 2011 marked the first day of my retirement.

In a way, it’s true. As you may remember, I left my real bread-and-butter job back in October for a 10-week volunteer position that ended this past week. So as of January 1, at long last, I’m finally my own boss. My calendar now reminds me of a canvas on which I’m about to paint. What I will create with the next twelve months is limited only by my imagination – and my desire to spend time with the people that I love.

It feels like the first week of summer vacation back when I was in elementary school. I’m enthusiastic, energized and free – that’s the only way I can describe it.

I share this because I realized something extraordinary: This freedom was always here. Each of us has it, but few of us live it. We are always our own bosses, even when others supervise us. We always have the freedom to choose from an infinite number of possibilities. I understand that choices have consequences, but the freedom to choose is always there. Always.

Though I didn’t realize it, I’ve been my own boss all along.


  1. Davey, i share your joy of having a clean palate to begin each day, since I’ve retired—almost 20 years ago. While I wouldn’t have it any other way, I’m sometimes daunted by the wonderful opportunity of me having this great responsibility of making wise choices each morning. I see a dilemma and challenge to enjoy our freedom to lay back and relax and then our need to push ourselves to act in haste and expeditiously to accomplish our many goals!

    I will say that I look forward to receiving your wise and thoughtful messages each morning to help me get headed in the right direction. “Balance” in arranging ones life is possibly a key idea to lead to satisfaction and happiness in the use of our great gift of freedom.

    Please keep on with your great presentations, Davey. You are truly loved, admired, and a wonderful inspiration to me!

  2. If you couldn’t suppport 2 children without working 3 jobs then you should have kept your dick in your pants you spineless breeder.

    (Thought you would understand negative, hateful rhetoric.)

  3. nobody in the u.s.a. can retire these days.things have changed here forever.i was out of work for 15 months.i now have my job back-do three positions-get paid 75-100 dollars per week-i used to make 600 dollars per week-i have no healthcare-my 401k is now frozen-i have two doctor visits-routine with bllod and urine tests-the doctor totals now-1,200 dollars.Good Luck with retirement.

  4. IKEA-my favourite store.i live near one its about 7-football fields in area.these bitter cold days-i go walking thru the store people watching-lots of eye candy.since i go with no intention of buying every trip i make there-i at least buy some candles-in the candle shop.the food-especially the salmon dinners-are delish.oh-did i say the men shopping there are hott?

  5. i know an artist in Chicago-who moved out of his apartment-he sleeps at his studio-on a concrete floor-oh-btw-the weather in Chicago in winter-is like-Siberia.

  6. I worked in public relations, primarily for hospitals in Toronto for over four years and last year I left it all to spend more time with myself. Sounds selfish and a lot of people didn’t understand what I was doing but I felt that life was more meaningful if I stopped doing what was expected of me and started doing what was right for me. So congratulations and good luck.

  7. There is a song that people in the WW II concentration camps sang: “Die Gedanken sind frei” (Thoughts are free). Yes they had the choice to “choose” differently but, by and large, they couldn’t act on their choice (E.g. to escape because they and perhaps 30 others would be shot).

    So, we always have the freedom to choose differently but not always act upon it.

  8. Love Love Love. It’s what you’r lacking and what I’m giving you. It’s Ok we all have bad days, we have all been angry seeing other people succeed when our lives ebb low, I have, at times, been a jealous person to. This new year I am putting a mantra into action, the Mantra is “Enter it with Love”. It means everything I do I will do with Love. I guarantee that you are suffering a lot more than Davey is when you think such negative things about him. Enter it with love, when you think of him focus on the positives, feel the happiness that he gives to other people, even if YOU don’t understand it, and guess what? all that horribleness that you feel about yourself will slowly dissipate.Love Love Love x

  9. Congratulations! It’s great, isn’t it?!

  10. Good advice :)

  11. I wonder if it’s better to remain in captivity and likely die slowly with those 30 others or to risk escape and leave them behind. It’s certainly a dilemma of conscience but we’re still completely free to act upon it if we let go of the thoughts of should or shouldn’t. And even should we choose to remain that’s our choice. We’re choosing to be constrained. We can also choose to make the best of that, however that occurs for us. Have you ever seen La Vita e Bella (Life is Beautiful)?

  12. Dave, I generally agree with your thoughts, I think we differ here. I agree that we always the the capacity to make a choice. I see that as an essential characteristic of being human (You might want to look into Mortimer Adler’s distinction between “free will” and “circumstantial freedom.”

    I also believe that human beings are constituted as social animals and that responding to others is built into us. My preference is that our response be one of love, but that is too seldom the case.

    Response includes “responsibility” WITH / TO (Not for) each other. This means that “shoulds” and “shoud nots exist. If we did not live in a moral universe we would have a “war of all against all.”

    I believe we must balance our “individual good” with the “common good” if we are to live and prosper. Recall “The Tragedy of the Commons.”

    I appreciate DW and look at his blog every day. I like that he takes a positive view of life, encourages people to affirm their own value, etc. Besides, he is gay, cute, and sexy. :)

    Rut Davey’s philosophy is extremely self-centered and he interprets everything in terms of how it affects himself, very often even when he talks about “the bf.” In one sense he appears to be a good example of Horatio Alger, but he came into this world with many resources (much circumstantial freedom).

    I will say again I REALLY, appreciate and like Davey. My one wish is that he would take into account that we are social animal, that “society and self” are twin-born, that “no man [sic] is an island.” He seems to polish one side of the coin while neglecting the other side (I enjoy rubbing the head and the tail, rather than just one- hee hee).

    So, in the end, I believe the concentration example is a true moral dilemma and one will answer it differently if one is looking out only for what is “good” for him rather than what may be “good” for us! [Needless to say, I do not support the horse and sparrow theory of economics. Maybe I’ve just been brainwashed by my Catholic heritage. LOL)

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